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seunmarytemi:
Thanks ma, thanks for your understanding.

You are most welcomed dear.

Iyaebe:
.The man came to his base and confronted his wife and to his surprise she admitted to all the accusations and [b]told her husband they were childhood lovers and that when she knew she can't marry him(her husband's best friend) she had to agree to his love advances which eventually led to their marriage. [/b]The man said he never suspected anything between his wife and his best friend because he took their closeness as a case of two people who grew up in the same compound and also his best friend never hinted him of their affairs. Elders tried to settle them because this is a marriage that has produced grand children but the man went ahead with the divorce because he felt betrayed by his wife and best friend. So married men in the house,will you crash such a marriage because of this? Is the Man's decision to divorce his wife of so many years condemnable or he did the right thing?

So was it that the woman was seeing both men at the same time or something like that?

Why would a sane being end a 30-yr marriage over a story such as the one you posted?

Kobojunkie:
So was it that the woman was seeing both men at the same time or something like that?

Why would a sane being end a 30-yr marriage over a story such as the one you posted?

What if you found out 30 years later that your friend rejected your wife and she settled for you. To make it worse she and your friend kept this affair from you and you've left them alone together and thought that the reason they were so close was because they were neighbors when in fact they were ex lovers! Wouldn't you run a DNA test on all your children

Kanbe:
What if you found out 30 years later that your friend rejected your wife and she settled for you. To make it worse she and your friend kept this affair from you and you've left them alone together and thought that the reason they were so close was because they were neighbors when in fact they were ex lovers! Wouldn't you run a DNA test on all your children

Is this all part of this story or is this supposition?

As for children, regardless of who fathered or mothered them, children are 'innocent' souls that ought to be protected, not used as reason for life's dramas.

Kobojunkie:
Is this all part of this story or is this supposition?

As for children, regardless of who fathered or mothered them, children are 'innocent' souls that ought to be protected, not used as reason for life's dramas.

It was right there in the post you were quoting.

Kobojunkie:
So was it that the woman was seeing both men at the same time or something like that?

Why would a sane being end a 30-yr marriage over a story such as the one you posted?

She ended her affairs with her husband's best friend when her husband approached her for a relationship. The thing there is she and her husband's best friend grew up in the same compound (in a palace), her husband's best friend is a prince and she is a niece to one of the King's wives in the palace and they both grew up there,it was a secret affair.So when her husband approached her for a relationship she had to end things with the prince(her husband's best friend) and accept his proposal but she and her husband best friend decided to keep the secret but unfortunately it got leaked after 30years of marriage.

Iyaebe:
She ended her affairs with her husband's best friend when her husband approached her for a relationship. The thing there is she and her husband's best friend grew up in the same compound (in a palace), her husband's best friend is a prince and she is a niece to one of the King's wives in the palace and they both grew up there,it was a secret affair. So when her husband approached her for a relationship she had to end things with the prince(her husband's best friend) and accept his proposal but she and her husband best friend decided to keep the secret but unfortunately it got leaked after 30years of marriage.

Case should be pretty much closed with the statements in bold.
He ending his marriage because of this silliness reveals a lot about how immature he remains about life and relationships even after 30 years of it.

Kanbe:
It was right there in the post you were quoting.

Let's try to read our personal delusions in to these stories now, OK?

Kobojunkie:
Let's try to read our personal delusions in to these stories now, OK?

Ok.

Kobojunkie:
Case should be pretty much closed with the statements in bold.
He ending his marriage because of this silliness reveals a lot about how immature he remains about life and relationships even after 30 years of it.

It was a sad case,they were known by all and the family bond they share was strong. I felt the man lost his ego or something, he felt really betrayed and to worsen the case he has the support of his first son when he decided to divorce their mother.The king and some notable men waded in but he never listened to them,their issue was everywhere and he totally cut ties with his best friend,their friendship ended on a very sad note.Some traditional singers were even using their issue to compose songs lol

Iyaebe:
It was a sad case,they were known by all and the family bond they share was strong. I felt the man lost his ego or something, he felt really betrayed and to worsen the case he has the support of his first son when he decided to divorce their mother.The king and some notable men waded in but he never listened to them,their issue was everywhere and he totally cut ties with his best friend,their friendship ended on a very sad note. Some traditional singers were even using their issue to compose songs lol

Lost his ego? More like he let his ego do the thinking for him and it revealed he was all nothing but ego for all that time. Do you know what it means to end a 30-year marriage because of such a yeye secret?

If they ever considered getting back together.. It would not not the same for them as it used to be for sure.

I hope the songs are at least to warn folks against letting their egos lead the way on any of their decision making, especially where love and marriage is concerned.

Kobojunkie:
Lost his ego? More like he let his ego do the thinking for him and it revealed he was all nothing but ego for all that time. Do you know what it means to end a 30-year marriage because of such a yeye secret?

If they ever considered getting back together.. It would not not the same for them as it used to be for sure.

In their case I don't foresee them getting back together, he already took a new wife.

Iyaebe:
In their case I don't foresee them getting back together, he already took a new wife.

How soon after leaving his former wife?

Kobojunkie:
How soon after leaving his former wife?

Not up to two months,he moved on fast.The woman has been leaving a sad life but will always tell anyone that cared to listen that she won't blame or harbour hatred for her husband's decision to divorce her that she felt his hurt and she takes everything in good faith.The woman in question is my paternal aunt.

Iyaebe:
Not up to two months,he moved on fast.The woman has been leaving a sad life but will always tell anyone that cared to listen that she won't blame or harbour hatred for her husband's decision to divorce her that she felt his hurt and she takes everything in good faith.The woman in question is my paternal aunt.

It was definitely the man's ego that pulled that fast one and nothing else. He desired a way out and he got one by pretending the yeye secret was it.

Kobojunkie:
It was definitely the man's ego that pulled that fast one and nothing else. He desired a way out and he got one by pretending the yeye secret was it.

You are right it was all about his ego for him and I feel he wouldn't have taken such decision if the case was private, maybe he has to act manly been a public figure and a titled man

Kobojunkie:
It was definitely the man's ego that pulled that fast one and nothing else. He desired a way out and he got one by pretending the yeye secret was it.

Men are one hell of a jealous creature sha,this same man has concubines ooo but see the way he acted over an affair that happened long time ago

Iyaebe:
Men are one hell of a jealous creature sha,this same man has concubines ooo but see the way he acted over an affair that happened long time ago

Abeg, hope your aunt is doing better for herself? She didn't break any law so she should look into moving on somehow.

Kobojunkie:
Abeg, hope your aunt is doing better for herself? She didn't break any law so she should look into moving on somehow.

She's trying but sometimes get emotional, the heartbreaking part is she still love her ex husband so much she shower praises on him at any given opportunity. You'll notice a change in mood with her if you dare talk down on her ex husband.

Iyaebe:
She's trying but sometimes get emotional, the heartbreaking part is she still love her ex husband so much she shower praises on him at any given opportunity. You'll notice a change in mood with her if you dare talk down on her ex husband.

Sad story indeed.

This made me think about the ones I call "best friends"

Omo

ogyunging:
This made me think about the ones I call "best friends"

Omo

What will you do

Iyaebe:
What will you do

As she don turn wife. Me and the guy go siddon for under fan reason the matter deep. Nobody's fault but the stars.

ogyunging:
As she don turn wife. Me and the guy go siddon for under fan reason the matter deep. Nobody's fault but the stars.

So will you ever consider divorce in this situation

Iyaebe:
So will you ever consider divorce in this situation

Naah.