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vickydevoka:
Reduces urge for both gender.

Yes but more on women
Men are ever ready, even under the highest tension of his life

oluwafeolami:
In as much as I agree with you 100%, calling him an idiot is totally out of it. He brought a situation and you could have still made ur point with clarity and apt ness without the name calling. Good morning

An untrained male child is likely to become a beast.

Lots of Nigerian children for example undergo neglect in the hands of parents who are hustling for their daily bread while learning vices such as violence and bullying, and who are the easiest targets?

Women and children!

Ignorance of the law and morals is no excuse. Rape is rape, violence is violence, bullying is bullying, abuse is abuse. Let's call a spade a spade.

chinchonglee:
Am that Jobless?

It's not even a job it's your hubby that am trying to help you out with

Since you have confirmed that ladies pants smells and the society supports women

Carry out a research on the two observations and find out why it is so

oluwafeolami:
Trying to force her for sex was totally wrong, but we all are ignoring the fact that the lady in question might have started cheating on d guy with another guy that satisfies her which may in turn lead to her now found behavior. Because she’s working she should padlock her kpekus abi? Then she should not disturb d guy for anything not even the accommodation too.

Two lovers are staying together and they are not married yet, three weeks without sex and it’s not as if she’s on her period or she’s sick, guys make we talk true, if na we also we go vex just that my guy shouldn’t have been forceful. He could have waited till day break and tell her is mind. She even agreed to leave after 2 weeks which meant she has already made up her mind to leave d guy so her plot is working fine. Bro u just lost ur lover, move on and don’t be a simp. You will be fine, although forcing her was totally wrong. Good morning

If she was cheating on him, that is more important than him violently raping her? Cheating on him is comparable to him raping her?

Read what you typed again. Read it aloud.

frozen70:
It's not even a job it's your hubby that am trying to help you out with

Since you have confirmed that ladies pants smells and the society supports women

Carry out a research on the two observations and find out why it is so

Madam go and rest its already 8, office has resumed.
I have plenty of work on my desk

Kobojunkie:
You ignored her complaints , and eventually took it upon yourself to rape her in order to satisfy yourself, and you are here to what again?

Seun, moderators, does Nairaland have IP tracker so we can track this RAPIST'S address/location make them catch am abeg...

Nice one. That guy is a rapist, I blame the girl after using her as your sex object you will dump her for another man to marry.

Saintmary:
An untrained male child is likely to become a beast.

Lots of Nigerian children for example undergo neglect in the hands of parents who are hustling for their daily bread while learning vices such as violence and bullying, and who are the easiest targets?

Women and children!

Ignorance of the law and morals is no excuse. Rape is rape, violence is violence, bullying is bullying, abuse is abuse. Let's call a spade a spade.

You are right my dear, but what will make my babe that claims she loves me deny me sex for so long and it’s not a mutual agreement.
I’m not trying proof anything here ma, my girlfriend and I have had sex it’s been a while and we see often, even if she comes we may decide not to have sex not more than twice out of the two weeks she will use and most times it will be rumble sex till she goes it depends on how they want it but in d absence of no discussion and u guys are live in lovers, I’m sure if she has any reason for not having sex then she should tell d guy. Using work as an excuse is totally lame cos even her bosses at work find time for their spouses.

I hope I said something
Drops mic

What kind of rubbish is this?
You should be in jail for RAPING that woman!!!
1. A relationship is give and take.
2. A relationship is not by force (do or die)!
If all you want from her is sex and she is not giving it, ask yourself if you are giving her what she wants from you too.
If both of you cannot reconcile your individual & collective needs & how you can satisfy each other, YOU ARE BOTH IN BONDAGE AND NOT A RELATIONSHIP.
Talk to her, she may want you to wife her before you get unrestricted access to her body.
She probably also met someone better than you. That person is most likely satisfying her sexual needs. She was just waiting for the right time to leave!
You better find happiness elsewhere if she no longer has the capacity to fulfill your requirements for happiness.

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I live with my girlfriend. She has been staying with me for a year and 8 months now. Sex was perfect 3 to 4 times a week.

But ever since she started working sex has become a problem. She will make excuses that she is tired that her back is hurting or headaches. For 3 weeks no sex. She doesn't care at all and we are living like roommates and yesterday was worse.

I was in the mood for it and she bluntly refused so I had to force her. I ripped her pant but she didn't give up she scratches me on my face. I slapped her so hard out of anger. I didn't mean to and I left the house for a few hours. I apologised for forcing her and I told her I am not going to leave with her anymore if she will not give me sex. I asked her to leave so my next babe can move in she said she is leaving in 2 weeks.

Note I don't have any other babe except from her and I have never cheated on her before. I love her a lot she is my life but I just don't like her new attitude.

What do you think I should do for her to be happy with me and give me sex without a fight because I don't want what had happened yesterday to ever happen again in the future.

This mumu even get mind to report her when you forced her against her wish
Ode..oloriburuku somebody

BRATISLAVA:
The first right place would always seem to be the police station, and with the types of men in Nigeria that is not going to do her any good.

Seems Lagos is the only state with sense, then. We don't know if the violent rapist lives in Lagos.

Yes dear, as of present, Lagos State provides the highest relative form of protection for women in terms of rape and other forms of violence against women and children too. Other states are trying too, but Lagos is leading as of present.

Ideally, the police should be the first port of call in case of any problem, but because of their abysmal level of professionalism, only involve them when you have a lawyer on hand.

I live with my girlfriend. She has been staying with me for a year and 8 months now. Sex was perfect 3 to 4 times a week.

But ever since she started working sex has become a problem. She will make excuses that she is tired that her back is hurting or headaches. For 3 weeks no sex. She doesn't care at all and we are living like roommates and yesterday was worse.

I was in the mood for it and she bluntly refused so I had to force her. I ripped her pant but she didn't give up she scratches me on my face. I slapped her so hard out of anger. I didn't mean to and I left the house for a few hours. I apologised for forcing her and I told her I am not going to leave with her anymore if she will not give me sex. I asked her to leave so my next babe can move in she said she is leaving in 2 weeks.

Note I don't have any other babe except from her and I have never cheated on her before. I love her a lot she is my life but I just don't like her new attitude.

What do you think I should do for her to be happy with me and give me sex without a fight because I don't want what had happened yesterday to ever happen again in the future.

Break up with her now. You guys are not compatible especially in the aspect of sex. She will do worse if you Marry her. I remember during my Marriage counseling session, I n other participants were taught on the value of that extra effort required to provide sexual comfort to your partner no matter how stressful/ tedious our day must have been at work. For some, sex is life while for others it's just one of those things. Find what suits you n make yourself happy.
Someone might say, oh they are not married yet, perhaps when they get Married she will change n respond differently. Those are not to be banked on. She's obviously not as sex freaked as you are. It is who she is n it will continue into marriage.
Don't make the mistake of marrying this girl, otherwise you will regret your life all the days of your marriage life with her. Both of you obviously don't attach same importance to sex. Of course, there is someone out there who can match her perfectly in this regards but I can tell you for free that that person is definitely not you.

My candid advice for you is to apologize to her and do the needful by going to her parents for marriage rites. But make sure such thing never happen again because you won't be happy if such act is done to your daughter or sisters. Ire kabiti!

CorGier:
Let's all pretend like;

° He deserves to rot in jail for rest of his life for that despicable, vile and horrible act. After all, for the rest of us, our lives is the quintessence of piety and piousness.

° Most of the men castigating the OP have never been in his shoes. They can never hurt a fly you see. Wonderful knights in shiny armour.

° Couples don't engage in aggressive pre-intimacy, and a woman never, ever wants it rough.

° Only men "attempt to rape" their partners when said partner isn't in the mood for sex. Women just smile you see, roll over to the other side, and say good night.

° That placing a ring on a woman's finger would suddenly boost her dwindling libido x1000.

° All relationships should lead to the altar.

° Only married couples are allowed to cohabit and copulate, and a woman is never allowed to perform wifey duties to a man she's not married to. The man however is expected to ALWAYS do the most.

Bunch of clowns.

as in eh

May I ask why she's living in a man's house?
What happened to her parents'?
And she doesn't want to be having sex with him
Don't put yourself in a bad situation!

My brother you are a kidnapper. You mean you are living with a lady for over a years plus without paying her dowry and you still have gut to rape her? If they take this case up with you you might join Maina in his new apartment

U are stupid rapist.

What make u be smashing her?

Is she your wife?

BRATISLAVA:
He was expecting sympathy, which he is getting from other rapists. Hear people saying that he sounds remorseful. Will "remorse" unrape the lady? Or will marriage do that? Surely if it were their daughter they would be so quick to forgive and forget while she lives in trauma?

These are the demented reasonings from men in Nigeria that promote rape.

The idiot that confessed to rape has deactivated.

He literally confessed, if he had wanted sympathy he won't have included how he almost forced himself on her, no be say any of us dey there or naa we catch am ... so whats all this jungle justice cry all about
You lots are so clouded in emotion that you decided to stay blind to the fact that, he stopped before it could happen so where is the rape.
If remorse is not enough then we all don't deserve forgiveness from GOd, the best people could do is give hints how to be a better man, HE did not RAPE her, lets stick to the story or beta still wear ur glasses n read again.
The reality is we all have[b] our weak moment[/b] buh we shouldnt let it define us or hold us captive

BRATISLAVA:
If she was cheating on him, that is more important than him violently raping her? Cheating on him is comparable to him raping her?

Read what you typed again. Read it aloud.

If you see anyone supporting the original poster, they are trying to say they would have done the same thing if they were in the same position.

It's sad to admit, but we have a lot of unapprehended rapists in our society, and since women are being shamed into silence, they are recruiting more rapists everyday to the extent that we are having a society that condones violence against her own daughters.

It's depressing unless we females rise up to say enough is enough. No one will fight our battles for us.

Where did you see the rape part in my post. Have tried to but I didn't succeed because she scratches me it was very painful so I slapped her very hard out of anger and I left the house for a few hours. I have apologised to her she forgave me because it has not happened before it was the devil and I regret my actions. I need is advice not insult

My advice for you is that you are very stupid. Thanks
You come public place to say you tried to rape girl, my guy u b mumu.

You are a rapist. Seek help or get arrested.

She no hesitate to leave when u talk am
Bro b wise

oluwafeolami:
You are right my dear, but what will make my babe that claims she loves me deny me sex for so long and it’s not a mutual agreement.
I’m not trying proof anything here ma, my girlfriend and I have had sex it’s been a while and we see often, even if she comes we may decide not to have sex not more than twice out of the two weeks she will use and most times it will be rumble sex till she goes it depends on how they want it but in d absence of no discussion and u guys are live in lovers, I’m sure if she has any reason for not having sex then she should tell d guy. Using work as an excuse is totally lame cos even her bosses at work find time for their spouses.

I hope I said something
Drops mic

You have NO RIGHT to demand for sex from a girlfriend.

If she says no, find someone else who would say yes.

NEVER force any female to have sex with you, it's called rape and it carries a maximum jail time of about 21 years!

Obviously your parents neglected to teach you this, but this is how the world works! Do not rape anyone!

Saintmary:
If you see anyone supporting the original poster, they are trying to say they would have done the same thing if they were in the same position.

It's sad to admit, but we have a lot of unapprehended rapists in our society, and since women are being shamed into silence, they are recruiting more rapists everyday to the extent that we are having a society that condones violence against her own daughters.

It's depressing unless we females rise up to say enough is enough. No one will fight our battles for us.

Some of the people who trivialize, excuse and are in support of rape will one day have to fight against their own proclivities when it is their daughters on the line.

That being said, generational misogyny and entitlement are the root cause of rape and violence against women. When that is dealt with there will be a reduction in these kinds of things.

She should get you arrested. And must you have sex? Is it food?

FORWARDEVERLY:
He raped my mother ??
I accused him because that is my nature of raping people??

I am ashamed of my daft comments..

Lack of home training, a child that wakes his father up with a slap

ba7man:
You dey rape your girlfriend?,.

Nah Mary I dey date, I no get girlfriend
Not a rapist though

Is there a way this guy can be tracked and arrested?

What do you think I should do for her to be happy with me and give me sex without a fight because I don't want what had happened yesterday to ever happen again in the future.[/quote]Guy you nor try.
Marry her if you really love her.
You are not supposed to have sex with her until marriage.
Go and pay please.

You need Jesus even married people do have sex 3 to 4 times a week talk less of someone who is proud in sin. You really need help and the girl future will be in crisis if she continue to stay with you. Better allow her to less in that 2 weeks if you have single atom of love(fantasy) for her

Kobojunkie:
You ignored her complaints , and eventually took it upon yourself to rape her in order to satisfy yourself, and you are here to what again?

Seun, moderators, does Nairaland have IP tracker so we can track this RAPIST'S address/location make them catch am abeg...

Honestly, the guts to even come here and say that kinda stuff. The kinda of people we have these days ehn, the babe beta japa

I am actually astounded and perplexed that this disgraceful and heinous topic is still on Nairaland.

The moderator who allowed this topic pass through unchecked is equally culpable. Moderators need on this to forum need to sit up.
Nairaland is becoming a haven for trolls, perverts and denigrates.

Rape should never be trivialized or the victim blamed or shamed. That’s how that idiot Bakassi made a joke about allegations of rape. It was not funny.
The prevailing attitude towards our women in Nigeria is exactly why Nigerian guys fall foul of the law in saner climes.

If consent is not given, withdrawn or not expected and you have sex then that is rape. If you deceive her as to the nature of the act and consent is obtained deceptively = rape.

She tells you to wear a jimmy hat or raincoat and you take off mid coitus without her consent = rape.

You shift her womb because you are endowed and ignore her protests = rape.

These are actual stated cases.

This guy is a fool,he should be arrested

Robnectar:
Nah Mary I dey date, I no get girlfriend
Not a rapist though

Nice one. Take care of her ooo.