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Anything more than a stranded night is too long

Ok, lets expantiate and rephrase the topic:

How long is too long for troublesome inlaws to stay over in your house?
Inlaws that leave dirty dishes in your sink, put on the generator after you have put it off, leave full thrash in your kitchen etc.
This kind of inlaws

Coming over for dinner and leaving straight after is plenty long for troublesome in-laws.
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The best is to call the in-law to order making him/her know this is your house and not his or hers. If such an in-law choose not to be responsible then, the spouse whose relative s/he is would have to tell the person they have had enough of him or her.

In-laws: Father-in-law, Mother-in-law or the rest of the in-laws?

Troublesome or no troublesome, why u wan visit me, stay in ur house and tell me what u want, nd i will come and take care of it dere.

A week maximum. That is the rule in my house.

this is thread is gonna be interesting wait ti NAIRALAND LADIES TEAR IT UP

Troublesome or no troublesome, why u wan visit me, stay in ur house and tell me what u want, nd i will come and take care of it dere.

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Lmao

hummm, the inlaw can stay in your house as long as or as far as your endurance can take you

How do you even tell your mother or father in-law to leave your house?

ol-boi, I goofed. My wife had a baby-girl (our 2nd) 6 months ago, since then, her mum and sister hav set-up camp at my home. Initially, it was a relief but I have recently com to d conclusion that I was siiting on a keg of gun-powder. D more I covr my ears and eyes, the more brazen they become. Anytime i enquire from my madam abt when they will be leaving, she claims to still need them because d baby is still to young for day-care.

i had to put my foot down and tactfully kick em out when d whining and snide remarks were gettin too 'amplified'. For sake of respect, some distance has to be maintained between in-laws and a young growing marriage. It's helpful in the short-run but too damaging when the stay is extended.

Having said that, it also depends on the characters involved. I had no real issues with the sister, na dem mama get gutter-mouth, and i couldnt stand her influence on my wife. Havin every decision or discussion ratified by that woman was like living in 'HELL'.

2days for visits, 1 week for other issues.

aginamuk:
How do you even tell your mother or father in-law to leave your house?

TACTFULLY remove the reason for the extended stay; in my case, register the baby for creche and on the next weekend, give them a tidy settlement (50-500k) as u hold reach.

how com its only guys talkin so far?

Depending on the relationship you have with your in- laws !!!
My in-laws are the best, and can stay in house for as long as they want to !!!!

Nothing more dan a stranded nyt,be it a troublesome one or not

una go kill me with laugh here ooo

TOO LONG IS WHEN U FEEL IS TOO LONG,
as to hw to ask an inlaw to leave,very simple.
''in-law abeg time don reach wen u go waka,abeg ready make l go drop u for park.greet evry bodi for me when u reach house.call me whn u reach.

Q.Mark:
Anything more than a stranded night is too long

correct.

Whaooo!!!!!!, interesting, hmmnnnnn,

coolkaboom:
TACTFULLY remove the reason for the extended stay; in my case, register the baby for creche and on the next weekend, give them a tidy settlement (50-500k) as u hold reach.

.  Cool: You must be a consultant on this issue oooooo

Hmmm. . . Some questions! LWFMF. . .

My parents in-law have never visited. Thank God hubby is the only child. *dancing etighi

It seems we are looking at this issue from the man's angle, the other side is can a woman tell here  inlaw to go?
can my wife tell my mother or father (when i get married} to leave? NO
Can i tell my inlaw to go?  

iykak47:
It seems we are looking at this issue from the man's angle, the other side is can a woman tell here inlaw to go?
can my wife tell my mother or father (when i get married} to leave? NO
Can i tell my inlaw to go?

NO!!!

@ronkebp you are right on point, lol,  what's good for the gander is good for the goose. If an-inlaw does not respect your rules then they are better off in their own home where no one is likely to notice them.

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If its "He" no probs, we roll together. But, "she" No! No!! No!!!