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My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 10:30pm On Jan 14
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by SmellingAnus(m): 10:33pm On Jan 14
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad undecided

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Kendumazy(m): 10:35pm On Jan 14
Sounds as if she is using that as a bait to fulfil her hidden plans cos this is not an issue. We have all got our pasts.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Froshloaded(m): 10:38pm On Jan 14
Hmm
This one pass me oo cheesy
Let me call
Jewessgratitude

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by pocohantas(f): 10:40pm On Jan 14
Your wife no get talk.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by izzou(m): 10:43pm On Jan 14
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 10:44pm On Jan 14
SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad undecided

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...
hmmm undecided

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 10:47pm On Jan 14
Thanks guys
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Erediauwa: 10:50pm On Jan 14
Dumb marriage that won't last.


You got married to an insatiable bitch.....


Sorry for your loss.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Joshmodest(m): 10:50pm On Jan 14
pls sir ,
Where can I get this movie to watch ...

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by pocohantas(f): 10:50pm On Jan 14
izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?

- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Reichel99(f): 10:54pm On Jan 14
Your wife is childish. If she wants to leave let her go but make sure you don't let her take your child along with her.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by izzou(m): 10:54pm On Jan 14
pocohantas:


-They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
-She go America, date another person.
- I think, while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

Dated Briefly grin

I missed that part.

He better go back to Abia state and tell her family what's happening. The wife dey behave like small pikin

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by rain21(f): 10:54pm On Jan 14
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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by rain21(f): 10:56pm On Jan 14
Is that all or there is something else u skipped? how old is ur wife?
This is not enough reason to make her upset to the extent of packing out

It's clear she wants out for no just cause

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by mikezuruki: 11:00pm On Jan 14
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 11:03pm On Jan 14
rain21:
Is that all or there is something else u skipped? how old is ur wife?
This is not enough reason to make her upset to the extent of packing out

It's clear she wants out for no just cause
Nothing else that i know about. Yes we do have small small quarrels.....but non of our little misunderstandings has ever led to the kind of reaction i'm getting from her on this one.

She claims she's heartbroken cos the comment was made on her CLOSE friend's post.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Wolgrace(m): 11:07pm On Jan 14
Man, not really a big issue. The main source of the problem is western tendency. She has wilfully sold her heritage culture to adopt western culture before coming home, hence the western dominatory tendency. Their culture breeds "hasten decision" to divorce at any slightest past or present mistake. Her western adoption is the soil based for her hastened childish decision and is an evidence that she needs mental and character reset because its very harmful to her spirit, soul and body adopting a modernised and an organised white man's tradition disguised as civilization.


Deal with the source. What you need to do is to involve the family elders to reset it all. The rest will follow...

Learn from your mistakes too. Amend.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by sassysure: 11:10pm On Jan 14
@ op, talk true na.

Is she working?
How did she leave her place of work and jettisoned?

The story get as e be

She catch you?

If all is true( I doubt honestly)
Match to abia and take back your child.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 11:11pm On Jan 14
mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!
Yes bro......i still have the "fake" facebook account i created 10 years ago simply cos i don't want to be seen on facebook.
I still browse around facebook using same account but I DO NOT express any flimsy emotions to any girl there since when i stopped the act many years ago. That is just the plain truth.

Maybe the error was not deleting the account once i got married........but i guess that's because i completely forgot what i did with the account in it's early days.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by thorpido(m): 11:12pm On Jan 14
You should have eleted those fake accounts when you got married.
Well,you will need to make contacts with your wife and try to convince her it was in your past and it was all for fun.Try to reach her through people who have access to her.
It might take some time before she changes her mind but keep pushing it.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Flexherbal(m): 11:12pm On Jan 14
SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad undecided

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 11:13pm On Jan 14
sassysure:
@ op, talk true na.

Is she working?
How did she leave her place of work and jettisoned?

The story get as e be

She catch you?

If all Sunil.
Match to abia and take back your child.
She's currently unemployed.

thanks

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 11:15pm On Jan 14
thorpido:
Why haven't you deleted those fake accounts?
That was a bad error on my part. I retained just one. The rest i lost the passwords. Should've deleted

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Ultimategeneral: 11:15pm On Jan 14
Hmmm..... That woman wants out of the relationship cuz she ave gotten what she wanted. The child is her settlement bro.
Aunty wan go back to her former dude, wey dey yankee.
Didn't you notice any sign from her to suggest that she wants out from the marriage, before she found the comment that gives her a good reason to divorce you?

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by sassysure: 11:16pm On Jan 14
Platini7:
She's currently unemployed.

thanks
Take your people and go meet her people.
Let the seniors put eye for the matter.

So if she is currently employed.
Who is going to sponsor her trip abroad?
Is she a citizen?
She will be going there as what?

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by LadySarah(f): 11:16pm On Jan 14
If I followNl males I'd say let's hear from her but if what you said is true then stop begging her. Let her explain to her parents what ur crime was. After all you weren't married.

Na she go tire.
Better still inform ur inlaws of the recent developments

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by sassysure: 11:17pm On Jan 14
Ultimategeneral:
Hmmm..... That woman wants out of the relationship cuz she ave gotten what she wanted. The child is her settlement bro.
Aunty wan go back to her former dude, wey dey yankee.
Didn't you notice any sign from her to suggest that she wants out from the marriage, before she found the comment that gives her a good reason to divorce you?
They are not divorced.
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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by rain21(f): 11:17pm On Jan 14
[quote author=Platini7 post=85804001]


But she was in a relationship within the said period with a guy u know, so I don't understand her issue atall

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Nobody: 11:17pm On Jan 14
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and

Ogar, this your story doesn't add up. @bolded, you claimed you created anonymous accounts to flirt then and people never got to know it was you.

Now...how did your wife now get to know you were the one behind the account that commented on her friends beauty? And this was suppose to be anonymous from 10yrs ago.
Its either you're not telling us the truth or you did this recently with your current account but don't want to say the truth.
In this case, nothing to say.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Platini7: 11:17pm On Jan 14
Wolgrace:
Man, not really a big issue. The main source of the problem is western tendency. She has wilfully sold her heritage culture to adopt western culture before coming home, hence the western dominatory tendency. Their culture breeds "hasten decision" to divorce at any slightest past or present mistake. Her western adoption is the soil based for her hastened childish decision and is an evidence that she needs mental and character reset because its very harmful to her spirit, soul and body adopting a modernised and an organised white man's tradition disguised as civilization.


Deal with the source. What you need to do is to involve the family elders to reset it all. The rest will follow...

Learn from your mistakes too. Amend.
Thanks a lot. God bless

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