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Josephali:
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It's you that think like a dog, you must be a foolish man to insult an adult, infact your father Think like a dog not me, shege dan Isla barawo banza

now I know you are truly a dog, a big dog, in fact, a BINGO.

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Stay away from sex with her as from three months and above, let her womb heal well, and again some women can get pregnant almost immediately after birth, body differs, so easy on her. Try to be supportive towards her and the baby in all ways, and then remove sex from your mind, Don't commit adultery, because it's this time men will leave the house and be following prostitutes, so avoid it. Before you know it, it's her that will be asking you for sex.



BeGod bless you, Na man you be
wise!

thorpido:
If she had a vaginal delivery then you should wait at least 6weeks but if she had a C/S,then you wait longer.
Satisfy yourself during that time by changing diapers whenever the diaper is soiled.Wake in the night to rock the baby to sleep.Do most of the cleaning around the house and some cooking.Before you know it,your wife will be ready.

Alaye my last son was given birth to via CS and just a month after or so,I started the knacking o..

Wetin concern me

Like where i come from all those issues has already be included during anti natal and after birth care, so by normal delivery madam done ready or max two weeks with no issue aftermath at all,me i dont know who made that law of 3/4 months after birth ooo

That 4 months LEAST or more because women and healing process are different....

But come o, you supposed to empathize and help out with baby to take your mind off real sex but u can be doing romance without penetration... Only women truly understand the pain in that region especially if she underwent some suturing due to tearing....

Men please ooo be patient with women at this moment, don't kill person's daughter....

I still remember what I was told by a family friend who in her late sixties can't do sex anymore but her early 70s husband feels PAINED, all because she suffered some internal problems & pain during the delivery of her 4 kids and still has post birth PROBLEMS/PAIN but the husband doesn't care about that.... He is more concerned about his pleasure... Women go through a lot... God help women.

It's her body, trust me she will let you know when she's ready.

As for the coping part, ogbeni do your self a favour , start learning to cope cause the more the kiddies come, the less sex you're gonna have.
From experience ohh.

my own problem na, pass me i hate cheating on my wife but the issue at hand now i cant bear it any longer i need to satify myself sexually am a fine dude with cash, clean ride and educated but i have not Bleep my wife now for 4 months just because she is pregnant, immediately she took in sex stop till this moment, 4 month's now i have not even touch how much small say sex is just everyday sickness i do all the domestic work, am so tired and helpless right now.

Josephali:
For the matured men here, how long should a man abstain from sexual activity if wifey delivered a child,
Another thing is how do men cope that period? I mean sexually. From the information my wife is giving me is that we need to avoid anything sexually for 4month, just to avoid unforeseen pregnant, is this true, how una dey take cope Na? Sexually?

6 months is okay. You need to let her stop bleeding and again, if pregnancy occurs your wife can't breastfeed the baby again

Viltron:
now I know you are truly a dog, a big dog, in fact, a BINGO.

Since you inherited stupidity from both parents, and the two blockheaded couldn't come together to educate you properly, let me help them do what they weren't able and capable of doing, I know from your conversation you cheated on your wife during her postpartum stage you never respected her because of your shallow thinking level,
I am a real man who will never see a unclothedness of another woman talkless of touching another woman, me bringing my complain here was for a matured advice, from matured thinking people,, not from a Dundee head like you who don't think before giving answers.

Akwamkpuruamu:
Cs no be vj. Cs have even shorter time frame than vj. Especially when a good gynaecologist attended to u

Walahiiiiii

E no easy

Godada:



Two matured people have answered your question.

There is another option.

You can have someone on the side who help you relax.

This is at your own discretion.

The wife needs to heal and the man has needs.

Forget those telling you that all you think Is sex.....sad part is what most men think about all the time.

Give your wife a break and break into another shagging

You're not smart.

My wife had CS, we started having sex after 7 weeks...
Just make sure your wife eat good food and good fruits... Also, she must not stress herself for the like 4 weeks... By 6 weeks the wound must have been healed... Then you good to go, but do am gently o

okomile:
If u can't hold yourself, masturbate

If u can't, ashewo plenty for street, use condom.

I beg, no disturb our peace here

Crazy u.... Lol.... ... Some men their libido no be here ooooo...!!

Sniper101:
hmmmm
even though m not married yet, this shit right here has always been something I sometimes think about how to handle; when I eventually get married.

Cos 2 months of no_sex is a No No for me

Before you marry,I already know you'll cheat.

Arabiandude:
What's there that he listed that Nigeria men or most Nigeria men doesn't do?
Even before my woman got pregnant I was doing those things at home, I even preferred cooking for her and today I taught her most of the food she knows how to cook. When she was pregnant, I did more and baby is 8 months already right now.

So you ladies should stop this fallacy of Nigerian men not indulging in some house chores. Nigerian men are far better than Nigerian women. That's why the outside world prefers marrying Nigerians men compared to marrying Nigerian women

NOT TRUE that foreigners prefer Nigerian men to Nigerian women.... It is just that Nigerian women don't like to explore.... Infact , there are lesser divorces between more liberal foreigner men with Naija women than Nigerian men( traditional mindset most times) with foreign women unless the Naija man ADJUSTS fast...

Do u know the level that Asians craze for our black women especially the Indians& Paks?....Oga abeg no go there... When our women realise that they are NEEDED and LOVED more by foreigners than our less romantic Naija men( especially with all the nonsense labels and names Naija men give to Naija women) Naija ladies don't look back( lol)...
Nigerian women are as hardworking, educated, polished like their male counterparts when compared to other African countries MINUS the criminal mind of many Naija men.

sharone21:
NOT TRUE that foreigners prefer Nigerian men to Nigerian women.... It is just that Nigerian women don't like to explore.... Infact , there are lesser divorces between more liberal foreigner men with Naija women than Nigerian men( traditional mindset most times) with foreign women unless the Naija man ADJUSTS fast...

Do u know the level that Asians craze for our black women especially the Indians& Paks?....Oga abeg no go there... When our women realise that they are NEEDED and LOVED more by foreigners than our less romantic Naija men( especially with all the nonsense labels and names Naija men give to Naija women) Naija ladies don't look back( lol)...
Nigerian women are as hardworking, educated, polished like their male counterparts when compared to other African countries MINUS the criminal mind of many Naija men.

Madam, I am not based in Nigeria and what I told you is base on experience and not common hearsays.

Outside Nigeria, majority of Nigerian women are seen as ingrates and opportunists. But you see Nigerian men? Outside Nigeria we are so Reverend and both black and white women always wishes and dream to have us

efficiencie:
...even the Bible said, if you burn, get a spouse...weaning a man off sexual dependency is not in any way part of a growing man. It is rather part of an ageing man and for some men, like Father Abraham, at 100 they are still bouncing hard on stuff. Sexual independence will only provide the man with a tool to leverage on anytime he wants to punish his wife. Rather the solution is for the man and his wife to work out other ways of helping the man ease off the sexual tension. Handjobs, thighing, necking, handling etc can help. However I suspect the woman. If all she wants to escape is pregnancy why did she ban sex altogether for 4 months? Did she forget about using condoms? Or is she denying the man sex due to the shame of having another man's baby for her husband? OP if your wife denies you sex for too long go and do DNA test for your pikin before e too late ohh!

Every suggestion you listed is banned by the bible. You don't need to make your personal opinion biblical for me to respect it.

Arabiandude:
Madam, I am not based in Nigeria and what I told you is base on experience and not common hearsays.

Outside Nigeria, majority of Nigerian women are seen as ingrates and opportunists. But you see Nigerian men? Outside Nigeria we are so Reverend and both black and white women always wishes and dream to have us

Na only a Naija woman that doesn't believe in herself or want to explore other races they end up without mqn or waiting for one Naija man with many having bad, foul mouth calling them old newspapers.

Races dey wen want Naija women... Many Indian & Pak CHRISTIANS dey die for our ladies....unless something dey wrong spiritually with the woman... And I'm speaking from experience.

Thank you sir, I have learnt, just that body no gree me, henceforth I will be patient thank you sir.

frankson1:
I don't know if my opinion is valid enough since I'm not married.

I think it depends on how the delivery went. If she had a tough time before the baby came out or if it was through CS. Nevertheless; I think you should give her the four months she's asking for until she feels better and strong enough. Remember that she'd be breastfeeding and staying awake, that's, if your baby is the kind that stays awake all nights and sleep during the day.

As for abstainance, young daddy, four months without sex won't kill you you should care for the baby along side her. Staying awake almost all through every nights should have kept your mind preoccupied.

Give her enough time to heal jare

[[s]quote author=Josephali post=107122548]
Since you inherited stupidity from both parents, and the two blockheaded couldn't come together to educate you properly, let me help them do what they weren't able and capable of doing, I know from your conversation you cheated on your wife during her postpartum stage you never respected her because of your shallow thinking level,
I am a real man who will never see a unclothedness of another woman talkless of touching another woman, me bringing my complain here was for a matured advice, from matured thinking people,, not from a Dundee head like you who don't think before giving answers.[/quote][/s]
Abeg, just getat!

thorpido:
If she had a vaginal delivery then you should wait at least 6weeks but if she had a C/S,then you wait longer.
Satisfy yourself during that time by changing diapers whenever the diaper is soiled.Wake in the night to rock the baby to sleep.Do most of the cleaning around the house and some cooking.Before you know it,your wife will be ready.

Fear God nah

14 to 21 maximum depending on how long it takes the bleeding to stop and postnatal cares given after delivery.
In fact, medical experts advise that you do right in time to make the opening heal more quickly. Except the wife has complications during delivery, then it takes a longer time.

No complications, just tear beneath the genitals.

otokzmail:
14 to 21 maximum depending on how long it takes the bleeding to stop and postnatal cares given after delivery.
In fact, medical experts advise that you do right in time to make the opening heal more quickly. Except the wife has complications during delivery, then it takes a longer time.

Yeye fowl.

Viltron:
[[s]quote author=Josephali post=107122548]
Since you inherited stupidity from both parents, and the two blockheaded couldn't come together to educate you properly, let me help them do what they weren't able and capable of doing, I know from your conversation you cheated on your wife during her postpartum stage you never respected her because of your shallow thinking level,
I am a real man who will never see a unclothedness of another woman talkless of touching another woman, me bringing my complain here was for a matured advice, from matured thinking people,, not from a Dundee head like you who don't think before giving answers. [/s]
Abeg, just getat!

Josephali:
Thank you sir, I have learnt, just that body no gree me, henceforth I will be patient thank you sir.

Abeg try be patient with her. Las las you go dey alright. Just make sure she's okay, try to give her all she needs and pamper her very well maybe she might shorten the time

sharone21:
Na only a Naija woman that doesn't believe in herself or want to explore other races they end up without mqn or waiting for one Naija man with many having bad, foul mouth calling them old newspapers.

Races dey wen want Naija women... Many Indian & Pak CHRISTIANS dey die for our ladies....unless something dey wrong spiritually with the woman... And I'm speaking from experience.

Just imagine the set of people you are saying crave for Nigerian women.
And what would you say about Africans, Europeans and even Asian women that can do anything to just end up with Nigerian men? Or am I lying here?
See babe, let me be frank with you, I am not saying all Nigerian women are bad or whatnot, at least I am married to a Nigerian woman, but trust me when I tell you that Nigerian women are without contest some of the worst on earth in terms of relationship, marriage and home building. But in other aspects of life like Education, Sport, Entertainment, Business, etc, Nigerian women are trying.

It depends on your wife's body and mind.

Is it her 1st child? (Many women dread sex after giving birth for the 1st time. I know I did. No sex for 6 months. I was afraid for my VJay cos I had 3rd degree tear. After I birthed my second baby, sexual activities started at 6 weeks)

Is it CS or vaginal delivery?
Did she have tear?
She can help u ease sexual tension with handjobs and blowjobs.
You don't have to Abstain from sex for fear of another pregnancy though, you can use condoms.

Congratulations

Wettoid123:
my own problem na, pass me i hate cheating on my wife but the issue at hand now i cant bear it any longer i need to satify myself sexually am a fine dude with cash, clean ride and educated but i have not Bleep my wife now for 4 months just because she is pregnant, immediately she took in sex stop till this moment, 4 month's now i have not even touch how much small say sex is just everyday sickness i do all the domestic work, am so tired and helpless right now.

It is far better to Masturbate than sleep around if you can no longer control your urges. Don't be tired of being supportive, she needs all the encouragement and care in the world. The arrival of your baby will make all sacrifices worth it.
Safe delivery to your wifey

Josephali:
For the matured men here, how long should a man abstain from sexual activity if wifey delivered a child,
Another thing is how do men cope that period? I mean sexually. From the information my wife is giving me is that we need to avoid anything sexually for 4month, just to avoid unforeseen pregnant, is this true, how una dey take cope Na? Sexually?

This is what you want to here, go ashawo house every 3 days to satisfy yourself.

Wow! Finally made front page, congratulations.

I think nothing is cast on stone or one rule fit all on this very subject.

For me, it depends on your wife body system and means of delivery.

I don tidy after two weeks of V. Delivery and 5 weeks plus after CS and everything was cool and calm, no complain.

Provided she is no longer bleeding and you are willing to apply minimum thrust, Enjoy.

Konji don dey hold my brother, please avoid any extra marital affair, you can manage for 6weeks at least just dey manage the adventure and participate in raising the child and, you fit they share the brezz if you wan just to pass time. I remember one of my uncles that time, he doesn't even sleep in the same room with the wife for sometime just to quench the temptation.