bossinblack:



Sorry but shut up!

He should only marry when he's ready and able to. There are countless very irresponsible married men everywhere.

Op, stop your playboy lifestyle too. You're putting yourself at too much risk. But don't marry because of pressure .

Semaj77:



Ironically you seem to be referring to most people , like you , in Africa , who have come to accept the foreign religions like Christianity and Islam while rejecting your own traditional religions , who is being selective here . You accept their religions , their technologies , their science and even their language but refuse to accept some of their societal norms.

yanabasee1:


Only if you know the difference between maturity and responsibility....

kaboninc:


For me, responsibility is relative



This I strongly disagree.

yanabasee1:



I never said he should get married to prove to the society... But to prove to himself....


Never shamed anyone.... I only tried to push him up to waking up to it...

lexy2014:


What is he proving to himself?

What's ur definition of "waking up"? What makes u think he hasn't woken up?

yanabasee1:



You are lame to think that my marriage opinion is dragging the country backward....

You're even more lame to not know that for a country to move, it doesn't centre around what you think or what people think... but what people do...


You even think that you can handle any sensitive office in this country if you're not married?


Any man who thinks progressively is a man who can keep a woman as a wife against all odds of marriage challenges....

Techguy96:

Lol, many Nigerians will agree with you, more reason why the country is backward. Before u act on anything, don't u think about first, as a man think, so he is.

Y'all have too poor mentality. Sorry to say.

adanny01:


When you disagree with something, bare your view so I can be able to say we have opposing opinions and maybe put my opinion in other words for clarity.

yanabasee1:


Mr rich mentality..... Gettat!!

yanabasee1:


Oga.... there are married men and there are responsible married men...


When people like you gets married... because you feel marriage is just marriage, you end up living that type of lifestyle...

Why didn't you cite examples from the people you know that stays faithful to their wives? Don't they look responsible to you?

If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...

But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....

Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .

yanabasee1:



A playboy is woke?



It's ok.....



When. you grow up.... you'll know

yanabasee1:


So getting married is now following the crowd?


Aje!

kaboninc:


Yeah... Our choices, we're free to make them. Yes. But let's remember that our choices have serious consequences especially as to how these children will live either in a good home with both parents or single homes with single parents.

yanabasee1:




So not getting married is now their societal norms that I should accept?


Abeg... swerve!

MrNipplesLover:


You have a good point.

But only a (failed) father that's not ready to take responsibility of his children and the mother would be wary of this.

lexy2014:


U sound pissed.

What's d difference between "married men" and "responsible married men"?

Did we previously have any discussion about when "people like me get married"? Can u show me where we had that discussion? What type of lifestyle are u referring to?

What's wrong with d examples I mentioned? Aren't they factual? Can u negate d examples?

According to u:



Are u saying that because younger people in d gentlemans family are getting married & he doesn't feel like getting married at d moment, he therefore has "childish mentality"? How does not getting married amount to having a "childish mentality"?

Once again I ask: are u therefore saying that all d married men that are fooling themselves, carrying small girls and spending their hard earned income meant for their families on prostitutes are responsible and mature just because they are married?

According to u:



Pls what is d meaning of d word responsibility? How does getting married show "that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility"? So before a people get married, are u saying that they aren't responsible? Are u saying that they don't take responsibility?



Which brings me back to d question I asked earlier. What of those who have already gotten a woman traditionally to be their wives and are still sleeping around with different girls? What are they? Are they men?

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

yanabasee1:



Do you know what is force?


There's nothing here that's mental manipulation....


I aired my opinion and that's all....


If you ha e a weak brain to feel manipulated to my opinion... then you need to be in the hospital and not here....

Chuky7:


Thanks bro

I tell you that idea of staying with an unknown girl all your life is frightening.

What happens if you don't like her presence anymore or she becomes a pest do I just leave her like that?

yanabasee1:



Only because, you're way below my level of thinking and so.. you can't measure up to this standard from you childish perspective...

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

yanabasee1:


I'm literally wasting my time on you...

You didn't read where I said for instance?

Or you don't know what that means? citing example?


You shouldn't be talking about marriage at your age.... Go and grow up first....

litaninja:
Lol. I really like how you've been running around NL screaming everyone is a kid.
Don't worry, your school break will soon be over. At least internet is available for more people now.

kaboninc:


Responsibility is relative. It means something different to another.

There are many people not married for many reasons who are 50 and above and are responsible in their own way.

Because I could not marry past 50 doesn't make me irresponsible. After all, I could be married and be divorced before I clock 50 and that should not make me irresponsible.

If by responsibility you mean taking care of kids and dependants, then I could have children out of wedlock and still be responsible for them.

scrolldown88:


I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over.

okine4real:
let me just add something, OP, there are stages in life, there is a stage at which a man should get married,i peg it at 30 years. as a man, maximum of 38 years or worst case, at 40 years you should be done with child birth. Practical lesson, whats the age of your father when you turned 20 years? if you are 40 years and you give birth to a child, it means at 60 years your child would be 20 years. Now ask yourself and look around your environment, how many men are doing financially ohk @60 years? If you are 60 years and you are not doing financially well, how do you want to take care of your 20 year old Son or Daughter? If you can;t take care of them, mostly the females goes into prostitution, the male would join bad gangs.

You have to make Hay while the Sun shine. if you neglect the right time for you to get married, it would hunt you when you grow old. When you grow old you now want your Daughter to marry a rich man, yet you did not train your own Daughter very well. Marriage is not easy, if anybody tells you marriage is easy, the person is fooling you, but you still have to do it. If by 30 you never marry, you have started missing it, this is the plain truth. Marry a younger woman, you see when getting married, always put your old age into consideration, if you marry your age, whom would take care of you when you grow old, or when you cant see or walk again? at the extreme of my street, there is a papa there, about 100 years, he cant hear again, but his wife is doing the walking about, going to buy this and that.... i have lots to tell you... But you see this life and you are enjoying, flexing, drinking beer, clubbing, am not saying its bad ohh, but if you are doing all this and yet you never put woman for house and your children are not growing while drinking beer, it would hurt you when you turn 50 years. My wife is 32 years, we have 4 kids, 10 years, 6 years, 2 years and 5 months.. If my wife and my first son is walking, you would think my first son is my wife's elder sister Son. He is almost as tall as the mother. i even delay in giving birth to all my kids because am suppose to push all my children at once, but at least i try... Feel free to quote me if you like.


Regards

LordErrk:
If you're not ready to marry, please don't. It's better to be an "irresponsible" single man than to be an irresponsible father