Jewessgratitude:



You mean, you still kept account of ten years ago? And you're still using the same phone from ten years ago? Still doesn't add up.

Let assume you have changed your phone, the new phone will not automatically bring up those anonymous account unless you sign in to them. So you prolly signed in to it recently and was still using it which made her to see it but you're trying to make us believe all that ended 10yrs ago.
I'm still not convinced.

Please check my posts well on this thread. What ended 10 years ago was me commenting and flirting with those girls online. I never said i stopped using the fake account. I changed numerous phones but i still had that account. Actually created many of them in the beggining......but this was the only one i have the password offhead (lost the other accounts when i couldn't remember the passwords). And i signed in to the account as recently as last week. I go there to browse facebook and read news, i don't flirt there anymore. I left those 10 years ago.

Her main annoyance is that she claims that the friend was her best friend. That's why she says she heartbroken

sassysure:

U sound very guilty.
This is anonymous forum so nobody knew u.
Open up and u may get an approach that might help u get your family back.

Nobody is perfect.

I sound quilty cos i know i should've opened up or deleted the account once we got married. The potential loss of my child is giving me nightmares. However, i have just told the whole truth on this thread and i am open to any clarifications.

It is me that needs help here.....what's the point of withholding info if i seek solution?

Jewessgratitude:
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and

Ogar, this your story doesn't add up. @bolded, you claimed you created anonymous accounts to flirt then and people never got to know it was you.

Now...how did your wife now get to know you were the one behind the account that commented on her friends beauty? And this was suppose to be anonymous from 10yrs ago.
Its either you're not telling us the truth or you did this recently with your current account but don't want to say the truth.
In this case, nothing to say.

She knew the account (via mutual friends) , but didn't know i was the one behind it until she saw the app in my phone

thorpido:
You should have eleted those fake accounts when you got married.
Well,you will need to make contacts with your wife and try to convince her it was in your past and it was all for fun.Try to reach her through people who have access to her.
It might take some time before she changes her mind but keep pushing it.

Thanks a lot bro. God bless

pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

On the contrary, she's unemployed at the moment

Wolgrace:
Man, not really a big issue. The main source of the problem is western tendency. She has wilfully sold her heritage culture to adopt western culture before coming home, hence the western dominatory tendency. Their culture breeds "hasten decision" to divorce at any slightest past or present mistake. Her western adoption is the soil based for her hastened childish decision and is an evidence that she needs mental and character reset because its very harmful to her spirit, soul and body adopting a modernised and an organised white man's tradition disguised as civilization.


Deal with the source. What you need to do is to involve the family elders to reset it all. The rest will follow...

Learn from your mistakes too. Amend.

Thanks a lot. God bless

thorpido:
Why haven't you deleted those fake accounts?

That was a bad error on my part. I retained just one. The rest i lost the passwords. Should've deleted

sassysure:
@ op, talk true na.

Is she working?
How did she leave her place of work and jettisoned?

The story get as e be

She catch you?

If all Sunil.
Match to abia and take back your child.

She's currently unemployed.

thanks

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

Yes bro......i still have the "fake" facebook account i created 10 years ago simply cos i don't want to be seen on facebook.
I still browse around facebook using same account but I DO NOT express any flimsy emotions to any girl there since when i stopped the act many years ago. That is just the plain truth.

Maybe the error was not deleting the account once i got married........but i guess that's because i completely forgot what i did with the account in it's early days.

rain21:
Is that all or there is something else u skipped? how old is ur wife?
This is not enough reason to make her upset to the extent of packing out

It's clear she wants out for no just cause

Nothing else that i know about. Yes we do have small small quarrels.....but non of our little misunderstandings has ever led to the kind of reaction i'm getting from her on this one.

She claims she's heartbroken cos the comment was made on her CLOSE friend's post.

Thanks guys

SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

hmmm

Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you