We all face ill-wishers, when we set goals and begin to reach them, no matter at what stage we are now: sceptics, critics, people who taunt us or say that we won’t succeed in what we do. Such people are a very powerful force, because even with “innocent” jokes and
comments they can make you slow down or even stop moving towards your goals. How to deal with ill-wishers? Of course, they are all different, but here
are a few good general tips:
1. First, learn to identify them. Sometimes we just do not realize that someone is our ill-wisher. They can be close friends or family members, so when they say negative things, we
often believe them and take them to
heart. You should remember that there
is a big difference between realists and sceptics. Learn to listen to what others say, and note your reaction. If that upsets you and makes you feel
depressed, then probably these people
are your ill-wishers.
2. Think maybe they are right. As was mentioned above, sometimes
they are just trying to be realistic. They may have good reasons for their
negative attitude. Take a step back and
think objectively why they have doubts and see a real obstacle, and if so, then try to figure out how to
overcome it. If you really want to reach
your goal, you will find a solution. If
your ill-wishers are certainly wrong,
just move on.
3. Reject any negative thoughts they
bring. Enemies will always try to bring to you their negative thoughts, which can raise doubts about your rightness.
Then it can grow and affect the way
you feel about your goals. Stop these negative thoughts as soon as possible! Replace them with positive beliefs. Do not let them beat you!
4. Understand that you will always
have enemies, and don’t take them
to heart In everyone’s life there is at least one enemy. You can not avoid seeing them but you can avoid listening to them. Just smile and do not pay attention to
their words. They will not be able to
affect you if you ignore their words.
5. Try to win them over. Sometimes ill-wishers are your close
people and you can’t ignore them. If so,
it is better to enlist the help of these people, rather than fight them. Try to do it as soon as possible. Tell them that
it is very important to you, and you
need their help. Tell them that you
understand their concerns, but you
really need a positive attitude and support. If they are your close people who care about you, they will become your best allies.
6. Laugh with them. Sometimes people feel uncomfortable when you take some changes and in order to get rid of this discomfort, they come up with different jokes and begin to taunt you. They just do not know how else to react. Be aware of
this and just laugh. If you take their words as nothing more but just a good joke, it disarms them. They can continue making jokes at you, but it won’t longer affect you if you’ll just laugh at them.
7. Have ready-made counter-
arguments and use them. Sometimes people are just misinformed
about what is happening. They may
misunderstand what you are doing.
Think on all their arguments and prepare your counter-arguments. Conduct your small research and justify the correctness of your actions. Then try to “enlighten” your ill-wishers. If
you do it correctly, with a positive and
sincere attitude, you can manage to make a person listen to you, and perhaps even change his opinion. If you fail, then at least you will be much
better informed about their arguments
and won’t let them give birth to doubts
in your head.
8. Be sure that you are doing
something good. Sometimes there is nothing you can do
about it. You can’t convince them, you
can’t avoid them, you can’t laugh with
them… Therefore, you should just ignore them and continue telling yourself that when you reach your
goal, it will be a reward for enduring these people.
Remember that enemies will always exist in your life. But they are just an additional obstacle on the way towards your goal. If you look for solutions, you can defeat them or make them your allies.
http://www.learning-mind.com/8-best-ways-to-deal-with-your-enemies/

Nice!

niyoni: Nice!

tanxs.....

Op,shebi na you dey find how to recognize witches the other time?You must be a very paranoid person o..
Wetin concern me concern enemy talk less dealing with them?
All these scheming for one enemy?
Nah!!
The best way to deal with an enemy IMO is to live life like they don't exist!!!
Even if they do,they can't catch moi
#no time#

slimyem: Op,shebi na you dey find how to recognize witches the other time?You must be a very paranoid person o..
Wetin concern me concern enemy talk less dealing with them?
All these scheming for one enemy?
Nah!!
The best way to deal with an enemy IMO is to live life like they don't exist!!!
Even if they do,they can't catch moi
#no time#

no insult amebo must u comment rubbish on any thread...if u dnt lyk my post...just waka dnt spoil d flows...witch enemy of progress

slimyem: Op,shebi na you dey find how to recognize witches the other time?You must be a very paranoid person o..
Wetin concern me concern enemy talk less dealing with them?
All these scheming for one enemy?
Nah!!
The best way to deal with an enemy IMO is to live life like they don't exist!!!
Even if they do,they can't catch moi
#no time#

thank you ma, your source of wisdom will never dry up.
I thought im the only one trying to consider the type of person the op is, only God knows d type of person he will talk about next, abeg, life is too short to be thinking someone is "doing" me.
May God help us all.

greatgod2012:

thank you ma, your source of wisdom will never dry up.
I thought im the only one trying to consider the type of person the op is, only God knows d type of person he will talk about next, abeg, life is too short to be thinking someone is "doing" me.
May God help us all.

wetin be ur problem...u either hate me or love me but cant change me....get a life u not welcome here

ajos:
wetin be ur problem...u either hate me or love me but cant change me....get a life u not welcome here

na fight?

greatgod2012:

na fight?

wateva...i hate nonsense...better respect urself

ajos:
no insult amebo must u comment rubbish on any thread...if u dnt lyk my post...just waka dnt spoil d flows...witch enemy of progress

no wonder plenty enemies dey your back

slimyem: no wonder plenty enemies dey your back

open example na u.....na envy....r u jealous of dis thread,because it explain who u r.....?