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Recently, the story of Sylvester Omoroni, an alleged bullied student of Dowen surfaced on the internet. Many people who linked this to bullying gave several accounts of bullying in Nigeria. What does Islam say concerning it? This thread provides an answer

Praise be to Allah.

What is meant by bullying is repeated physical and verbal aggression, which the bully – boy or girl – usually does to others of the same age or younger. The bully relies on his physical strength or his friends or “gang.” In addition to that, he takes advantage of the weakness of his victim, or the victim’s being on his own.

This phenomenon, unfortunately, is becoming widespread in schools and neighbourhoods, and it usually causes grave physical and psychological harm to the victim. Sometimes the negative impact of that may push the victim to suicide, if no one is alerted to his situation and daily suffering.

In order to solve this social problem, after seeking the help of Allah, may He be exalted, it requires the participation of all those connected to the situation, in particular:

The family of the bully:

The family that is affected by this phenomenon should get in touch with the family of the bully and remind them of Allah, may He be exalted, and what He has enjoined on them of taking care of disciplining their children and keeping them away from bad manners and bad behaviour.

Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.”

[at-Tahreem 66:6].

Shaykh Muhammad al-Ameen ash-Shinqeeti (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The man must enjoin his family – his wife, his children and so on – to do what is right and forbid them to do what is wrong, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning), “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire…” And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Each of you is in a position of trust and is responsible for what he is entrusted with…”

End quote from Adwa’ al-Bayaan (2/209).

They should warn them [the bully’s family] of Allah’s punishment in the hereafter, because of their failing to advise their children and restrain them from wrongdoing, for this is neglect and approval of aggression, which is negligence in raising children.

It was narrated from al-Hasan that ‘Ubaydullah ibn Ziyaad visited Ma‘qil ibn Yasaar during the sickness of which he died. Ma‘qil said to him: I am going to tell you of a hadith that I heard from the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). I heard the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say: “There is no person whom Allah puts in charge of others, and he is insincere towards them, but he will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (7150) and Muslim (142).

They should also beware of bad consequences if they do not put an end to the aggression and transgression of their children, for the requital matches the deed, as is indicated by the Islamic texts and by people’s experience.

What all fathers and mothers must do is strengthen the religious deterrent in their children and raise them with sound creed and good characteristics such as tolerance, respect, good manners, love of others, and keenness to help them and be cooperative, and so on.

The family of the victim:

The child’s parents should pay attention to his situation and not neglect him or leave him without any care on the grounds that he should learn to solve his own problems and not be dependent on others.

It was narrated from ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Each of you is in a position of trust and is responsible for what he is entrusted with. The ruler of the people is in a position of trust and is responsible for them. A man is in a position of trust over the members of his household and is responsible for them. A woman is in a position of trust over her husband’s house and children and is responsible for them. The slave is in a position of trust over his master’s wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is in a position of trust and each of you is responsible for what he is entrusted with.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2554) and Muslim (1829).

In particular, in many cases the victim of bullying does not express himself and is introverted, so he hardly tells anyone of what is on his mind. Parents should have a relationship with him that goes beyond the limits of parenthood to friendship, so that the child will be able to express himself to them and will have the courage to speak of his thoughts and his problems. The parents should also visit their son’s school from time to time to find out how he is doing. It is also important to choose good friends for him and allow him to invite them over to the house from time to time, so that they can do some leisure activities or hobbies or homework together. This will make the child more outgoing and will also help him to become close friends with the others, which will protect him from the aggression of the bullies.

Parents should also train their children in self defence, which increases physical and psychological strength, increases self-esteem and will keep the bullies away from them. At the same time, parents should also remind children that the aim of the sports is not to be violent and aggressive towards others; rather the aim is to improve physical health and strength, in addition to developing the ability to defend oneself if necessary.

It is also important to communicate with the imams and khateebs of mosques, and with satellite channels, to remind them to discuss this issue and warn against aggression towards people in word and deed, and to note that the one who does that is deserving of punishment in the hereafter as well as punishment in this world, and so on.

Parents and guardians of other children in the same school or neighbourhood:

It is good to communicate with them and alert them to the seriousness of this problem, and advise them to work together in raising children to support the one who is mistreated and try to restrain the aggressor, and not to remain content to be mere bystanders, watching what is going on, for that is an attitude which is forbidden by Islam.

It was narrated that Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Help your brother whether he is a wrongdoer or is wronged.” A man said: “O Messenger of Allah, I can help him if he is wronged but what if he is the wrongdoer, how can I help him?” He said: “Stop him or prevent him from doing wrong. That is how you help him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6952).

It was narrated that al-Bara’ ibn ‘Aazib (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined seven things upon us and he forbade seven things to us. [He commanded us] to visit the sick, to attend funerals, to say Yarhamuk Allah (may Allah have mercy on you) to one who sneezes, to return the greeting of salaam, to help the one who has been wronged, to accept invitations, and to go along with a vow made by another. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2445) and Muslim (2066).

It is also good to contact the school administration to discuss with them ideas and solutions to eliminate this problem or reduce its impact.

And Allah knows best.

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/285352/a-word-about-bullying

Beautiful...how about warning to those who take life to defend Allah! That someone could be killed simply because he used a paper with the image drawing or photograph of prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) What could be more bully or disastrous than that?

athaboi:
Beautiful...how about warning to those who take life to defend Allah! That someone could be killed simply because he used a paper with the image drawing or photograph of prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) What could be more bully or disastrous than that?

Are you asking about ruling on blasphemy on our noble Prophet or being an apostate? There are many threads created on that already. Please refer to them.

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is being oppressed.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, we help the oppressed, but how do we help an oppressor?” The Prophet said, “By seizing his hand.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2444, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2584

On the authority of Abu Dharr al-Ghifaree (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) from his Lord, that He said:

''O My servants! I have forbidden dhulm (oppression) for Myself, and I have made it forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another''.


Reference : Hadith 24, 40 Hadith an-Nawawi

Rashduct4luv:
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is being oppressed.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, we help the oppressed, but how do we help an oppressor?” The Prophet said, “By seizing his hand.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2444, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2584

Wow m just seeing dis.. Jazakumllahu kayran

Rashduct4luv:
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is being oppressed.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, we help the oppressed, but how do we help an oppressor?” The Prophet said, “By seizing his hand.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2444, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2584

Hmmm. Who saved Ka’b bn Ashraff from Muhammad when Muhammad sent assassins to him?

Leverage2021:
Was Mohamed not bullying his son with his "prophethood" when he went to take his son wife from him

You still had to lie to prove your point.

Muhammad married the divorced lady and he was an adopted son.

And nothing is wrong in this in Islamic law.

advocatejare:
Hmmm. Who saved Ka’b bn Ashraff from Muhammad when Muhammad sent assassins to him?

Who was Ka'b bn Ashraff? And Why was assassins sent to him? Was he innocent of any crime against the Muslims?

When you talk about Bullying especially kids:

(2 Kings 2:23-24)
23 Then he (Elisha) went up from there to Bethel; and as he was going up by the way, young lads came out from the city and mocked him and said to him, “Go up, you baldhead; go up, you baldhead!” 24 When he looked behind him and saw them, he cursed them in the name of the LORD. Then two female bears came out of the woods and tore up forty-two lads of their number.

AntiChristian:
You still had to lie to prove your point.

Muhammad married the divorced lady and he was an adopted son.

And nothing is wrong in this in Islamic law.

Adopted son unadopted son does it change the unjust use of his prophethood to rob a man wife?

AntiChristian:
True, Mohammed was the only prophet to use his prophethood for women snatching

Was Mohammed himself not adopted to warraka with no record of a father figure?

AntiChristian:
Yes he was adopted by warraka and wanted to committ sucide when warraka died because of the closeness

To the topic let me explain what happened and give you your Islamic narrations

Mohammed went to Zaid house and he wasn't around but zynab received him at the door (at least) and she was almost naked with underwear.

It is believed Mohammed was actually aware Zaid wasn't around but went to flirt with his wife this is because all Muslim books agree that Mohammed had a lust for her even before her divorce and wanted her

AntiChristian:
Yes it is confirmed in the Islamic books Mohammed said "praise be to Allah the one who flips hearts during his encounter with zynab

The Quran reveals that Mohammed was an hypocrite that told Zainab Allah flips his heart for her yet would tell the Zaid to keep her knowing fully well Allah has flipped his list for a married woman even before divorce

Sahih International: 33:37

And [remember, O Muhammad], when you said to the one on whom Allah bestowed favor and you bestowed favor, "Keep your wife and fear Allah ," WHILE YOU CONCEALED WITHIN YOURSELF that which Allah is to disclose. And you feared the people, while Allah has more right that you fear Him. So when Zayd had no longer any need for her, We married her to you in order that there not be upon the believers any discomfort concerning the wives of their adopted sons when they no longer have need of them. And ever is the command of Allah accomplished.

AntiChristian:
From the above verse the divorce story is a scam, Zaid is obviously acting on the impulse from the visit of the prophet who has indicated pre conceived interest in his wife before the divorce and obviously he can't be seen dragging with the prophet hence a forced divorce

He told zynab Allah made his heart flip and zynab reported to her husband who had to divorce her because one of the benefits of the prophet is to have anyone he wants

Your Islamic narrations

Muhammad Ibn Umar (d. 207) <– Abdullah Amir Al-Aslami (d. 151) <– Muhammad b Yahya b Habban (d. 121):

The Messenger of God came to the house of Zayd b. Harithah. (Zayd was always called Zayd b. Muhammad.) Perhaps the Messenger of God missed him at that moment, so as to ask, “Where is Zayd?” He came to his residence to look for him but did not find him. Zaynab bt. Jash, Zayd’s wife, rose to meet him. Because she was dressed only in a shift, the Messenger of God turned away from her. She said: “He is not here, Messenger of God. Come in, you who are as dear to me as my father and mother!” The Messenger of God refused to enter. Zaynab had dressed in haste when she was told “the Messenger of God is at the door.” She jumped up in haste and excited the admiration of the Messenger of God, so that he turned away murmuring something that could scarcely be understood. However, he did say overtly: “Glory be to God the Almighty! Glory be to God, who causes the hearts to turn!” When Zayd came home, his wife told him that the Messenger of God had come to his house. Zayd said, “Why didn’t you ask him to come in?” He replied, “I asked him, but he refused.” “DID YOU HEAR HIM SAY ANYTHING?” HE ASKED. SHE REPLIED, “AS HE TURNED AWAY, I HEARD HIM SAY: ‘GLORY BE TO GOD THE ALMIGHTY! GLORY BE TO GOD, WHO CAUSES HEARTS TO TURN!’” SO ZAYD LEFT, AND HAVING COME TO THE MESSENGER OF GOD, HE SAID: “Messenger of God, I HAVE HEARD THAT YOU CAME TO MY HOUSE (to express your heart flip for zynab). Why didn’t you go in, you who are as dear to me as my father and mother? Messenger of God, perhaps Zaynab has excited your admiration, and so I will separate myself from her. Zayd could find no possible way to [approach] her after that day. He would come to the Messenger of God and tell him so, but the Messenger of God would say to him, “Keep your wife.” Zayd separated from her and left her, and she became free. While the Messenger of God was talking with ‘A’isha, a fainting overcame him. When he was released from it, he smiled and said, “Who will go to Zaynab to tell her the good news, saying that God has married her to me?” Then the Messenger of God recited: “And when you said unto him on whom God has conferred favor and you have conferred favor, ‘Keep your wife to yourself .’”- and the entire passage. According to ‘A’isha, who said: “I became very uneasy because of what we heard about her beauty and another thing, the greatest and loftiest of matters – what God had done for her by giving her in marriage. I said she would boast of it over us.

History of Al-Tabari Vol. 8, pg. 1-3

AntiChristian:
Who was Ka'b bn Ashraff?

A Jewish poet

And Why was assassins sent to him?

He said the truth about Muhammad that hurt him and bruised his ego and Muhammad sent assassins to him and Muhammad even permitted his assassins to lie like Allah Al-Makireena the best of the deceivers in order to get close to Kab

Was he innocent of any crime against the Muslims?

Yes, Muhammad insulted and cursed the Jews too.
Other prophets were insulted and even killed yet they didn’t send assassins to their critics

When you talk about Bullying especially kids:

(2 Kings 2:23-24)
23 Then he (Elisha) went up from there to Bethel; and as he was going up by the way, young lads came out from the city and mocked him and said to him, “Go up, you baldhead; go up, you baldhead!” 24 When he looked behind him and saw them, he cursed them in the name of the LORD. Then two female bears came out of the woods and tore up forty-two lads of their number.

Elisha didn’t fight for himself, his God proved to be powerful and fought for him.

Muhammad knew Allah could not fight for him that was why Muhammad sent assassins to Kab

advocatejare:
A Jewish poet


He said the truth about Muhammad that hurt him and bruised his ego and Muhammad sent assassins to him and Muhammad even permitted his assassins to lie like Allah Al-Makireena the best of the deceivers in order to get close to Kab


Yes, Muhammad insulted and cursed the Jews too.
Other prophets were insulted and even killed yet they didn’t send assassins to their critics



Elisha didn’t fight for himself, his God proved to be powerful and fought for him.

Muhammad knew Allah could not fight for him that was why Muhammad sent assassins to Kab

So Yahweh helped Elisha kill 42 lads?

advocatejare:
Yahweh is all powerful, he does as he wills and he’s not questionable.

On the other hand, when Allah and Muhammad were hurt by the words of a poet, rather than prove to be all powerful like Allah boasts to be by divinely dealing with the person Allah and Muhammad decided to send human assassins to the person that used poem to expose their falsehoods and kill the person.

With that action, Allah has proven to be powerless

See hypocrisy! Your God can kill 42 kids who abused Elisha and can't be questioned. But you can question one death in Islam over 42 sinless kids in your Bible.

Case closed.

Elisha didn’t fight for himself, his God proved to be powerful and fought for him

Allah ya mutu yakari seriki banza

na Language l learnt from my hausa friend

Dequilla12:
Was Mohamed not bullying his son with his "prophethood" when he went to take his son wife from
him

Which Muhammad son, let us know with fact

Lukgaf:
Recently, the story of Sylvester Omoroni, an alleged bullied student of Dowen surfaced on the internet. Many people who linked this to bullying gave several accounts of bullying in Nigeria. What does Islam say concerning it? This thread provides an answer



https://islamqa.info/en/answers/285352/a-word-about-bullying

Alhamdulillâh, know Islam and know peace.

They would (like) to extinguish the Light of Allah with their mouths; and Allah is perfecting His Light even though the disbelievers hate (that).

Hmmmmmmm
All these Rulings Here and there . Sha I’m here to Remind you guys that you haven’t called for the Muslim political Elite to be Stoned To Death… Because them done do pass the ones wey Allah dey permit… since y’all are so Extreme with your Religion Abeg make una Do the needful Nigerians are waiting.

No be when I insult Mohammed small una go begin dey hunt me up and down .

advocatejare:
Yahweh is all powerful, he does as he wills and he’s not questionable.

On the other hand, when Allah and Muhammad were hurt by the words of a poet, rather than prove to be all powerful like Allah boasts to be by divinely dealing with the person Allah and Muhammad decided to send human assassins to the person that used poem to expose their falsehoods and kill the person.

With that action, Allah has proven to be powerless

Hahaha Leave Mohammed oooo before him go send Bandits come your House . As for Elisha him just get hot temper anyhow

AntiChristian:
Who was Ka'b bn Ashraff? And Why was assassins sent to him? Was he innocent of any crime against the Muslims?

When you talk about Bullying especially kids:

(2 Kings 2:23-24)
23 Then he (Elisha) went up from there to Bethel; and as he was going up by the way, young lads came out from the city and mocked him and said to him, “Go up, you baldhead; go up, you baldhead!” 24 When he looked behind him and saw them, he cursed them in the name of the LORD. Then two female bears came out of the woods and tore up forty-two lads of their number.

see mumu

Na where una 4k up b this tobic, islam thrives by bullying people in the name of allah, you do this... We stone u, you do this, we chop of your hand, you do this, we behead you, so much bloodlust, islam instills fear not love. I lie?

Even to comment here i was bullied to accept allah.

Leverage2021:
if God is creator and he by himself puts an end to his creation i don't see any fuss there

That's why he is creator, you don't tell me how to use my thing

Your God can do anything He likes but our Allah shouldn't right?
Hypocrite! Bigot

But if an audio allah can't put an end to his creation and needs help from slaves that is an abberation

What happens when Yahweh sends people to kill for him? Does he become audio too?
Folly at it's worst!

It reminds me of how allah claims he hate yawning yet he created yawning and can't stop it

Sahih al-Bukhari 3289

Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yawning is from Satan and if anyone of you yawns, he should check his yawning as much as possible, for if anyone of you (during the act of yawning) should say: 'Ha', Satan will laugh at him."

Why is a "creator " always helpless about things he doesn't like yet created[/quote]Where did Allah say He hates yawning in that hadith?
Compound liar!

There are many things Yahweh created too which includes Evil, Calamity and disaster
I form the light and create darkness, I bring prosperity and create disaster; I, YAHWEH, do all these things.
Isaiah 45:7

Did Yahweh create disaster because He loves it?

Crafteck1:
Na where una 4k up b this tobic, islam thrives by bullying people in the name of allah, you do this... We stone u, you do this, we chop of your hand, you do this, we behead you, so much bloodlust, islam instills fear not love. I lie?

Even to comment here i was bullied to accept allah.

To each way of life is their set of rules! No one forces you to be here!

Can we also say the Nigerian laws bullies us not to steal, etc?