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Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Follar: 8:21am On Aug 12
I really don't understand why it's a big deal for parents to say 'I am sorry' to their kids. These same parents will scold a child who refuses to say a continuous thank you for gift that isn't so helpful at the moment. All in the name of being parents, they feel that they are equal the moment you say you are sorry to a child.

Children are human too and they have rights. Parents who constantly would refuse to be sorry for a wrong has a chance of
Not having a good communication with the child
Loosing the child to sharks in the street
Loosing any form of connections
Child seeking any available means of getting out of the house
Getting advice from third parties
Confiding in other people

Children are meant to be our friends, buddies. When you Apologize to your child, train and even spank sometimes, children understand why you spanked them. Being a hard, tough, unyielding parents will only lead you to loosing them.

Be nice, playful, accommodating, apologize, train, communicate, spank and always put them before God.. Only that can you hope for a better future with your child

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by donbachi(m): 8:45am On Aug 12
For where?..they will never.they feels been parents means they must be right always....na so my parent warned my not to collect a thing from anybody...we come owe land 2years+.my aunty with her husband wey come from jand hand me 1k dollars na e i tell am "thank u"..if u see d sweat wey come out from my parent body,my fada eye red for 1week...na so dat my aunty husband sey"wow u're such a gud boy"..when dem don go na e my fada n moda call me enter room dey ask me"dat they cant remember telling me such"....dem beat me for 5months till my aunty finally send d rent.

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by yvesboss(m): 8:46am On Aug 12
Never African parents believe they own you at any point

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by DanDeeBoss(m): 8:55am On Aug 12
My mom isn't guilty, only my dad is, even when he's at fault cheesycheesy

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Blakjewelry(m): 9:01am On Aug 12
never. you are wrong when you are wrong, and you are wrong even when you are right. the only way they apologise is by ending the fight without more more wahala

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by drips8(m): 9:04am On Aug 12
African parents believe they can do no wrong even if they're wrong

They see apologizing to kids as a form of weakness

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Sapphire11(f): 1:51pm On Aug 12
My mum will say "ma binu" dad would say "sorry" too. I guess it's their ego getting in the way. I don't think they were raised by parents that said sorry to them so saying it to their kids will give them off as a weakling. That's the same reason they won't praise you in your presence even if you're doing great for yourself, they'd rather use you to boast in your absence.
There's little or nothing we can do about that, it's on us to change the narrative.

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by TV01(m): 2:57pm On Aug 12
Apologise ke? For where??

Not only do I never apologise - mainly as I'm almost never wrong, or can artfully bluff if I am cool - I never ask command them to do things with a please or, a thank you once done. I'd rather scold them for not executing speedily, perfectly, with all humility etc.

Na so e dey start, from apologising to asking permission. On good days they are treated like the most contemptible of military conscripts. On bad days simply herded like cattle - prod and all.

Nonsense and eye-wateringly high nursery costs angry

Apologise ko, repent ni. Soon you'll be talking about childrens rights...eh!


TV aka "Daadddeeee wa"

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by alfa0: 3:41pm On Aug 12
it depends on parental up bringing and how we see things of this life.
my late father do apologies but my mother never did.
come down to me,i apologies to my children ,my wife does same.
so its not about Africa ,i feel its more about personality and individual differences .

However,i feel we should not take things too serious,whether the offender apologies or not,
just feel free and move on with your life.

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by chii8(f): 3:51pm On Aug 12
They believed that since you came through them,then you don't deserve their sorry.

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by lekjons(m): 5:14pm On Aug 12
well, they wouldn't be African parents if they do that, would they?

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by paddyofboss(m): 5:14pm On Aug 12
Yes make money

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Bossontop(m): 5:15pm On Aug 12
Haq haq haq haq haq.........

Jus become d bread winner of d house and see wonders!!!!!

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by superior1: 5:15pm On Aug 12
Until you become adult and a man of your own, even at that. African parents owes no kids of theirs apology, that is Oyinbo culture

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by dingbang(m): 5:15pm On Aug 12
grin there are many wives and husbands that can't even say sorry to their partners.. How much more, to their own children

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by starbuck(f): 5:15pm On Aug 12
Apology kee them dịa undecided undecided undecided


Since my ancestors didn't, it's definitely not starting with me

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by MANNABBQGRILLS: 5:15pm On Aug 12
It will be much easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for an African parent to apologize to their kids!!

END OF DISCUSSION!

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by GoodFaith: 5:15pm On Aug 12
NO
Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Hotzone(m): 5:15pm On Aug 12
Maybe when u made them proud after chasing “the root of all evil’’

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Micheezy7(m): 5:16pm On Aug 12
grin
Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Primusinterpares(m): 5:16pm On Aug 12
They hardly apologise... they just say sorry in another way

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Livefreeordieha(m): 5:16pm On Aug 12
Follar:
I really don't understand why it's a big deal for parents to say 'I am sorry' to their kids. These same parents will scold a child who refuses to say a continuous thank you for gift that isn't so helpful at the moment. All in the name of being parents, they feel that they are equal the moment you say you are sorry to a child.

Children are human too and they have rights. Parents who constantly would refuse to be sorry for a wrong has a chance of
Not having a good communication with the child
Loosing the child to sharks in the street
Loosing any form of connections
Child seeking any available means of getting out of the house
Getting advice from third parties
Confiding in other people

Children are meant to be our friends, buddies. When you Apologize to your child, train and even spank sometimes, children understand why you spanked them. Being a hard, tough, unyielding parents will only lead you to loosing them.

Be nice, playful, accommodating, apologize, train, communicate, spank and always put them before God.. Only that can you hope for a better future with your child
lol... U are too funny

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by kolafolabi(m): 5:16pm On Aug 12
Ego kills African Parents

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by gurunlocker: 5:16pm On Aug 12
New generation parents are doing so...

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by Odunharry(m): 5:16pm On Aug 12
donbachi:
For where?..they will never.they feels been parents means they must be right always....na so my parent warned my not to collect a thing from anybody...we come owe land 2years+.my aunty with her husband wey come from jand hand me 1k dollars na e i tell am "thank u"..if u see d sweat wey come out from my parent body,my fada eye red for 1week...na so dat my aunty husband sey"wow u're such a gud boy"..when dem don go na e my fada n moda call me enter room dey ask me"dat they cant remember telling me such"....dem beat me for 5months till my aunty finally send d rent.
Baba calm down with the iko na

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by phranq30(m): 5:16pm On Aug 12
Their own "I'm sorry" is....
Oya come and take your food or "Come, I'm going out oo, what should I buy for you?

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by grace008: 5:16pm On Aug 12
Yes, if you are teaching them how to operate an Android phone, infact you can even send them to bring water for you.

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by AstuteChap: 5:16pm On Aug 12
@the topic - Lai lai!!!
African parents that will be beating you and still be saying "You will not kill me in this house" cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Is There A Way To Make African Parents Apologize To Their Kids by panch001(m): 5:17pm On Aug 12
undecided

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