I am posting here because I believe I'll get better response here.

Since 2019, my girlfriend left for NYSC. Before she left, I even gave her my phone so she could take pictures with it since I know how camp life will be without a phone.

Well, it wasn't like I didn't know the temptations that happens when meeting new people and seeing new faces especially in Abuja, but I wasn't bothered.

Long story short, she didn't look back although she tried to play the female thingy, "emotional Blackmail" that I haven't been calling or saying I am not checking on here like I should. Then she stopped replying my calls or chat expect once In a while.

Since I am not daft, I knew what was going on so I let her be. At a point during late "ember" period, I tried to initiate convo with her but it felt like I was putting myself through unnecessary ridicule. I blocked her on WhatsApp and Facebook.

I thought sex could help me forget about her, so i got several female friends but I have never spent a day without remembering her.
It's July 2021 and I am still unable to break away from the thoughts of her.

I am unable to have another lady without thinking about her [b]. What can I do to stop thinking about her. [/b]The more I remember her the more I am hurt and thorn apart. Is this normal

but it felt like I was putting myself through unnecessary ridicule.

You will continue to ridicule yourself if you don't leave things as it is. Leave her alone. Na NYSC love, it will pass soon. Then she'll come begging, by then let her become your plan Z

Teeboy15:
but it felt like I was putting myself through unnecessary ridicule.

You will continue to ridicule yourself if you don't leave things as it is. Leave her alone. Na NYSC love, it will pass soon. Then she'll come begging, by then let her become your plan Z

did you read my post? I am not interested in the begging. I am looking for a way to forget her.

8BowlofFlour:
did you read my post? I am not interested in the begging. I am looking for a way to forget her.

Na same thing we dey yarn here.

Since you have blocked her and cut all forms of communication, that's your healing process.

Don't rush or force yourself into any relationship for now. Heal first.

Best wishes man

8BowlofFlour:
I am posting here because I believe I'll get better response here.

Since 2019, my girlfriend left for NYSC. Before she left, I even gave her my phone so she could take pictures with it since I know how camp life will be without a phone.

Well, it wasn't like I didn't know the temptations that happens when meeting new people and seeing new faces especially in Abuja, but I wasn't bothered.

Long story short, she didn't look back although she tried to play the female thingy, "emotional Blackmail" that I haven't been calling or saying I am not checking on here like I should. Then she stopped replying my calls or chat expect once In a while.

Since I am not daft, I knew what was going on so I let her be. At a point during late "ember" period, I tried to initiate convo with her but it felt like I was putting myself through unnecessary ridicule. I blocked her on WhatsApp and Facebook.

I thought sex could help me forget about her, so i got several female friends but I have never spent a day without remembering her.
It's July 2021 and I am still unable to break away from the thoughts of her.

I am unable to have another lady without thinking about her. What can I do to stop thinking about her. The more I remember her the more I am hurt and thorn apart. Is this normal

Don't let a mere woman put you on emotional lockdown. If she can receive your phone and still workout on you, she is not deserving of your love. She will likely not make a good wife as she was never wholly committed to you. She is either a gold digger, an "experimenter" or a girl of easy virtue who can't avoid men for too long. Walk away with your honor, be a man and not a boy. Your wounds will slowly heal, time has a way of healing every emotional wounds if we don't continue to bruise that wound by leaking it. I feel God delivered you. Haven't you heard of wives who abandon their husbands during trying times? That is the kind of person your were trifling with. She has neither conscience nor integrity. As for your indulging is sex with other girls to find healing, sorry you are spreading your self thing to tearing point. I suggest you find healing in God, draw near to God, give him your heart and life and stay away from premarital sex , it wrecks.

Maybe you wish she could return the phone back, you feel used.