In its simple form, Emotions are your feelings.
People feel happy, sad, angry, dread, etc.
While Trauma is wound.
Put together, I am talking about the involuntary feelings of hurt from your childhood.
The unforgettable memory or experiences from your childhood that has turned you into this angry, difficult, irritable person.
Childhood trauma is as real as the air you breath.

Growing up in Africa already saddled with a lot of environmental difficulties is hell of a trauma already.
Growing up in an intentionally loving home should help reduce some of these effects yeah, but what happens when the home becomes even more emotionally toxic?

We Would Have;
.. Adults with poor self esteem
.. Adults with attention problems
.. Adults with self destructive behaviors

Few days ago, I was watching 'SPEAK SIS' on Oprah Winfrey Network, an episode dealing with mental health, childhood trauma and healing.
So, this 31year old lady shared how she physically abused herself by heavy addiction to drugs, sex and alcohol as a result of her mental health problems which stemmed from a father who abandoned her, and having to grow up with a depressed mum.

No matter how much we live in denial or try to hide behind the curtains of black strength without accepting and dealing with childhood traumas, we will continue to raise emotionally sick people who were also raised by emotionally helpless parents.
And so goes the cycle.

I am an adult with childhood emotional traumatic experiences,yeah?
Currently going through healing, I am allowing myself to be vulnerable by accepting my truth.
Too many individuals pursuing careers because they want to prove a point to their parents or siblings as a result of the comparison they were subjected to at childhood. Growing up to become people pleasers and always measuring their success in life against others.

Recently, something happened to me that reminded me of a childhood memory I thought I had moved on from. A friend with a tall, big stature as my dad jokingly refused to hug me. Something that was natural between us. I suddenly felt so rejected, the feeling of rejection was quite intense. So much that I started to beg him not to leave without hugging me.

Apparently, few months before I turned 10years old, I did amazing in the Common Entrance Examinations that my teacher had to bring my results home.
At the time, there was the Entrance Exams first, then the interview.
The first exams, 22 persons passed from my school while only 9 persons qualified for the next stage of which I was the overall second best and the only female.
I think it was the second result my teacher brought over because I remember being really jumpy!
When he told me, I ran to tell my dad who was lying in his bed.
The moment I jumped on my dad to share the good news, he immediately put me down and warned me sternly never to hug him or any man like that ever again in my life....
It's been over 20 years now and it's the last time I came that close to my dad.
Sitting beside him even now would mean there are no others seats and standing would rather be awkward.
I cannot deny how difficult it is recounting this right now. Need I mention that touch is my love language?

Parents who shut their kids up, ordering them every now and then, whose kids are not allowed to choose clothes or colors, who believe other kids or people above their kids are only breeding adults for tomorrow who would be in relationships, have beautiful ideas that could help their companies but would never speak because they lost that voice at childhood.
It is only civil that I request that parents seek knowledge to bring up their children better before you destroy your child out of ignorance.

As an adult survivor of childhood emotional trauma, you can get help no matter how old you are.

You can start with talking about it by subscribing to my Talk Therapy.
I liken talk therapy to a flowing river. The more you let out, the more you are refreshed! Talk about your story, talk about your journey, talk about your process to healing, let out your frustrations and your fails by talking to someone.
You can reach me NOW via the link in the description if you ever need to talk to someone.

[url]. Find Here More Contents Dealing With Childhood Traumas, Experiences, and Memories // Expert Opinions and Parenting Tips : https://youtube.com/c/OCHANYADMPREZ

If You Ever Need Someone To Talk To, You Should Reach Me Now! https://paystack.com/buy/talk-therapy-wjmlcy
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All Nigerians need therapy. The more we come to terms with that fact, the better it is for all of us.

I wonder why there aren't as much therapists in Nigeria as there are doctors.

It's good to see someone committed to doing this work.

KidsUnsaid:
In its simple form, Emotions are your feelings.
People feel happy, sad, angry, dread, etc.
While Trauma is wound.
Put together, I am talking about the involuntary feelings of hurt from your childhood.
The unforgettable memory or experiences from your childhood that has turned you into this angry, difficult, irritable person.
Childhood trauma is as real as the air you breath.

Growing up in Africa already saddled with a lot of environmental difficulties is hell of a trauma already.
Growing up in an intentionally loving home should help reduce some of these effects yeah, but what happens when the home becomes even more emotionally toxic?

We Would Have;
.. Adults with poor self esteem
.. Adults with attention problems
.. Adults with self destructive behaviors

Few days ago, I was watching 'SPEAK SIS' on Oprah Winfrey Network, an episode dealing with mental health, childhood trauma and healing.
So, this 31year old lady shared how she physically abused herself by heavy addiction to drugs, sex and alcohol as a result of her mental health problems which stemmed from a father who abandoned her, and having to grow up with a depressed mum.

No matter how much we live in denial or try to hide behind the curtains of black strength without accepting and dealing with childhood traumas, we will continue to raise emotionally sick people who were also raised by emotionally helpless parents.
And so goes the cycle.

I am an adult with childhood emotional traumatic experiences,yeah?
Currently going through healing, I am allowing myself to be vulnerable by accepting my truth.
Too many individuals pursuing careers because they want to prove a point to their parents or siblings as a result of the comparison they were subjected to at childhood. Growing up to become people pleasers and always measuring their success in life against others.

Recently, something happened to me that reminded me of a childhood memory I thought I had moved on from. A friend with a tall, big stature as my dad jokingly refused to hug me. Something that was natural between us. I suddenly felt so rejected, the feeling of rejection was quite intense. So much that I started to beg him not to leave without hugging me.

Apparently, few months before I turned 10years old, I did amazing in the Common Entrance Examinations that my teacher had to bring my results home.
At the time, there was the Entrance Exams first, then the interview.
The first exams, 22 persons passed from my school while only 9 persons qualified for the next stage of which I was the overall second best and the only female.
I think it was the second result my teacher brought over because I remember being really jumpy!
When he told me, I ran to tell my dad who was lying in his bed.
The moment I jumped on my dad to share the good news, he immediately put me down and warned me sternly never to hug him or any man like that ever again in my life....
It's been over 20 years now and it's the last time I came that close to my dad.
Sitting beside him even now would mean there are no others seats and standing would rather be awkward.
I cannot deny how difficult it is recounting this right now. Need I mention that touch is my love language?

Parents who shut their kids up, ordering them every now and then, whose kids are not allowed to choose clothes or colors, who believe other kids or people above their kids are only breeding adults for tomorrow who would be in relationships, have beautiful ideas that could help their companies but would never speak because they lost that voice at childhood.
It is only civil that I request that parents seek knowledge to bring up their children better before you destroy your child out of ignorance.

As an adult survivor of childhood emotional trauma, you can get help no matter how old you are.

You can start with talking about it by subscribing to my Talk Therapy.
I liken talk therapy to a flowing river. The more you let out, the more you are refreshed! Talk about your story, talk about your journey, talk about your process to healing, let out your frustrations and your fails by talking to someone.
You can reach me NOW via the link in the description if you ever need to talk to someone.

[url]. Find Here More Contents Dealing With Childhood Traumas, Experiences, and Memories // Expert Opinions and Parenting Tips : https://youtube.com/c/OCHANYADMPREZ

If You Ever Need Someone To Talk To, You Should Reach Me Now! https://paystack.com/buy/talk-therapy-wjmlcy
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AMumAndMore:
All Nigerians need therapy. The more we come to terms with that fact, the better it is for all of us.

I wonder why there aren't as much therapists in Nigeria as there are doctors.

It's good to see someone committed to doing this work.

Thank you so much for your kind words, people just need better orientation around this topic.
Most people think therapy is for "mad" people.
The stigma needs to be unlearnt.

Almost everyone needs therapy especially in this country. Childhood for most people came with a lot of challenges that people end up growing up with. It's important that these things are dealt with

AMumAndMore:
All Nigerians need therapy. The more we come to terms with that fact, the better it is for all of us.

I wonder why there aren't as much therapists in Nigeria as there are doctors..

Even the therapists first need therapy of their own. How many truly open-minded Nigerians have you ever truly met.

AMumAndMore:
All Nigerians need therapy. The more we come to terms with that fact, the better it is for all of us.

I wonder why there aren't as much therapists in Nigeria as there are doctors.

It's good to see someone committed to doing this work.

After investing resources in getting trained and certified as a psychotherapist, one would naturally lean towards countries that appreciates the skillset and offers better remuneration package.

I commend the OP for the thread.

Kobojunkiee:
Even the therapists first need therapy of their own. How many truly open-minded Nigerians have you ever truly met.

I totally agree with you, one thing i know for sure is if people can embrace being vocal about some issues, mental health will get better.
Talking itself is a therapy.

Mindlog:


After investing resources in getting trained and certified as a psychotherapist, one would naturally lean towards countries that appreciates the skillset and offers better remuneration package.

I commend the OP for the thread.

This is totally correct.
I strongly believe that you can seek better offers for your skillset and still be a blessing if you genuinely love what you do for the right reasons.
Growing up with a mum who is a nurse and a midwife, one thing i asked God for was her level of passion and dedication to serve first.
She's been retired for over 6 years but still takes on community projects.

I had a rough childhood, i see so many sick adults with obvious childhood issues.
I just want to help in my own capacity by creating awareness about childhood struggles.

KidsUnsaid:


This is totally correct.
I strongly believe that you can seek better offers for your skillset and still be a blessing if you genuinely love what you do for the right reasons.
Growing up with a mum who is a nurse and a midwife, one thing i asked God for was her level of passion and dedication to serve first.
She's been retired for over 6 years but still takes on community projects.

I had a rough childhood, i see so many sick adults with obvious childhood issues.
I just want to help in my own capacity by creating awareness about childhood struggles.

I have a strong interest in the world of children, what interests them, what bothers them, their emotional well-being, behavioural disorders, neurodevelopmental disorders etc, reason I am presently doing my specialty in Clinical Child Psychology.

Unresolved childhood issues transits to dysfunctional adults.

KidsUnsaid:

I totally agree with you, one thing i know for sure is if people can embrace being vocal about some issues, mental health will get better.
Talking itself is a therapy.

We definitely need to start speaking out even against cultural norms that help perpetuate a lot of the ills in our society

Almost all Africans needs to visit a shrink.

Kobojunkie:
We definitely need to start speaking out even against cultural norms that help perpetuate a lot of the ills in our society

Mad sense!!!
Let's use our platform and be as vocal as possible!

NarcissistKing:
Almost all Africans needs to visit a shrink.

My point exactly!
The bad thing about the trauma in Africa is we are made to see it as a way of life...

Mindlog:


I have a strong interest in the world of children, what interests them, what bothers them, their emotional well-being, behavioural disorders, neurodevelopmental disorders etc, reason I am presently doing my specialty in Clinical Child Psychology.

Unresolved childhood issues transits to dysfunctional adults.

You are doing something generational.
We could collaborate...
Come share your professional view on my channel.
Would be amazing to work with you!

KidsUnsaid:

My point exactly!
The bad thing about the trauma in Africa is we are made to see it as a way of life...

Damn straight! So sad.