Maybe you should try setting him up with another woman and see how he reacts. If he makes advances on the woman/sleeps with the woman then you are the problem. But if he doesn't make any advances on the woman then your husband is gay. If you need help finding a woman then message me cus I know a lot of women that will want to help. Good luck.

OMO IBO: Sorry ma'am,
Pardon my myopia.
I'm just curious.
Are you by any chance nigerian??

Yep Im 50% Nigerian and 50% White.
I was raised in America though but I visited Nigeria like twice when I was 5 and 12. Why do you ask?

Well I really don't want to post my real picture on this forum because there are some real crazy people out in this world. So I used Heather's picture since she was once a porn star but now has done bigger and better things. You can say she is kind of like my muse/role model

When is Davidylan going to come online and see my tribute to him? Man, someone call him and tell him to come online, I am seriously waiting for his reply. And the wait continues...

@Coeffecient
Thanks for the kind words, I am trying my best to move on to greener pastures.

OMG!!! Well I just got back form the ObGyn and after some tests, it was confirmed that I am NOT pregnant. WOW, I am so happy!!! Yippee!!! But the vomiting and dizziness and whatnot is a side effect from the anti-anxiety pills that I just started taking. Oh my, wow I am just thanking God I am not pregnant. Okay so it's time to be celibate so no more pregnancy scares or being used by men anymore. Time to move on forreals and get my life in check. Hopefully I get accepted into a physical therapy school. Oh my, I am just happy beyond words

@Chanchit
What is LDDMST?

And, really, I am not Davidlyan. Please you guys should stop saying that because when he sees this he might not take it serious. He might think this is some kind of joke when in reality I am pouring out my deep feelings for him. So please, once again, I repeat, I am NOT Davidylan

Ok well maybe he doesn't know I exist yet, but hopefully that will all change when he sees this thread. Here is to me hoping, he makes my dreams come true
@ David, babe please don't get repelled because I am making my interest in you public,it's just that when I see what I want, I go for it!

Ok well I didn't know they had a dating and meet up zone. The moderators can move it there, but all I want is for Davidlyn to know that he is an admirer and I am majorly crushing on him right now. Again, babe, the ball is your court. And FYI Flashaldrin, I am not a stalker, I am just making my feelings known to my boo.

190-the-clown:
So women now chase after men

Signs of end time#

A woman can do most things a man can do, if not better.

Mynd_44: Davidylan and the OP are the same person

Hmmm, nope sadly we are not the same person. O but how I wish I knew him in real life, I would not let him out of my sight.

Flashaldrin: Killz lets move this shitty thread already.
Anybody remember the price of garri??

Please why are you suggesting my thread be moved? Is my thread not about romance? Or are you jealous that it is not you that I fancy?

@Holyvirgin
This thread is not useful and I didn't know he was married. Anyways I can't help how I feel about him. Whenever he tells me that he is married and I should back off, then I will kindly do so but until then, Davidylan, you are too cute!!!

@richarts
I don't think I have done anything. I am an open and honest person and don't hide how I feel. This is the 21st century where some women propose to men so I think it's harmless to open a thread about my interest in Davidylan.

Davidylan, if you are reading this, I hope that you can overlook my past and give me a chance to show you the woman that I am. I need a cute, strong, sensible, and smart man like you by my side.

Okay well I posted earlier about my drama situation but now I am trying to move past the issue and meet with new guys. I did some soul searching on this forum and have to admit that Davidylan is pretty cute. I wouldn't mind dating him, he seems like a smart man. I've gone through most of his posts and have to agree with him on my things. He is very intelligent and well rounded and he is CUTE!!! Davidylan, if you are reading this right now, know that you have an admirer. Now the ball is in your court hun.

Okay I am sorry for bringing my problem on here, you all will not hear from me again since my problem is now a lie. I will go else where and seek help. Thank you to those that adviced me. I love you all and wish you all nothing but the best.

@Candie
Thank you for your advice. You asked if I am ready for a new profession and I said in my post earlier that since my youngest sibling is now in college then I am ready to look for a better profession. Actually right now I am in the process of applying for to physical therapy schools being as I have always wanted to be one. By God's grace I should be in a program by next year.

For those of you that think I am making this up, tell me what will I gain from fabrication. I have always been an open and honest person so maybe you guys think I am lying because of my openness of my problem. I started this thread to seek advice and help because I just feel like my life is not going the way I had planned. If you believe I am lying then that's your opinion and I won't argue with it because that's just not my type of person.

And to those that are offering advice:
I have tried dating men within my profession but it never seems to work out. Guys in my profession are usually players and don't want to settle down. 5 years ago I wouldn't mind dating them, but right now I am looking for someone that I can be with forever.
I love myself, I have no self loath or anything but sometimes I just hate my dead mother for putting my family through this, I know it's not good to feel like that but if she hadn't died then I wouldn't be in this predicament right now. I would be a physical therapist with a husband and children but instead I am just "the hoe that nobody wants to wife". Don't get it wrong, I love my mother, I just wish she didn't die.
I know about STDs and protection but sometimes you can never be a 100% safe. That faithful night, the man used a condom but I guess the condom broke and since I have stopped using contraceptive pills because I wanted to stop being intimate with men, that's why I might be pregnant right now.
A lot of my fellow girl friends that are in the same profession as me are also not married but have children, the ones that are married stopped the profession early on but I couldn't stop early on b/c I had my family's responsibilities on my shoulders.
It really hurts that my younger sister that is still in university is already engaged to her high school sweetheart while I am still single, but I am keeping my fingers cross that one day I too will be engaged. Pray for me guys!

Arrrgh!!! Well after vomiting 3 times today, I decided to take a home pregnancy test. It came out negative but then I took 4 more tests because the pack came with 5, the remaining 4 tests came out positive. Oh God, I am so nervous because I don't know if I should believe the negative test or the positive ones. I really pray I am not pregnant because I don't think I can go through the trama of another abortion. Please don't judge me for the abortions that I have undergone previously. Oh well I guess I have to wait till tomorrow to find out from my ObGyn if I am really pregnant or not. God, why is my life so F*UCKED up

Age is nothing but a number, as I am soon to be 30, I dont mind dating a man that is no more than 3 years younger than me. But when is was 20 I could never fanthom dating a younger guy because they were all too immature. There is a big difference in dating a 17 year old and 27 year old. But at the end of day, Love knows no bounds.

Thank you for all of you guys reply, I really appreciate the input. I am a real down to earth chick so I specifically put that picture so that men can know me for who I am. I am not going to pretend to be something I am not, I really want to settle down with a man but if being something I am not is the way then maybe it isn't for me. My problem is not getting the men, it is keeping them around for long term. When a man meets me, he usually wants to be committed to me and love me, they say I have a really good personality and other ish but once they find out that I have done a couple of porn movies and have stripped, they don't want commitment anymore and just want to have sex. When I refuse them the sex they usually get angry and leave which tears me into pieces. Recently, there was this 32 year old man that I was seeing for like 2 months and I really loved him and thought he was the one b/c he knew about my career and stayed. But one night when we were hanging out at his apartment he persuaded me into having sex with him and when we got into his room, there was a lady waiting for him there, long story short i got into bed with both him and the lady and we had a three some. I did this deed because I really loved him and I didn't want anything to make him leave. So the next day, when I went back to his apartment, it turned out that the lady was actually his wife and he only dated me as a set up to get me in bed with him and his wife. You can bet I cried my eyes out and I felt ruined and used. Anyways this happened like 5 weeks ago and I have been feeling sick to my stomach and dizzy for some days now so I have an appointment with my obgyn tomorrow to see if I am pregnant for this man. I really pray that I am not b/c a child out of wedlock right now will only bring my baggage to my life in finding a man. I just pray that all these trials that I am going through will make me prevail at the end of the day. So this recent occurence is what opted me to ask for help from you NL, because I just feel stuck.

Come one Nairalanders, 30 views and only 1 reply? Please I need you people's opinions on this issue because I am really getting worried.
@venorite I know it is hard to find a keeper, I have been looking to get into a serious relationship for some time now BUT noone wants to date me, they just want to get in the bed with me. Am I going to be doomed forever? Will I always be known as "That Hoe"? I would really like to marry and have three children at least before I am 37.

Hey all Nairalanders! My name is Nadiyah and I have a huge problem that I need help solving. Okay, so I'm going to be 30 years old in like 2 months and I am ready to settle down now BUT I can't seem to find a match for me. I am biracial, my dad is white while my mom is Nigerian. I was born and raised here in America. I am 5'7 and I am in shape and people tell me I am pretty. I really don't have a problem with meeting guys, my problem is getting them to stay once they find out that I was a porn star. Many of you people might judge me because of the profession but it was the only means I had of survival. I graduated from university at 22 but didn't get a good paying job and I had to fend for my family being as my mother died when I was 16 and my dad was just a mail man. He didn't make enough to take care of me and my 4 younger siblings, so I took it up on myself to make the extra cash that was needed by being a porn star. So now my youngest sibling has turned 18 and entered university which means I can now stop stripping/being a porn star but my problem is that no man I have met yet wants a lasting relationship with me. Once they find out about my career, they just want to have sex with me and then leave. Will my career continue to judge my relationships?