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That's why it's good to make a background check on whoever you want to marry

dobnina:
OP, see your wife's profile on nairaland

You got it! She was advised to open up but unfortunately, she didn't.

Goldbw122:
Hmm at the foundation she should have tell you the truth... But well what is done is done just forgive her and move on ... Just call her and sit her down and let her explain to you what happen I know it is not easy to hear what she has to say but you just have to come to terms with it and understand her own side of the story and.... Forgive her... If she has good character go ahead and marry her... Ok Make her proud again.

Lubbish! People that give this kind of advice are people who can act in deception like the op's wife.

I really can't advice you, this is complex.
Is the 4 for same man abi different men.

She was so happy she finally married a responsible man and about to build a home, but her past is after her.

Anyways if you ever forgive her, she will be loyal. All the best.


MODIFIED:
Op na your wife post be this oh.

My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.


I just feel pity for her, sometimes life can mess someone so up, you will regret living.

Forgiving her will bring out the best in her, if not you have also added to her problems.
Help her continue shaming her enemies.

Nairaland adviser's beg for your forgiveness.

Good luck.

Svp110:
My marriage is barely 2 months. I met her with a child she told me she was from a Muslim polygamous family, which her parents has forced her into a polygamous marriage to a older man with four wives and she was the fifth, she didn't like him but she had to stay wity him to make her parents happy but she ran away from him when she was converted into Christianity and she learned that polygamy was wrong and that was the reason she had relocated to my town city and she said she has no family because everybody has disowned her , I understood her pain but I pleaded her to go back to her parents and ask for their forgiveness which she went after few months and when she return she said her parents were expecting us we traveled to her village and everything went well , she took in for me I have accepted to honour her so I won't put her in trouble with her parents again. Our traditional marriage was 27th of November and she is due to give birth in few weeks, I was in my office when our pastor rang and said he has something important to tell me and I should come at the church premises and arriving at the church , I met my wife she was in tears and the pastor said we should first pray which we did after the prayer he said my wife has something important to tell me , her face was down she couldn't look at me in the eyes and it really baffled me I become scared thinking something bad has happened to the baby or the other child and when she drop the bombshell about her having 4 children I was speechless,  I lost balance and I couldn't even speak for 30 minutes and the only thing I told her if I don't want to see her near my place or else she will be in the mortuary me in prison. I have spent a lot for the wedding Unknowingly she was hiding such secrets from me , my heart is shattered and the pastor bought her back to my house asking me to forgive her, I asked him if he will forgive if she was his wife that did the same thing to her and he couldn't even answer my question but he kept telling me to forgive , I told both of them to get out of my face or I will commit a crime that will land me in prison. I am broken and I curse the day I met the daughter of jezebel. I will take custody of my child after he is born and I swear the daughter of jezebel will pay for all the pain she put me through.

Your pain is unimaginable but you need to forgive her.

Extract the truth from her and take care of your child and wife.

She needs your help at this stage with the delivery date close.

Her profile is on Nairaland and I feel you should read through it.

I am begging you as if she's my sister. She has made bad decisions but please help her become a better person.

I have seen cased almost as bad as this because the poverty in this cursed nation is too much and people are gravely affected by the influence of bad governance and a depraved social space.

I beg you in the name of God to be merciful. Thanks.

U see puna shook prick inside without knowing her well.....forgive her.

This was the reason why they stone steven to death.



WTF MAN?



Damn.. Nasty.. I'm Outta here

Kellzzyy:
I wanted to call you a big fool for this rubbish you just wrote here but I'm just restraining myself.
Big fool.

I will restrain my comment too, Happy Sunday I hope you go to church today...

after4:
Bros, the first mistake you make is marrying a single mother. The question is, why must it be you that should marry her, why did all the other men who impregnated her not marry her? After playing prostitute she now want to look for one clean guy as a retirement plan from oloshoism.

Single mothers (not widows with children) don't deserve a husband. All these ladies should begin to take responsibility for their oloshoism.

ALLAHKADUNA NZEOGU will ask
#why you #why me #why us

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So you seff know Allahkaduna??

Lari03r:
Your pain is unimaginable but you need to forgive her.

Extract the truth from her and take care of [/b]your child and wife.[b]

She needs your help at this stage with the delivery date close.

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which wife??

Why are you all men on this thread sounding so foolish?
una dy craze for head?
abi ogun dy kee una..

Lari03r:
Her profile is on Nairaland and I feel you should read through it.

[/b]I am begging you as if she's my sister. She has made bad decisions but please help her become a better person.[b]

I have seen cased almost as bad as this because the poverty in this cursed nation is too much and people are gravely affected by the influence of bad governance and a depraved social space.

I beg you in the name of God to be merciful. Thanks.

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why una dy zuzu like this naa??
bros, if you reason this kain matter for where I dey, I go fess break bottle for your empty head..
which kain help her to become a better person?

Are you sure you are okay upstairs?

so with this magnitude of deception and daylight robbery, you want the Op to just forgive and forget and act as if nothing had happened??

Na the mumu Op I blame.
what will a sensible young man be doing with a single mother in the first place.
mtcheww.

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there are good chances that the baby shes carrying may not even belong to Op...

Ladies like that don't ever change.
They belong to the streets.
the first man got her pregnant and kicked her out. The second man did the same. and then the third, and then, op, you think you will be able to tame her?


Op, on no account should you take that witch. if she gives birth, try run a dna test and if the baby is yours, collect it and kicked the stupid woman' out forever.

You see? what sex will do to you men??... It's yet to happen.

You meet a woman and the next thing you deem fit is to have sex with her. No background checks, no findings about her and her past. The only focus is on how to sleep with her and if pregnancy happens, marriage. Later you start crying foul when all you refused to do your findings about begin to surface.

Look, relationship is a period you get to know about each other and see if you can accept them with their past or not. But most of you place the cart before the horse and rush into consumating sex which should be the last thing after marriage.

I wonder what y'all think relationship or courtship is all about.

That's the price you pay for misplacing priorities.

Abeg!

Kellzzyy:
I wanted to call you a big fool for this rubbish you just wrote here but I'm just restraining myself.
Big fool.

calm down na

I think the story is genuine. OP is only afraid of disclosing his identity because he uploaded his wedding and/or pre-wedding photos on Nairaland. That was the reason he created another account.
Just under one year union, OP's marriage has yielded 5 kids. Congratulations.

Dailyparrot:
Exactly. Op search nairaland for the story of when your wife narrated her own side of the story. How she was afraid to lose you and all.

Seeing that you just created your account on January 8, I doubt the authenticity of this story and the previous story.

Uyi168:
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why una dy zuzu like this naa??
bros, if you reason this kain matter for where I dey, I go fess break bottle for your empty head..
which kain help her to become a better person?

Are you sure you are okay upstairs?

so with this magnitude of deception and daylight robbery, you want the Op to just forgive and forget and act as if nothing had happened??

Na the mumu Op I blame.
what will a sensible young man be doing with a single mother in the first place.
mtcheww.

You lack sense.

Mercychen:
You see? what sex will do to you men??... It's yet to happen.

You meet a woman and the next thing you dim fit is to have sex with her. No background checks, no findings about her and her past. The only focus is on how to sleep with her and if pregnancy happens, marriage. Later you start crying foul when all you refused to do your findings about begin to surface.

Look, relationship is a period you get to know about each other and see if you can accept them with their past or not. But most of you place the cart before the horse and rush into consumating sex which should be the last thing after marriage.

I wonder what y'all think relationship or courtship is all about.

That's the price you pay for misplacing priorities.

Abeg!

This is not a time to cast blames. If you can't help the situation as a woman, please desist from making it worse.

Svp110:
My marriage is barely 2 months. I met her with a child she told me she was from a Muslim polygamous family, which her parents has forced her into a polygamous marriage to a older man with four wives and she was the fifth, she didn't like him but she had to stay wity him to make her parents happy but she ran away from him when she was converted into Christianity and she learned that polygamy was wrong and that was the reason she had relocated to my town city and she said she has no family because everybody has disowned her , I understood her pain but I pleaded her to go back to her parents and ask for their forgiveness which she went after few months and when she return she said her parents were expecting us we traveled to her village and everything went well , she took in for me I have accepted to honour her so I won't put her in trouble with her parents again. Our traditional marriage was 27th of November and she is due to give birth in few weeks, I was in my office when our pastor rang and said he has something important to tell me and I should come at the church premises and arriving at the church , I met my wife she was in tears and the pastor said we should first pray which we did after the prayer he said my wife has something important to tell me , her face was down she couldn't look at me in the eyes and it really baffled me I become scared thinking something bad has happened to the baby or the other child and when she drop the bombshell about her having 4 children I was speechless,  I lost balance and I couldn't even speak for 30 minutes and the only thing I told her if I don't want to see her near my place or else she will be in the mortuary me in prison. I have spent a lot for the wedding Unknowingly she was hiding such secrets from me , my heart is shattered and the pastor bought her back to my house asking me to forgive her, I asked him if he will forgive if she was his wife that did the same thing to her and he couldn't even answer my question but he kept telling me to forgive , I told both of them to get out of my face or I will commit a crime that will land me in prison. I am broken and I curse the day I met the daughter of jezebel. I will take custody of my child after he is born and I swear the daughter of jezebel will pay for all the pain she put me through.

Honestly, I blame you. Una no dey hear word. Having a child and her stories are all the red lights you needed to chop and move on, but no, you want to be a gentleman, a comforter.
Oya, you will carry this cross gently. If una don marry, You will forgive your wife and nurse ur pain and take care of your large family (praying that there is no more surprise in the future)

Dear Men, any drama or story around who you plan to marry IS A RED FLAG. At best, leave her, move on

Oga, you've been scammed.

Dem tell una to leave single mothers alone but una no go eva hear.

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There's a man in Ikotun, who can tell you what to do if indeed you want to hear the mind of God (I'm assuming you are a Christian since the woman went to your pastor.)

His name is Segun Adebayo. A prophet and pastor of CAWERM Ikotun. A real prophet of God not all these Ijebu-Ode eye-washing pastors, or the sow seed by force pastors.

If you go to meet him, he will tell you the mind of God.

Another one bites the dust ;

Uyi168:
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which wife??

Why are you all men on this thread sounding so foolish?
una dy craze for head?
abi ogun dy kee una..

State your opinion and move on. No need cursing others for not reasoning the same way as you.

Svp110:
My marriage is barely 2 months. I met her with a child she told me she was from a Muslim polygamous family, which her parents has forced her into a polygamous marriage to a older man with four wives and she was the fifth, she didn't like him but she had to stay wity him to make her parents happy but she ran away from him when she was converted into Christianity and she learned that polygamy was wrong and that was the reason she had relocated to my town city and she said she has no family because everybody has disowned her , I understood her pain but I pleaded her to go back to her parents and ask for their forgiveness which she went after few months and when she return she said her parents were expecting us we traveled to her village and everything went well , she took in for me I have accepted to honour her so I won't put her in trouble with her parents again. Our traditional marriage was 27th of November and she is due to give birth in few weeks, I was in my office when our pastor rang and said he has something important to tell me and I should come at the church premises and arriving at the church , I met my wife she was in tears and the pastor said we should first pray which we did after the prayer he said my wife has something important to tell me , her face was down she couldn't look at me in the eyes and it really baffled me I become scared thinking something bad has happened to the baby or the other child and when she drop the bombshell about her having 4 children I was speechless,  I lost balance and I couldn't even speak for 30 minutes and the only thing I told her if I don't want to see her near my place or else she will be in the mortuary me in prison. I have spent a lot for the wedding Unknowingly she was hiding such secrets from me , my heart is shattered and the pastor bought her back to my house asking me to forgive her, I asked him if he will forgive if she was his wife that did the same thing to her and he couldn't even answer my question but he kept telling me to forgive , I told both of them to get out of my face or I will commit a crime that will land me in prison. I am broken and I curse the day I met the daughter of jezebel. I will take custody of my child after he is born and I swear the daughter of jezebel will pay for all the pain she put me through.

So sorry bro.
You need to be more cardful in this life and less trusting

Lari03r:
You lack sense.

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ozwor.

GboyegaD:
State your opinion and move on. No need cursing others for not reasoning the same way as you.

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shut up

Uyi168:
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shut up

I'm not the cause of your frustrations eepa.

Uyi168:
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ozwor.

Unam Ikot

LofP:
There's a man in Ikotun, who can tell you what to do if indeed you want to hear the mind of God (I'm assuming you are a Christian since the woman went to your pastor.)

His name is Segun Adebayo. A prophet and pastor of CAWERM Ikotun. A real prophet of God not all these Ijebu-Ode eye-washing pastors, or the sow seed by force pastors.

If you go to meet him, he will tell you the mind of God.

You people never cease to amaze!

So the "mind of God" wey Jesus Christ tell una 2000 years ago, no be real.... na fake, abi? Na other men go come tell you wetin dey God mind instead?

No wonder Christianity as practiced today is awash with so much foolishness(of men), and near nothing of God's Truth.

Kellzzyy:
I wanted to call you a big fool for this rubbish you just wrote here but I'm just restraining myself.
Big fool.

As in eh....
I don't even know what degradatory name to call that fellow sef...

Even that "big fool" you called him/her is a compliment sef