Met my wife 10years ago.

We have 4 kids now.

All these while, my wife had had this toilet infection which she has been treating without results.

We have been to the best hospitals and done several tests, swabs and scans. It was diagnosed as UTI.

It comes with painful urination, painful sex, lack of libido, complete vaginal dryness, lots of frustration etc on her part.

While I have been a faithful partner over these years. I have believed God will intervene in this crisis.

I have gone for my own diagnosis and nothing was found but I was asked to use sone form of cream for a few days.

Now, the problem now is,

My wife now has a complete phobia for sex as it would usually would lead her to pains mentioned earlier.

We have tried native herbs as well.

Hundreds of thousands have been spent both in modern and traditional herbs without remedy.

It disappears for some days and appears days after sex.

If not tackled with some vaginal creams could lead to sour and whitish diacharge and lots of pains after a few days.

Our sex life has been a war.

I have to literally ask, beg and persuade my wife before we can give a trial.

Now, she has given up.

I dont know how long I can continue to remain faithful.

Each passing day has seen me spending more time at work and project just to redirect my energies.

My wife really dont have sexual feelings anymore.

I am afraid of what could happen if there is no intervention coming speedily.

Pls help with useful contributions and please response only from the married.

Thank you la la for this platform.

Go see a therapist with your wife. I am not giving you any assurance but it may help

Ten years and four kids...kudos to your wife despite the pains.

As for your sexual issues, discuss your dilemma with your wife and make her understand that you might be constrained to seek third party solution

This is very serious. I pray that she gets perfect healing right now. If you have faith you will see God settling her case. Amen

boom99:
This is very serious. I pray that she gets perfect healing right now. If you have faith you will see God settling her case. Amen

Amen sir

gasparpisciotta:
Ten years and four kids...kudos to your wife despite the pains.

As for your sexual issues, discuss your dilemma with your wife and make her understand that you might be constrained to seek third party solution

Ok you mean, seeking counsel?

boom99:
This is very serious. I pray that she gets perfect healing right now. If you have faith you will see God settling her case. Amen

yes, that's it! Divine healing works!

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Personally I think if the infection is adamant then it means the source of that infection is still right there in the house. And I don't think it's possible for you not to have the same infection that your wife has as long as you both still have sex once in a while.

To the solution, maybe it's not just about the lack of interest and pain, maybe you've lost your touch. Do you have a good pre-intimacy before sex like you use to do when you first got married? Couples (especially men) tends to forget to remain active in bed after a while. We just want to get down to it and take the women's sexuality for granted. I'm not saying that's the issue with you, I'm only suggesting.

Since she's no longer interested in it, seek counseling and try to find the source of the infection. Doctors always suggest complete overhaul of all underwears, thorough cleaning of toilets and all that. I'm sure you've been told. Do them.

Finally try to take your mind off penetration when you want to try with your wife. Just tease her with your d**k very well.

All these are my personal experiences and those suggestions worked for me.

Note: some people will start quoting you here to come and buy some herbs...be careful with them.

You said it goes and comes back after some days. It means there may be reinfection or it is not completely treated.
I battled with infection for years before I got the solution to it.
Both of you should check your personal hygiene and boost your immune system, and see how it will go.

byna:


Ok you mean, seeking counsel?

Yes, counseling from another who can satisfy your sexual need.

Just to add to what has been said, I support Kelvin30286063 & mddavid contributions

I'm sorry about the recurrences, negative effects & psychological trauma.. One, I hope you do know that when one's spouse is taking treatments for any form of pelvic infection, it's always advisable for his/her partner to do the same(get treated) whether he/she is experiencing symptoms of the infection or not, also there should be no sexual intercourse until they've both finished taking their medications. Two, I do hope you both take y'all medications judiciously, please don't discard them whenever you feel the symptoms have "gone", ensure you finish the dosages. Yeah, there should be an overhaul of y'all undies & briefs, get new ones(cotton preferably) and if possible change your beddings too.. Failure to do all that leads to recurrences so you both keep reinfecting each other again and again and again.. Also ensure proper hygiene, soak in antiseptic (warm water, if you like), wash and sundry them, the heat from the sun further kills those harmful microorganisms.. I could go on and on but I'll stop here, please google more about this.. I'm quite certain you must've heard or read about it somehow though

For the now, I know you both must be really tired of going in and out of different medical facilities for this cause.. I may not know all the symptoms she's experiencing, however, I do suggest you both go to a good laboratory, she should ask to run a pelvic scan, if it is confirmed that there is an infection, there will be other tests to further identify the type of infection as well as the causal organism(s).. The test results should be taken to a doctor and only then will the treatment be prescribed.. Orr even better if you both have the privilege to meet a renowned Pharmacist(one who did study Pharmacy), do ask he/she to help interpret the test results and proffer the right medications to combat the infection.. I hope you both find a lasting solution.