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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by sirjamesjnr(m): 7:48am On Sep 06, 2021
Karleb:
The truth is, there is no culture that practice or encourage such madness.

Women should learn how to be decent abeg. Stop making arguments for this insanity.
It is insanity, I agree with you but a chat with an elderly person will do you good.
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Nobody: 7:52am On Sep 06, 2021
Does this yeye tradition go both ways (that is, if a man fathers a child outside the marriage, the wife must accept the child)?

sirjamesjnr:
One call to an elderly person in the family will shock you. I was surprised myself.
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:14am On Sep 06, 2021
InTheCloudySky:
Does this yeye tradition go both ways (that is, if a man fathers a child outside the marriage, the wife must accept the child)?

She has no option other than to accept the child or she leaves the marriage.
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Nobody: 10:56am On Sep 06, 2021
sirjamesjnr:
I am making a case here for the innocent child.
But the innocent child has a father.... The tradition i know of is for single moms,, like when you marry a single mother and the child's father refuse to take responsibility for his child, the new husband can adopt the child... Not for paternity fraud, because in some tradition, the ground for divorce is adultery and a woman stealing from her husband..
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Nobody: 11:01am On Sep 06, 2021
sirjamesjnr:
She has no option other than to accept the child or she leaves the marriage.
Like I said, yeye tradition. I would gladly choose the latter if I were in such situation. It's barbaric for any tradition to be dictating people's marriages in 2021. They're merely giving people the leeway to sleep around and have kids outside marriages. Rubbish.
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by efficiencie(m): 1:35pm On Sep 06, 2021
sirjamesjnr:
I am making a case here for the innocent child.

...it is still best to reveal the true father of the child and ask that he takes responsibility...it would be difficult for a man to be cheated on and be forced to raise another man's child. That child will basically be treated badly.
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:44pm On Sep 06, 2021
sirjamesjnr:
According to some traditions, you cannot disown a child born within marriage on the basis of a DNA test. The moment you pay brideprice every child from that woman is yours. So I have to ask this question: Is it right for a man to disown a child born within marriage due to paternity fraud? What is the fate of these children involved?

you are mixing things traditions had no DNA and DNA is a new thing

hence the new thing is a logheads with tradition therefore tradition is being challenged by new technology
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Nobody: 3:09pm On Sep 18, 2021
@sirjamesjnr, the court ruling presides over whichever culture you may put on the table. Once DNA shows the child belongs to another man, he is free to have him/her. It's better to adopt a child than holding onto a child that may go to his father (let's say Dangote) in the future. No man prays to find himself in such a situation; it could be traumatic.

Aya ole lo n gba, won ki n gba omo ole. You can only snatch a lazy man's wife, you can't take his child(ren) from him.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Kobojunkie: 3:16pm On Sep 18, 2021
sirjamesjnr:
According to some traditions, you cannot disown a child born within marriage on the basis of a DNA test. The moment you pay the bride price every child from that woman is yours. So I have to ask this question: Is it right for a man to disown a child born within marriage due to paternity fraud? What is the fate of these children involved?

Sorry Folks, I am well informed that it is the prerogative of the man in question to accept or let go of the bastard child. We learned every day and may we not fall victim to all this mess up life.
What traditions please? It is quite interesting to note that has been a traditional solution to this issue even before social media helped blow up the awareness of it. undecided
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by lagospropertiez: 4:52pm On Sep 18, 2021
In Igbo tradition, and even according to Nigerian law (you can look it up or ask a lawyer if you don't believe it) any child born within a marriage union belongs to both parties in that union.

This protects the marriage from an outsider coming to claim any such children on the grounds that they were fathered by him (imagine a sperm donor for example)

So in the case of paternity fraud, both in the Nigerian law and according to Igbo culture, a man can reject any bastard children, especially if the marriage is dissolved. But he has legal and traditional claim to the children as their father, if he so chooses.

So for example, let's say that a man finds out that his 3 grown children born by his wife and loved and raised by him are not biologically his, legally, they remain his, even if their biological father shows up to claim them, unless he himself rejects them.

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Kobojunkie: 5:02pm On Sep 18, 2021
lagospropertiez:
In Igbo tradition, and even according to Nigerian law (you can look it up or ask a lawyer if you don't believe it) any child born within a marriage union belongs to both parties in that union.

This protects the marriage from an outsider coming to claim any such children on the grounds that they were fathered by him (imagine a sperm donor for example)

So in the case of paternity fraud, both in the Nigerian law and according to Igbo culture, a man can reject any bastard children, especially if the marriage is dissolved. But he has legal and traditional claim to the children as their father, if he so chooses.

So for example, let's say that a man finds out that his 3 grown children born by his wife and loved and raised by him are not biologically his, legally, they remain his, even if their biological father shows up to claim them, unless he himself rejects them.
He has legal claim where the child in question is is proven not his? undecided
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by lagospropertiez: 5:05pm On Sep 18, 2021
Kobojunkie:
He has legal claim where the child in question is is proven not his? undecided

Yes, if the child was born by his wife, while he is married to her. He can denounce the child if he so chooses though. Let me see if I can find the legal reference.
Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by lagospropertiez: 5:18pm On Sep 18, 2021
Kobojunkie:
He has legal claim where the child in question is is proven not his? undecided

https://lawcarenigeria.com/nigeria-determining-the-paternity-of-a-child/

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Re: Is It Right For A Man To Disown A Childborn Within Marriage Due To Paternity Fra by Kobojunkie: 5:36pm On Sep 18, 2021
lagospropertiez:

https://lawcarenigeria.com/nigeria-determining-the-paternity-of-a-child/
It's good to know that culturally and legally, there are provisions made to help keep the child within the marriage. undecided

Sadly, there aren't ways to regulate egos. undecided

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