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Woowww,what women go through to be called a mother, in a society where childlessness is seen as a taboo. People feel ashame to reveal to old friends they are yet to have children..... what a shame.

@Psalm 23,you are an inspiration l must say,and you your DH must never be taken for granted.He is a Dike e ji eje'mba.
l have been shedding tears reading all the various post, all very supporting and encouranging. God would Bless everyone believing him for their own children. l thank everyone, too many to mention, sharing experiences in the journey of TTC, am challenged.

l started my search for the fruit of the womb officially in 2003. l was very eager to concieve not because i knew of any underlying problem, but because i had never taken in during my university days. My hubby did not understand my rush/eagerness wanting to concieve 18 months after our wedding.l went from early morning massages(ijaw) to various Doctors(not gynea. Once i heard some one went there and got result). One of the best clinc i went to was military hospital,ikoyi, the gynea (Brgder E, of blessed memory) after all the lenghty series of blood work,and hsg told me am a worrier, though my prolactin (high)/progesterone(low), which he gave me medications to use and after 3 months l noticed quiet alot of difference, and he advised us to keep trying, as he can say we were both medically okay to concieve. There was nothing wrong with me my hubby. l kept on moving from one Doctor to another. Unfortuate for me in 2006, i meant a Doctor who hyperstimulated my ovaries,yours truly was looking like a woman 4months gone, it was such a complication, i couldnt eat nor drink,sleep nor walk straight. Breathing became a difficult task, that the only option was to open me up and do all the draining in all the sacs!! To God be the Glory a biopsy was done and it was not malignant, and my liver and kidney were all intact.

After all these encounter,l said to myself,l need to be alive to have my children, of what use would these children be to me, when am not alive to see, or nurture them? But of course am only human,l started to shy away from naming ceremonies, and family functions.l became unhappy,stopped existing,became a recluse. 2009, we visited Nordica, where we were advised to start on IUI,after 3 failed attempts, the next option was IVF.

l went in for a laparascopy, and i was told because of my previous surgery in 2006, alot of adhesions had formed and my intestines had been messed up with, the doctor said, he couldnt close me up with all that mess. A procedure that was meant to be 60mins, and a key hole in my navel, ended up being 8hours, with horizontal cutting. The procedure took that long cause they had to wait for a consultant and a surgeon to come in, to re-arrange my intenstines.

As if that was not enough, my hubby lost his job, impregnated some one and took off for America in 2010.

l have given him 2years to make up his mind what he wants, and does seem to be forth coming. l have moved on (so l think). Am currently in the U.K, l have done all the test, again, even the modern hycosy(replaced HSg)and am told all my hormones are within limits, but they can not go any further to prescribe medication except i come with my partner.
Be that as it may be, l have decided to go ahead with IVF,am not getting any younger. l have been talking to an old flame,who is ready to be a donor. Hence l went online to get info, on where seems to have the most success rate in Nigeria, and here l am, on this blog.

And a piece of advice for our young ladies out there, impatient led me to the butchers table in the first instance. Research. And after a 2years wait go straight for IUI, or IVF.

God would crown our efforts with Success!!!!!!

@Blendy77,is it okay if i have you email?