| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Nobody: 12:33pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
You marry more early, you die more early esp in that jungle. michlins:
more reason to marry early so as not to leave behind little orphans who can't survive in this jungle 1 Like |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by lexy2014: 12:33pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...
No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....
Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .
Go and marry and gettat from here.... So all d married men that are fooling themselves, carrying small girls and spending their hard earned income meant for their families on prostitutes are responsible and mature just because they are married 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by TruthUntold: 12:34pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Why are you desperately trying to convince yourself that you're not in the wrong? You don't need validation, you just need to be comfortable with your choices, cause in the end, they're yours to bear. Chuky7:
Thanks bro
I tell you that idea of staying with an unknown girl all your life is frightening.
What happens if you don't like her presence anymore or she becomes a pest do I just leave her like that? |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by RodgersAkpafu: 12:34pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
michlins:
more reason to marry early so as not to leave behind little orphans who can't survive in this jungle Which orphan is better off? The one whose parents had him at old age And left a financial war chest for them Or the one who married young, and struggled financially Leaving nothing for his kids when he gets crushed by tanker Answer honestly |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by pembisco(m): 12:34pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
lexy2014:
It still doesn't mean that's d reason he isn't married. D instance of Ataga and chidinma that I gave u, was Ataga not a playboy? Are there no married men that are still playboys? The op said he's still a playboy and will marry at his own time. He didn't say he's financially incapable or any stuffs like that. I don't know why you are trying so hard to change the meaning. 2 Likes |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by lexy2014: 12:35pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
michlins:
more reason to marry early so as not to leave behind little orphans who can't survive in this jungle And every man who married early lived long enough to see their children to adulthood |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by RodgersAkpafu: 12:35pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
TruthUntold:
Why are you desperately trying to convince yourself that you're not in the wrong?
You don't need validation, you just need to be comfortable with your choices, cause in the end, they're yours to bear.
He is not right or wrong Life is not exams Live your life and deal with whatever comes out of it Thats the motto many cannot follow |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Nobody: 12:36pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
There are exceptions to every rule. It is just that Africans don't have the time and wisdom to observe them. michlins:
that's another angle but here in Africa especially Nigeria, the primary point of marriage is to raise kids 2 Likes |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by lexy2014: 12:36pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
pembisco:
The op said he's still a playboy and will marry at his own time. He didn't say he's financially incapable or any stuffs like that. I don't know why you are trying so hard to change the meaning. Change d meaning of what? I asked u this simple questions: D instance of Ataga and chidinma that I gave u, was Ataga not a playboy? Are there no married men that are still playboys? |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by michlins(m): 12:36pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
RodgersAkpafu:
Which orphan is better off?
The one whose parents had him at old age
And left a financial war chest for them
Or the one who married young, and struggled financially
Leaving nothing for his kids when he gets crushed by tanker
Answer honestly the one whose parents married late and left with warchest might not be able to claim those. Knowing how vicious our uncle's can be. T |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by BigDickhead1: 12:38pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Chuky7:
Thanks bro
I tell you that idea of staying with an unknown girl all your life is frightening.
What happens if you don't like her presence anymore or she becomes a pest do I just leave her like that? My brother marriage too go hard.... I dey always think am how pple take dey do am? Carry one unknown gal from unknown family background, come say na u want live live with for the rest of your life chai eh.... Non b here oh |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by adanny01(m): 12:38pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Chuky7:
I second this.
Please I am not irresponsible yes I said playboy but that's in the sense that I end up with different girls most times. I use precaution and go for check ups regularly
None of these girls have been pregnant. I just don't want an issue that I can not handle like getting married and dipping outside which may actually make me look irresponsible. or worse The problem with responsibility is that the decisions you make today affect tomorrow. So being a playboy now and choosing to settle and have kids far later in your life is an irresponsible decision. This is because having kids at 50 doesn't give the best for your children. Believe me or not, time is part of responsibility. So to be responsible, you have to decide early if you will marry or not. Delaying that decision alone is irresponsibility. Responsibility is also bravery, imagine knowing you like women but you chose to have a stable family against your personal desires. That means you have made a sacrifice. That sacrifice is an act of responsibility to the wife and children you have. If you have decided not to have a wife or children, it means you have chosen not to be responsible for anyone other than yourself. Don't forget that you still have a responsibility towards your old parents and relatives. If you choose to have a wife and children, you are required to be responsible for them. It is always looked at as irresponsibility if you have no responsibility towards a person other than yourself. You have simply avoided any kind of responsibility so you can be said to be irresponsible. Any woman who dates you is dating an irresponsible man because you have no intention of assuming any responsibility in her life. In contrast, you are being responsible for using protection so that you will not become a full blown irresponsible man. The only thing here is that you are still only being responsible to yourself. I would say at this point, you cannot be judged as an irresponsible man, but if you let yourself reach 50 before deciding to have kids, you can be said to have lived an irresponsible life. 3 Likes |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Henri8: 12:39pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...
No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....
Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .
Go and marry and gettat from here.... Does getting married qualify one as being a man? 1 Like |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by SEGLIZ: 12:39pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Chuky7:
Thanks bro
I tell you that idea of staying with an unknown girl all your life is frightening.
What happens if you don't like her presence anymore or she becomes a pest do I just leave her like that? you no well. those that said you are immature and irresponsible are right. you find it difficult putting up with an unknown girl but you can at random bed or sleep with unknown girls. what you don't know don't kill but what do know does kill. 3 Likes |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by litaninja(m): 12:40pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
You're talking in the nonsense. yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...
No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....
Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .
Go and marry and gettat from here.... |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by edoairways: 12:40pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
scrolldown88:
I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over. Good point |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by ekevwe(m): 12:40pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...
No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....
Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .
Go and marry and gettat from here.... What about first child that took responsibilities of younger ones? |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by mmsen: 12:43pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
michlins:
more reason to marry early so as not to leave behind little orphans who can't survive in this jungle You people always take the wrong message/course of action.  The logical decision would be to take care of your health, first. Lower stress and desperation levels so that you live longer, invest in your personal well being. Not to start breeding earlier. Breeding earlier only means that they will end up with more children by the time that they die, we all know how much Africans detest contraceptives and family planning. |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by edoairways: 12:44pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
yanabasee1:
You people always want to make arguments when you shouldn't...
What is responsible about a man who is married and still cheats on his wife?
Being single and taking family responsibilities is different from getting married and taking responsibility of your home... The later shows more of manly behaviors...
On the account that people get married to divorce doesn't add up... If a marriage fails, the both parties are to be blame and that could be anybody's fault... And I don't take divorced people serious...
Why shouldn't you take responsibility on your kids and your wife? I grow up to see my father took care of me and my siblings and my mother who was a civil servant and I am going to also have kids and take care of them and my wife ..
If it's hard for you to take care of yourself... then you're still a kid and should go home and let your parents finish taking care of you... When you grow up, you'll be able to take of yourself... You point is not valid. Have you for observed why many marriages are crashing? |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Trustedpronet: 12:45pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
mmsen:
Making a detrimental decision is not a sign of responsibility but rather one of cowardice and stupidity. That is what you have described above. What is detrimental decision about what I wrote oo.. |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by TOPCRUISE(m): 12:46pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...
No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....
Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .
Go and marry and gettat from here.... I avoid people like you who thinks been a man is getting married. To you those that are not married are not men 2 Likes |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by TruthUntold: 12:47pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
You said it better!
Don't know why he's so worried.
RodgersAkpafu:
He is not right or wrong
Life is not exams
Live your life and deal with whatever comes out of it
Thats the motto many cannot follow |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by seyz91(m): 12:48pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
You're right! Peace of mind and freedom is priceless! Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.
For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.
Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.
So have you had similar experience please share |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Krosslife(m): 12:48pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.
For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.
Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.
So have you had similar experience please share It seems we are in need the same shoes. I'm the only boy out of the family of 5. My last sister is getting married next month and I don't even care cuz I don't think about it. Though not a play boy like you. Lolz! |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Idzitari1(m): 12:49pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Take ur time nd do ur thing don't let anyone push u into it before time |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by seyz91(m): 12:50pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
You are smart and very wise I like your assertions Don't mind the other guy spitting trash Marriage is never a measure of maturity or how responsible someone is I feel you bro! scrolldown88:
I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over. |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Imustnottalk: 12:51pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
If even if you can't marry now Sha give one Belle e get why |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by seyz91(m): 12:51pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
This is wrong on all levels  Marriage is not and never a measure of maturity and responsibility! Marriage is merely a choice! Won't say more than that! yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...
No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....
Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .
Go and marry and gettat from here.... |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by KushLyon(m): 12:55pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
RodgersAkpafu:
My goodness
WTF is this?  Na so e shock all of us...I'm still observing that comment in 3D and I can't find any angle |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by DeBuddingSummer: 12:56pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.
For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.
Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.
So have you had similar experience please share Don't listen to anybody oo. Nigerian girls of nowadays are very useless. Peace of mind and Freedom is key here. They are pests and leeches oo. They bring nothing to the table aside that rotten crap in between their legs. FYI, am 35 and have no plans of marriage till 45. That time, I will be very rich and find a 20 year old and marry.Thats my plan oo. Don't be a retirement plan for these hopeless naija girls oo.But please stop sampling girls. Go after money and success. 2 Likes |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by 4good(m): 12:57pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
scrolldown88:
I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over. Please are you married yet? 1 Like |
| Re: Marrying Last As First Child by Nobody: 12:57pm On Aug 09, 2021 |
scrolldown88:
I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
. So a man's wife and children are leeches because he takes responsibility for them? You're sick in the head. |
