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Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

If he gets a vasectomy done, he will be at your mercy owing to the fact that he can't move on, he will labour in that relationship more than necessary! Over 99% of men will not agree to that though, be rest assured of this fact

Men in the house, women say a thing today and do another thing tomorrow, this woman is asking for one child today and tomorrow she will say "I feel like having another kid." Do what you think is right and don't do anything to please any woman, women are ruled by emotions. The only woman who would say she will bore only one child is a woman who has a medical health challenge who is trying to play it safe for her health. If you like ripple off what makes you a completely man, what others are praying to have just to please a woman, where there is a billion women out there. Be guided!

DaveDGreat:
Finally, I came to the end of the thread. I read it keenly from page 1 till page 14 and I must say I learnt a lot. I was reading while in traffic returning from work. Lekki-Ajah traffic can tiring but this post kept me busy.

If this story is actually true, the op @Mercychen should check herself. She ain't right upstairs and I have no apologies for this. She managed to convince (or confuse) a man to father only one child and went ahead to suggest vasectomy. If I were to be the man, I might give her a hot slap unknowingly. Not because I want to but a reflex action for her selfishness. She is what we call "village people" to the young man and he is yet to know/notice. I pray he sees and runs as fast as his legs can carry.

Somewhere in one of her post in this thread, she said she's a Christian and I doubt that. Having gone through her posts in this thread, I could see she's uncouth, mannerless, ill-tempered, and uncultured. She's a time bomb waiting to happen. This one has not one of the semblance of Christ.

Maybe she's a feminist but If this is what "feminism" is then it's killing our society. In her little mindedness, she thinks she's a "goddess" that requires a sacrifice from a man she must court/marry. Little wonder she hasn't gotten one. She truly doesn't even deserve one at all with this mindset.

Like who are you? What do/can you bring to the table that other ladies can't bring? Is your love made of gold? Are you Dangote's daughter? What sacrifices did you make for the man when he was trying to find his feet in life? Were you there for him when he was building?

How can a sane woman make such a request from a man? She doesn't want to be sterile but want her man to be. If this isn't wickedness, what can we call it?

The painful part is that some people on this thread are supporting her madness. One even said there are "lots of guys" that will give in to her demand. In this country or where? Will that person allow her brother do vasectomy because of a lady? It's well known that ladies try to shield their brothers from being SIMPs while they (the ladies) pray for SIMPs. Go check.

Lastly @Mercychen, please leave the young man alone and adopt a child or better still find a sperm donor. You aren't fit for marriage and don't bother saying "I know what I carry" cause you carry absolutely nothing. No one is irreplaceable.

Also, please check your mental health. Go for counselling if that will help. You're not OK at all.

The thread is just giving me headache,how can a lady be this wicked? I feels like sending soldiers to her house to teach her a lesson

cayorday89:
Baba calm down this life no too hard, quite a number of great men with all their riches and power have one child and some two. Does that mean they are simps.

Talking sense into her like how, go back to my comment you quoted and the previous ones I made on this thread, and read what I posted, even the one you quoted I told her they can always come to agreement at a mid point favorable to each of them,meaning it's hard for her to get any man who would agree to her terms so she has to one way or the other compromise, that is if she wants one and the guy probably wants more than one they can agree agree at a reasonable number okay for both.

I am lost as to point out valuable reasons to many of the things you typed there, but I will give it a try.. How are you so sure the guy has no mind of his own? How are you so sure the lady will put him through bullshit?

What has number of children got to do with dignity when you can have one or two and live a life of comfort as a family,which dignity beats the fact that you can provide your family with a reasonable amount of comfort and luxury in comparison with a large family and living through your nose and barely surviving.


For your last paragraph, you carry the matter for head and even insult the man you are trying to defend when you barely know him, they are going into a relationship with marriage in view, some things have to be discussed and if both parties can't come into agreement, they can peacefully go their separate ways but you made it sound like she is forcing the guy to accept her decisions.

See calm down, and try to see life in different perspectives and how every decisions taken independently can have an after effect on others. Birthing three or more children these days if a man is not doing anything worthwhile to better the human race should be discouraged, we should rather focus on few kids and larger resources to cater for them.

AY Makun is someone I envy small family and big resources, the peace of mind is unquantifiable, even at that, it does not mean I will call those who chose to do otherwise names, after all we all bear the consequences of our actions.

Na me fück up

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

See this one,my sister life doesn't work that way..You sound selfish and not ready for marriage,wait till you find the man for you.

truthsayer009:
Hahaha this one you called me to come & talk

Funny enough there are too many Mercy Chen's around and you would never know until you spend some time, weeks and months with them before finally finding out that they are real werey. This is why I usually don't recommend all this jumping from abroad to come and pick wife within a month or two, finalize marriage, because you fit marry werey without knowing & then you have the rest of life to battle with.

If she says vasectomy after 3 kids, then that still makes sense. Which one is having just 1 kid, what's that?

Honestly I wish It was a requirement for intending spouse to hand over ours phones to show what we are posting online on the first date the same way we talk about genotype, we should audit each first other before we proceed, because mehn I my tired is tired.

You are the weyrey here. cos all I did was suggest and I never forced it on him. So what's weyrey about that?

Since when has it become a crime to express my thoughts and declare my choice?

Ok, would you rather he forces his choice of having a battalion on me even when I don't want it?

Reason before you talk next time.

Flier:
The thread is just giving me headache,how can a lady be this wicked? I feels like sending soldiers to her house to teach her a lesson

If na me she tell I go dial am, it will be enough disrespect from her to suggest that to me,I be goat wey Dem dae castrate

DaveDGreat:
Finally, I came to the end of the thread. I read it keenly from page 1 till page 14 and I must say I learnt a lot. I was reading while in traffic returning from work. Lekki-Ajah traffic can tiring but this post kept me busy.

If this story is actually true, the op @Mercychen should check herself. She ain't right upstairs and I have no apologies for this. She managed to convince (or confuse) a man to father only one child and went ahead to suggest vasectomy. If I were to be the man, I might give her a hot slap unknowingly. Not because I want to but a reflex action for her selfishness. She is what we call "village people" to the young man and he is yet to know/notice. I pray he sees and runs as fast as his legs can carry.

Somewhere in one of her post in this thread, she said she's a Christian and I doubt that. Having gone through her posts in this thread, I could see she's uncouth, mannerless, ill-tempered, and uncultured. She's a time bomb waiting to happen. This one has not one of the semblance of Christ.

Maybe she's a feminist but If this is what "feminism" is then it's killing our society. In her little mindedness, she thinks she's a "goddess" that requires a sacrifice from a man she must court/marry. Little wonder she hasn't gotten one. She truly doesn't even deserve one at all with this mindset.

Like who are you? What do/can you bring to the table that other ladies can't bring? Is your love made of gold? Are you Dangote's daughter? What sacrifices did you make for the man when he was trying to find his feet in life? Were you there for him when he was building?

How can a sane woman make such a request from a man? She doesn't want to be sterile but want her man to be. If this isn't wickedness, what can we call it?

The painful part is that some people on this thread are supporting her madness. One even said there are "lots of guys" that will give in to her demand. In this country or where? Will that person allow her brother do vasectomy because of a lady? It's well known that ladies try to shield their brothers from being SIMPs while they (the ladies) pray for SIMPs. Go check.

Lastly @Mercychen, please leave the young man alone and adopt a child or better still find a sperm donor. You aren't fit for marriage and don't bother saying "I know what I carry" cause you carry absolutely nothing. No one is irreplaceable.

Also, please check your mental health. Go for counselling if that will help. You're not OK at all.

You are dumb.
I'm sure you didn't read my op cos your comment and reaction is obviously based off other people's comments otherwise you will see where I said we were discussing and I " suggested". It was a suggestion not mandatory. He has a choice to accept or reject it.

Mercychen:
Chidi, shut up!
If you had not messed up last year, by now that God has blessed us, we would have been heading to the altar. So just keep quiet!

If you have decided to forget about women, that's your choice. Let me decided for me.

God forbid, me and you to the alter. Tufiakwa

FanOfMyself:
Shut up!!! who messed up? Lol... You think I am stupid enough to end up with someone like you? My mom will start weeping if I bring someone like you home as a potential wife. She and my sisters will start prayers and fasting on top my head ASAP. I was studying you all that time. I feel so ashamed that I once chatted you up for something serious. Well, that was in the past.

Lol... .

You are pained. Once I do a Uturn, no looking back.

After all the begging, I refused to get back, thats why you're pained.
Hahahahaaaa..

You think I don't know how you stalk me Everytime? Yet you are ashamed of haven chatted me up.
Yet you can't get over me.
Yet you keep track of my old and new moniker.

Abeg, hug your lonely pillow.
Im moving forward and it's paining uuuu kikikikiiii...

Mercychen:
Lol... .

You are pained. Once I do a Uturn, no looking back.

After all the begging, I refused to get back, thats why you're pained.
Hahahahaaaa..

You think I don't know how you stalk me Everytime? Yet you are ashamed of haven chatted me up.
Yet you can't get over me.
Yet you keep track of my old and new moniker.

Abeg, hug your lonely pillow.
Im moving forward and it's paining uuuu kikikikiiii...

Swear that this guy below is begging you Chai I have suffered.

MufasaLion:
Seems you qouted the wrong person.

Yeah sorry for that

FanOfMyself:
God forbid, me and you to the alter. Tufiakwa

Hahahahaaaa.. yes God forbade it because he later opened my eyes to your ugly past.

You lied that you don't smoke even though your lips says it all. But I dug into your old moniker which you immediately deleted after you DMd me and found out you were a chain smoker, a bad boy and you're not even Igbo like you claimed.

Did you ever wonder why I told you i was no longer interested that faithful day?
Did you?

Even when you came back begging, did you know why I still refused to have anything to do with you? Tega? Igbo boy bearing Tega. Hmm...

Let me stop here.

Just stop following me about because I was done with you a very long time ago.

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

My sister let me tell you the biter truth. Your on own brother will never really on one Child.
Me I can't never accept that from any partner. Na you need ham no be your partner so go ahead to do it alone

FanOfMyself:
Swear that this guy below is begging you Chai I have suffered.

Childish!

Chidi, I'm done with you and nothing will ever make me look your way.

Just let me breath on here and stop stalking me. I'm done, done done.

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

Why don't you get a hysterectomy and allow someone's son enjoy his fertility? I can never understand how people who claim to love others project their insensitivity and selfishness on them.

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

Many comments have already pointed out this cold truth - you are selfish. You really need to work on becoming more selfless before considering marriage

Mercychen:
Hahahahaaaa.. yes God forbade it because he later opened my eyes to your ugly past.

You lied that you don't smoke even though your lips says it all. But I dug into your old moniker which you immediately deleted after you DMd me and found out you were a chain smoker, a bad boy and you're not even Igbo like you claimed.

Did you ever wonder why I told you i was no longer interested that faithful day?
Did you?

Even when you came back begging, did you know why I still refused to have anything to do with you? Tega? Igbo boy bearing Tega. Hmm...

Let me stop here.

Just stop following me about because I was done with you a very long time ago.

You are really sick oo, I am unapologetic Igbo, I don't know what your definition of a bad boy is but I wasn't born a saint. I am not a smoker.
I just advised you.

Mercychen:
Childish!

Chidi, I'm done with you and nothing will ever make me look your way.

Just let me breath on here and stop stalking me. I'm done, done done.

Childish or whatever, I want you to post a picture of you and let nairalanders judge if someone as handsome as I am will be begging you for a relationship as you claimed. Unless na JuJu. Kai I have suffered.

Mercychen:
You are the weyrey here. cos all I did was suggest and I never forced it on him. So what's weyrey about that?

Since when has it become a crime to express my thoughts and declare my choice?

Ok, would you rather he forces his choice of having a battalion on me even when I don't want it?

Reason before you talk next time.

I have been reading some of your comments on this thread

In fact, you read them again

You need to be more aware of yourself

You come off as selfish, rude, ignorant, entitled, apathetic, and the list goes on

My last advice to you is put yourself in his shoes and see things from his perspective

FanOfMyself:
God forbid, me and you to the alter. Tufiakwa

Why did you delete and halve your previous comment? You thought I won't see it?
I've already quoted it so it's pointless modifying it.

You think denying it will make you look any better?
I'm not a pretender like you? I'm very plain and transparent. I'll never deny anyone just to look good before people.

Just take a hold on yourself cos I know it's still eating you up that you didn't get the chance to sit with me in person after story of the Ashirawealthy saga flooded online with pics of me and a nairalander. It pained you badly because you were there before him. You only saw but you never got close to sitting and taking pics with me.

E pain am. Kikikikiiii

@Op, you are not in a position to determine that you will have only 1 child. You know why; because your first pregnancy might be twins. What will you do if that happens? Can you now see why I said you’re not in a position to determine that you will have only one child? Bear in mind that you are a twin yourself and there is a chance that you might have twins yourself even with your first pregnancy.

That said, why did you not suggest to him that you will have a hysterectomy or tubal ligation procedure to confirm that the one child policy will then happen?

Why was it you who suggested that he should do a vasectomy? If he was in agreement with you from his heart to having only one child; the idea of vasectomy would have come directly from him without you even suggesting it to him.

Now let me turn the tables around and say if he was the one who said I only want one child and after you have the child, I want you to do a hysterectomy; would you have accepted his suggestion?

If this were to be your son and he comes to you to tell you that the woman he wants to marry is suggesting that he do a vasectomy; will you as his mother encourage him to go ahead because he wants to please the woman he wants to marry? (Don’t give me that "It's none of my business and you won’t want to interfere in your son’s life" as an answer as I will take that with a pinch of salt).

If this was your brother who came to you and told you that the woman he wants to marry has suggested vasectomy to him; what advice would you give your brother?

The world should not revolve around you alone when you are in a relationship and don’t put yourself in a position where people will see you as someone who wants to have her way irrespective of whose ox is gored.

Lastly, indeed your suggestion to him of having a vasectomy comes across as a very selfish one. At the very least, when you suggested vasectomy to him; you should have also suggested hysterectomy or tubal ligation procedure for yourself; then, the equation would have balanced nicely.

FanOfMyself:
Childish or whatever, I want you to post a picture of you and let nairalanders judge if someone as handsome as I am will be begging you for a relationship as you claimed. Unless na JuJu. Kai I have suffered.

Comrade ... No be lie, YOU FINE ..... If na you truly... Abeg rest the CASE WITH MARGARET THATCHER.....

FanOfMyself:
Childish or whatever, I want you to post a picture of you and let nairalanders judge if someone as handsome as I am will be begging you for a relationship as you claimed. Unless na JuJu. Kai I have suffered.

So you can drool over it?

I'm not into childish games with you.
Just stop mentioning me. I'm done with you abeg. I don't go back to my vomit.

Mercychen:
Why did you delete and halve your previous comment? You thought I won't see it?
I've already quoted it so it's pointless modifying it.

You think denying it will make you look any better?
I'm not a pretender like you? I'm very plain and transparent. I'll never deny anyone just to look good before people.

Just take a hold on yourself cos I know it's still eating you up that you didn't get the chance to sit with me in person after story of the Ashirawealthy saga flooded online with pics of me and a nairalander. It pained you badly because you were there before him. You only saw but you never got close to sitting and taking pics with me.

E pain am. Kikikikiiii

Seriously you are sick.

FanOfMyself:
Seriously you are sick.

Swear say e no pain you.
Uchu!

I will abuse you small...you are stupid for asking him that and also getting annoyed to hear a negative response...

Just let the guy be...you are not ready for marriage.
You should stay single and be happily miserable...


O de.

freeborn02:
Can you allow your son or brother to do vasectomy, you dried brain idiot?

I don't know why you all still take this old hag nursery school teacher serious.
40 something years old hag without a womb trying to manipulate an innocent man into committing an act he will always live to regret.

Hathor5:
I didn't take this thread seriously at all. I doubt the authenticity of this story and OP can be quite disrespectful so it is hard for me to feel sorry for her. Last time I had a conversation with her, not even an argument, she made a disrespectful joke. I often see her rubbing people the wrong way for no good reason at all.

What is worse though is that one woman will insult another woman because of menopause and not having a husband. Is it what their self-worth depends on?

What has your having a husband and children got to do with anything? Has it saved humanity or the country?Are you a better human being now?

Nonsense.

At times we need to look beyond the personality of the person posting or creating a thread, if the topic is worth commenting on we should do because issues like are what many people face but don't know where to turn to, but they coming across it will help in their decision making.

eneye1:
I was shocked. I withdrew , she does not want it. I can't talk. E tire me

What attracted you to her in the first place? I find feminist disgusting. Even during s*x, she wants to be on top while you are under her. She will share domestic works between the two of you.

You see it? Watch oyibo film with unserious mind, you wouldn't listen. Now it's affecting your reasoning. What the hell is only one child? Your parent produced only you? See this is Africa and no matter how long you watch and enjoy oyibo films, you can't be them and for your information,even oyibo people don't produce only one child. I think you have PhD in foolishness and that young man was trying to liberate you from it.