I actually like coming to the family section because I believe I will get answers from matured people.

Please I want to know if I have pride or not and how to deal with it.

First off, I find it difficult dealing with people. Like interacting with people where they are much, I just like being on my own. Is this pride? Like not wanting to speak to people in public?

But then, when in a confined space I’m free to speak. Maybe it’s the crowd I don’t like I don’t know.

Again, I figured sometimes when people ask me about things like business and what I do, I easily tell them because I do online work and tell them how it is. This is because I want those asking to earn too if they want to venture into online work because I don’t believe in hoarding things. Is it pride if I talk of my earnings anytime someone asks?

I’m at the NCCF house (those doing their nysc would know what I’m saying). And one guy I just made friends with called me and spoke to me in parables. He said eyes are on me and that I should not always let my left hand know what my right hand does something and that in the house, everybody has but pretends that they don’t have and that I should follow that trend too.

Please do I have pride?

There is how you may become too outspoken then become too loud. You may need to learn to keep your success to yourself. Telling a lot of people’bout what you earn will invite envy.

Na too much food dey bring all these senseless threads..

Kriss216:
Na too much food dey bring all these senseless threads..

Nonsense stress as in how? I’m saying something that’s disturbing me, how is it senseless?

Nope. It's not pride
you are not the only one.

chatinent:
There is how you may become too outspoken then become too loud. You may need to learn to keep your success to yourself. Telling a lot of people’bout what you earn will invite envy.

Thanks, I need to learn this

I see. To you, it's simply helping people and sharing what you know, but it seems others are misinterpreting it as bragging on your part.

People can be like that. You cannot talk about your wins without them feeling inferior.

You don't strike me as someone who is proud or condescending. Just listen to the guy's advice and navigate things with a balance. Only say what is needed and helpful - when you are asked - but keep the big wins and profit stories to yourself. Tell them the platforms you make money on, don't tell them for working plans ... like I make 2,000k for one article. Just let them know where you write on and all that, no the specifics... something like that, you get?

Because if you keep quiet and never share as well, they'll still hold it against you.

Just be wise and don't have any altercation with anyone there, keep a low profile until you are able to leave the environment.

Magnoliaa:
I see. To you, it's simply helping people and sharing what you know, but it seems others are misinterpreting it as bragging on your part.

People can be like that. You cannot talk about your wins without them feeling inferior.

You don't strike me as someone who is proud or condescending. Just listen to the guy's advice and navigate things with a balance. Only say what is needed and helpful - when you are asked - but keep the big wins and profit stories to yourself. Tell them the platforms you make money on, don't tell them for working plans ... like I make 2,000k for one article. Just let them know where you write on and all that, no the specifics... something like that, you get?

Because if you keep quiet and never share as well, they'll still hold it against you.

Just be wise and don't have any altercation with anyone there, keep a low profile until you are able to leave the environment.

Thanks so much I appreciate.

Stop mentioning amount.

People will hate you for earning way more than then especially in this Nigeria. They'll easily conclude you are a yahoo boy.

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lajid:
I actually like coming to the family section because I believe I will get answers from matured people.

Please I want to know if I have pride or not and how to deal with it.

First off, I find it difficult dealing with people. Like interacting with people where they are much, I just like being on my own. Is this pride? Like not wanting to speak to people in public?
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Please do I have pride?

sounds like social anxiety/phobia , and nothing of pride. There is nothing spiritual about what you described so don't let eejits feed you their spiritual bullsheet abeg!

That's exactly my kind of person. I don't mingle easily because I've come to realize that people take you for granted when you try to be friendly. Though, like you, I don't disclose anything about my job or earnings to anyone.

To your question. It's not pride. It's called minding your biz.

Human beings are evil.

This is not what they call pride, as a matter of fact, u are kind but please keep ur earnings and success to urself.

Not pride
But ur nature

That guy gave u a good advise

Take it n just limit how much u say to strangers becuase it can come back n harm u

Most people don't like susucess. Even when u genuinely desire to help others by explaining and all,most see you differently,because we all think differently.

The reason u talk is because it's your field and may want to help others. Truth is, most people can't ever follow what you say. They will just conclude you are proud or wierld.

So don't talk about your work with others or strangers.

No...it's not pride

My younger brother is just like that....He is very intelligent and smart but doesn't associate with people outside.

He is more of an introvert outside but he is fun to be with inside.

It's just your nature but you can chose to make amends

Jidemoo:
No...it's not pride

My younger brother is just like that....He is very intelligent and smart but doesn't associate with people outside.

He is more of an introvert outside but he is fun to be with inside.

It's just your nature but you can chose to make amends

Yeah, exactly my kind of person. And someone said I’m pretending to be gentle but what they don’t know is I just don’t like crowd like that. I’m more active inside.

lajid:

Please do I have pride?

A truly proud/arrogant person would not care to ask this, so you're good.

Quiet people are usually mistaken as proud. Had the same experience when I was serving that I wove at people like a beauty queen, so full of myself and if this makes you feel better, same Nccf. Yet, I find it off putting and in bad taste, speaking in public about earnings. That may come across as boastful, which doesn't mean you are. Maybe, you are giving too much. If you feel led as I assume you are a Christian to give more than what seems reasonable, give anonymously.

You just keep working hard and expanding your horizons. U are doing great.

lajid:
I actually like coming to the family section because I believe I will get answers from matured people.

Please I want to know if I have pride or not and how to deal with it.

First off, I find it difficult dealing with people. Like interacting with people where they are much, I just like being on my own. Is this pride? Like not wanting to speak to people in public?

But then, when in a confined space I’m free to speak. Maybe it’s the crowd I don’t like I don’t know.

Again, I figured sometimes when people ask me about things like business and what I do, I easily tell them because I do online work and tell them how it is. This is because I want those asking to earn too if they want to venture into online work because I don’t believe in hoarding things. Is it pride if I talk of my earnings anytime someone asks?

I’m at the NCCF house (those doing their nysc would know what I’m saying). And one guy I just made friends with called me and spoke to me in parables. He said eyes are on me and that I should not always let my left hand know what my right hand does something and that in the house, everybody has but pretends that they don’t have and that I should follow that trend too.

Please do I have pride?

No, u are an introvert just like me. We are easily misunderstood by people.

lajid:


Yeah, exactly my kind of person. And someone said I’m pretending to be gentle but what they don’t know is I just don’t like crowd like that. I’m more active inside.

I can be like that too. When they bring it up let them know its your nature. We all can't be the same. Just like they can't be you and you can't be them. Always have this in mind too, you can't please everyone.

You can talk about the platform you earn but when they talk about how much do not disclose. You can just say it is a reasonable amount, its fair enough and the likes.