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Personally, I feel I'm missing certain spark, or something complementary like a feminine energy.
I'm not sure if I'm right or it's depression; though it's been long I lay with a woman, or be in a serious relationship. However, I seem to have lost certain zeal that I used to have, and it's giving me serious concern cos of the goals I set up to achieve this year.
The question is can a girl actually inspire one to achieve things like rekindling ones zest to pursue one's interest?
For me, when I'm in a relationship, especially if there's mutual feeling, I hardly think about cheating as I'm a goal oriented person, but for a while, I'm losing that edge. Could a girl help one re-discover this drive or focus?
I will appreciate honest comments as it's personal for me. Thanks.

Kuriosmynd:
Personally, I feel I'm missing certain spark, or something complementary like a feminine energy.
I'm not sure if I'm right, though it's been long a lay with a woman, or be in a serious relationship. However, I seem to have lost certain zeal that I used to have, and it's giving me serious concerns cos of the goals I set up to achieve this year.
The question is can a girl actually inspire one to achieve things like rekindling ones zest to pursue one's interest?
For me, when I'm in a relationship, especially if there's mutual feeling, I hardly think about cheating as I'm a goal oriented person, but for a while, I'm losing that edge. Could a girl help one re-discover this drive?
I will appreciate honest comments as it's personal for me. Thanks.

The answer is yes!. Although, not all ladies, that is why you should choose wisely.
Many ladies out there will derail you from your goals... But if you find a good ambitious lady, the sky is your limit.

I so much hate this kind of thinking!

Let Bill Gates, CR7 Aliko Dangote, Obi Cubanna and other successful people inspire you, couple with your own ambitious drive to make it. Most men that achieved great stuffs in life, never did it with women. But women of different sizes and colours appeared, after they made it. If you wan dey fvck to relieve stress, during the course of your journey, it's aiight but be careful.

Nas & DMX, "life is what you make it, I ma make it. No matter what it takes my nigha, we gon take it."

In summary, you are the right mou'fucker to inspire yourself, nigga...not a woman.

Kuriosmynd:
Personally, I feel I'm missing certain spark, or something complementary like a feminine energy.
I'm not sure if I'm right, though it's been long I lay with a woman, or be in a serious relationship. However, I seem to have lost certain zeal that I used to have, and it's giving me serious concern cos of the goals I set up to achieve this year.
The question is can a girl actually inspire one to achieve things like rekindling ones zest to pursue one's interest?
For me, when I'm in a relationship, especially if there's mutual feeling, I hardly think about cheating as I'm a goal oriented person, but for a while, I'm losing that edge. Could a girl help one re-discover this drive?
I will appreciate honest comments as it's personal for me. Thanks.

from another perspective,YES,the simple act of trying to impress a lady can lead to unexpected results,I bought my first car to impress girls and also my first house to nack them in peace,so you see chasing women will sometimes make you to buckle up,so you can afford the nice things women like,love without money is like garri without soup.

i926:
I so much hate this kind of thinking!

Let Bill Gate, Aliko Dangote, Obi Cubanna and other successful people inspire you, couple with your own ambitious drive to make it.

Nas & DMX, "life is what you make it, I ma make it. No matter what it takes my nigha, we gon take it."

You are the right mou'fucker to inspire yourself, nigga...not a woman.

Hmmm. Just asking if there's contrary opinion based on personal or anedoctal experience

okoroemeka:
from another perspective,YES,the simple act of trying to impress a lady can lead to unexpected results I bought my first car to impress girls and also my first house to nack them in peace,so you see chasing women will sometimes make you to buckle up,so you can afford the nice things women like,love without money is like garri without soup.

Why do men always do this? I find it difficult to impress girls, even since I was a kid.

okoroemeka:
from another perspective,YES,the simple act of trying to impress a lady can lead to unexpected results,I bought my first car to impress girls and also my first house to nack them in peace,so you see chasing women will sometimes make you to buckle up,so you can afford the nice things women like,love without money is like garri without soup.

Hmmm. This is another angle...it's like not investing enough interest or energy in chasing girls has led me to be too content or less driven .....just thinking

It's more ideal to focus on your goal and achieve it without any woman you're intimate with. My opinion though.

It's about YOU and not her. You are responsible for your own fate... Sometimes Women are more of a burden bro. They aint a motivator to sh!t

i926:
I so much hate this kind of thinking!

Let Bill Gates, CR7 Aliko Dangote, Obi Cubanna and other successful people inspire you, couple with your own ambitious drive to make it. Most men that achieved great stuffs in life, never did it with women. But women of different sizes and colours appeared, after they made it. If you wan dey fvck to relieve stress, during the course of your journey, it's aiight but be careful.

Nas & DMX, "life is what you make it, I ma make it. No matter what it takes my nigha, we gon take it."we

In summary, you are the right mou'fucker to inspire yourself, nigga...not a woman.

Hey..
Everyone is not CR7 or Dangote..
Those Guys had their own motivation..

The OP is really right to think in the way he is thinking..
A Lady/Girl can motivate a Man..
Infact it can be the Strongest 'Pusher' for a Guy..
Remember doz days when School Boys wanted to Take first position because of the Finest Girl in the class?

Also for Ladies too, When they meet some Guys, Their Life changes and they become more goal-oriented..
D Guy motivates Dem to think Big n do great things..
Just dat nah only 15% of Naija Ladies are like dis oo
85% are looking for only Hushpuppi or Obi Cubana Kind of Guys..

i926:
Why do men always do this? I find it difficult to impress girls, even since I was a kid.

Conciously or Subconsciously, we as humans would always to Impress d Opposite sexx..

As a Guy, if you buy a Clean Ride, Posh ride, and live in a Nice Crib..
In your mind, you would want some Pretty Babes to be taking notes of you..
When you drive by, and they are eyeing n Twisting dier bodies for you, You will feel Fulfilled..
Take it or leave it..

MufasaLion:
It's more ideal to focus on your goal and achieve it without any woman you're intimate with. My opinion though.

How do u deal with sexual distractions, cos sometimes if sexual energy is so high, we can get to a point of distractions of we don't relieve the sexual tension

Kuriosmynd:
How do u deal with sexual distractions, cos sometimes if sexual energy is so high, we can get to a point of distractions of we don't relieve the sexual tension

It's all about determination and self-control. It's a natural thing to have sexual distraction but it's something that's can still be controlled.

MufasaLion:
It's all about determination and self-control. It's a natural thing to have sexual distraction but it's something that's can still be controlled.

Certain sexual need is psychological..until the steam is let off..ur mind no go rest o

Kuriosmynd:
Certain sexual need is psychological..until the steam is let off..ur mind no go rest o

LMAO
Masturbation will affect that guy in a very bad way if he's doesn't stop.

Kuriosmynd:
Personally, I feel I'm missing certain spark, or something complementary like a feminine energy.
I'm not sure if I'm right or it's depression; though it's been long I lay with a woman, or be in a serious relationship. However, I seem to have lost certain zeal that I used to have, and it's giving me serious concern cos of the goals I set up to achieve this year.
The question is can a girl actually inspire one to achieve things like rekindling ones zest to pursue one's interest?
For me, when I'm in a relationship, especially if there's mutual feeling, I hardly think about cheating as I'm a goal oriented person, but for a while, I'm losing that edge. Could a girl help one re-discover this drive or focus?
I will appreciate honest comments as it's personal for me. Thanks.

It is possible, but you're better off with intrinsic motivation. What if she leaves you for another man? It's not sustainable to rely on someone else for drive. Look for something that drives you. Search within. Dig deep

i926:
I so much hate this kind of thinking!

Let Bill Gates, CR7 Aliko Dangote, Obi Cubanna and other successful people inspire you, couple with your own ambitious drive to make it. Most men that achieved great stuffs in life, never did it with women. But women of different sizes and colours appeared, after they made it. If you wan dey fvck to relieve stress, during the course of your journey, it's aiight but be careful.

Nas & DMX, "life is what you make it, I ma make it. No matter what it takes my nigha, we gon take it."

In summary, you are the right mou'fucker to inspire yourself, nigga...not a woman.

I agree. Intrinsic motivation is best and everlasting

Will Smith is an example though of a man who was driven by his woman. Jada was his source of motivation

Yes, it can. Dating can help you push further in achieving your goals especially if you both are ambitious. You will keep encouraging each other to aim high; two are better than one after all.

Note: It depends on the lady you are dating because some just want to relax and be taken care of. That's all.

RealMarv:
Yes, it can. Dating can help you push further in achieving your goals especially if you both are ambitious. You will keep encouraging each other to aim high; two are better than one after all.

Note: It depends on the lady you are dating because some just want to relax and be taken care of. That's all.

Only God knows where one can get such babe.. especially if u dnt have job but working towards something

Yes.
There's nothing like companionship with an opposite sex. It is fulfilling, the issue is meeting your type of person

Kuriosmynd:
Could a girl help one re-discover this drive or focus?
I will appreciate honest comments as it's personal for me. Thanks.

Kuriosmynd:
Only God knows where one can get such babe.. especially if u dnt have job but working towards something

They might be few but they exist. Also, they might not come in the package you like.