Mummytoo:
Hello nairalanders


Now this is very common where I come from, when a man is dating a girl, everyone calls her his girlfriend, but immediately they notice that she is pregnant, almost everyone automatically changes the word "girlfriend" to "wife" they start calling her our wife without paying any bride price.

And they feel very comfortable doing that, most couples pay dowry when they are old and some don't even pay at all. I don't feel comfortable calling someone's girlfriend "our wife" just because she has kids for him.

That's where some people argue with me, that is only natural for me to follow suit, I said I won't.

Elders and pastors in the house, is it right to call a girlfriend - "wife" ?

Does the Bible accept that?

Favfables1:

Oga go and check the original ((Hebrew)) meaning of the word "cleave" before you start misleading people with your comments

shortgun:

Polygamy yes but polyandry I don't think so.
Never read anywhere God permits polyandry.

Kobojunkie:
It is good to discuss these things so we understand the truth of God separate from the lies peddled out there in His name.

Amanee:
Yes but let's take a chill pill. We are the most religious set of people in the world yet the one thing true service to God entails, we lack it. Love your neighbour as yourself is everything Christianity is about. If op loves her neighbour like she's supposed to, she won't be acting stiff and sanctimonious about what she perceives are her flaws

Dtruthspeaker:


You think it was a joke that Abraham put away all his concubines after Sarah's demise?

Don't play with God and His Laws o. He made them male and female cannot be stretched to mean male and females or males and female or males and females!

Amanee:



It's none of your business pepper body

Call her whatever others call her and do not judge

shortgun:

La'mech,Abraham, Jacob, David, Samson, Judah, Solomon e.t.c are all polygamous men that God loved and prospered. The only group of men not permitted to have more than one wife are those who wish to hold the office of a bishop...1 Timothy 3v2

Mariangeles:
In the early times, before man invented marriage ceremonies, once you've gone in (slept) with a maiden, you are obligated to be with her. According to God's laws, she becomes your wife.
I believe it is still valid till today.

Mummytoo:
Hello nairalanders


Now this is very common where I come from, when a man is dating a girl, everyone calls her his girlfriend, but immediately they notice that she is pregnant, almost everyone automatically changes the word "girlfriend" to "wife" they start calling her our wife without paying any bride price.

And they feel very comfortable doing that, most couples pay dowry when they are old and some don't even pay at all. I don't feel comfortable calling someone's girlfriend "our wife" just because she has kids for him.

That's where some people argue with me, that is only natural for me to follow suit, I said I won't.

Elders and pastors in the house, is it right to call a girlfriend - "wife" ?

Does the Bible accept that?

crackhaus:

That means all of you non-virgins don marry tey tey, yet are still out there waiting for husband...

Mariangeles:


Why do think ladies are usually very attached to and will always remember the first man she gave herself?
Intercourse is spiritually binding.

crackhaus:

Are you? Do you?

Are you? Do you? Wetin do you? No dey ask me nonsense question. Tatafo!

Are you? kor, Do you? ni!

Mariangeles:


Are you? Do you? Wetin do you? No dey ask me nonsense question. Tatafo!

Are you? kor, Do you? ni!

crackhaus:



Sha just know say you don already marry like this... Better goan start looking for that your first guy wherever he is.

Kobojunkie:
Isn't it possible that she is asking this question here so she can at least be certain she is right even in this assumed stiffness?

Consider that, traditionally, a baby mama is relegated to position of concubine/gal friend and not that of wife either. So, following traditional beliefs, she is not wrong in insisting the the is not a wife. However, Op, by asking this here question, creates an opportunity for us to outline how even traditional ideas don't hold ground where Christianity is concerned.

Amanee:
She's asking to get support on her sanctimonious stance. To be frank, it's not her business. If everyone calls the lady a wife, it takes nothing for her to do the same

Kobojunkie:
I am myself not a follower.... I don't simply do things because I see others do it. I like my actions to come from a place of wisdom - I question the value and worth of everything I do or engage in - , so I sort of see where the OP may be coming from.

Amanee:
Soliciting people's advice online is also being a 'follower' Easier to address her as whatever and let it end there than coming online to make a fool of yourself

Kobojunkie:
Is this some personal grudge of some sort against the OP?

Amanee:
Can't hold a grudge against someone I don't know, just buttressing my point to you since you took the pains to quote me

Kobojunkie:
Ok