Franzinni:
well you have a solid point there ... But should it be made worse ? Most women don't have a clue about raising a male child and those statistics you called out up there are mostly from disfuctional families... It's one thing to have a father and another to have a male role model,let's even leave men aside even girls of today have flown off the hinges... I laugh when I read people say the future is female. I won't lie to you I have everything to gain if the future becomes female but I also know humanity is playing at the edge of a cliff ... It sounds like a good idea untill the real agenda is revealed. But you do have a point from the perspective you view it from, I can relate.

lkillbrokehoes:
All the women in my family are happily married with kids, my parents clearly didn't raise useless prostitutes who steal sperms of rich men or jump on random dicks, y'all needs to change your messed up mindset.

lexy2014:


What are u even saying? How is having sex a mistake?

Ladycewhy:
Well good for you and your family. But then fate can be cruel to some people and they are left with limited options.



If my daughter decides to be a single mother by choice or circumstances , I will support her all the way. This is 2021 , unlike you Nigerians that will rather die just to bear Mrs, I am evolved and enlightened to know not everyone will find love and companionship in their life time,the joy of motherhood is greater than any marriage as far as I am concerned.

lkillbrokehoes:
I hope you keep to what you preach, it's not about preaching what you wouldn't practice, don't mislead alot of young responsible women out there.

besides, most of what some of you say online, is different from what you practice in the real world, this is why I don't take most of you serious.

Ladycewhy:
cultural and religious beliefs? lol


let me enlighten you, once up a time it was also cultural and religious beliefs to sacrifice a virgin to the gods of harvest for bountiful harvest. once upon a time it was also cultural and religious beliefs to kill twins ,why didn't you stick to the barbaric cultural and religious beliefs of your ancestors then?

Ladycewhy:
Well good for you and your family. But then fate can be cruel to some people and they are left with limited options.



If my daughter decides to be a single mother by choice or circumstances , I will support her all the way. This is 2021 , unlike you Nigerians that will rather die just to bear Mrs, I am evolved and enlightened to know not everyone will find love and companionship in their life time,the joy of motherhood is greater than any marriage as far as I am concerned.

larryjonze:




your submissions are overboard, killing of twins is inhumane and not supported by two out of three religion in nigeria not to mention the law.
On the contrary, do you know no religion in the world supports wedlock, no matter how much our world evolves some cultural values will never fade. next time you want to argue look for valid points.

Ladycewhy:
Being a hypocrite like you Nigerians is not my forte.



You should rather be concerned about your men dumping their seeds and not ready for commitment. If a woman gets pregnant and the man doesn't do the needful by making her his wife? how have my comment misled the lady? will I or her go and force the guy to marry her? will she go and kill herself because people like you for reasons best known to you take it as an abomination?.



A man can impregnate atleast two women in a day, and if he keeps it up calculate how many women he will end up impregnating in a year, but a woman can only give birth once in a year. By logic you are focused on the wrong gender.Tell your men to be more responsible.

And as for linda ,shey her title now is mama so so and so,that trumps any other honor in the life of a woman.

larryjonze:




So why do brides dance there soul out on wedding day, i have been to so many naming ceremony never seen a mother dance like a bride.


do you know wedding day is the only day referred to as *joyous day of a woman*. any gurl can decide to get pregnant in her own time buh women can't decide when to wed, so its alway a big deal & an achievement especially among there peers

lkillbrokehoes:
Seriously am i the reason why some of you women fall into the trap of wrong/bad guys? most of you see the handwriting on the wall but you will still take the risk because of some stupid love.

most women want a rich bad guy, and you think a rich bad guy will stay with you forever without having fun with other girls? this is the same thing that happened to chioma, she wanted a rich bad guy(Davido), even when she knew he's a bad ass player. she still stuck by him and now you know the end result? chioma wanted love but davido as a bad sharp guy just wanted a kid and nothing more, y'all should stop blaming men, blame yourselves because y'all took the wrong decision.


besides, if this lady got impregnated by a responsible guy who love and care about her, there's no way he wouldn't marry her but she got impregnated by irresponsible guy, who's just interested in the cookie and once he got it successfully, he's done.


and lastly, do you think Linda's son won't ask about his dad later on? kids needs their father as well as their mother.

Ladycewhy:
The joy of holding a child that just came out of you can't be compared to anything, but I don't expect you to understand,after all na "your wife don born" una dey only hear.

larryjonze:




well i think i understand the angle you are coming from buh for you to understand me, when you have the chances pay attention to your female friends expression on there weddin & subsequent naming ceremony ... you will remember me

Ladycewhy:
Again another round of castigation and finger pointing. Mr pharisee, oh heaven's advocate and assistant God, we have heard you,take a placard to the national assembly and protest to take it to your religious houses to ban single mothers if your are that troubled.



Linda's son should not be your concern,don't you have your own family to be concerned about? why you carry linda matter for head like gala? And by the way ,I am sure her son will have the best of things even you with both parents never had in your life. So face front.

Linda should be my concern because she mislead alot of you, even Beyonce did "all single ladies". but later married her long time boyfriend, why are some of y'all so easy to be deceived? it's obvious most of you don't know what you want or are just extremely confused lolz.


And lastly to burst your bubbles, I never lacked anything as a kid, my father gave us all the love, same with my mom and that's enough for me and my siblings, i can't say the same thing about you.

lkillbrokehoes:
Linda should be my concern because she mislead alot of you, even Beyonce did "all single ladies". but later married her long time boyfriend, why are some of y'all so easy to be deceived? it's obvious most of you don't know what you want or are just extremely confused lolz.


And lastly to burst your bubbles, I never lacked anything as a kid, my father gave us all the love, same with my mom and that's enough for me and my siblings, i can't say the same thing about you.

tunjijones:
Marriage is gradually fading away.

Know this... You dont have to be married for you to be happy.

Most married people are unhappy with their marriages.

There is more advantage to be single than to be married. I am talking from a guys perspective though.. I dont know how female feel about marriage.

Ladycewhy:
Overboard ? but they were cultural beliefs once upon a time. So also the so called cultural belief you hold so dear has its flaws.



Even with proper use of contraception ,pregnancy can still occur, so should we now burn single mothers alive? because of your cultural beliefs? shouldn't the man who planted his seed share from the responsibility as well? it is the man who will make the decision to marry her isn't it? so now that she is pregnant and the man doesn't want to marry her should she tie him with a rope and drag him to the registry? should the society stone her to death because she is pregnant and the man doesn't want to put a ring on it?.

Some way or another the likes of you will eventually have to come to terms that some things are just not black and white, there is brown and there is purple as well. Marriage is not meant for everything ,some will get married and divorce while some will not even attempt it at all ,some will not want kids ,while some will want kids with no marriage. Your opinion can't dictate the lives of millions of people. If you had the luck of finding a companion,good for you, but some are not that lucky and we can't expect them to waste their motherhood away just to please the likes of you.

larryjonze:





Yeah !! overboard and i don't think criticism against wedlock is prepostorous like i said its normal for the a society to react because the society are the custodian of cultural values, las las we go shutup she go carry her cross.
i have young gurls that are suppose to be in school carrying babies around ... after such mistake i still see these gurls doing hookup or hopping into different cars @ night, most of these babymama tinz are dividend of waywardness & covetousness of the female gender.
Like i said the society will only react, las las these ladies will bear their cross alone ... get use to it.

Ladycewhy:
And the ones who fate is not kind to experience such , should we now pick up stones and throw at them for choosing to experience the joy of motherhood regardless of their cruel fate?


To each his own, to those who find their life partner, we will rejoice with them, to those who can't and choose to have children we will be understanding and not given them reason to bow their heads ,a child is a blessing and there is no illegitimate in the sight of God.

larryjonze:




like i said, i do get your angle so i will give you a waver, like mo maa so'ju nu for you to pass

pretydiva:
Abortion is against your catholic belief, but premarital sex is not against your belief.

Aunty shut the fvck up and give yourself some respect

Batam:

Wrong assertion.
What about your parents, are they not happily married?
If you are getting married with the motive of sweet all rounder, you will always fall into the category you stated above.
Marriage has a lot of challenges, if you cannot face it you fall out

tunjijones:
Marriage is gradually fading away.

Know this... You dont have to be married for you to be happy.

Most married people are unhappy with their marriages.

There is more advantage to be single than to be married. I am talking from a guys perspective though.. I dont know how female feel about marriage.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Wait o, is it not on this same nairaland that your guys creat topic upon topics to announce to the world that men are scarce and women are entering menopause without getting married?
Time without number you nairaland men have told us the women that we are useless and can't be married because we are now evening news paper. How women have nothing to offer but smelly, slackened pussies.
How they are so useless na to duck them and throw away.
Now, an evening newspaper, wide and smelly pussy oloshos who has nothing to offer any man in this world offered her own pussy to a man who agreed to have it, and the man enjoyed it so much he forgot himself and deposited his seed inside her close enough to her uterus. As in, he went so deep that he didn't miss the shot.
And this evening newspaper decided to keep the seed and let it grow in her own body. Her own body not yours and yet you are all here bashing her. Calling her names. As she no fit marry make she born nah.
How does her pregnancy or oloshoship affect our individual lives?

ibkonekt:

It does, it really does. The bastard that will be born will exist in the same society that we all live in. Research the statistics children from single mothers have the highest rate of crime, going to prison, and being a nuisance to society. If we keep having women birth these bastards in the name of single motherhood the stats shows a probability(potential) of our environment been overidden with a high level of disorder

Ikukuudo:
Reasonable action taken at the right time

But I still condemn those village kids that give take in at the age of 18 to 25yrs. Without a handwork.

This is Nigeria anything can happen, after giving birth she will marry. Mark my words. THIS LADY WILL MARRY AFTER GIVING BIRTH. Except she refused the proposal.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I've heard you sir. I don't have power to argue so let me just agree with you that you are right.
All the crimes commuted are carried out by bastards. Even Davido that impregnates every woman that comes his way is a bastard. Wizkids and 2baba are bastards. All our Theives in government are wicked and cant make policies that will benefit the people because they are bastards.
Yes, all these celebrities giving birth to kids with woman and men who are not their wives or husband are breeding criminals.
All the people in prisons around Nigeria bastard.
All BOKO HARAM members, kidnappers and bandits, all fulanis herdsmen and even police and military men brutalizing citizens everyday are bastards.
All the Yahoo boys and drug trafickers are bastards.
Even those collecting bribe in different government offices are bastards.
Yeah you are right, I think we are all bastards and that's why our society if so bad.

There should actually be a law the prevent on married women from getting pregnant and giving birth while the while unmarried men should be empowered to share their seed to any lady that comes their way be it married or single.