Good day all,
I'm in a terrible state of dilemma right now and please I need your advice.
This girl and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, we were working together in thesame office here in Abuja, and later she quits the job and started working with a media company which also she has quitted few months ago.
She's in her late 30s and I'm in my 32, she so much loves me more than I do toward her, she has sacrificed a lot to our relationship to make it work financially and otherwise.
For three occasions she has continually brought up the issue of marriage, the truth is that, I love her, and she's a good person, a God fearing woman, but I'm not ready for such responsibility now, I don't have good job, she doesn't work, my family is not financially buoyant neither do hers. I tried to explain severally to her of my situations but still she believes things will fall in place once we get married. Surprisedly about a week ago, she told me she's pregnant... I was a minute lifeless when she said that, I thought she was playing a prank on me until I saw the result. I've convinced her with several actions for her not to keep the baby yet she's insisting. I can't watch my unborn child go through these agony, I wanted a better life for my children. Now she has told some of her families about the pregnancy, she has moved over to my house, threatening wether I like it or not l, that she is going to give birth to the baby in my house. These whole thing is ruining my life, I can't just watch this drama happening. Please your advise is needed...

congratulations, happy married life.we are all directly responsible for our actions and inaction.she did not impregnate herself, somebody did. please do not be a chicken, man up.where there is the will there is a way.

Bro she is a good woman, are you responsible ?

If yes accept it as good faith. Start looking for a good paying job. Believe you would get one before the baby comes.
Do a court wedding.

Remember it not easy to find a good woman. You are 32 already. If you break up. You might wait another 2 years to find another.

I think you should settle down. you not a kid. If you loose a job. You can always get another job.

Dont tell her to abort it cos she is no longer a kid either. She has sacrificed for you. Remember that part.

God open doors for you.

You better don't be lifeless even for one sec because you have a truck load of responsibilities before you.
When you knew you weren't ready to take up such responsibility, why did you continue engaging in sex? Now your eyes are clear you suddenly realized you're not up to the task.

When we say shun premarital sex, you people think it's only for religious reasons or spiritual Implications but now, you can see the other implications there is to fornication.

Oga, carry your cross. Next time, when you hear flee fornication, you'll be the first to take off.

congratulations papa ejima. my sister sells baby things. pls patronise her when the time comes

A woman that's in her late 30s, you want her to abort.

Let her keep the baby o. Age is not on her side anymore.

There's no perfect time, Dix is ur opportunity. Go on with Her

You are playing around with a woman in her late 30s?

If you weren't ready to marry, why were you keeping her around you?

You are doomed bro!
You are doomed.

Any man that gets married like this may never be rich again in his life..
Now that she is in ur house baby number 2 will come out soonest and ur expenses will triple, no room for savings and investments.

Better use hot head and chase that demon out of ur house. If not, u go lean like toothpick in the very nearest future..

Is it your pay that's so low? Cause at 32 years, you still think you're incapable of starting a family?

Guy, you are of age. It's fear of responsibility that's killing you.

Anyways, regard this as one of those occasions in life when something you didn't plan for will just come into your life and you will have to deal with it by taking some drastic measures, making new life decisions and managing the situation carefully.

God forbid it for you but imagine if your mum had accident and need money for surgery. You didn't plan for that right? But when it happens, you will know how you will manage yourself to find resources to take care of the expenses.

That's like what I'm talking about. So apply the same principle to your present situation.

Cut your expenses; eliminate unnecessary things from your life. Work hard; look out for more opportunities. Tackle your situation and take responsibility. And pray for God's help.

Remember you were enjoying it when you were knacking. So take responsibility for the consequence my son.

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chinchonglee:
You are doomed bro!
You are doomed.

Any man that gets married like this may never be rich again in his life..
Now that she is in ur house baby number 2 will come out soonest and ur expenses will triple, no room for savings and investments.

Exactly. This is always the case. I've seen several cases like that.

At 32 u dey complain say ur babe get belle....u are lucky u see girl were ready to manage with you......

Arrrrrrrh

I can't watch my unborn child go through these agony, I wanted a better life for my children

With due respect I don't wanna sound rude but i have to be honest with you in a blunt way .

The lines above seems charade to me than talking from a sincere heart.

At your age you are scared of responsibility ? Wait, How do people engage in sexual acts without having a plan of 'what-if it's occurs'?

At her age you want her to dispose the baby ? Start findind ways to boost your finances through your salary . The did has been done !

Congratulation sir !

bro....abortion for a lady in her late 30s could be catastrophic. I did say keep the baby, u did be glad u did in future.

I believe for you to be dating her, you really like her. with respect to this, you have told us how God fearing she is and how she assists you financially.

if she is good enough for sex then she should be good enough for keeps with all those qualities enumerated up there.


Double up ur hustle, and take care of her and the incoming baby.

She's in her late 30s and I'm in my 32, she so much loves me more than I do toward her, she has sacrificed a lot to our relationship to make it work financially and otherwise.

It's a pity you are a cowardly man who cannot take responsibility of his actions. You keep sleeping with her and you don't love bla bla bla.

Ladies, please avoid these kinds of men.

Make she born I go donate 1 Pampers...abeg nairaland let's come to his aid.you don marry like this oh..

prinxel:
Good day all,
I'm in a terrible state of dilemma right now and please I need your advice.
This girl and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, we were working together in thesame office here in Abuja, and later she quits the job and started working with a media company which also she has quitted few months ago.
She's in her late 30s and I'm in my 32, she so much loves me more than I do toward her, she has sacrificed a lot to our relationship to make it work financially and otherwise.
For three occasions she has continually brought up the issue of marriage, the truth is that, I love her, and she's a good person, a God fearing woman, but I'm not ready for such responsibility now, I don't have good job, she doesn't work, my family is not financially buoyant neither do hers. I tried to explain severally to her of my situations but still she believes things will fall in place once we get married. Surprisedly about a week ago, she told me she's pregnant... I was a minute lifeless when she said that, I thought she was playing a prank on me until I saw the result. I've convinced her with several actions for her not to keep the baby yet she's insisting. I can't watch my unborn child go through these agony, I wanted a better life for my children. Now she has told some of her families about the pregnancy, she has moved over to my house, threatening wether I like it or not l, that she is going to give birth to the baby in my house. These whole thing is ruining my life, I can't just watch this drama happening. Please your advise is needed...

Don't let old cargo that waste her life during youthful days tie you down, relocate to another city and find your feat come and look for your child , if you marry this woman you will regret it for rest of your life forget that good woman she pretend to be it's because she's old she hid all her evil ways and you're blind to see them

This is a very dicey situation. My brother, don't abort that baby, its too late and age is not on her side. If you do you have yourself to blame. Man up and take responsibility you are a man. You are not first and won't be the last to impregnate a lady. We all make mistakes.

As in I don't understand how we men think


Everytime a guy says I don't want my children to suffer
I ain't ready financially

But you can be knacking raw raw

Less than 1000 naira condo..ms would have saved you from all these laments


Bunch of Jokers

AsherAmari:



Exactly. This is always the case. I've seen several cases like that.

Lol
And u had to remove the place i insulted the girl...
How matured of you.

The chances of that guy making it in life again is so slim...
Except miracle happens

Rubbish

duduade:
As in I don't understand how we men think


Everytime a guy says I don't want my children to suffer
I ain't ready financially

But you can be knacking raw raw

Less than 1000 condo..ms would have saved you from all these laments


Bunch of Jokers

that is , refusing to take responsibility of his actions. you have sex with a woman but do not expect pregnancy because you are not ready, what a joke

author=chinchonglee post=100647789]
Lol

And u had to remove the place i insulted the girl...
How matured of you.

The chances of that guy making it in life again is so slim...
Except miracle happens

I'm telling you.

oga, allow that woman to give birth in peace. biko

Boy or girl

These kind of posts doesn't cease to amaze me.
After two people bolt the door fast, play rough play in secret, then when the result of their play comes out as the gazetted work of the Almighty that can never fail, they then come to the open to cry over their happy little secret to the world, asking for advice.

What advise?

All I must say is, congrats on your double blessings.
To find a good woman is not easy, not to talk of one that will understand your situation and yet move in with you to share both your happiness and sadness with you, and also bear both your pains and gains with you. Not to talk of a precious gift of a baby added!

Come one man!
You just proved to the world you're a real man.
Just count your blessings!!
Name them one by one!!!
And it will surprise you what the has done!!!!

I like these kind of stories.
When you were pouring your hot akamu inside her did you tell us?
When you were lashing without umbrella, skin diving like a gangster did you inform us?
Ogbeni carry your cross like a man.
Amadioha strike your mouth if you suggest abortion.

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HopeVictor:
Make she born I go donate 1 Pampers...abeg nairaland let's come to his aid.you don marry like this oh..

I go donate rope to tie d baby's umbilical cord...

felixzo1:
that is , refusing to take responsibility of his actions. you have sex with a woman but do not expect pregnancy because you are not ready, what a joke

Gbam

OP be a man, accept your responsibility be by her side. It will end in praise.
This I have seen.

Congratulations bro ,,, Accept her Wholeheartedly and move on bro.. Incase you wanna do intromimo I dey sell koret koret ; Shoes both male and female

If u no wan marry am,turn her to a babymama and throw her out of your house if she is giving u problems and no peace of mind,being pregnant for u doesn't necessarily make her a wife

No go kee yourself ontop woman o