millionboi:
wich 1 is bad woman turns out 2be gud why gud1 turn out bad.....ope guyz dnt tek dis bulshit4rm u.God punish u,u go marry abad wife opein she will change!!then if u blow ur nose,u wil see blood.seriously

you don seem to understand him his not saying one should marry a bad wife and hoe she turns good. What his actually saying is that some times some ppl do marry a good wife but over time with their bad attitude towards her she tends to become or starts acting bad like she no send again and vice vaser dats why he said depending on the angel they mEet or d devil they meet some guys truelly go make u wan commit same as some girls na only God go help us.

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1. Some ladies think that acting like a wife will automatically persuade the guy to put the ring on their finger. That is faulty thinking and could lead you into big emotional problems.
2. Just so we are clear, until he puts the ring on your finger, you are NOT, I repeat, not, his wife. You go everywhere together, hold hands, kiss in public, he introduces you to his friends as ‘my wife’, all that is nonsense until he puts a legal ring on your finger.
3. You are dating him, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you. Dating and marriage are totally different things. Even if he is engaged to you, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you.
4. Some men demand that you cook for them, organise their apartment and give them sex to prove that you are good wife material. Don’t you fall for that. Any man who tells you that wants to use and dump you. And, DON’T move in with him because that will automatically make you his ‘in-house-mistress’ who will perform all his wife duties for him without the commitment of marriage.
5. You don’t have to submit to him until he puts that ring on your finger. Some men demand that you should submit to them because you are dating. If he wants you to submit to him when you are not dating, just think of what he would do to you if you are married to him.
6. Don’t give him your money unless you are sure that you will get it back. If you give him your money because he is a ‘potential husband’, you can kiss that money goodbye because you may never see it again.
7. Stop giving him your body whenever wherever. Anytime he wants sex, he calls you up, yet he hasn’t put the ring on your finger. Giving him sex is counter productive. Your objective is to get married to him, not to warm his bed. Pretending to be his wife by giving him sex will not make him put that ring on your finger.
8. It is not complex: if he wants you to perform wife duties for him like cooking, organising his life, sex and all other wife duties, tell him to take you to his family and organize a marriage.Stop being foolish. If he really loves you as he whispers in your ears, he should take you to the marriage registry.
9. If he gets all the wife duties from you for free, why on earth do you think that he will make you his wife? If he is not ready to make a life commitment to you, he doesn’t deserve any wife benefits.
10. Protect yourself from emotional and sexual abuse. Stop giving this man what he doesn’t deserve. If he is not willing to honor you by putting that ring on your finger, then he is not worthy to receive wife benefits from you. When you become his wife, then he will get treated like a husband.

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Maybe u need to know the reasons why the man asked her to submit her salary to him

Because the reason she gave is not sufficient enough for that man to have taken such a drastic decision.



Maybe the man sees that your friend is not prudent with her salary or she is leaving above her salary or he sees some hanky panky


Dramatic decision you mean because dats what it end up in

bennyrazz:
@op, but your friend has options now? either she submit her salary or carefully leave the marriage. There can't be two captains in a ship. The only thing I will say here is she should give it a trial for 2 or 3months and see what her husband plans are. If he squanders the money, then she should not submit subsequent ones and that would be her basis of argument should the marriage fail.

I agree with you Jare make she do am so see what his up to and then if he no use am do anything tangible she stop and dat way she has basis for her argument

Tallesty1:
Isn't kissing a waste of time?





Why waste all that time when the good stuff is down there waiting?

you are not even romantic I pity ur gf

teneeorlah:
They can sleep with him, collect gifts and money but yhey cnt cook for him

Sister plsssssss dnt cook for him u hia, mercy dey come , woe betide u if mercy na calabar geh, she go cook for him,clean for him,sex him until he shouts 'o l**d of mercy.

Na pple like una go dey shout am happy to be single blah blah blah ,but deep down u dey cry "somebody pls marry me"

When u have a skill not the ability kind oooo but the abinibi kind of skill, u cnt hold it back .if u get cooking skills real one ooooo, u go wan show dt guy.

[ na real abinibi no mnd all this gals dem Jare some jst dey make mouth

CAMNEWTON4PRES:
if you are really in love, this question won't even cross your mind

As in you go even use ur money go market come cook the food. Dem no fit cook for thir bf bt dem fit collect money for bis from am ETC. Sege ne!

Na wetin all this ladis aspiring to be wife dey yan here Sef, you can't cook for you bf because e never marry you but u can kiss him, Sm**sh him,maybe on the side have s*x with him and e never marry you .
Also e never marry you bt e dey pay your bills at least money for recharge card dey and salon dey fall steady. Why not wait till e marry you to do all this things too as u be alakpa Ike
Mind you na BF go turn husband one day (that's for the serious BF's way ready to settle )
Ladise I think we should have a change of mind cooking or not cooking for your BF does notmake you his house help or maid it jst mean say ur mama teach u well and you collect training. [color=#990000][/color]

Nawa ooo when will all this end? RIP to the dead and to those that lost a family or two may God strengthen you.

Goodheart follow CC's advice and if like u said u have done all that and its not working then its time for a heart to heart talk. Seat with him and tell him how his actions and what his doing makes you feel and what its doing to your marriage. Pour out your heart to him and b4 you do this pray to God to give him a listening hear cos na only God fit change man heart. I feel your pain wish you all the best....

Goodheart follow CC's advice and if like u said u have done all that and its not working then its time for a heart to heart talk. Seat with him and tell him how his actions and what his doing makes you feel and wats its doing to your marriage. Pour out your heart to him and b4 you do this pray to God to give him a listening hear cos na only God fit change man heart. I feel your pain wish you all the best.

YA WHATS YOUR OPINION?WHAT WOULD YOU DO? A woman tells her husband that she is going to visit her sick mum in the village. She goes on Friday and returns on Sunday, with plenty of fruits and food stuff, saying they are from her mum to the husband and the children. The husband gently asks her about her mother's health and how she was doing, to which she replies that she took her to the hospital in the village and she is recovering and getting better. The wife adds that her mother insisted that she must re-visit the village in a few days, to spend at least a week with her. "I'm worried about Mama" the wife crooned, with tears swelling in her eyes. "She'll be fine, dear." Hubby lovingly replied. The husband then politely asks her to take the items to the kitchen. As she enters, she meets her mother preparing food in the kitchen. Apparently, her mum came visiting since the Friday that she left home. You can imagine the plight of this woman. Stuck, shocked, dazed and dumbfounded at the kitchen door! Whether to go in and drop the items 'from mama', or return to her hubby in the living room! How would you handle this case? Your humble opinion is required.

So sad RIP

Feb 22 una dey here

I Rep Feb 22 let's Hook up