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Re: Starting a small business by OreoPaschal(m): 8:46pm On Apr 01, 2021 |
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Re: Starting a small business by Dollywood(m): 9:03pm On Apr 01, 2021 |
pinkydaisy: chinedu |
Re: Starting a small business by madampresident(f): 9:39pm On Apr 01, 2021 |
Have you considered moving to a closer location to the Island? |
Re: Starting a small business by Klass99(f): 10:06pm On Apr 01, 2021 |
Re: Starting a small business by GboyegaD(m): 10:36pm On Apr 01, 2021 |
Are you averse to traveling on water ways? If not, take the lekki job, use the ferry to save yourself from the stress of traffic and the need to leave home too early/get back too late. |
Re: Starting a small business by realtalk19: 7:30am On Apr 02, 2021 |
pinkydaisy: Congrats I hope your husband will not relax in his responsibilities as a man because you earn much and i hope he will also appriciate and support you in his own way, i believe God provided this job for you to support him humbly. Encourage him too. Good luck |
Re: Starting a small business by NoToPile: 7:50am On Apr 02, 2021 |
Pinkydaisy, the most important factor here is your husband. Is your husband the type that will help you with the kids and at the home front when you are out making money. Is he the type that will ask for pounded yam pounded with mortar not machine when you come back at 8pm. Its a major shift and everybody will have to adjust, if he won't adjust its a big problem and stress will be a major issue. Its possible with his support. That aside. Take the job And use the boat services from ikorodu to the island. Congrats girl. |
Re: Starting a small business by odutolasodiq(m): 4:07pm On Apr 02, 2021 |
pinkydaisy: I understand that you need money to take care of your children, but it shouldn't come at the expense of you investing more time in their upbringing. As a teacher, I discovered that parental care in early childhood should not be compromised because it goes a long way in shaping the future of your children. Even you confirm that your stay with them in the last 1 year has improved so many things like health, education, etc. My Proposal: IF you can hire a nanny/caregiver that you can TRUST to do the upbringing for you, go for the 350k job. IF your side hustle/ investment could return enough money to complement your 70k job, please ditch the 350k job as someone above me has advised. Note: I have seen enough to tell you that children, in this era of immoralities and social vices, need the maximum attention of their parents. Don't leave it to teachers/ proprietors (private school) alone. 1 Like |
Re: Starting a small business by Bestlily(f): 5:29pm On Apr 02, 2021 |
@pinkdaisy Take the 350k job. If it pays so much, you will meet people and make contact. As for distance, take the ferry and your travel time will be cut short. Save up and maybe you and your family can move to lekki. As for the kids, get a caregiver or nanny to take care of them with homeworks and all. Connect me to the 70k job and I will be grateful forever or i take up the nanny job if you decide to take the 350k job. I'm good with kids. |
Re: Starting a small business by pinkydaisy(f): 10:31pm On Apr 02, 2021 |
I have decided not to take the 350k job. Though very few people said I should not and the majority said I should take it and adjust the caregiving for the kids, thanks to everybody. My kids are still very young and I have been given a second chance to care for them myself. I have left them before to different types of care givers, the good, the bad and the ugly, even relatives have been invited to come live with us just to help out with the care of the kids but I regret many parts of that, many times I wish something's that happened didn't but I felt I couldn't help it because I had to work to provide a better life for them. I know the money will make a lot of difference, yes but what about this very important foundational stage of the children's lives? Note the word "Foundational". Story time....... For me to stick to my final decision, I had to cast my mind back to my own growing up. I had a relatively good life, though my parents were not rich but there was food to eat, good schools, fancy clothes, color tv and video player,,,all the small things that make children feel happy but my parents were hardly at home. I saw my mum sometimes only at night and by then she is exhausted and just wants to get her rest, we had a maid for a while and I know my mum loved us very much but she was absent for the better part of my childhood and teenage years. The help could only do as much and many times, I went to school without cleaning my teeth or having a proper bath sef,,,who will ask? I always envied other children that their parents came to school to see the teacher for 1 thing or the other or simply to pick them from school. I used to look into some people's see through curtains at night and envy the family being together,, maybe having a meal or just being at home together, I never had a family meal my entire childhood. I never learnt how to relate properly with people or how to express your feelings correctly and adequately. My intention here is not to bash my mum, God forbid! That woman was the financial pillar that we all relied on while growing up. She worked herself to the bones. We had no bond whatsoever and we are presently just trying to create one now in old age. I remember the stress made her easily angry and she would lash out easily while we were just being silly kids. Before I lost my last job, all this was also present in my life when I started my own family too, though I always said I would be more available than my mum did but how? In Lagos? With traffic, stress and whatnot. My patience was so short and most weekends am so tired to even actively engaged with the kids in any form but I was providing all they needed. Honestly, many nights, I cried when I recall how my kids growing up was mirroring my own growing up and I prayed to God to help me be better. I then lost the job. This past year, I have had the privilege to experience life in a very different way, money is tight, yes, but God gave my something to do while I can still be there for the kids full time, am guessing he gave me a second chance to be better. I truly was confused when I got the offer and was disturbed in my spirit hence I reached out for public opinion. I wish I could hand over that job to someone else, but I can't, sorry guys. It might look like a stupid and foolish decision but I had to do a hard rethink and refresh my memory to remind myself that at some certain times in life, some things are more important than money. I will make money plenty in this life maybe not right away due to my present decision but for now, I will manage and I feel liberated. I understand if you don't get it. Thank you very much everybody, I appreciate. 2 Likes |
Re: Starting a small business by bukatyne(f): 10:58pm On Apr 02, 2021 |
@pinkydaisy, I am glad I waited till the end before commenting. Your last post is extremely refreshing and I admire your ability to make decisions of what is important to you whether politically correct or not. If you are the corporate organization type, you can explore moving to a more central location so that is another opportunity comes in future, you can pick it up. Whatever your husband does, he needs to double his hustle so he is not thinking of sacrificing a warm home for money. May all your efforts on your kids and family not be in vain, amen. 1 Like |
Re: Starting a small business by pinkydaisy(f): 11:04pm On Apr 02, 2021 |
bukatyne: Amen. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: Starting a small business by Nwaotu10(m): 3:29pm On Apr 03, 2021 |
Please, with all due respect and absolute humility, choose any of the jobs and kindly give me contact to one. Joblessness is pumelling me unmercifully God bless you tremendously as I humbly await your most sincere feedback. Thank you. |
Re: Starting a small business by zed7: 6:50pm On Apr 03, 2021 |
Good decision. A woman bringing 70k a month has even tried, the husband now has to double up. Old school men like us still believe it's the duty of the man to do the heavy lifting. A woman should just support, that's what will bring respect and sanity in the home. |
Re: Starting a small business by NoToPile: 8:51pm On Apr 03, 2021 |
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