Tripitaka:

My question is this, do women have these same worries as men do before their marriage or do they just believe that everything will be fine?

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Tripitaka:
So, I plan to propose to my partner of 2yrs before the end of the first quadrimester.

I must say she has been a blessing to me and ticks 90% of the boxes in terms of what an ideal partner is. Even though I haven't proposed to her, overtime she believes we will get married some day.

Now, in the lead up to this proposal certain thoughts have been running through my head and these include:

● How will my first meeting with her parents be? What if the dad doesnt like me? Heard he is very strict.

● How much do I need to budget for a proper but modest ceremony? She is the jewel in her family and honestly deserve a proper ceremony, even though not expensive.

● How do I pop the question? Yes, it doesnt have to be exquisite, but I want to give her a memory.

● How many kids will we have and what if we dont get the genders we want amongst this number?

● What if she becomes a different person after the wedding? I can say that I know her to a high degree; but then she is another human.

● How will the logistics for the wedding be done considering I stay in the North Central, my family lives in the SE while hers live in the SS.

● Will she expect me to post her on my Whatsapp? This is considering that I haven't posted a picture there in 4yrs.

● Will I still be able to get my usual alone time?

● Will she always trust my judgement just as she does now?

● What if she is influenced by her mother? I'm aware that most mother-in-laws have a huge say in their daughter's marriage with the man being ignorant of this.

● Will she love my family?

● What if we have financial difficulties?

My question is this, do women have these same worries as men do before their marriage or do they just believe that everything will be fine?

Please this thread is for women to chip in the thoughts that occupied their minds the most in the lead up to their marriage.

No need replying if you're not a woman.

Tripitaka:
So, I plan to propose to my partner of 2yrs before the end of the first quadrimester.

I must say she has been a blessing to me and ticks 90% of the boxes in terms of what an ideal partner is. Even though I haven't proposed to her, overtime she believes we will get married some day.

Now, in the lead up to this proposal certain thoughts have been running through my head and these include:

● How will my first meeting with her parents be? What if the dad doesnt like me? Heard he is very strict.

● How much do I need to budget for a proper but modest ceremony? She is the jewel in her family and honestly deserve a proper ceremony, even though not expensive.

● How do I pop the question? Yes, it doesnt have to be exquisite, but I want to give her a memory.

● How many kids will we have and what if we dont get the genders we want amongst this number?

● What if she becomes a different person after the wedding? I can say that I know her to a high degree; but then she is another human.

● How will the logistics for the wedding be done considering I stay in the North Central, my family lives in the SE while hers live in the SS.

● Will she expect me to post her on my Whatsapp? This is considering that I haven't posted a picture there in 4yrs.

● Will I still be able to get my usual alone time?

● Will she always trust my judgement just as she does now?

● What if she is influenced by her mother? I'm aware that most mother-in-laws have a huge say in their daughter's marriage with the man being ignorant of this.

● Will she love my family?

● What if we have financial difficulties?

My question is this, do women have these same worries as men do before their marriage or do they just believe that everything will be fine?

Please this thread is for women to chip in the thoughts that occupied their minds the most in the lead up to their marriage.

No need replying if you're not a woman.

ColdHunter:


For the most part, women think about
- the expected glamour of the upcoming wedding (not necessarily the financial implication)

- the thrill of having their own home

- child birth

- and the hope that the man will always desire them.

Lalalsticlala

Bola146:
Always cut your cloth according to your cloth not size. Go for the lady that who has the same vision and good communication with you. If you are still having doubts in your mind, deal with it first to avoid stories that touches.

Opeyemiextra:
I think that these things should have been thoroughly discussed in those 2 years so that there is a plan you both are set on working with. This plan might not fully work out and would sometimes need to be reviewed but there should be an idea on family and all that is binding for both of you.

Tripitaka:


You may need to read between the lines.

Never said I'm unsure of her nor ignorant of her vision. This post is just me thinking aloud; it really isnt that deep.

Amanee:



As usual, you're not a woman but you're already making delusional conclusions about women

Tripitaka:


Of course we have had these discussions but as is in my OP, she is still another human being. You wouldn't think I don't know someone i intend to marry well enough.

Again, I'm just thinking aloud. In life, you can never be too sure.