Don't frawn at the english
Right from childhood ,I am always bother about what people will say about me. When I hear someone speaking against me, I feel down especially when I hear those I never thought would speak against me. I cared so much about what people would say about me ,that I started trying to please everybody. I would all out and do my best for others but if I make one mistake inside a hundred things, people would speak against me. So I decided to turn myself to an introvert,still people still talk about me
The people's words that pain me the most are those I thought are my close friends. I wouldn't have known they do gossip against me until one day or two where u will coincidentally hear them speaking against you.

Who have experience this, please share how you deal with the pain of people who you never thought would speak against you,spoke against you.
I usually get depressed when someone I trust do these things.
Please help with your advise

Your experience are genuine. But those talking about you don't hate you. It is the devil trying to frustrate you by toying with your confidence.

Find the meaning of Paranoid and paranoia. Not to instigate that you are going through that. But sometimes, your mind plays trick on you. You will feel people are laughing at you or it may be true. They may mimic you Just to make you feel down.

It shows something is battling with your mind. Don't let it win take possession of your mind with the scriptures if you are a Christian. You have the mind of Christ according to the scripture. Study to internalise what that means to you.

If you have some bad habits, try to stop and your confidence will return.

Billionsclub:
Don't frawn at the english
Right from childhood ,I am always bother about what people will say about me. When I hear someone speaking against me, I feel down especially when I hear those I never thought would speak against me. I cared so much about what people would say about me ,that I started trying to please everybody. I would all out and do my best for others but if I make one mistake inside a hundred things, people would speak against me. So I decided to turn myself to an introvert,still people still talk about me
The people's words that pain me the most are those I thought are my close friends. I wouldn't have known they do gossip against me until one day or two where u will coincidentally hear them speaking against you.

Who have experience this, please share how you deal with the pain of people who you never thought would speak against you,spoke against you.
I usually get depressed when someone I trust do these things.
Please help with your advise

My dear,it's normal for people to talk against you, especially friends. That's why you are an African, and trust me 90% of people experience that's as well.
People are bad, and there's nothing you can do about it, you cannot control their behavior
no matter what you do to please them.

You should stop focusing on what people think or will think and just do you. Behave the way you like, laugh about them, don't trust anyone, but be good to everyone.

ModestGal:

My dear,it's normal for people to talk against you, especially friends. That's why you are an African, and trust me 90% of people experience that's as well.
People are bad, and there's nothing you can do about it, you cannot control their behavior
no matter what you do to please them.

You should stop focusing on what people think or will think and just do you. Behave the way you like, laugh about them, don't trust anyone, but be good to everyone.

"As a man/woman thinketh in his/her heart, so is he/she"

If you believe people are bad, that means you're a bad person.

Whether we like it or not, as long as we're on this earth, we can't do without people, and there are good people everywhere.

There were the slogans when I was growing up ..

I don't care what people say about me, I care for what I do.

Rumors are carried by enemies, spread by ignorant, accepted by fools without enquiries.

You can never satisfy anyone. Live your life.

Billionsclub:
Don't frawn at the english
Right from childhood ,I am always bother about what people will say about me. When I hear someone speaking against me, I feel down especially when I hear those I never thought would speak against me. I cared so much about what people would say about me ,that I started trying to please everybody. I would all out and do my best for others but if I make one mistake inside a hundred things, people would speak against me. So I decided to turn myself to an introvert,still people still talk about me
The people's words that pain me the most are those I thought are my close friends. I wouldn't have known they do gossip against me until one day or two where u will coincidentally hear them speaking against you.

Who have experience this, please share how you deal with the pain of people who you never thought would speak against you,spoke against you.
I usually get depressed when someone I trust do these things.
Please help with your advise

It is natural for humans to say things about other humans. (I mean, what else do we talk about?)
It doesn't mean they mean you harm, neither can their words hurt.
The thing is you give too much thought/attention to what people say or might say about you, then it worries and overwhelms you, making you anxious.
You need to learn to free your mind.

Do you sneak up/eavesdrop on people?

In my parents words "Jesus who died for the sins of the world is spoken ill of despite his good nature; who are you that they will not talk about you".

This words sustained me and is still sustaining me.

One doesn't necessarily need to have a firsthand experience of your experience to advise you properly. Both the problem and solution lie in your hands:

- Always strive to do what you know is right at any given time, and stop giving a damn about what anyone you know that doesn't place principle above expediency thinks about you. Stay conscientious.

If you are someone that intrinsically craves and depends on bandwagonism and flattery for positive energy, however, the above will be impossible for you to achieve and maintain.

When life hits you, you will forget to remember the concerns of what people think. You still get time.

Thanks so much everyone, I am truely encouraged

Hmm, you will need to overhaul your mindset. The only persons i really give a shit about is myself and my immediate family (to a reasonable extent). The rest are shit. People will always talk. Do good they talk, do bad they will still talk. Just do your shit as far as you are deeply convinced about it. What will people say, has hindered so many folks from living their lives fo the fullest.

Billionsclub:
Thanks so much everyone, I am truely encouraged

It's good you feel better now..

I understand you perfectly.. I'll tell you the truth, people will always talk.. You can never please everybody, there will always be someone/people that'll come out to say negative things about you, even those you've never interacted with all your life.. Even if you decide to lay your life for their sake, they'll still have something to say, good & bad.. Do not let this bother you at all cos people will always always talk, know this & know peace.. Shalom!

1F30M4:


It's good you feel better now..

I understand you perfectly.. I'll tell you the truth, people will always talk.. You can never please everybody, there will always be someone/people that'll come out to say negative things about you, even those you've never interacted with all your life.. Even if you decide to lay your life for their sake, they'll still have something to say, good & bad.. Do not let this bother you at all cos people will always always talk, know this & know peace.. Shalom!

Thanks so much. I appreciate this kind and encouraging words. It's just that, sometimes, I get depressed when I hear negative comment about me. I feel encouraged

Turn negativity into jokes.
Don't let it get the best of you.

The day my siblings ganged against me... I knew I was alone in this world. I never gave a shïët about who cares anymore. I just pray, live my life and stay out of trouble.

You are what you think you are.

Change your thinking and become a better YOU!