yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...


No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....

Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .


Go and marry and gettat from here....

lots of responsibility out there begging to be taken care of, must you follow crowd?

mmsen:
I do not understand the African obsession with marriage and child rearing when Africans do not have the very basics in place to sustain either.

Or why marriage is seen as an achievement in countries with no electricity or safe water supply.

Or no security.

Or rule of law.

Strange people.

It's amazing

[quote author=Chuky7 post=104581736]Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

The only thing that ruined your post is the fact that you called yourself a playboy at heart as if being a playboy is a good thing. It's not good. There is a time for everything. Ensure you settle down but do it at your own time and pace. Don't allow anybody to push you. It's just African mentality which is quite ridiculous to be honest. Marriage is not an achievement

Being a play boy isnt a good thing. Trust in God, get yourself focused, organized and when you are ready, you can settle down

Have they started catching latecomers in the marriage parole?

It's all good until you start raising kids when others are planning retirement.


Get married when you are young especially when you have the resources. Raising children is one hell of serious venture. You need all your skills and resources to be topnotch

yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...


No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....

Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .


Go and marry and gettat from here....

Marriage is not a must, let's stop pushing ourselves for nothing..

scrolldown88:


I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over.

Oga if you don't know the cost of pampers, child depriving you from sleeping at night, paying school fees, providing daily bread and browsing a website for 10years without intention of changing IP address man! You are not responsible.

michlins:
It's all good until you start raising kids when others are planning retirement.


Get married when you are young especially when you have the resources. Raising children is one hell of serious venture. You need all your skills and resources to be topnotch

true

RenerdsMedia:

lots of responsibility out there begging to be taken care of, must you follow crowd?

A single Colonel for example who is responsible for a lot of troops is not deemed responsible because he is not married or have a family
That's the logic of the person you quoted

Something is seriously wrong somewhere
Indeed, having a family is ideal and the norm
But if one does not want to, there is nothing wrong with it IMO
However, sleeping with multiple multiple women, as a separate issue get as e be

michlins:
It's all good until you start raising kids when others are planning retirement.


Get married when you are young especially when you have the resources. Raising children is one hell of serious venture. You need all your skills and resources to be topnotch

This scenario can go two ways
This is just one
Nothing wrong with raising kids later on in life
Especially if you have the financial muscle to do so at that age
Humans live longer on average
A couple who are 45 years each can have kids and still live till 90

.

Get someone pregnant and take care of your kids. Issa simple thing.

Marriage nah overdo, having children is ok.

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yanabasee1:




You people always want to make arguments when you shouldn't...


What is responsible about a man who is married and still cheats on his wife?

Being single and taking family responsibilities is different from getting married and taking responsibility of your home... The later shows more of manly behaviors...


On the account that people get married to divorce doesn't add up... If a marriage fails, the both parties are to be blame and that could be anybody's fault... And I don't take divorced people serious...

Why shouldn't you take responsibility on your kids and your wife? I grow up to see my father took care of me and my siblings and my mother who was a civil servant and I am going to also have kids and take care of them and my wife ..


If it's hard for you to take care of yourself... then you're still a kid and should go home and let your parents finish taking care of you... When you grow up, you'll be able to take of yourself...

Marriage is no sign of maturity or being responsible. The two have nothing to do with each other. One is a societal convention, the other is a trait.

Nigeria is full of people who are married yet woefully ill equipped to be in a relationship or raise children.

Wahala for who get all it takes to get married & still claim a playboy.

As soon as I get a lady that has money & can take care of me, I wouldn't think twice about getting married.

Trustedpronet:


Oga if you don't know the cost of pampers, child depriving you from sleeping at night, paying school fees, providing daily bread and browsing a website for 10years without intention of changing IP address man! You are not responsible.

Making a detrimental decision is no sign of responsibility but rather one of cowardice and stupidity. That is what you have described above.

Afamsi:
E no concern you now but dont forget, when you get old e go concern you.

His money can do everything for him till he dies.....investment is the key





Guys wey no get girlfriend get peace of mind

Sometimes it's cos na you sponsor the others

There are many angles to it, next time state your age and of your siblings for me to know how to reason your matter

michlins:
It's all good until you start raising kids when others are planning retirement.


Get married when you are young especially when you have the resources. Raising children is one hell of serious venture. You need all your skills and resources to be topnotch

Does the average Nigerian even make it to 'retirement'? No. They die before 60 while struggling to take care of children as well as their own basic needs.

RodgersAkpafu:

A single Colonel for example who is responsible for a lot of troops is not deemed responsible because he is not married or have a family
That's the logic of the person you quoted

Something is seriously wrong somewhere
Indeed, having a family is ideal and the norm
But if one does not want to, there is nothing wrong with it IMO
However, sleeping with multiple multiple women, as a separate issue get as e be

all these are just social norms, and inasmuch as the society still remains in a lot of confusion, after following these norms, It shows that a lot is fundamentally wrong, therefore, I rather tow a different path than try and adjust to the society, if there are no confrontation, there wount be a change, let everyone chose the life they wish to live, if others see the result, and and its good, they may be compeled to follow suit.

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

The fact is; you want to run away from responsibility

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

This our nigeria mentality that a man must marry, if the man dies tomorrow leaving the wife and kids with nothing, those that pressurized you to marry will not do shit for your family. Marriage you have to be mentally and financially ready.

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

that's the exact situation I find myself.
The funny thing is that I am a graduate, working and more handsome than my junior brothers yet they are married with two kids each.
I don't have luck for women.

Y'all need to learn to think for yourselves.

But you're comfortable with exposing your prickk to many different women that could either kill you or drug you.

Chuky7:


Thanks bro

I tell you that idea of staying with an unknown girl all your life is frightening.

What happens if you don't like her presence anymore or she becomes a pest do I just leave her like that?

Marriage is like the University.
Those yet to marry are looking for how to get in and those in marriages are looking for how to get out.

Sleeping with many different women is irresponsibility wether you're using protection or not.

Chuky7:



I second this.

Please I am not irresponsible yes I said playboy but that's in the sense that I end up with different girls most times. I use precaution and go for check ups regularly
None of these girls have been pregnant. I just don't want an issue that I can not handle like getting married and dipping outside which may actually make me look irresponsible. or worse

Person wey dey madt. As if e go how mouth to type and spew all those shiit if the op is single and SUCCESSFUL. but since he's single and wants to live life to the fullest at his own pace,e don become none entity

scrolldown88:


I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over.

True disciple of ubunja
yen yen yen playboy and young at heart creating thread upon threads of how unperturbed he seems to be...
Alfa male oshiii