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Lol..... You will make life miserable for him? Under his roof? Eating his food? Lol...
Sha don't make life miserable for yourself.....

Sounds like your father is incredibly insecure and doesn't want you to achieve more than him, have more than him, and have less stress in life than him. Disowning him won't cure his mental problems (he needs to fix himself), and you need the help he is willing to give, so that you can establish yourself.

If you can't get any financing to study locally, explore your options abroad. And be careful with your dad because he really doesn't want you to succeed, and he's a really bitter, insecure person.

Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.
The story is long but I will cut it short.
It all began last year when I was in service, I called my father informing him of going for post graduate studies. He bought the idea and when I came back from service he gave me money to purchase the form and I did and proceeded with the application.
Due to covid 19 restrictions we wrote the entrance exam March this year. So I was offered part time post graduate admission
Bfor I was offered the admission I was working as a sch teacher and the pay was very low and during d holiday I had health issues and I was at home recuperating. During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us, and right in front of the man, his wife and my mother, my father declared his decision to sponsor and fund my post graduate studies. He pledge to take money from his cooperative to fund it along with accommodation. I live a state away from the school. He is a pensioner receiving steady monthly pension of 200k monthly after serving in the military.
So the following month I proceeded with the screening and I started lectures immediately. He gave me 40k which I used for Dept registration, pg screening and collected my degree certificate.
The problem started early October when during the screening period I declined job offers that I applied for so as to focus on the early part of the admission.
The problem started early October when I went to discuss sch fees because exam was mid way approaching but to my dismay he tolde bluntly that he doesn't have hands in funding my Masters anymore, meaning he want to have a uturn. I was confused because he can't jus Allow me start something and abandon me Midway, leaving me hopeless, dejected and frustrated. I called our family friend to come and beg him and to also know how I offended him. He began to open up by saying he hasn't see any usefulness in my education. He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade. I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer so we begged him even kneeling down and he succumbed to the pressure and he promised to see what he would do.
The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation, he didn't say much then on Sunday he left home and went out and came back sweating, he said he went to a church his friend invited him to meet a prophet and he came with a written prophecy report. The report highlighted every one of us in the family but I focus on my own which reported that my father should not spend money on me until he do some certain things. My intuition told me that the man forged it jus to evade his responsibility. I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.
At this period I was not my self because we kept on calling people to come beg him even calling his relatives but he kept on giving excuses and always on the defensive side. He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me
Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education. The worst thing is that I have already started even as far as attending lectures, assigned to a project supervisor and even loosing a job offer, and he's about to ruin my plans of even working because the place I currently live with him is very remote and far from City center.
Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses
This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.
So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him
Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

Bro just close that chapter and move on with your life.I understand how you feel. I GAVE MY DAD MONEY TO BUY A PROPERTY TILL NOW NA STORY HE DEY TELL ME .It hurts .

YOU WILL SURVIVE WITHOUT HIM

Cousin9999:
Sounds like your father is incredibly insecure and doesn't want you to achieve more than him, have more than him, and have less stress in life than him. Disowning him won't cure his mental problems (he needs to fix himself), and you need the help he is willing to give, so that you can establish yourself.

If you can't get any financing to study locally, explore your options abroad. And be careful with your dad because he really doesn't want you to succeed, and he's a really bitter, insecure person.

Na wah... All these for a father who trained him upto his Bsc? I no blame you, na PRODIGAL SON wey dey find tips on how to disown his father i blame...

Also, your father just might be incredibly ignorant. And there's nothing you can do about that either. Don't try to reason with a fool. Devote your time and energy to pursuing your grad studies. The fact that you're dealing with this should be motivation to be better and do better than your father.

Legendguy:
Exam is starting this month, which miracle job will I get to pay fory tuition.
The school fees is 170k

Just like someone said up there, defer your studies for one year, you won't lose your studentship.

Then look for another job, I'm sure you'll get one.


P. S. Your father has tried for you already, if you were an orphan, you would have survived anyway.

Na your father suppose disown you sef. The old man have trained you through primary to university and now that you are suppose to be looking after him u are here talking about masters? When will he reap the fruit of his labour? Is it after he die? Bro u suppose to be paying that man monthly allowance now and not disturbing him with rubbish school fees. Maybe after this one you will come back to disturb him with PhD fees too.... who knows.

Cousin9999:
Also, your father just might be incredibly ignorant. And there's nothing you can do about that either. Don't try to reason with a fool. Devote your time and energy to pursuing your grad studies. The fact that you're dealing with this should be motivation to be better and do better than your father.

this guy is direct from hell... what an advice.

If you ever know the pains of loosing a father figure in your life, you would not be talking of disowning your own father just because he couldn't go on to sponsor your post graduate studies. I was expecting to read where you complained of him not paying your school fees at all. Let me tell you the bitter truth, your father owes you nothing after your undergraduate education. You should be the one to take care of your parents afterwards because they have tried their best. Your post graduate Should be a part time course for you now since your father is a pension earner. How much is 200k? Can't the man at least enjoy his life before he joins his ancestors? Do you still want to frustrate him by all your demands instead of helping him? Pls sit back and stop all these agitations because you might not like where it would lead you later. Defer that admission or get a side job. Be a man for once and hustle like your mates not depending on that old man for your needs.s one do not have father's not to talk of one who did not find a master's program.life hard ooo!!!

Am very dissapionted in you. Why don't you go and hustle and pay your fees the old man has tried and you are giving him high BP. After graduation you enter street and fend for your self.

I think it would be a lot better if he said no in the first place as he clearly said yes when he meant no. My dad felt the same with my bros masters program too

Nekky5:
If you ever know the pains of loosing a father figure in your life, you would not be talking of disowning your own father just because he couldn't go on to sponsor your post graduate studies. I was expecting to read where you complained of him not paying your school fees at all. Let me tell you the bitter truth, your father owes you nothing after your undergraduate education. You should be the one to take care of your parents afterwards because they have tried their best. Your post graduate Should be a part time course for you now since your father is a pension earner. How much is 200k? Can't the man at least enjoy his life before he joins his ancestors? Do you still want to frustrate him by all your demands instead of helping him? Pls sit back and stop all these agitations because you might not like where it would lead you later. Defer that admission or get a side job. Be a man for once and hustle like your mates not depending on that old man for your needs.s one do not have father's not to talk of one who did not find a master's program.life hard ooo!!!

e fit be say some pple neva accept reality

Hian! Biko he has tried. If you want a postgraduate education,pay for it yourself like most people do. Na wa o.


As per your current situation, you can meet the school to defer your admission to next year while you work hard to gather money before then. You're too sheltered for your own good....see your sense of entitlement at this stage in your life....it is well fa.

Bros, you don't have what to say.. I went to govt school, free education. My ssce wasn't too good. My dad doesn't have money for me to write ssce again. I single handedly sponsor my self without help from any families member, from registration of waec till I completed my HND program.. with a salary of 8k.

Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.
The story is long but I will cut it short.
It all began last year when I was in service, I called my father informing him of going for post graduate studies. He bought the idea and when I came back from service he gave me money to purchase the form and I did and proceeded with the application.
Due to covid 19 restrictions we wrote the entrance exam March this year. So I was offered part time post graduate admission
Bfor I was offered the admission I was working as a sch teacher and the pay was very low and during d holiday I had health issues and I was at home recuperating. During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us, and right in front of the man, his wife and my mother, my father declared his decision to sponsor and fund my post graduate studies. He pledge to take money from his cooperative to fund it along with accommodation. I live a state away from the school. He is a pensioner receiving steady monthly pension of 200k monthly after serving in the military.
So the following month I proceeded with the screening and I started lectures immediately. He gave me 40k which I used for Dept registration, pg screening and collected my degree certificate.
The problem started early October when during the screening period I declined job offers that I applied for so as to focus on the early part of the admission.
The problem started early October when I went to discuss sch fees because exam was mid way approaching but to my dismay he tolde bluntly that he doesn't have hands in funding my Masters anymore, meaning he want to have a uturn. I was confused because he can't jus Allow me start something and abandon me Midway, leaving me hopeless, dejected and frustrated. I called our family friend to come and beg him and to also know how I offended him. He began to open up by saying he hasn't see any usefulness in my education. He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade. I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer so we begged him even kneeling down and he succumbed to the pressure and he promised to see what he would do.
The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation, he didn't say much then on Sunday he left home and went out and came back sweating, he said he went to a church his friend invited him to meet a prophet and he came with a written prophecy report. The report highlighted every one of us in the family but I focus on my own which reported that my father should not spend money on me until he do some certain things. My intuition told me that the man forged it jus to evade his responsibility. I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.
At this period I was not my self because we kept on calling people to come beg him even calling his relatives but he kept on giving excuses and always on the defensive side. He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me
Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education. The worst thing is that I have already started even as far as attending lectures, assigned to a project supervisor and even loosing a job offer, and he's about to ruin my plans of even working because the place I currently live with him is very remote and far from City center.
Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses
This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.
So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him
Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

So after all he has done for you, this is what you can think of doing?
What about others that their father died even before they became adolescent
Some persons went to University without father and mother (orphans)
This is an ingrate mentally, you are displaying.
Man up and face your life challenges
Stop being too dependent
Man up and show some gratitude to your father
Man up and face life squarely
To live is to find meaning in one's authentic existence.

crackhouse:
this guy is direct from hell... what an advice.

children from hell right there.

Baba, withdraw!

You Dad did you strong thing, no doubt but forget it. You have a first degree, get something doing with that.

You can be as successful as you want without a second degree.

You don't need to disown him, it doesn't warrant that. Just give him some space.

Nekky5:
If you ever know the pains of loosing a father figure in your life, you would not be talking of disowning your own father just because he couldn't go on to sponsor your post graduate studies. I was expecting to read where you complained of him not paying your school fees at all. Let me tell you the bitter truth, your father owes you nothing after your undergraduate education. You should be the one to take care of your parents afterwards because they have tried their best. Your post graduate Should be a part time course for you now since your father is a pension earner. How much is 200k? Can't the man at least enjoy his life before he joins his ancestors? Do you still want to frustrate him by all your demands instead of helping him? Pls sit back and stop all these agitations because you might not like where it would lead you later. Defer that admission or get a side job. Be a man for once and hustle like your mates not depending on that old man for your needs.s one do not have father's not to talk of one who did not find a master's program.life hard ooo!!!

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You people should stop giving advice from an emotional point of view.

Some parents are really really terrible. Trust me, it's better to be an orphan than to have some parents as parents.

That aside, it's the duty of a parent to sponsor their children's education.
His father owes him nothing? That's bullshit! Let's stop saying that statement! I know it's trending but it has been abused.



Parents should be supportive to their wards. His dad did him wrong by agreeing to sponsor him then making a u-turn midway. It's called betrayer!

Besides, it's not the responsibility of a child to take care of their parents. It should be otherwise. I'm not saying don't care for your parents but it's not your responsibility unless they are too old to work or sick.

Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.
The story is long but I will cut it short.
It all began last year when I was in service, I called my father informing him of going for post graduate studies. He bought the idea and when I came back from service he gave me money to purchase the form and I did and proceeded with the application.
Due to covid 19 restrictions we wrote the entrance exam March this year. So I was offered part time post graduate admission
Bfor I was offered the admission I was working as a sch teacher and the pay was very low and during d holiday I had health issues and I was at home recuperating. During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us, and right in front of the man, his wife and my mother, my father declared his decision to sponsor and fund my post graduate studies. He pledge to take money from his cooperative to fund it along with accommodation. I live a state away from the school. He is a pensioner receiving steady monthly pension of 200k monthly after serving in the military.
So the following month I proceeded with the screening and I started lectures immediately. He gave me 40k which I used for Dept registration, pg screening and collected my degree certificate.
The problem started early October when during the screening period I declined job offers that I applied for so as to focus on the early part of the admission.
The problem started early October when I went to discuss sch fees because exam was mid way approaching but to my dismay he tolde bluntly that he doesn't have hands in funding my Masters anymore, meaning he want to have a uturn. I was confused because he can't jus Allow me start something and abandon me Midway, leaving me hopeless, dejected and frustrated. I called our family friend to come and beg him and to also know how I offended him. He began to open up by saying he hasn't see any usefulness in my education. He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade. I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer so we begged him even kneeling down and he succumbed to the pressure and he promised to see what he would do.
The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation, he didn't say much then on Sunday he left home and went out and came back sweating, he said he went to a church his friend invited him to meet a prophet and he came with a written prophecy report. The report highlighted every one of us in the family but I focus on my own which reported that my father should not spend money on me until he do some certain things. My intuition told me that the man forged it jus to evade his responsibility. I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.
At this period I was not my self because we kept on calling people to come beg him even calling his relatives but he kept on giving excuses and always on the defensive side. He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me
Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education. The worst thing is that I have already started even as far as attending lectures, assigned to a project supervisor and even loosing a job offer, and he's about to ruin my plans of even working because the place I currently live with him is very remote and far from City center.
Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses
This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.
So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him
Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

I doubt a military retiree collect 200k monthly as pension. It is a lie. Military personnel are not that well paid

Karleb:
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You people should stop giving advice from an emotional point of view.

Some parents are really really terrible. Trust me, it's better to be an orphan than to have some parents as parents.

That aside, it's the duty of a parent to sponsor their children's education.
His father owes him nothing? That's bullshit! Let's stop saying that statement! I know it's trending but it has been abused.



Parents should be supportive to their wards. His dad did him wrong by agreeing to sponsor him then making a u-turn midway. It's called betrayer!

Besides, it's not the responsibility of a child to take care of their parents. It should be otherwise. I'm not saying don't care for your parents but it's not your responsibility unless they are too old to work or sick.

You are right, it's the responsibility of parents to take care of their children's education. Biko does OP sound like a child to you? He had been given this said education up to university level but the ungrateful overgrown man-child still expects his pensioner father to go into debt sponsoring his post grad....haba! Fear God! Same you then talked about how children do not owe their parents any care but you felt this guy's dad betrayed him after seeing him up to graduate level. It is well o.

I have seen this before in a full asssss 29yrs old and was shocked to my marrow. That's why there are several irresponsible men out there because they have convinced themselves like OP that they should be catered even in their adulthood. Several normal people who pursued postgraduates did so from their purses pulling several jobs. May God help us and brighten our minds.

Your dad is an old man. A pensioner.
Please, allow him enjoy his retirement in peace.
You're not a small child, so find your own way.
If you can't further your schooling yourself, defer the admission and find a job so you can save towards your dreams

sisisioge:
You are right, it's the responsibility of parents to take care if their children's education. Biko does OP sound like a child to you? He had been given this said education up to university level but the ungrateful overgrown man-child still expects his pensioner father to go into debt sponsoring his post grad....haba! Fear God! Same you then talked about how children do not owe their parents any care but you felt this guy's dad betrayed him after seeing him up to graduate level. It is well o.

I have seen this before in a full asssss 29yrs old and was shocked to my marrow. That's why there are several irresponsible men out there because they have convinced themselves like OP that they should be catered even in their adulthood. Several normal people who pursued postgraduates did so from their purses pulling several jobs. May God help us and brighten our minds.

The Dad initially agreed and pulled back midway, that's where he erred.

He should have made it know from the start the he wouldn't be responsible for the OP's second degree.


No matter how old a child is, he is still a child to his parents. I once saw a video of a 97 year old man who takes care of his 63 yr old son who has leukemia.

Karleb:
The Dad initially agreed and pulled back midway, that's where he erred.

He should have made it know from the start the he wouldn't be responsible for the OP's second degree.


No matter how old a child is, he is still a child to his parents. I once saw a video of a 97 year old man who takes care of his 63 yr old son who has leukemia.

Sure he erred. But OP himself told us how the guy had a rethink several times but he kept using people to force his father's hands.

Your story of the old man who took care of his ailing son is quite different from this one. This is more like a man in his employable years turning down jobs in the hope that a retired pensioner will sponsor his education. See that this is the exact opposite of your story ? This guy wants a retired man to sponsor his education when he could have gotten a job to sponsor himself. Besides, he is clearly unserious....several Jambs, poor grades in school....maybe if he starts paying his bills, his head will be correct

The level of entitlement in this post!!! After this old man struggled to train you and your numerous siblings in school till y’all graduate, you still expect him to take loans and use his pension to fund your education because you’re too lazy to work and there’s a goat somewhere vomiting money.

In all of this, I blame your Dad. He shouldn’t have agreed to use his pension to sponsor a grown man-child’s postgraduate education.

Karleb:
The Dad initially agreed and pulled back midway, that's where he erred.

He should have made it know from the start the he wouldn't be responsible for the OP's second degree.


No matter how old a child is, he is still a child to his parents. I once saw a video of a 97 year old man who takes care of his 63 yr old son who has leukemia.

Sir, I beg 2 disagree with ur assertion here. Believe me, circumstances is what shape most of our decisions in life; we act based on circumstances or convincing belief. His mood when he made such promise differ from his mood afterward. For him 2 initially agreed nd later choose 2 back-out, we should understand he has his reason which should be respected. I av d conviction if Op did graduate with a G.P that got him (his father) encourage, he could av still push on with his promise. Should Op is still an undergraduate nd d dad pulled such stunt, it would av been a different ball game entirely nd d situation would be understandable 4rm Op point of view. Let's call a spade, a spade. D man is old already, he should be enjoying nd doing things his way as most of his productive years has been spent in service, Op should respect such fact nd not force his WANT down d old man's throat. PGD/Msc/PhD are all optional, not compulsory. Most that went as far as going 4 all these degrees either do so at their own expense (4rm dia pocket) OR got a rich parent 2 sponsor it willingly OR were given scholarship.

As per ur reference in d last paragraph, u are so right, but trust me, d circumstances are obviously different 4rm what we av here.

We don't know d value of what we av until we lost it.

So let's focus on you Egbon agba. So you will disown your father because "he is not giving you money" simple.

How old are you again? 4? 6?

You're even comparing yourself to primary school children... Is that how low you consider yourself to be?

Come on.

That man's only f up was promising you at all in the first place.

And come o, you believe disowning him will make life miserable for him? How please?

Get out of that house, go out and learn how to make money and stop playing with your destiny banking on your Dad's salary. He owes you nothing.

oazeez1991:
Sir, I beg 2 disagree with ur assertion here. Believe me, circumstances is what shape most of our decisions in life; we act based on circumstances or convincing belief. His mood when he made such promise differ from his mood afterward. For him 2 initially agreed nd later choose 2 back-out, we should understand he has his reason which should be respected. I av d conviction if Op did graduate with a G.P that got him (his father) encourage, he could av still push on with his promise. Should Op is still an undergraduate nd d dad pulled such stunt, it would av been a different ball game entirely nd d situation would be understandable 4rm Op point of view. Let's call a spade, a spade. D man is old already, he should be enjoying nd doing things his way as most of his productive years has been spent in service, Op should respect such fact nd not force his WANT down d old man's throat. PGD/Msc/PhD are all optional, not compulsory. Most that went as far as going 4 all these degrees either do so at their own expense (4rm dia pocket) OR got a rich parent 2 sponsor it willingly OR were given scholarship.

As per ur reference in d last paragraph, u are so right, but trust me, d circumstances are obviously different 4rm what we av here.

We don't know d value of what we av until we lost it.

No.

Legendguy:
During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us





He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade.



I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer




The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation,




I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.



He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me



Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education.



Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses


This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.


So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him

I have highlighted for you what I perceive to be the problem. Apologies if you don't like what I'm about to say but everything up there does suggest that you have issues yourself as a son/daughter and you have not made your old man happy.

He's not happy with you. That's the summary. You don't give him joy. Didn't he sponsor you up to this level? Do you even show the slightest appreciation for all he has done for you so far? Your last sentences does say a lot about you.

I have no advice to give you except to do whatever pleases you. Attitude is everything in life.

The advice you would not like is what I will give you now.

My brother man, drop out of school and look for job or opportunities to better your life. Majority of people has dropped off school and nothing happens. That you experience setback in your Msc program leading to you abandoning it is not the end of the world.

In summary, drop out of school, look for job and start planning towards raising a family of
your own. I can bet that, you are over 29 years old going by your narrative.

CC Legendguy

Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.

Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

1. You need to understand that you have one weakness. SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT. Your Father trained you through university (after wasting some fund on OND). That is a great feat. He owe you nothing.

2. What did you save from NYSC or from the teaching job you were doing to show that you desperately needed the masters? How do you fold your hands and claim you will disown your dad?

3. Disowning your Dad does not add or remove any value to him. Rather you will be the one loosing his blessings.

Change your attitude of sense of entitlement.

Disown him and fund your post graduate yourself, since he has forgotten his responsibilities