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Mercychen:
Who collect your Christmas rice?
Ta!

waywardpikin:
Nothing mega, you are simply a bitter soul who views anything male as the enemy or as "them", that's why your nephew is bearing the brunt. He will learn fast because of you so that's a good thing.

Mood swings, transferred aggression, etc... these are all useless excuses that women hide behind to treat people (especially men) horribly, but I'm here to tell you that your nephew is not the cause of your problems in life.

If it was another male, once he comes closer to you, you will still try to treat him like shìt. You know why? Because deep inside, you feel like you are trash and you can't give what you don't have.

Mercychen:
Meanwhile you are the one going about all my post sounding bitter. Now am i still the bitter one? Smh.

If I was that wicked, will I even create a post on this issue? Common sense they say is not common.

I see Your words are already haunting you.
Have a filled day.

I come in peace and in peace I go.

Mercychen:
I feel sad and can't sleep after taking out my frustrations on my nephew who came to spend the Xmas hols with me.

Hes actually my first nephew from our eldest sister.and he's been itching to come to my place as I'm his favorite. I always spoil him whenever he's around.

Hes now a big guy but still fond of me. So he came yesterday and we all tripped out to have fun but somehow I've been unnecessarily harsh on him. Like I expect him to know what to do at the right time and if he fails, I'll just yell at him but later start feeling bad for yelling at him. Now because he's a big guy, he feels somehow, unlike when he was still Small that he'll just laugh it off or quickly say, "aunty I'm sorry". Now he'll just look at me like "what again now" and it makes me feel bad.

Today, he called the Mom and told her he'll be coming back on Tuesday. It immediately hit me that I've not been nice to him like he expected. Even when the Mom asked why he's coming back so soon, he said, "when I come, we'll talk." So when he dropped, I asked him to tell me why he's leaving so soon and he just told me it's nothing. So I asked him if he still wants to stay beyond Tuesday, he said if I want him to, he will.

Today was worst because the generator refused to supply light and I began to fume after trying to call the engineer to no avail. So I took out my frustrations on him again. I blamed him for the fault of the Gen and told him it was after touched it, it developed problems and he was like " not again"...
* Gush*! I don't know what's wrong with me.

After everything, I called him and apologized for being so harsh and asked him to forgive and bear with me.
I feel so baaad right now..

Please, I don't want this nonsense to continue tomorrow. So what can I do to control it. I really feel for him.

The Mom just called now asking me why he said he was coming back. I just told her what he told me.. . I guess she's suspecting he's not happy with his stay with me..
Now, she's coming tomorrow.

Modified:

All I created this post for was to get help and I don't care if I get bashed because it's typical of nairalanders to throw shades instead of making sensible contributions to help as expected.

For the records, I woke him this morning and asked if he sees me as being harsh, he said No. So, enough with the insults already.

Trios:
Something is off inside of you, your inner peace is being troubled, few days back you shared a post about deleting twinnys number. I feel you have to speak about how you feel to her, this might ease the tension.. Also you might be lacking something, might be love or companionship.. I hope it gets better

Mercychen:
Nothing is off inside me. I'm a very happy soul. It's just that I don't like people taking my free mindedness for stupidity.

As for my nephew, all I see is, he's now a big boy While I thought it was still the same smally I used to know back then who was humble. I think he's trying to prove a point. He's now a MAN!!!


As for companionship, I'm not lonely o.
Love?? I have self-love and that is enough for me. Can't be bothered about any fake love being paraded out there.

I'm good. Thanks.

Mercychen:
Modified:

All I created this post for was to get help and I don't care if I get bashed because it's typical of nairalanders to throw shades instead of making sensible contributions to help as expected.

For the records, I woke him this morning and asked if he sees me as being harsh, he said No. So, enough with the insults already.

Help2020:
You don't expect him to say you're wicked do you?
But since you have acknowledged your flaws try to work on it..You appear to be a nice person if not you wouldn't have acknowledged ur errors.. First thing I think you should do is don't talk when you're angry..If you're able to do this believe me you'll always have a clearer view everything and also a better judgement.

Trios:
You seem to be very defensive.. If your nephew is 18 and above, he deserves some respect, times have changed, kids grow fast.. Wish you the very best, all the same, something is lacking.. Believe me

Mercychen:
I think not talking when I'm angry would do the trick.

Thanks for your words of wisdom.



He's not 18 yet. Hes Just 16.

Mercychen:
I feel sad and can't sleep after taking out my frustrations on my nephew who came to spend the Xmas hols with me.

Hes actually my first nephew from our eldest sister.and he's been itching to come to my place as I'm his favorite. I always spoil him whenever he's around.

Hes now a big guy but still fond of me. So he came yesterday and we all tripped out to have fun but somehow I've been unnecessarily harsh on him. Like I expect him to know what to do at the right time and if he fails, I'll just yell at him but later start feeling bad for yelling at him. Now because he's a big guy, he feels somehow, unlike when he was still Small that he'll just laugh it off or quickly say, "aunty I'm sorry". Now he'll just look at me like "what again now" and it makes me feel bad.

Today, he called the Mom and told her he'll be coming back on Tuesday. It immediately hit me that I've not been nice to him like he expected. Even when the Mom asked why he's coming back so soon, he said, "when I come, we'll talk." So when he dropped, I asked him to tell me why he's leaving so soon and he just told me it's nothing. So I asked him if he still wants to stay beyond Tuesday, he said if I want him to, he will.

Today was worst because the generator refused to supply light and I began to fume after trying to call the engineer to no avail. So I took out my frustrations on him again. I blamed him for the fault of the Gen and told him it was after touched it, it developed problems and he was like " not again"...
* Gush*! I don't know what's wrong with me.

After everything, I called him and apologized for being so harsh and asked him to forgive and bear with me.
I feel so baaad right now..

Please, I don't want this nonsense to continue tomorrow. So what can I do to control it. I really feel for him.

The Mom just called now asking me why he said he was coming back. I just told her what he told me.. . I guess she's suspecting he's not happy with his stay with me..
Now, she's coming tomorrow.

Modified:

All I created this post for was to get help and I don't care if I get bashed because it's typical of nairalanders to throw shades instead of making sensible contributions to help as expected.

For the records, I woke him this morning and asked if he sees me as being harsh, he said No. So, enough with the insults already.

Mercychen:
I feel sad and can't sleep after taking out my frustrations on my nephew who came to spend the Xmas hols with me.

Hes actually my first nephew from our eldest sister.and he's been itching to come to my place as I'm his favorite. I always spoil him whenever he's around.

Hes now a big guy but still fond of me. So he came yesterday and we all tripped out to have fun but somehow I've been unnecessarily harsh on him. Like I expect him to know what to do at the right time and if he fails, I'll just yell at him but later start feeling bad for yelling at him. Now because he's a big guy, he feels somehow, unlike when he was still Small that he'll just laugh it off or quickly say, "aunty I'm sorry". Now he'll just look at me like "what again now" and it makes me feel bad.

Today, he called the Mom and told her he'll be coming back on Tuesday. It immediately hit me that I've not been nice to him like he expected. Even when the Mom asked why he's coming back so soon, he said, "when I come, we'll talk." So when he dropped, I asked him to tell me why he's leaving so soon and he just told me it's nothing. So I asked him if he still wants to stay beyond Tuesday, he said if I want him to, he will.

Today was worst because the generator refused to supply light and I began to fume after trying to call the engineer to no avail. So I took out my frustrations on him again. I blamed him for the fault of the Gen and told him it was after touched it, it developed problems and he was like " not again"...
* Gush*! I don't know what's wrong with me.

After everything, I called him and apologized for being so harsh and asked him to forgive and bear with me.
I feel so baaad right now..

Please, I don't want this nonsense to continue tomorrow. So what can I do to control it. I really feel for him.

The Mom just called now asking me why he said he was coming back. I just told her what he told me.. . I guess she's suspecting he's not happy with his stay with me..
Now, she's coming tomorrow.

Modified:

All I created this post for was to get help and I don't care if I get bashed because it's typical of nairalanders to throw shades instead of making sensible contributions to help as expected.

For the records, I woke him this morning and asked if he sees me as being harsh, he said No. So, enough with the insults already.

Help2020:
I once dated a lady that has anger issue. She gets angry over everything. One day after she was done throwing venom, she came to me and was like,Aaron you hate me right? I said why will I hate you? Then she opened up to me,told me how her anger issue has cost her many relationships. In fact it became Dawn on me that she needs help. When she is angry en,her mouth will be like ak47 raffle..So I made a promise to myself that I was going help her. About a week after my brother who was living in another city came to stay with us,though not same room but same house.. From the beginning I knew they will crash,lol.So this fateful day I can't really tell what triggered the crash,but the moment this girl was about to open her mouth
To start throwing venom I had no choice than to forcefully shut her mouth with my bare hands.She struggled to free herself but I was stronger than her.While doing that I asked my brother to leave the house that moment, and he did.After about 30 minutes I realized her anger was subsiding, so I had to leave her... You need to see how she later thanked me for stopping her from saying things she would have ended up regretting, cos that has been the case with her..I didn't marry her because I left Nigeria and she could not wait for me.Believe me she confirmed that I'm the best man she ever dated,cos I helped managed her flaws..So sometimes not talking when you're angry is the best way to manage anger

Mercychen:
I just don't know, it happens so fast before I realize or even try to control it.

I'll try.

waywardpikin:
Nothing mega, you are simply a bitter soul who views anything male as the enemy or as "them", that's why your nephew is bearing the brunt. He will learn fast because of you so that's a good thing.

Mood swings, transferred aggression, etc... these are all useless excuses that women hide behind to treat people (especially men) horribly, but I'm here to tell you that your nephew is not the cause of your problems in life.

If it was another male, once he comes closer to you, you will still try to treat him like shìt. You know why? Because deep inside, you feel like you are trash and you can't give what you don't have.

Karleb:
Just look at how she casually said she transferred the aggression of the generator not working on the little boy.

Imagine the guilt the boy probably went through for not fault of his own.

This is the reason why I don't speak to one of my aunt, I don't even pick her calls anymore and I regret calling her on the 25th after so many pressure from my mom. I definitely won't call her on the 1st for sure. This my aunt is such a bitter person.


If it's help you need then this is what works for me, always put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Karleb:
So you expect him to tell you you're harsh while under the your roof so you can yell at him for claiming you're harsh because to you, you're not harsh. Very funny person!

It's like your wicked boss asking you if s/he's wicked because people are complaining s/he's wicked. What will your reply be?

This is the issue with many of you women and you don't even try to fix it but you want to marry and have kids because you have breast and nyansh and monthly period.

Issokay!

kistan:
Don't worry, your bitterness for the male gender never start, I just pity your future husband.

You think the bitterness you exhibit here doesn't have an effect on your life and the way you perceive the opposition sex.

Like I said it's just starting, we are waiting for part 2.

Don't worry, your bitterness for the male gender never start, i just pity your future husband.

You think the bitterness you exhibit here doesn't have an effect on your life and the way you perceive the opposite sex? nah the party is just starting.

Like I said it's just starting, we are waiting for part 2.

She said "i don't know what is wrong with me"

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...


Well, they said once you know the problem, the solution is half sorted. Try your best to not be harsh with him, just try. Issue resolved.


Meanwhile, apart from your conduct with him, would you like to consciously examine your interaction with people in 2022? Just determine within yourself to be more accommodating and relaxed. May God bless you with patience

Mercychen:
Just imagine your judgements. Please I'm not like your aunt one bit. I'm not bitter. I'm not wicked. Just needed help on how to relate with a big boy to avoid belittling him.



And. .. what's the issue with you men?
Because you have that tiny rope between your legs, you think you are above reproof and corrections?

Abeg!

Mercychen:
Just imagine your judgements. Please I'm not like your aunt one bit. I'm not bitter. I'm not wicked. Just needed help on how to relate with a big boy to avoid belittling him.



And. .. what's the issue with you men?
Because you have that tiny rope between your legs, you think you are above reproof and corrections?

Abeg!

Fourwinds:
From what I have seen and read so far, you are not ready to improve..
Truth is bitter. It can be insulting..

I'm better now at my profession because of my former boss criticism.. It was painful then.

Mercychen:
Lol..you just cracked me up with this story.

Maybe I need that kind of understanding man that will be holding my mouth like you did to your girl hahahahaaa... You're funny.

Very funny I must tell you though in my own case, I don't say bad words. I can just yell a little or scatter body to show disapproval. .

I think I'm better now.

Thanks, dear.

Help2020:
Yeah I'm really not comparing you with her though. The story is just buttress my point that not talking when angry can work wonder..
By the way how are you doing?

SpiritLION:
From my assignment, I think inner fulfillment is lacking, and loneliness is dealing with you = FRUSTRATION!

I hope is not what am thinking?? You missed "doing the thing"??

Mercychen:
I feel sad and can't sleep after taking out my frustrations on my nephew who came to spend the Xmas hols with me.

Hes actually my first nephew from our eldest sister.and he's been itching to come to my place as I'm his favorite. I always spoil him whenever he's around.

Hes now a big guy but still fond of me. So he came yesterday and we all tripped out to have fun but somehow I've been unnecessarily harsh on him. Like I expect him to know what to do at the right time and if he fails, I'll just yell at him but later start feeling bad for yelling at him. Now because he's a big guy, he feels somehow, unlike when he was still Small that he'll just laugh it off or quickly say, "aunty I'm sorry". Now he'll just look at me like "what again now" and it makes me feel bad.

Today, he called the Mom and told her he'll be coming back on Tuesday. It immediately hit me that I've not been nice to him like he expected. Even when the Mom asked why he's coming back so soon, he said, "when I come, we'll talk." So when he dropped, I asked him to tell me why he's leaving so soon and he just told me it's nothing. So I asked him if he still wants to stay beyond Tuesday, he said if I want him to, he will.

Today was worst because the generator refused to supply light and I began to fume after trying to call the engineer to no avail. So I took out my frustrations on him again. I blamed him for the fault of the Gen and told him it was after touched it, it developed problems and he was like " not again"...
* Gush*! I don't know what's wrong with me.

After everything, I called him and apologized for being so harsh and asked him to forgive and bear with me.
I feel so baaad right now..

Please, I don't want this nonsense to continue tomorrow. So what can I do to control it. I really feel for him.

The Mom just called now asking me why he said he was coming back. I just told her what he told me.. . I guess she's suspecting he's not happy with his stay with me..
Now, she's coming tomorrow.

Modified:

All I created this post for was to get help and I don't care if I get bashed because it's typical of nairalanders to throw shades instead of making sensible contributions to help as expected.

For the records, I woke him this morning and asked if he sees me as being harsh, he said No. So, enough with the insults already.

Mercychen:
If you can't correct someone without insulting them then how are you different from them?

Free me abeg!

Mercychen:
Oh.. I see.
Im very well. Thank you.

Hope you're good too.