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How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 4:41pm On Jun 09
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Bola146(f): 4:42pm On Jun 09
shocked shocked so bad of her for saying that embarassed The foundation is faulty already and she is not ready to change, so bad of her!!!!! She would have just quit and concentrate on her shit rather than still staying with you. Follow your mind please sad embarassed

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by OGAPARIS: 4:43pm On Jun 09
Bola146:
shocked

Don't ridiculous.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by OGAPARIS: 4:45pm On Jun 09
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied. I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single. I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me fee so bad. We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially. I wasn't to get the ordeal out of mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

Are you both officially married now?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 4:51pm On Jun 09
OGAPARIS:


Are you both officially married now?
No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by southniyikaye(m): 4:57pm On Jun 09
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

MODIFIED **some people will never read to comprehension before attacking you like rabbid dog...
If you've been used and manipulated, must you seek revenge on others?
If you've been a simp for years and your eyes finally open, you will become extremely angry and want to take revenge on the opposite gender bur instead of doing that, why not work on yourself, rise above hate and become better?
Is this too hard to understand?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Bola146(f): 4:57pm On Jun 09
OGAPARIS:


Don't ridiculous.

Who is this one again lipsrsealed

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by OGAPARIS: 4:58pm On Jun 09
kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. I just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.

Marry her then if you wouldn't want to have kids with multiple women because I think she, like most women, feels you don't have right over her decisions since you guys are not officially married.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by OGAPARIS: 5:01pm On Jun 09
Bola146:


Who is this one again lipsrsealed

You boss!

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Bola146(f): 5:03pm On Jun 09
kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.

Of three years of relationship with a child Your foundation is so faulty!!! You took who? And her parents accepted? That is Iyawo saara lipsrsealed You too get some faults please.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by anthonyuncle(m): 8:17pm On Jun 09
get a side chick

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by frozen70(f): 2:38am On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied. I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single. I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad. Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing. We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially. I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her. How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by TheUndercover: 2:49am On Jun 10
The fact that you asked her about it and she denied is a slap to your face. She's waving a big red flag right in front of you. The real paternity of the kid is to be questioned. Another reason to marry a known virgin. Tread carefully.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Vision101(m): 3:34am On Jun 10
@frozen70

You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her


@me
Correct comment jare. If someone opens his can of worms and the lady holds it against him nko. It happened in the past and so long as it's not happening now what is your problem?

If you are such a saint why did you pregnant her without official marriage. How many ashawo, sugar mummy, one chance pussy, first fruit pusy did you bleep before knowing her.

What do you want now? Leave her with the stigma of a lady that had baby outside wedlock and voom you will move to the next victim.

If you refuse to marry her I will call you a BAD GUY. A complete chop and run.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by SavageResponse(m): 1:14pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied. I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single. I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad. Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing. We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially. I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her. How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

Something your wife did before you two got together is none of your business especially if she did not commit a crime or murder

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Mastermivver1: 1:48pm On Jun 10
Still typing
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by SoftP(m): 1:48pm On Jun 10
Dude, kindly change the headline;

How to get over ur Baby mama or girlfriend’s trauma Not wife,
Whatever u wrote up there is for real Men, not small boys with teddy brains

Presently u’ve no moral right to question her fidelity, besides u didn’t met her a virgin’
I’m sure she was only considering ur emotions, the reason she lied to you initially.

You’ve had a kid with her for 3years and she didn’t dump u to forge ahead!
& her mum is still calm enough to pamper ur feelings,
O boy u get mind.

I guess U’re just fetching reasons to dump her; u need serious flogging

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Afadarapelumi22: 1:48pm On Jun 10
That is Iyawo saara lipsrsealed You too get some faults please.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by money121(m): 1:49pm On Jun 10
Ok
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Aboguede(m): 1:49pm On Jun 10

Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Pious101: 1:49pm On Jun 10
No easy
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Monogamy: 1:50pm On Jun 10
sad

This guy funny ooo... Were you a virgin before you met your her?

If she has been faithful since you guys started dating each other to the extent of having baby together? Then you need to quickly take your mind out of it..

Even for her mother to be somehow aware, the relationship might be for monetary purpose... Abegii, we all have past...

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by sylve11: 1:50pm On Jun 10
I don't know what to say but never pay for anyone sins. cool

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by sonnie10: 1:51pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.

Keep deceiving yourself. If you like send your picture to her parent's house, as long as it was with your consent, you are committed. She told you about the her past life in confidence so that you wouldn't hear a modified version of it from someone else, yet you accepted her and still went on to put her in a family way.
Now you have eaten all you wanted, and seen her finish, the reason your are being regretful. Just know that people make relationship mistakes especially in their youth, but you have to look beyond the past and focus on her present self.
Hope you are totally innocent of past misbehavior only on that ground of equity would you find someone else with clean slate.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by wunmi590(m): 1:51pm On Jun 10
shocked

This your baby mama get mind sha..

Bia, where she gather this liver?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by HigherEd: 1:52pm On Jun 10
What you need is a therapist to help you deal with this.
I can recommend a therapist for you from Medicbird Nigeria. It's just 6000 naira per hour.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by inoki247: 1:53pm On Jun 10
lol
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by sylve11: 1:53pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert


hmmm cool
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by DeLaRue: 1:54pm On Jun 10
Seems odd tha
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by MOBBDEEP: 1:55pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

Albeit strange as it sounds, I share same sentiment
I'm even presently towing almost same path, perhaps not as hardlined as you are
Because, somewhere someplace & sometime, I know there are good females.
Those with golden heart
Good heart has no preference for gender
It is a rare quality among both gender

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kobicove(m): 1:55pm On Jun 10
Are you trying to say that you did not make some mistakes also while you were growing up? undecided

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