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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Kobicove(m): 9:02pm On Jun 25, 2021
Deffjam:
Did you know how demotion feels.......let him be jare.

That's his problem
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by whela(m): 9:02pm On Jun 25, 2021
tongue
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Jokerman(m): 9:03pm On Jun 25, 2021
Try talking to him
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by talk2hb1(m): 9:03pm On Jun 25, 2021
konfusedgee:
There is a guy in an organization of which I work for, he holds a higher position and as such he is the bossy type who love to feel like an important person,,

My organization needed to purchase some new cars and he was the one in charge of the planning and purchase, after the cars were bought it was discovered that he requested for kickbacks from the vendor,

he was almost sacked but instead was recently demoted to my office on the same position, Due to some key responsibilities I have in the office I'm in charge of some activities,,,
Here is the problem, he isolates himself,, still behaves like he's a superior, acts bossy and doesn't want to associate with other colleagues or in discharging his duties.

How do I handle such a person?? How do I approach the situation accordingly,,, make I clear the guy put am for him place or I should just be complacent? Guys help out
Play The Roles and Responsibility Card With Him, know your roles and the responsibilities attached to it, and let him handle his roles too.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by DMechyy: 9:04pm On Jun 25, 2021
konfusedgee:
Like I said I'm in charge of some key responsibilities in the office,

Just do your Job. That shouldnt be hard
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Sailorsoldier1: 9:06pm On Jun 25, 2021
Show him d middle finger
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by topoftheworld(m): 9:07pm On Jun 25, 2021
Just handle it with care, sit him down and talk senses into his asshole.

And if he still don't change, report him.
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by xreal: 9:07pm On Jun 25, 2021
Still respect him/her.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by able88(m): 9:08pm On Jun 25, 2021
He's now in the same level with you. Man up and make him understand that. After all he's not your employer and can't influence your salary.
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by directoroluwole: 9:08pm On Jun 25, 2021
Bro maybe you should take it offline to people who have spent more years in service to advice you. All what I've been seeing here no one has responded like a matured and sensible person

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Tomilola360: 9:09pm On Jun 25, 2021
You send em on errands. Go buy suya come grin

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Tomilola360: 9:09pm On Jun 25, 2021
directoroluwole:
Bro maybe you should take it offline to people who have spent more years in service to advice you. All what I've been seeing here no one has responded like a matured and sensible person

cheesy
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by AuroraBrls: 9:12pm On Jun 25, 2021
Do u know what it feels like to be in his shoes right now.

He is a bruised Lion.

Let him be, if you can't help him by understanding what he is going through, giving him more time to adjust to the very bitter current reality, pointing out to him kindly quietly and loving why he needs to readjust and fit back in...at least don't hurt him by escalating his issues or making management see reason why to push him away...then at least ignore him.

The won't add his salary to yours when he is sacked.

Maybe he is the hen in his home, if you crush the hen who will fend for the chicks

Nobody holy pass. On a very good day u ma go collect your own kick back too.

Na person like you go don expose his ass.

The work place is a terrible dog eat dog environment, people scheming to push each other out to impress the boss. Zero love or compassion. Some go as far as diabolism and outright assasinations.

Let that guy be abeg, before you fetch yourself vendetta.that company no be ur papa company, u sef will resign or get sacked or demoted someday too.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by MadeInBrazil7: 9:15pm On Jun 25, 2021
Lol
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by spiralwedge(m): 9:16pm On Jun 25, 2021
konfusedgee:
There is a guy in an organization of which I work for, he holds a higher position and as such he is the bossy type who love to feel like an important person,,

My organization needed to purchase some new cars and he was the one in charge of the planning and purchase, after the cars were bought it was discovered that he requested for kickbacks from the vendor,

he was almost sacked but instead was recently demoted to my office on the same position, Due to some key responsibilities I have in the office I'm in charge of some activities,,,
Here is the problem, he isolates himself,, still behaves like he's a superior, acts bossy and doesn't want to associate with other colleagues or in discharging his duties.

How do I handle such a person?? How do I approach the situation accordingly,,, make I clear the guy put am for him place or I should just be complacent? Guys help out

I had a similar experience. Started a job where the my predecessor failed and was demoted to a lesser managerial position. She was arrogant, annoying and rude. She obviously was choleric and aggressive, but most importantly she envied me and wanted me to fail so as to feel good.

I made a few mistakes, but this is my advice:
1. Don't encourage over-familiarity. Don't encourage him asking or knowing personal or management decisions and details.
2. Intentionally keep detailed information away from him and don't oblige him anything on personal levels. Look too busy to have his FULL attention
3. Be professional at all times, even at things that doesn't concern him. He will refer to those unprofessional things in the future.
4. Do not think twice to give him official verbal warning and written queries. Carry your immediate boss along or the HR.
5. Give him lesser responsibilities that you think he will feel too big to undertake and give him query if he doesn't do it (he definitely will not do it well).
6. Do not lose guard, i repeat, do not lose guard. SET BOUNDARIES!

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by spiralwedge(m): 9:17pm On Jun 25, 2021
Nwodosis:
Why is it bothering only you? If you are actually handling some key responsibilities, you won't be noticing him. You can't deny not to have gossiped about him.

Learn to read to comprehend

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by rickyboss333: 9:21pm On Jun 25, 2021
First know that the upper management understands what is going on with his situation and everyone around him. Just treat his case with ultmost prejudice. Move on with your normal routine, if need be assign duties to him and if he doesn't oblige simply put it in your reports, but do not engage him in any form of argument. Avoid him as much as u can becos he is simply a time bomb. Trust me, he has more problems to deal with more than u do, so don't let his robe u in.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by victorVIC1(m): 9:22pm On Jun 25, 2021
You are not his manager so face your front.
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Cerebellum: 9:24pm On Jun 25, 2021
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright
Check whether the guy sabi booze or kpoli
If yes....then invite am make una booze together small...from there begin align with am
If na weekend...make una dey one side....probably book hotel...arrange one or two slim beautiful runs babe make them bang the guy till day break....before you know it....the guy go dey reason well with you and una go dey do things together


Ogbeni make una dey read

You be mumu
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by aikyg(m): 9:25pm On Jun 25, 2021
Wetin concern you, concern him? You better face your key responsibilities.
konfusedgee:
Like I said I'm in charge of some key responsibilities in the office,
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Pharaoh4rin(m): 9:26pm On Jun 25, 2021
Deal with the moment with him. Relate with him as if he's newly employed but is good at what he does. He'll be wondering if u don't know that he was so so & so.

I worked for a company years ago. I was later made a manager in one of company's new branches. My former manager was later de-ranked to a supervisor and was sent to work under me in the new branch. Even though he was richer and better experienced than me, I treated him like a supervisor, and if there's anything that involves a collective effort, sort of team work, we reason together.

Funny part is, our boss expected certain reactions. But I proved everybody wrong.

There was a time I sanctioned him for insubordination and he has to sit up. He later confessed to my boss that he has never seen a guy like me. After I resigned, he became d manager of my branch and he continued to carry on my disciplinary legacy.

Human beings are not easy to lead.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by NaijaDonCast(m): 9:26pm On Jun 25, 2021
Ma real niggarr I salute you
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright
Check whether the guy sabi booze or kpoli
If yes....then invite am make una booze together small...from there begin align with am
If na weekend...make una dey one side....probably book hotel...arrange one or two slim beautiful runs babe make them bang the guy till day break....before you know it....the guy go dey reason well with you and una go dey do things together


Ogbeni make una dey read
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Machinegun91(m): 9:27pm On Jun 25, 2021
Mr man. A retired soldier is still a soldier.
You can't call him a civilian.



In other words he's still your boss and be careful with him.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Reeberry: 9:27pm On Jun 25, 2021
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright
Check whether the guy sabi booze or kpoli
If yes....then invite am make una booze together small...from there begin align with am
If na weekend...make una dey one side....probably book hotel...arrange one or two slim beautiful runs babe make them bang the guy till day break....before you know it....the guy go dey reason well with you and una go dey do things together
Is that even necessary?
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by HRSweetness(f): 9:33pm On Jun 25, 2021
GRACEGLORY:
That’s encountering a Micromanagement person. I guess.
They become overly involved in the work of co-employees/employees, they mess up independent decision-making, and are all over your face for frequent updates. Most times, micromanagement is as a result of insecurities

Sometimes, it’s an underlying personality trait which is common in Cholerics, this isn’t to make Cholerics uncomfortable, but it is what it is, other temperament has their issues too. And sometimes it stems from background.
Dealing with bossy people be frustrating, but if you have or develop the right mindset and attitude you can deal with them effectively.

Here’s how to deal with such individuals:
Don't take it personal.
Learn to Just ignore them by wisdom. And
Set healthy boundaries.

You have said so much without saying anything. Next time read the post and carefully think of an answer before quickly clicking the reply button.
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by simplesearch: 9:34pm On Jun 25, 2021
Be careful how you treat him at this time no matter the offense that lead to his being demoted, cause he can get back sooner than you expected and it could become a problem for you if you treat him badly or further damage his self esteem. Try and get close to him, you can call him Broz after all he was your superior before now. Just let him know that life is not so predictable and can play a fast one on anyone at any point in time if we are not careful. Let him know it's another learning phase for him to get better when everything is over, and not an end to his career. After that tell him there are sweet aspect of your Departmental job you're sure he'll like to know, outline them and let him make his choice. Don't relate with him like a dept boss, just maintain a horizontal relationship. That way you'll help him understand life from a better perspective and probably get back rightfully on his foot again. If you do this he'll always remember you as a good person and can even pull you higher whenever he has the power to do so.

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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by mamaafrik(m): 9:36pm On Jun 25, 2021
Ogbeni bone
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Blackbug: 9:42pm On Jun 25, 2021
Crowwejihadist:


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Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Tbasicme: 9:43pm On Jun 25, 2021
konfusedgee:
There is a guy in an organization of which I work for, he holds a higher position and as such he is the bossy type who love to feel like an important person,,

My organization needed to purchase some new cars and he was the one in charge of the planning and purchase, after the cars were bought it was discovered that he requested for kickbacks from the vendor,

he was almost sacked but instead was recently demoted to my office on the same position, Due to some key responsibilities I have in the office I'm in charge of some activities,,,
Here is the problem, he isolates himself,, still behaves like he's a superior, acts bossy and doesn't want to associate with other colleagues or in discharging his duties.

How do I handle such a person?? How do I approach the situation accordingly,,, make I clear the guy put am for him place or I should just be complacent? Guys help out

The simple term is that he is disgruntled.
What you will do to put him in check is that give him a lawful official instruction and wait to see if he will comply. If he doesn't issue him a query. Just wait and watch if he complies. If not issue him the second query. His ego will come down
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by techWriter2: 9:47pm On Jun 25, 2021
Like I said I dos in fee of sodose key role in the oga
Re: How Do I Handle A Bossy Demoted Colleague by Nobody: 9:51pm On Jun 25, 2021
konfusedgee:
Like I said I'm in charge of some key responsibilities in the office,

Call him to the side and outline his responsibilities and the deadline. Let him know you will follow up in the team updates. Have team updates and let everybody update what they have done. He will only shame himself if he hasn’t done his tasks.

He get mind. If he worked for me I would’ve charged him let him settle police with my money he has been stealing foolish man.

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