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Everything works in a healthy relationship. Of course, there are obstacles in the way, but usually, they make decisions together, openly discuss any issues, and genuinely enjoy each other's company.
Toxic relationships are another story. And if you are in one, red flags can be harder to spot.
If you constantly feel exhausted or unhappy after spending time with your partner, it could be a sign that things need to change.

Here are some characteristics of toxicity in a relationship.
What does it look like?

Depending on the nature of the relationship, signs of toxicity can be subtle or very obvious.
If you are in a toxic relationship, you may notice some of these symptoms in yourself, your partner, or the relationship itself.
1. Lack of support
The time you spend together is no longer positive or conducive to your goals.
Healthy relationships are built on a shared desire for the other to be successful in all walks of life. But when it gets toxic, every achievement becomes a competition.
In other words, you don't feel like they're behind you.
2. Toxic communication
Instead of treating each other nicely, most of their conversations are filled with sarcasm, criticism, or outright hostility. You may even start to avoid talking to each other.
3. Jealousy
While it's okay to be jealous from time to time, it can become a problem if you can't think or feel your success positively.
4. Over-ruling behavior
Constantly asking yourself where you are at or getting too angry if you don't respond to text messages right away are signs of controlling behavior that can contribute to relationship toxicity.
In some cases, these attempts to control it can be a sign of abuse.
5. Bitterness
Hold on to resentments and let them grow in intimacy.
Over time, frustration or resentment can build up and create an even bigger little void.
6. Dishonesty
You are constantly making up lies about where you are or who you are with to avoid spending time with your partner.
7. Model of disrespect
Chronic delays, the occasional "forgetting" of events, and other behaviors that show disrespect for your time are warning signs.
8. Negative financial behavior
Your partner can make financial decisions without consulting or even considering you, including buying big-ticket items or withdrawing large sums of money. It can always be in the form of always asking for money.
9. Constant stress
A normal level of stress permeates any relationship, but being constantly nervous is an indicator that something is wrong.
This prolonged stress can negatively affect your physical and emotional health.
10. Your needs ignore his / hers
Accepting what your partner wants to do, even if it is against your wishes or your comfort, is a sure sign of toxicity.
For example, you can take vacations that you have or have not planned on dates that do not suit you.
11. Lost relationships
You no longer spend time with friends and family, whether it's to avoid conflict with your partner or to explain what's going on in your relationship.
Alternatively, you may find yourself spending your free time with your partner.
12. Lack of personal attention
In a toxic relationship, you might put aside your usual self-care habits.
Perhaps you have withdrawn from hobbies you once loved, neglected your health, and sacrificed your free time.
13. Hope for change
You can stay in the relationship because you see the potential of the other person or think that if you change yourself and your actions, he/she will change too.

What do you think guys?


Are you in a toxic relationship?


Aside from the 13 signs above, what other signs do we see in one.

Let's share our thoughts and experiences so that others can learn.

Whatever Ye dispense so shall you receive so before you tag your partners with all these traits, make sure you are not doing same

Afonjashapmouth:
Whatever Ye dispense so shall you receive so before you tag your partners with all these traits, make sure you are not doing same

Yes, buddy. You're on point! It takes two to tangle.