Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

Do you have light in your house

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

So how far with your own light? It will be nice to connect yours separate to avoid future fights. If you can help it, get your own pole too jare and limit your exchange with the family....finish.

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

@BlesE please stay away from your neighbour avoid him and keep your distance from he and his mrs. He wanted to fight you Real men dont fight they talk things out.

Get your pole, connect your light and keep your distance what he doesn't know in life is that your neighbour is your closest family.

Why didn't you call and then arrange to do the repair while he repays you.

You left your own family in the dark for 3 weeks haba.

You did no wrong. It seems you did your best.

Get a pole and connect your light.
Stay away from him and his family. Like someone already said what he doesn't know is a good neighbor is like family.
Hope he doesn't regret his actions.

What do you mean he has light in his house? Don't you have light In your house too? If you do, then enjoy your light and ignore him otherwise get your own pole and fix your light.

duduade:


Do you have light in your house

I don't have for now still using gen

So his wife who was at home couldn't join heads with you to sort out the light issues? Are women so useless that they can't make useful contributions that you had to call d husband that was so far away?

Women better have sense, be an independent decision maker instead of waiting for man to do everything. Naso dem go turn destitute immediately the man dies because they refused to invest in themselves and be wise. Mtcheew

Eketem:
Why didn't you call and then arrange to do the repair while he repays you.

You left your own family in the dark for 3 weeks haba.

Did u digest what he wrote properly.

Decisions like this is not made by an individual in a normal setting and he had done the right thing by trying to contact his neighbour on how to go about it but his' neighbour was just trying to form big man no time.

The interesting thing about the whole thing is he has the right to connect his' own house from the pole because the moment a pole is erected, it automatically becomes PHCN's property and it seizes from being the neighbour's property max they would say is if there is any community fees that needs to be paid, he shld pay it then make his' connection.

But in a case like this I think it is best for OP to get his' own pole wch doesn't make any sense at all cos wires would be running from the same source but wahala b like bicycle it is beta to avoid at all cost

Avoid him like a plaque, do your own connection and keep him at arms length

Well OP, as the matter don be laidis.. I suggest you get your own pole and connect your light.. Please & please steer clear from that man & his family.

Why do u have to wait on your neighbor before u use light



Don't u need the light more than anyone else


If I were u, I would have done the temporary connection, when he comes we can get the pole


You didn't have to wait for him

SweetCunt97:
So his wife who was at home couldn't join heads with you to sort out the light issues? Are women so useless that they can't make useful contributions that you had to call d husband that was so far away?

Women better have sense, be an independent decision maker instead of waiting for man to do everything. Naso dem go turn destitute immediately the man dies because they refused to invest in themselves and be wise. Mtcheew

Some.men do t like that..they won't even let the wife cjnsgr s bulb without letting him know. Some.men turn their wife's to mere furniture just to feel masculine. Just imagine how he reacted towards his fellow man and I understand what the wife was avoiding.
Was he supposed to attack his wife or his neighbor. If he was a good husband to the wife, the wife would have discussed it with him and he would have just directed here on what to. Infact, the neighbor shouldn't have been the one calling him to discuss light ißuws but the wife.
Some.men make their wife's so useless to the
Gos know I can't live with a man that I have to wait for before I do minor things like that. When I wasn't trained to wait for a man before I do things.

Others have said it all.. keep all your matters including light separate from his.. dont keep malice in your heart though. if u see him greet him.. if he ignores stop greeting him.

Op,stay away from the man o..for your own good

which kind suffer head be this...u have been without light for years...now saw light and didnt do anything to get it into ur compound....in d name of waiting for neighbor? 3weeks went buy and ur OK with burning more fuel...I am sorry but he had every right to react like he did.

you didnt have to wait that long. unless u didnt have d resources to do fix it... u should have told the wife u will handle this, pls tell Oga if he comes back he should bring his own contribution...sorry about how her reacted he probably felt u were not proactive.
ignore him anyways n mind ur business.

u must not be friend with him either.

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

I will advice you just make your own connection

Wetin punctuation marks do you sir?

What are the hazards of any from him opening his own pole too? I don't think you should own a pole of it isn't necessary. Can you find other links to join? I don't know anything about this but please overlook the neighbor and try to do the best that minimises future potential hazards.

Eketem:
Why didn't you call and then arrange to do the repair while he repays you.

You left your own family in the dark for 3 weeks haba.

You didn't read where he said he called him but never picked the calls. He met with the wife to discuss, the wife said he should wait for her husband.

He did no wrong here.

BlesE:
I don't have for now still using gen

You don't need to get another pole, the pole is no longer his but PHCN's, get your own wire and connect from the same pole and avoid the man like a plague.

Don't give him the chance of looking down on you again, stay away from him and his wife.

Lolz.. Seriously I don't even know what to call you! So you had to wait for 3weeks for someone else to come before you can raise a pole to fix your light! This is pathetic! If he had to stay for 3years you'll wait for him abi. Learn to use your initiative.

Now he came and connected his light, was he mindful whether you have light or not? That's the person you were waiting for. Learn to be a man and stand on your own. Anyway find a means to connect your own light. And stop asking irrelevant questions on the internet, they shows how weak and feeble of a man you are!

SweetCunt97:
So his wife who was at home couldn't join heads with you to sort out the light issues? Are women so useless that they can't make useful contributions that you had to call d husband that was so far away?

Women better have sense, be an independent decision maker instead of waiting for man to do everything. Naso dem go turn destitute immediately the man dies because they refused to invest in themselves and be wise. Mtcheew

Them meet one madam for lawma Bill of 500;;she say "my hubby is not around ,pls come back when he is back"

BlesE
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

Though your neighbour overreacted, but i think you should've gotten the pole before he came back and settled the bill with him whenever he returned,knowing that your own family was in darkness too.

drmikeadams:




Them meet one madam for lawma Bill of 500;;she say "my hubby is not around ,pls come back when he is back"

Imagine

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

Forget about where you went wrong

Meet the community electricity committee and notify them that you want to take light from the pole and you will be granted

As for your neighbour who is mighty than himself, just ignore him but relate with the wife if need be

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

meet the community chairman. You don't have to bring another pole except to share the cost of the already installed pole but you may ask to be billed separately

...that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

You have done no wrong bro. He's actually the foolish one to be honest. Even if you deliberately kept his family in darkness for 2 weeks, you haven't done badly at all when compared to the 4 years he and his family have stayed in the house without power. His inability to relocate his family for 4 years is the cause of the frustration and aggression.

Moving on, avoid him and his wife. His reaction has shown that his wife is toothless and got no voice in her home. Stop discussing important issues with her.

Bigman that could leave his family in darkness for four whole years, is that one a big man?

OP, your own fault is not doing the illegal connection on your own, you should have done that and wait till he comes then you will discuss the way forward, that way, he will know you have a mind of your own and can take decisions.