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@crackhaus
This one that almost everybody is just talking about man and husband...

My own is, a woman that doesn't know how to to cook, how will she be able to feed her own children properly?

This is just one example of the many problems bedeviling you so-called modern women – una nor dey ever gree think further than the length of your wigs and fake eyelashes.




As the fiancé has accepted her like that, should the unborn kids who will require good nutrition for proper growth also accept her like that?



@me
You are my person person on issues like this. I owe you one can of Amstel.

When her husband asks for food.... I don't know how to cook.

The children ask for food..... I don't know how to cook.

Her husband's guests ask for food.... I don't know how to cook.

Her in-laws ask for food...... I don't know how to cook.

All celebrations in the family..... I don't know how to cook.

Then all the above people will gather and clap for her because she is sisioge. The most modern woman according to some comments here. Mtcheeee

AdaSunshine:
Yes, it is very compulsory for a woman to know how to cook before marriage, if not for anything, for the sake of her children.
How can you as a woman nurture healthy children when you don't even know how to cook, how much more cook nutritional food?
A woman who does not know how to cook should endeavour to learn how to cook first before getting married.

I happen to know a woman who doesn't really know to cook well. She is your basic level cook but she has a son who is about 13 now, who not only knows how to cook, but does it well and he cleans the house too. He does not complain as he prefers to do it than have his mum handle it. He says she disorganized the place when she cleaned and that maybe irks him too. His mum is a busy banker any who is wired well for her Job but not for domestic stuff. The husband knows to cook too.

Compulsory, it is not. A home can survive well without the woman as a cook.

All these things are really meaningless things that can easily be resolved without having to impose it on one member of the union or the other. We live in an age where more and more even single folks order over 50% of their meals. And this is becoming a thing even for the married, showing how meaningless these traditions we once had really are.

crackhaus:
This one that almost everybody is just talking about man and husband...

My own is, a woman that doesn't know how to to cook, how will she be able to feed her own children properly?

This is just one example of the many problems bedeviling you so-called modern women – una nor dey ever gree think further than the length of your wigs and fake eyelashes.




As the fiancé has accepted her like that, should the unborn kids who will require good nutrition for proper growth also accept her like that?

By then she might have acquired some cooking skills, my question is should she go into the marriage and later learn or she should find a way to learn before going Into the marriage and remember the fiancée is cool with her like that.

Kobojunkie:
I happen to know a woman who doesn't really know to cook well. She is your basic level cook but she has a son who is about 13 now, who not only knows how to cook, but does it well and he cleans the house too. He does not complain as he prefers to do it than have his mum handle it. He says she disorganized the place when she cleaned and that maybe irks him too. His mum is a busy banker any who is wired well for her Job but not for domestic stuff. The husband knows to cook too.

Compulsory, it is not. A home can survive well without the woman as a cook.

All these things are really meaningless things that can easily be resolved without having to impose it on one member of the union or the other. We live in an age where more and more even single folks order over 50% of their meals. And this is becoming a thing even for the married, showing how meaningless these traditions we once had really are.

I agree with you and also a woman who doesn't know how to cook doesn't mean she's not good enough for marriage.Marriage isn't all about cooking

Vision101:
When her husband asks for food.... I don't know how to cook.

The children ask for food..... I don't know how to cook.

Her husband's guests ask for food.... I don't know how to cook.

Her in-laws ask for food...... I don't know how to cook.

All celebrations in the family..... I don't know how to cook.

Then all the above people will gather and clap for her because she is sisioge. The most modern woman according to some comments here. Mtcheeee

Before then she must have acquired some cooking skills, my question is that is it compulsory for her to learn before marriage or she can go into the marriage and learn.

AdaSunshine:
Yes, it is very compulsory for a woman to know how to cook before marriage, if not for anything, for the sake of her children.
How can you as a woman nurture healthy children when you don't even know how to cook, how much more cook nutritional food?
A woman who does not know how to cook should endeavour to learn how to cook first before getting married.

are you single or married?

@Iyaebe
Before then she must have acquired some cooking skills, my question is that is it compulsory for her to learn before marriage or she can go into the marriage and learn.


@me
Let her learn before marriage. Both male and female shouldn't get into marriage unprepared. Even if she's not perfect let her know reasonably well.

For me, its a big deal. I won't date a woman who can't cook. God! I love good home made food.!
As a confirm igbo boy, you have to know how to cook, ofe oha, ofe onugbu, ofe okpompoto, ukwa, Premium egusi soup and the likes.

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiancee accepts her like that,should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

there are certain skill you must learn at a young age to be able to effiently perform better in the adulthood, you must be able to cook, to be able to run your own affairs eg at college or uni eg for man who will cook for him at college/uni ? yes he can buy prepare meals but its always cheaper to cook yourself its an example but it applies to both sexes

Young lady should be able to cook for herself and learn the skills to be able to cook for her own kids

then the final point, every sociate expects a women to be able to cook for her husband

ZIMDRILL:
then the final point, every sociate expects a women to be able to cook for her husband

This is not at all true.

Society's expectations change over time following the level of wisdom of the people in general, so it is wrong to assume that Society's opinions are set in stone.

Now, do you base your life choices on the opinions of the majority or on wisdom itself?

Kobojunkie:
This is not at all true.

Society's expectations change over time following the level of wisdom of the people in general, so it is wrong to assume that Society's opinions are set in stone.

dont mix the two i never said society dont change
i didnt talk of opinion but what is expected meaning what is practised

having an opinion and practising are totally different things

when we say society we are taking about what is expected by nearly 50% and above where people expect or do things thatt everyone does

eg the same girl now a wife, if her own mother visits she wouldnt let hubby cook but she will
cool herself the same she will do if her own in-laws visit

ZIMDRILL:
dont mix the two i never said society dont change
i didnt talk of opinion but what is expected meaning what is practised

having an opinion and practising are totally different things

when we say society we are taking about what is expected by nearly 50% and above where people expect or do things thatt everyone does

eg the same girl now a wife, if her own mother visits she wouldnt let hubby cook but she will
cool herself the same she will do if her own in-laws visit

Society's view is a nothing but an opinion of a majority as the time...a Reflection of the general wisdom of the majority in society at a particular point in time.

What you refer to as "what is expected" is nothing but that a general opinion.

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E.g. Did you know that at one time, eveb rape was generally accepted as punishment for what were referred to as "wayward" girls back when I was young? Today, we are finally getting to where rape is and will be considered a violation of human right of the victims and will be fully punishable by law in all states in Nigeria.

Did know know that when I was young, violence and abuse in marriage was the societal norm - husbands had every right to punish their wives in anyway necessary to instil discipline in them. Fortunately, society has improved in this area this since more and more people have become informed enough of the violation that is abuse, and hopefully, we will get to a future where victims will no longer remain silent.

Kobojunkie:
Society's view is a nothing but an opinion of a majority as the time...a Reflection of the general wisdom of the majority in society at a particular point in time.

What you refer to as "what is expected" is nothing but that a general opinion.

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E.g. Did you know that at one time, eveb rape was generally accepted as punishment for what were referred to as "wayward" girls back when I was young? Today, we are finally getting to where rape is and will be considered a violation of human right of the victims and will be fully punishable by law in all states in Nigeria.

Did know know that when I was young, violence and abuse in marriage was the societal norm - husbands had every right to punish their wives in anyway necessary to instil discipline in them. Fortunately, society has improved in this area this since more and more people have become informed enough of the violation that is abuse, and hopefully, we will get to a future where victims will no longer remain silent.

remember what is expected is what the everyone is doing

dont confuse opinion and expectation

expectation is something which has accepted as normal within a society

a opinion is something that one suggest

i didnt deny society changing Nope changing means doing things differently either as group or individual

right now society hasnt changed in expecting the wife to cook for husband but individuals accepted not to worry about it but those individual havent influence to accept it

whats the reason do nigerians do both civil and tradition wedding ? my thoughts civil wedding is viewed not a proper african/ tribe wedding (this is society view) then expectation aka general norm is to marry traditionally, you do a traditional wedding thats what is expected by society

views remain views until there practised until they became norm then they become expectations under general rule of a society

Iyaebe:
By then she might have acquired some cooking skills, my question is should she go into the marriage and later learn or she should find a way to learn before going Into the marriage and remember the fiancée is cool with her like that.

It is precisely because her fiancee is cool with it that she is considering "putting off" learning to cook before she enters the Marriage... If she doesn't learn how to cook before she gets married, there's a huge chance she won't learn even in the Marriage, because "her fiancee is cool with it"... They'll probably "find a way" around it ...

Lemme speak for myself here...
I can't be "cool" with a woman who doesn't know how to cook...
Because...
I hate eating outside ((unless it's snacks))...
I come from a family where every female knows how to cook goooooood meals and I'm used to it...
I'm not the best chef in the world buh I know my way around the kitchen....

And I don't intend to be cooking everyday when I get married and I definitely won't be eating outside everyday...
Even as a bachelor I don't eat outside everyday is it as a married man that I'll start??

So unless she wants me to start bringing other women to come home to cook, she had better learn how to cook...

And as for she learning in the Marriage...
I can't allow myself to be a test rat to bad cooking, I'm not used to it and I never will...
I can't afford to have a running stomach when I'm in a meeting with my boss.. so NO!

If I too love her...
Las Las na to find house help to handle kitchen affairs...

ZIMDRILL:
Remember what is expected is what the everyone is doing

dont confuse opinion and expectation. expectation is something which has accepted as normal within a society

a opinion is something that one suggest

i didnt deny society changing Nope changing means doing things differently either as group or individual

right now society hasnt changed in expecting the wife to cook for husband but individuals accepted not to worry about it but those individual havent influence to accept it

whats the reason do nigerians do both civil and tradition wedding ? my thoughts civil wedding is viewed not a proper african/ tribe wedding (this is society view) then expectation aka general norm is to marry traditionally, you do a traditional wedding thats what is expected by society

views remain views until there practised until they became norm then they become expectations under general rule of a society

Again, Society's expectations, views, etc., are all nothing but the general accepted opinions of people at a given time.

Running away from this fact will not change it at all. And no, Society's opinions are rarely based on facts since they are a measure of the level of wisdom of the average individuals that make up that particular society hence the reason why they are prevalentiy based on opinions instead.

ojun50:
Real men don't play with food.

Which is why they should know how to cook one for themselves

Kobojunkie:
I happen to know a woman who doesn't really know to cook well. She is your basic level cook but she has a son who is about 13 now, who not only knows how to cook, but does it well and he cleans the house too. He does not complain as he prefers to do it than have his mum handle it. He says she disorganized the place when she cleaned and that maybe irks him too. His mum is a busy banker any who is wired well for her Job but not for domestic stuff. The husband knows to cook too.

Compulsory, it is not. A home can survive well without the woman as a cook.

All these things are really meaningless things that can easily be resolved without having to impose it on one member of the union or the other. We live in an age where more and more even single folks order over 50% of their meals. And this is becoming a thing even for the married, showing how meaningless these traditions we once had really are.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

Everyone should be able to cook some women may even be overworked and can't make out time to cook so they buy food outside,if oga could cook or assist in other areas would there be a need for that?

Anyway everyone should run their home the way they can.

It's not compulsory but it's necessary

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiancee accepts her like that,should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

it's compulsory in Nigeria.

debbydams:
it's compulsory in Nigeria.

No it is not! It is only for those of you who live your lives in compliance with the general opinion of those in society.

I know of a lot of women in Nigeria who can't cook to save their own lives but they are all of them married.

Compulsory would mean it was Law but it isn't law and never will be.

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiancee accepts her like that,should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

Irrespective of whom you are marrying, please learn how to cook probably from a local cook or YouTube as the case maybe. Marriage is not about only you and your husband. What will your children be eating? Eatery food with high seasoning?
What about the health benefit and what you will save from eating outside. If your schedule is tight, buy pepper in bulk probably sat or Sun and freeze.
If you must eat outside, let it be once in a week or a while. If care is not taken, money to build house will go to stomach. My submission.

Iyaebe:
Not all men,cooking skills ain't that important to some men

Hmm this. Cooking skills may not be important to some men but have you seen anyone who doesn't appreciate a good meal?
Like it or not food is important. I can remember how guys rate their friends that can cook good food during our school days . Any amount you tell them to bring, they'll gladly drop it and they hardly quarrel with their friends who can actually cook.

Do a cost benefit analysis and see which one outweighs the other.
By default, asking this question means you consider this a problem.
Or have you stumbled on questions like, Will a ladys' culinary skills be a problem to her husband and in-laws during her marriage?
So choose!

Favfables1:
It is precisely because her fiancee is cool with it that she is considering "putting off" learning to cook before she enters the Marriage... If she doesn't learn how to cook before she gets married, there's a huge chance she won't learn even in the Marriage, because "her fiancee is cool with it"... They'll probably "find a way" around it ...

Lemme speak for myself here...
I can't be "cool" with a woman who doesn't know how to cook...
Because...
I hate eating outside ((unless it's snacks))...
I come from a family where every female knows how to cook goooooood meals and I'm used to it...
I'm not the best chef in the world buh I know my way around the kitchen....

And I don't intend to be cooking everyday when I get married and I definitely won't be eating outside everyday...
Even as a bachelor I don't eat outside everyday is it as a married man that I'll start??

So unless she wants me to start bringing other women to come home to cook, she had better learn how to cook...

And as for she learning in the Marriage...
I can't allow myself to be a test rat to bad cooking, I'm not used to it and I never will...
I can't afford to have a running stomach when I'm in a meeting with my boss.. so NO!

If I too love her...
Las Las na to find house help to handle kitchen affairs...

Lol @test rat
What happens to the yoruba saying "ile oko, ile eko"

AmazonTopaz:
Which is why they should know how to cook one for themselves

Oshey

if she no fit cook weytin we kon dey dey marry.

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiancee accepts her like that,should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

A lady that can’t cook can’t even live in my house I will Send her back to her dads house to go learn and come back. Even if I can hire a cook when ur married u want to do things urselves sometimes and not be so dependent on external people.

How can she not know how to cook? It makes me question her upbringing and what she was busy doing while growing up as it’s normal for a gal to learn this naturally even without trying to hard by basically showing interest.

Don't get me wrong if there’s a good reason for it I won’t mind cos cooking can be learnt anytime bt I will sue her parents cos I will feel cheated.

Iyaebe:
Before then she must have acquired some cooking skills, my question is that is it compulsory for her to learn before marriage or she can go into the marriage and learn.

B4 marriage off course bt it depends on who ure dating and that person must be aware u can’t cook so it’s not a shocker and u can both decide how serious and urgent it is. Nobody wants to eat kfc the morning after the wedding night. It’s boring

lol. You don't know how to cook what are you going there to do?

I don't know of other simps. But For me knowing how to cook it very important and not just knowing how to cook but a being a good cook. There is different between knowing how to cook and being a good cook. Infact if you don't know how so cook I won't allow you to near my kitchen. I feels you will waste the stuff and gas with the rubbish you are cooking.

I once date a girl who don't know how to cook. After that first incident I don't allow her to go near my kitchen to cook. I cook it myself and I know how bad she always felt when I need to cook it myself. Even comon to do wheat or semo she nor Sabi.

Some men don't even care about good food, Anything they see even like indomie or anyhow rice they just eat and move. It tells on them because they don't look fresh. They don't pay too much attention on quality or sweet meat as it's important to them. But not person like me oh.

I don't believe in learning how to cook. Learning or knowing how to cook is deferent from being a good cook. You might think you know how to cook but not until you cook for crowd.

I thought I know how to cook. Until I cook for crowd. Alot them didn't eat it. Only few eat it. That only tells me the food didn't meet acceptable standard.

The only way to know your food is good is when crowd eat it and confirmed it's ok. Not just your husband or kids.

jaxxy:
A lady that can’t cook can’t even live in my house I will Send her back to her dads house to go learn and come back. Even if I can hire a cook when ur married u want to do things urselves sometimes and not be so dependent on external people.

How can she not know how to cook? It makes me question her upbringing and what she was busy doing while growing up as it’s normal for a gal to learn this naturally even without trying to hard by basically showing interest.

Don't get me wrong if there’s a good reason for it I won’t mind cos cooking can be learnt anytime bt I will sue her parents cos I will feel cheated.

funny @sue her parents

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