Oh please, don't be willfully patronizing to her... No one is twisting her words.
She is gloating, plain and simple... It's as obvious as the white on rice.
She's talking about being "worried" about the image of a boy in a boarding school that he will eventually graduate from and probably never see anyone from there again, a boy that hasn't even been proven guilty...
Like seriously, what image can anyone have in primary/secondary school that will follow them for life? It's a non-issue as far as the trajectory of a person's life is concerned.
Such faux concern for his image is bullshít because he is but just a boy, not an adult. You don't write-off a child you love, and this is how I know for a fact that she doesn't like him.
Would she type in that manner if the boy were her own son, or perhaps she's one of those people who will scream "my son can never be involved in something like this".
Let's try to be reasonable, shall we?
A lot of you (if not all of you) stole little things here and there when you were kids, don't even deny it.... Yet it seems y'all still turned out okay.
What if she’s genuinely concerned about the nephew? I choose to believe that she is until proven otherwise.
Oh please, don't be willfully patronizing to her... No one is twisting her words.
She is gloating, plain and simple... It's as obvious as the white on rice.
She's talking about being "worried" about the image of a boy in a boarding school that he will eventually graduate from and probably never see anyone from there again, a boy that hasn't even been proven guilty...
Like seriously, what image can anyone have in primary/secondary school that will follow them for life? It's a non-issue as far as the trajectory of a person's life is concerned.
Such faux concern for his image is bullshít because he is but just a boy, not an adult. You don't write-off a child you love, and this is how I know for a fact that she doesn't like him.
Would she type in that manner if the boy were her own son, or perhaps she's one of those people who will scream "my son can never be involved in something like this".
Let's try to be reasonable, shall we?
A lot of you (if not all of you) stole little things here and there when you were kids, don't even deny it.... Yet it seems y'all still turned out okay.
Reasonable? okay, I personally can't condone a light fingered person in my home.
Most of the stealing lots of us did as kids /teens were licking milo and milk from pangolo and extra meat from pot and five naira change we keep in the pocket with the hope mummy won't remember and we still chopped better cane for it.
This boy is not attempting to steal what seems to be age appropriate, he's been accused of money and laptop for me it's a big issue, address the main issue, leave her aim out of it.
And yes his image and that of his guardians (OP included) are being tarnished even if it's a mere accusation. So even if the OP is concerned about herself and hubby she has a right to be after all he lives with them.
Besides I still remember the bad boys in sec school.
Lamanii22: Good morning everyone! So I made a post about my husband's nephew few weeks ago about the boy being light-fingered... I don't know how to add previous link to a new post pardon me....
Most people "nairaland boys" especially moved from the message of that post and started bashing me. Well, that was much expected since it's now a culture on here...
So we got a call from his school that a laptop went missing at one of the hostels, and all fingers were pointed at him, they said he was the last person who went there and Sha Sha Sha, they've seized his phone, we pulled a call through to his mom, she said she'd be at his school tomorrow (that is, today)..... There would be more info later...
This was what I was trying to avoid but my husband wasn't seeing all this at all, he is pissed now anyway.... His image at school have been tarnished... Even if he was innocent, the damage cannot be undone....
The kid is your Nephew, you only explain his relationship when someone asks how you are related to him. Your brother-in-law's kid is your Nephew. So stop saying "My Husband's Nephew."
Reasonable? okay, I personally can't condone a light fingered person in my home.
Most of the stealing lots of us did as kids /teens were licking milo and milk from pangolo and extra meat from pot and five naira change we keep in the pocket with the hope mummy won't remember and we still chopped better cane for it.
This boy is not attempting to steal what seems to be age appropriate, he's been accused of money and laptop for me it's a big issue, address the main issue, leave her aim out of it.
And yes his image and that of his guardians (OP included) are being tarnished even if it's a mere accusation. So even if the OP is concerned about herself and hubby she has a right to be after all he lives with them.
Besides I still remember the bad boys in sec school.
All thief na thief abeg...
The main issue is that he remains accused, not guilty.
As for the bad boys you remember, are they still "bad" boys today? Did their bad boy image in secondary school affect them or their parents/guardians today?
The main issue is that he remains accused, not guilty.
As for the bad boys you remember, are they still "bad" boys today? Did their bad boy image in secondary school affect them or their parents/guardians today?
Technically all thief Na thief but a child licking milk might not get punished but corrected only, if he steals a phone then the thiefery is on another level. Thief get grade. There are some things you won't expect a child to do.
Okay ooo, he's still accused, if truly he is stealing they will catch him red handed.
Its the way these Nairaland alfa males ignored the stealing habit of this teenager and focused on his uncle's wife's "wickedness". So petty theft should be accepted and applauded by the op so she won't be seen as wicked? The boy has given her every reason not to like him and I won't blame her for it. If someone keeps stealing from you, feel free to like the person that's your business. I personally can't stand thieves and I won't even try to pretend to like you even if you're my blood relative that steals.
By the time the boy graduates from petty theft to armed robbery, I hope he robs you at gunpoint like the one in this video
Mariangeles: @Lamanii22, you have to be very careful how you bring your family issues to nairaland, especially sensitive ones. And with your real account too. It is for your own good dear. You don’t want people twisting your words and casting their negative vibes on you. Whatever family issues you need to discuss, discuss them with your spouse.
dominique: Its the way these Nairaland alfa males ignored the stealing habit of this teenager and focused on his uncle's wife's "wickedness". So petty theft should be accepted and applauded by the op so she won't be seen as wicked? The boy has given her every reason not to like him and I won't blame her for it. If someone keeps stealing from you, feel free to like the person that's your business. I personally can't stand thieves and I won't even try to pretend to like you even if you're my blood relative that steals.
By the time the boy graduates from petty theft to armed robbery, I hope he robs you at gunpoint like the one in this video
OluwabuqqyYOLO: You sound rather happy about the situation, as if you're fulfilled something like this has happened. It hints that you've not been trying to help; rather, you've been vilifying him before your husband who — correctly — chose to ignore your apparent dislike for the boy.
dominique: Its the way these Nairaland alfa males ignored the stealing habit of this teenager and focused on his uncle's wife's "wickedness". So petty theft should be accepted and applauded by the op so she won't be seen as wicked? The boy has given her every reason not to like him and I won't blame her for it. If someone keeps stealing from you, feel free to like the person that's your business. I personally can't stand thieves and I won't even try to pretend to like you even if you're my blood relative that steals.
By the time the boy graduates from petty theft to armed robbery, I hope he robs you at gunpoint like the one in this video
God bless you. You have said it all. Those villifying the OP will not be able to take half of the crap the OP has been forced to swallow by her kleptomanic nephew. They are free to keep pampering their thieving relatives until they pick up a gun and start breaking into people's houses.
How the hell is Op happy about it? Can you see her through her comment smiling and laughing?
how does this thread portray that women are wicked generally?
If your mum, sisters, female relatives are wicked evil beings, how is it anyone's fault their behavioural deficiency clouded your sense of reasoning and thought process, making you generalise baselessly? You men are destroying the world presently, yet women are your problem? Can't you guys do without showing your insecurities and low self esteem everywhere on this forum?
You guys are emotional weak beings, never logical in thinking cos everything is always the fault of females, and I'll isolate this to mostly guys on this forum cos I'm sure y'all are not up to 1% out there,
The thread is about a light fingered nephew, but no, they must make it look like Op is the bad one, then they generalise it, i guess the husband seeing the clear picture although a little late must be a simp then.
Madam emotionally strong being, your client has brought up a report against a peeing husband's brother this time around.
God bless you. You have said it all. Those villifying the OP will not be able to take half of the crap the OP has been forced to swallow by her kleptomanic nephew. They are free to keep pampering their thieving relatives until they pick up a gun and start breaking into people's houses.
It's a pissing brother in-law this time around.
Seems there's a fault with all her husband's make relative, abi? Oversabi geng!
