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Travails Of A Girl Child 2. Sweetness Out Of Bitterness by AmazonianLady: 5:00pm On Oct 28, 2021 |
https://www.nairaland.com/6823386/travails-girl-child-story Well that's the link to part 1 if you did miss it. In the part one I was just briefly sharing few unfortunate incidence that made accept responsibility at an early age. ![]() Look I'm not sharing for sympathy as some of you think ![]() ![]() I titled the story travails because, I had never taught in my life I would become a woman overnight from being a small girl ![]() A big shout to all breadwinners out there you guys are doing a great job, it ain't easy. That's why I do not bother people with anything I pass through, at an early age I had lost hope depending on people. I'll tell you why. A funny coincidence happened, at the time my sister gained admission. One of my cousins from my mother side got a job at Mobil as an engineer, his mom told me he was posted to bonny Island. I called just to congratulate him, as this guy picked the call baba started telling me he hasn't gotten salary yet ![]() ![]() To my story, well I cannot blame our cultures and tradition for preferring male children, actually male children continue legacies that's the truth. I never really did talk about my grandfather, well that was a good, gentle and easy going man, maybe because of old age. When my grandmother and her opportunist children evicted us, well he couldn't do much though as he was an old man and his wife had turn all the children against him expect his last born. So, he couldn't do much. He was a successful farmer, he farmed cash crops and other edibles. When we got evicted he could not do much as I said earlier, but he made it a duty to send foodstuffs to us through his last born, my fathers death broke him too. Because aside the last-born, my father was also not lazy or against him like the others. It must have been tiring for the old man, Imagine giving birth to 8 children and only two just like you. The last-born whenever he visited always told us tales of how the old man was maltreated in his own house, can you imagine. My grandfather died two years later after my dad's death, I'm sure it's because of those maltreatment meted out towards him that made him die so quickly. To men out there I pray God blesses you with a good wife and kind-hearted children to enjoy old age, not only do we have evil women we also have evil men too. To ladies out there, I also pray you are blessed with a loving husband and kind-hearted children.. Yes where did I stop in part 1 ![]() 2017 was sweet, I already been able to pay offset a certain amount of my mothers debt before December, her debt was now less than 600k ![]() Coupled with my super saving skills ![]() Festive season's came quickly celebration was lit, remember that my cousin in bonny Island. He came home so his mom invited us to celebrate the festive period with them. 2k18 was already here fast. We all looked forward to the good things the year had in store for us. The surprise that 2018 brought was when I got a gig to do an ushering job in February at big underground event in Lagos for 4 days. All we are to do is serve people food during the event, show them where to sit, carry their bags and other stuff's like that, we were 15 in total 5 guys and 10 girls for this job. I was paid 100,000 for those 4 days, I was very happy. I decided applying for a prepaid meter with 70k out of the money, I was tired of nepa useless unnecessary bill. Well that turned out to be a decision I regretted ![]() ![]() Honestly 2018 was lit, sweet beautiful and interesting, a lot did happen. My dads younger brother got married, I was happy for him. That man really tired, but before he got married he called aside to tell I shouldn't be expecting any stipend from him, because of the expenses that came with marriage. I told him not worry that It was fine, but he did promise to still send to us. I could not blame him because he had his life to live, but I surprised him on his wedding day by supporting with a souvenir. Though what I bought was not much, but he was happy and he respected me more for that. 2018 was sweet seriously, lautech striked around November that year. My sister visited us briefly, 2018 was lit. This year I got's lots of gigs, omo I was so happy and grateful to God. I had up to 350k in savings, I was able to offset 200k out my mothers debts. I was proud of myself and also optimistic about the coming year. |
Re: Travails Of A Girl Child 2. Sweetness Out Of Bitterness by AmazonianLady: 5:01pm On Oct 28, 2021 |
2019 came just like that, this year was going on smoothly just like it counterpart 2018. Everything nice and sweet, my 3rd sister graduated from Secondary school, at least this time around. I was able to take her out unlike when my immediate sister graduated. We were all happy, seeing my sister graduate. Fortunately she got a very good WASSCE result, I bought her a itel P31 phone for the good result, big sister on point ![]() I remember my immediate younger sister asking me for 50k to get herself a system and me sending the money with hesitating or deliberating, that's to tell you how good 2019 was for us. Our 3rd sister wanted to attend OAU, I told her see better stay with your sister in Lautech and graduate. I made her attend lautech because I didn't have money to waste anyhow, besides I wanted her elder sister to keep an eye on her, because she showed waywardness traits ![]() I was left alone with my last sister at home, who was also already in secondary school. Omo I was just thanking God, for seeing me through that far. My last born really enjoyed, as I always did buy something for her anytime, I'm coming from work. 2019 was sweet honestly. 2019 ended very well, Christmas was too sweet ![]() ![]() 2020 came with a first bad news, first off I lost my job around march, I still had a decent savings of over 100k. I had paid off my siblings school fees though before losing my job. What pained me the most was Covid-19 honestly It wasn't funny at all that Covid period, every body was just panicking because of that food price increased. Luckily for me the church I attended reached out to all her members by giving everyone foodstuffs, so I just added more foodstuff to what I had gotten. Honestly the lockdown was more than what I expected it to be, I was no longer sending money to my immediate younger sister again. Well she told me no need for that, because she was into selling VTU online, according to her she uses the system I bought for her to do. By September I have almost exhausted my savings I had less than 15k left, no work just visiting Nairaland, eating and sleeping ![]() ![]() ![]() I was happy that my sister too was doing okay for herself, with the money she sent I quickly stock up again. October came with end police brutality protest, I remember creating a twitter account because of the protest. But sadly 20-10-20 we lost some of our brothers and sisters, in a cold blooded massacre ![]() ![]() 2020 was really a memorable year for us as country and as individuals a lot of things happened, but thank you God survived that year ![]() 2021 came like a thief in the night, well my sister's came home from Ogbomosho. I was happy to see them. 2021 was also good for me, we had been able to offset our mothers debts completely. My sister was doing well in her online work. Honestly as at now I have become lazy, no longer looking job. I've been at home since last year, though my sister Isn't happy about that. She even did buy me a system early 2021 to join fiverr that popular freelancing site and paid for me to learn a digital skill. I learnt blogging and domain flipping though, So far I have only made $200 from what I learnt ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Of late I have become highly irresponsible. 2021 I have really enjoyed the year so far from my favorite musician winning Grammy (burna boy), to my sisters doing okay I sincerely enjoyed the year so far. The only problem so far is my irresponsibility ![]() ![]() That concludes the end of my story. Don't give up, keep pushing you will get there |
Re: Travails Of A Girl Child 2. Sweetness Out Of Bitterness by Ussycool: 5:02pm On Oct 28, 2021 |
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Re: Travails Of A Girl Child 2. Sweetness Out Of Bitterness by crackhaus: 5:14pm On Oct 28, 2021 |
Such an anticlimactic end to what seemed like a great story. So you're now irresponsible, this is what you've been trying to tell us... ![]() Wonderful 2 Likes |
Re: Travails Of A Girl Child 2. Sweetness Out Of Bitterness by AmazonianLady: 6:12pm On Oct 28, 2021 |
crackhaus: ![]() ![]() Bro I experienced a lot Omo, things that I can't even talk about. Those girls were growing, I had to buy clothes, pay school fees, buy books Omo. It wasn't easy at all. Sometimes I soaked garri or eat Maggi rice with oil, after paying school fees and still saving money at the same time. Forget I said I got help from my mom's siblings, it was just once in a while. The only Person who really helped me was my dad's younger brother God bless him. Seriously I see that success God granted my sister has compensation. But I have decided to take my life more serious. I have had enough rest |
Re: Travails Of A Girl Child 2. Sweetness Out Of Bitterness by crackhaus: 8:03pm On Oct 28, 2021 |
AmazonianLady:One thing really fascinating about your entire story is that you don't feel sorry for yourself. It's refreshing to see you having such a lively spirit despite all of it. And damn, your positivity & energy is loud o – quite observable from the way you write, and especially also with the way you responded to some criticism on your last thread. Kudos for all you've been able to do with your life and for your siblings. You say you have decided to take your life more seriously because you've rested enough... Lol.. Funny one. ![]() I wish you well and good luck in your future endeavours. 1 Like |
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