Thanks to all contributors.

@cooker, I visit her once during my vacation just to give her something. and whenever am leaving for her place, she is always aware.

I spend my vacation with the family always in good quality, having left them for one month.

The issue of calling, she does not call me regularly as you think. She knew am not always around. I only call her whenever am around.

@tpia No more.

@ronkebp & harakiri please stop the insults. Believe you me, I have picked somethings from your ideas.

I cannot divorce her!

Thans alot @Chaircover.

Thanks for time and ideas all.

@chaircover, there is nothing between me and this woman. Anyway, I will heed to advice of helping through account. I will direct her to open one anyway. This widow is not educated, she is just selling bottled kerosene within a local environment.

@ifyalways, she has already rented the house. Not that I can't pay back the money to the tenant and send the person packing but from my investigation, she lied that I have already agreed and told the tenant that I will issue the receipt upon my arrival in Nigeria.

And I like I told you, I gave her the SIM card to proof my innocency. She even say it to her colleagues that she trust me when it comes to decency. Just for peace to reign

Stopping her salary will not be easy for me for now considering her condition and is even not easy at all when you think it twice.

Certainly, I believe some friends are behind this. Some of them don't visit her as soon as am back!

There was a time she said jokingly that she hopes girls are not disturbing me at office. I told where I am, no woman, no alcohol and is even deep offshore. And, anytime am coming, she is fully aware.

I married 8yrs ago and my marriage is blessed with two children. I sincerely love my wife and make sure she does not lack anything and never have any extra marital affair. I have houses in Port Harcourt, Lagos and village. Due to the nature of my job, I travel out of the country every month and get a month vacation as well.

Before our marriage, there is a particular woman(widow with 12yrs old son) who is 10yrs older than me that I used to help financially in my old church. There is nothing between me and this woman but out of pity and her situation, I decided to her financially as way of showing love to others out my God given favour. My wife knew her and her stories.

Sometime 2yrs ago, she started her strange character in the house. She abuses my relations, call me all sorts of name and even said am having affair with the widow. One night, I woke her up, discusssed the issue and we ended the matter. She realized her mistake and apologised. I then agree to give her my sim card to proof my sincerity to our marriage. But since then, It has become frequent thing in the house. Though I asked, do you get strange calls or what must have prompted the resurfacing of this bad character and she answered no. Even, there was a time that she misbehaved in the presence of her younger brother. This prompted the brother to inform their family and I heard how she was seriously warned but she never changed.

Recently, while away at work, she rented out one of our houses and hurriedly moved into a newly completed one without my consent. And told me she wanted the money for her business. Normally, I give her 150, 000 naira every month as salary and promised to establish her after delivery. Even, when I call at work to know how they are doing back home, she will always rain abuses on me.

Another nasty thing she does is to borrow money from security. I got the wind of this one day that my gateman asked her mistakingly in my presence. At night, I asked what must have prompted that kind of insult. Despite the fact That I still pay for foodstuff, pay children school fees and even most often dash her 20,000 to 50,000 apart from her salary.

two weeks ago, I called the widow, only for her to be crying on phone that my wife abused her seriously. That she even try to explain and even swear but rubbished her. I begged the woman to please forgive her which she accepted.

Now, she has started abusing me just when I called to know how they are doing that I was totally embarssed and annoyed.

I heartily love her but she thinks differently.

Please, am getting tired of all these stuff, what do I do?