Dear Nairalanders, this thread is for married persons ONLY pls.. No insults.

A friend of mine told me his wife doesn't rate him at all... I asked him the reason he's thinking in that line of thought, he told me when he checked the wife's phone that on the emergency contact he couldn't find his phone numbers there but her father, mum and elder brother.

I told my friend that incase of emergency he should be the next line of contact but the wife doesn't see it that way

What could make a wife not to put her husband contact in an emergency list? Would appreciate your contribution, thanks.

Honest opinion only pls

Speak to your wife about it, she mayn’t understand what the emergency feature there stands for.

chatinent:
Speak to your wife about it, she mayn’t understand what the emergency feature there stands for.

Not my wife but my friend's.... Even if she doesnt know, a particular line of thought made her put her parents nah.

Dont you think her husband should come to mind before her parents ?

Baba40:


Not my wife but my friend's.... Even if she doesnt know, a particular line of thought made her put her parents nah.

Dont you think her husband should come to mind before her parents ?

Yeah, I think you should come to mind before her parents.

As far he’s doing okay, kids are fine definitely that’s less of his problem. Women do some usual things, when her head calm down definitely she will put his number on the emergency list.

Majority of women are wired to be careless and irresponsible to her husband and home

Also check her mums character... Women mostly tend to take after their mum character wise

It could be that the man is not doing all he is supposed to do as a husband

He alone knows the true state of his relationship with his wife.

This is an issue? To the extent of concluding what she thinks of him? Let's say for example? There is an emergency that involves him or he is incapacitated, who is she suppose to call? Or he is unreachable when away from them, who should she call? Most times, emergency call number decision is usually for someone living far and nearest vicinity in case there is an issue at the home front, again, what if she knows her husbands number off hand? He should discuss this with her.

And for the idiots already assuming and concluding rubbish of the wife and most women baselessly, pray to God to give you a complete human brain and stop using that of an asinwin.

Firstly, you're the person. Stop lying.

Secondly, go and have a discussion with your wife on this matter. That's the best advice you can get. Or do you expect us to bash your wife? I'm sure that's what you were expecting.

Baba40:
I told my friend that incase of emergency he should be the next line of contact but the wife doesn't see it that way

What could make a wife not to put her husband contact in an emergency list? Would appreciate your contribution, thanks.

You lied to your friend, why?

There is no rule that states married couples must list each other as emergency contacts. Each person has his or her own reasons for these things.

greenie77:
He alone knows the true state of his relationship with his wife.

Precisely!

Divorce her. Marriage is for only fools

Unknown31:
Divorce her. Marriage is for only fools

I believe your parents are not fools because I want to assume they got married, unless you were born at home.

Kobojunkie:
You lied to your friend, why?

There is no rule that states married couples must list each other as emergency contacts. Each person has his or her own reasons for these things.

The reason for the question... what do you think might be the reason(s)

Baba40:
The reason for the question... what do you think might be the reason(s)

Like I said... we each have our own reasons for the things we do.

Baba40:
Dear Nairalanders, this thread is for married persons ONLY pls.. No insults.

A friend of mine told me his wife doesn't rate him at all... I asked him the reason he's thinking in that line of thought, he told me when he checked the wife's phone that on the emergency contact he couldn't find his phone numbers there but her father, mum and elder brother.

I told my friend that incase of emergency he should be the next line of contact but the wife doesn't see it that way

What could make a wife not to put her husband contact in an emergency list? Would appreciate your contribution, thanks.

Tell him to put his father, mother, and brother/sister as emergency contacts on his phone as well.

Case closed.

Some things don't need to be deliberated.
I would have suggested he talks to her, but what do you think will happen afterwards?

She actually rated him....very low.

She probably saved those numbers on her emergency
list long before she got married. Simply asking her would have answered his question o instead of him asking you and you asking us

Baba40:
Honest opinion only pls

Maybe because the emergency she could be worrying over is you,
Like for instance anyday you decide to beat craze commot her body or the day she sees you with another woman.You expect her to call you?
She can't have you on emergency dial while you are the emergency na

Baba40:
Dear Nairalanders, this thread is for married persons ONLY pls.. No insults.

A friend of mine told me his wife doesn't rate him at all... I asked him the reason he's thinking in that line of thought, he told me when he checked the wife's phone that on the emergency contact he couldn't find his phone numbers there but her father, mum and elder brother.

I told my friend that incase of emergency he should be the next line of contact but the wife doesn't see it that way

What could make a wife not to put her husband contact in an emergency list? Would appreciate your contribution, thanks.

Come back when you stop lying on your friend. This is your wife and not your friend's

JovialJune:
This is an issue? To the extent of concluding what she thinks of him? Let's say for example? There is an emergency that involves him or he is incapacitated, who is she suppose to call? Or he is unreachable when away from them, who should she call? Most times, emergency call number decision is usually for someone living far and nearest vicinity in case there is an issue at the home front, again, what if she knows her husbands number off hand? He should discuss this with her.

And for the idiots already assuming and concluding rubbish of the wife and most women baselessly, pray to God to give you a complete human brain and stop using that of an asinwin.

He should at least be one of the emergency contacts. I don't think I will like it that my in-laws
are the one calling me that my wife is in a bad situation.

Baba40:
Dear Nairalanders, this thread is for married persons ONLY pls.. No insults.

A friend of mine told me his wife doesn't rate him at all... I asked him the reason he's thinking in that line of thought, he told me when he checked the wife's phone that on the emergency contact he couldn't find his phone numbers there but her father, mum and elder brother.

I told my friend that incase of emergency he should be the next line of contact but the wife doesn't see it that way

What could make a wife not to put her husband contact in an emergency list? Would appreciate your contribution, thanks.

Every one has a preference.
Besides, not every married couples love themselves so much to make their spouse a next of kin or a preference incase of emergency

Some things are not adding up

Simply ask her why she didn't use you as her emergency contact. Most couples use each other.

It is not that she doesn’t rate him, but due to his reputation, she has prioritized her peace of mind over his emergency support.

If you are driving behind a woman and hit her car, her first instinct would be most likely to call her husband or partner. If you give her the mechanic’s number, if you are in Saturn, she would most likely call you first. IF AND IF ONLY, YOU ARE A DEPENDABLE MAN! A MAN THAT PROFER SOLUTIONS, NOT EXCUSES. It is the joy of even the most independent woman to have a man like this and it is extremely painful to have the opposite. So it is not happiness she used in putting her family as her emergency contact.

Some of you give more excuses than actions. Yet you complain you are not the first on her emergency contact? You complain you are not being rated. On what basis should you be rated? Why should you be first there when she knows you won’t come through or you will come through after 2 months of arguments, fights and begging? You want to add to her pain in an emergency situation?

chatinent:


Yeah, I think you should come to mind before her parents.

lolzz...u eeh, the guy told u his nt the one involved nah

merieam16:
lolzz...u eeh, the guy told u his nt the one involved nah

If I want to use another pronoun, my spirit dey control me to type him.

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He should at least be one of the emergency contacts. I don't think I will like it that my in-laws
are the one calling me that my wife is in a bad situatio

Umm, yes, this is an issue.

It may not be the end of the world but I would definitely have a dialogue with my wife about this if I were in his shoes.

She may have had these emergency contacts since before she was married and never changed.
Her husband may work offshore or is generally far from their city.
Her husband may be unreliable at times and hard to reach.
They may not be the best communicators.
She may not trust him.

Anything could be the reason. The onus is on them to discuss and move forward, together.

JovialJune:
This is an issue? To the extent of concluding what she thinks of him? Let's say for example? There is an emergency that involves him or he is incapacitated, who is she suppose to call? Or he is unreachable when away from them, who should she call? Most times, emergency call number decision is usually for someone living far and nearest vicinity in case there is an issue at the home front, again, what if she knows her husbands number off hand? He should discuss this with her.

And for the idiots already assuming and concluding rubbish of the wife and most women baselessly, pray to God to give you a complete human brain and stop using that of an asinwin.

Ah ah aunty, aren't you assuming all these?

He hasn't said why he thinks this is the case na.

Aunty Poco with the fire.

pocohantas:
It is not that she doesn’t rate him, but due to his reputation, she has prioritized her peace of mind over his emergency support.

If you are driving behind a woman and hit her car, her first instinct would be most likely to call her husband or partner. If you give her the mechanic’s number, if you are in Saturn, she would most likely call you first. IF AND IF ONLY, YOU ARE A DEPENDABLE MAN! A MAN THAT PROFER SOLUTIONS, NOT EXCUSES. It is the joy of even the most independent woman to have a man like this and it is extremely painful to have the opposite. So it is not happiness she used in putting her family as her emergency contact.

Some of you give more excuses than actions. Yet you complain you are not the first on her emergency contact? You complain you are not being rated. On what basis should you be rated? Why should you be first there when she knows you won’t come through or you will come through after 2 months of arguments, fights and begging? You want to add to her pain in an emergency situation?

Well,this thread is strictly for married couples...so lemme sit here and read comments.