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Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by BarrElChapo(m): 11:38am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Dear younger sis. Even if you do want to keep the baby which I support. Pls forget about marriage for now and go get a university education. At 21 you still have the opportunity to make something out of life irrespective of the current situation as you have parents who are willing to train you. Love is not sex and sex isn't love. Sex is primarily for procreation. Can you picture you at 30 no education and probably with 3kids, would this be an ideal life for you or better still what is your plan if you drop out and move in with your bf and his family? ) 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Petriaa(f): 11:39am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Pls and pls no matter what u do,do not allow her go stay with the boy in question or his family.You guys should support her in taking care of the child when she delivers and if possible send her to go stay with a relative in another state.she should go back 2 school.If she stays with the boy her destiny don finish be that. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by drimzsmoke(m): 11:40am On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZALA64: Mature women with money and stable husband do cry in pregnancy...please,help me to tell you sister that she will cry a lot,as in,A LOT.She has no money,no good support system and she wants to carry pregnancy.I gave 1 young girl (21yrs that year too) this same advice in my class,she got pregnant and I begged her with everything to abort,I even used my money for transport and went to her place,still she said no.I gave her all the possible out but she was adamant with her "no"....I'm sure she regrets keeping that baby everyday now!!! |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by ekensi01: 11:41am On Feb 02, 2022 |
@ZALA64 Better dont give up on her, if you do it will be a pain in your ass too. I know how a friend is surfering because of his sister wrong decision. Im feeling for him. you too will surely be pained cause its your blood. in another way dont completely write the guy off, (tomorrow is in Gods hand). Talk to him also |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by sammirano: 11:41am On Feb 02, 2022 |
It all boils down to parenting. To before warned... Parents should let their children know limits and consequences. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by peleson1: 11:41am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Ur dad is right to be angry and disappointed with her because he sent her to school to better her life but she couldn't read and pass so ur dad felt it was the boyfriends cause .. The shame is too much for him now. Let her be.... If she has the required support,she can finish her school while still raising her kid. Mechanic is not a bad thing..it is a skill that can put food on her table from the guy if he manages his resources well. The guy can plan with u people support and relocate overasea with ur sister. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Originalsly: 11:42am On Feb 02, 2022 |
" You can take the horse to the water but can't make him drink. You even said she is strong headed. She is 21.... an adult in any part of the world. As a sister... you've done your part.... advise her... the rest is up to her. Some people have to learn the hard way... she is one. Some people cannot see farther than their nose .... but do not take advice on what lays beyond ... she is one. She is not a dullard ... but failed A Levels ... a second time ... nothing to show .... but has now brought home pregnancy. You are yet to figure out she has no interest in education but in men ... the pregnancy to show for it. Your father putting her out is not wrong ... isn't she an adult and has the right to chart her own life? What's wrong in him allowing her the freedom to do so? Under his roof she has to abide by his rules. She chose not to.... two roosters cannot live in the same pen. It is called "tough love". This is the beginning of reality check for her.... if the uncle decide to take up the burden... good for him. Why didn't the guy provide her accommodation?... you don't have to worry about marriage .... the guy is more likely to continue seeing her as long as the pregnancy is not interfering with his sexual pleasures.... and when it does.... he will be ghost. If her history is bad... the guy is likely not to own up to the pregnancy. Advising her to take an abortion is really bad advice. Allow her the time..... things will settle for better or for worse. This happens all the time in millions of families all over the world. Relax. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Nobody: 11:44am On Feb 02, 2022 |
kkins25:Oga rest please. No follow me talk . I said what I said and will say it again. No right thinking man with honor, principles, morals and ethics will wife a single mother. It just shows how pathetic, beta and simpish you are when there are many untouched godly beautiful ladies it's another man's unfinished or paused game I will go and be playing(God forbid) asides that you are responsible for another man's child Maybe you were raised by a single mum or your sisters are single baby mamas and you intend to marry one yourself that's why you turn advocate for single mothers association 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by ProphetofOdin: 11:44am On Feb 02, 2022 |
My advice to your younger sister is that bringing a child to the world is a huge responsibility and it is quite expensive, from the first month of pregnancy to the day of delivery u would need nothing less than 500k to bring a little human being into the world. Before you start talking about pampers, and baby food, I know abortion is a sin in some religious beliefs but having a baby now will distort her life and she will have to work extra hard later in life to reach her true potentials later in life(that is if she and the guy are lucky). And then there is a possibility of the said guy being a deadbeat father with no source of income and possibly without a roof over his own head not to talk of a mother and child. I will stop here, i really don't like advising people so she is lucky. I have seen friends make these mistakes and they are struggling today. 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by juniorstar(m): 11:45am On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZALA64:You see girls matter ehn..i don give up..the best thing be say una try una best girl wey come life come suffer go still suffer no matter how una try reach..shey she talk say she wan get belle and keep am..make she begin hustle ooh ..cos that boy go take her eyes see ween abi she think say na love dey shark am...when bills enter e go clear na una go still be the saving grace..make una tell am ...say wetin she she make she carry am ooh as she don big. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by ylordy(m): 11:47am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Abortion is out of the picture but a guy that is not well to do, he can't even take care of himself talk more of the girl and child....what is he thinking impregnating a lady. The truth is the lady will definitely suffer in the hands of the guys family, mother inlaw will show her small pepper. The girl should forget love it will not and will never take her far she is really in a mess she need to calm down and think what she will do with her life now cause any decision she makes now will definitely make the matter either worst or better. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by flyingdutchman(m): 11:48am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Young lady (pregnant girl), yours is not the end of the world. Focus on TWO THINGS: 1) Preparing for a safe delivery, 2) Learning skills to make money and survive. Do not marry until you are VERY SURE and mature in age. That said, I wish you the very best sweet heart. I know you must feel low right now. Be strong! |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Flier: 11:48am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Lot of useless father out there,how can you throw a child away because she got pregnant by mistake? Infact it should serve as eye opener for such father,take good care of the pregnant and send her back to school once she put to bed |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by seyz91(m): 11:50am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Wish she could come stay with you make you pour more akamu inside her abi Bad boy You won add belle ontop trouble belle Kosoco: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by tiswell(m): 11:50am On Feb 02, 2022 |
bencarson007:build and maintain a good masculine frame(financially and body-wise),single fathers are never a bad market,except you are financially handicapped. There are a lot of nice single ladies that would gladly accept to be yours 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by TruthisOut: 11:50am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Lesson to learn: When your sister, child fails to get admission at the first attempt immediately leaving secondary school. You need to pay close attention to her activities. This kind of things - unwanted pregnancy, bad gang, weed smoking etc. results. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by eteebanky1: 11:52am On Feb 02, 2022 |
All they know is sex!!! you never gain admission into the university, you already having sex....shame on you! Don't blame grandpa, he is scared of liabilities, miss no shame, it is better you press code red with immediate effect fools, they Keep overpopulating this useless country with unwanted pregnancy. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by TuFab(f): 11:54am On Feb 02, 2022 |
The deed has been done already, your parents should start thinking of how to collect the child from her father 6 months or a year of nursing. They should help her care for the child while she goes to school. Simple. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by enny234: 11:57am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Originalsly: " You can take the horse to the water but can't make him drink. . Advising her to take an abortion is really bad advice. Allow her the time..... things will settle for better or for worse. This happens all the time in millions of families all over the world. Relax. Why do you think an abortion is bad advise? You see the number of children on the street and you are not alarmed? You want her to add to the statistics? An abortion at 8 weeks can be carried out with only the use of drugs with little risk of complications Isn't that better than taking the chance on a child who would probably wish to come into the world in better circumstances? Let's not talk of the upbringing or lack of it he would be exposed to by this mother and father |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Nobody: 12:00pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
Dont abort the kid, try to she may have to put off her studies temporarily, to at least wean the child, but nothing is impossible if family decides to help out, she can still complete her studies and raise the child. Children should not suffer for the bad choices made by their parents. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by bencarson007(m): 12:00pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
tiswell: Depends on what you call financially handicapped. My income is 6 figures monthly so I don't think money is an issue. As for looks, I am not bad looking at all. You have no idea of what a male child is these days with all the wild girls and wild advise they get on the streets. If the heir is not from their womb, Bleep it they are not interested as they feel that someone someday will come grab all they sweated for. I know what I am saying. I am in that position right now. I also have a friend in the same mess. He is 40 now and has an 18 year old son from a past fling in his younger days. The last lady left him last year and that was after he tried to tell her about his son. Aunty Japa. My friend earns close to 600k a month and drives a posh SUV. trust me, the girls that stayed just ate some good money and simply moved. No be only women dey suffer this single parent thing . men are now being caught up by their past sins. Anyways thanks for your comment. Na me wear the shoe so knows where it pinches. Enjoy ur day jare make I go continue my cry and search 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by AmazingELixir: 12:01pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
Op you no try oo.....nairaland wey somany bad mouthed Mofos full naim you tell your kid sister to come see comments...anyways happy comment reading. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by enny234: 12:01pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
For everyone reading, it's best to abstain if you are not ready for a child If you can't, practice safe sex However, latex allergy, burst condom, inadequate funds for condom, poor understanding of safe period etc are not enough reasons to bring a child into this world Childbirth should be a planned, deliberate process not something left to chance Do not listen to the success stories of those children born out of wedlock or to single parents etc, they are a minority Majority end up as people who we want to avoid |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by LordReed(m): 12:01pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZALA64: Your sister is being foolish. She wants to sell her future for what we can't even tell. This isn't about religion but her survival which you rightly pointed out but she wants to go to where even angels fear to thread. Just let her know that if she goes she only has herself to blame for whatever outcome she gets. Your dad is not reacting well to this issue as well. This not the time to disown her. She has already made one mistake the way he is acting is only going to compound the issue because she is obviously missing parental guidance. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Dmamasboy(m): 12:09pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZALA64: There is so many wrongs and not just on her part too. The fact that your concern goes beyond the religious aspect it’s a big wrong. The fact that you want her to abort the pregnancy is a huge wrong. I would assume that you are Muslim since you brought up the religion part, this will mean you and your sister are terrible Muslims. A Muslim woman would know not to associate with a Christian man (only our men can marry Christian women). That part alone is a sin as she has gone against Allah SWT’s command. Fornication is also a sin. But so is abortion (same as murder) and so is making religion take a back step as a Muslim. Too many wrongs cannot make a right. The deed has already been done. Your sister needs to keep the pregnancy. You and your sister need to educate yourselves more on Islam. Your sister needs to end her relationship with the man and she needs to repent. Your father’s reaction is understandable but with time he’ll come around so long as he sees your sister is repentant in her actions and her words. Religion (both Islam and Christianity) is very important because it has a blueprint of how we should live our lives even in this century. Being a Muslim or a Christian by name is not enough, knowing your religion deeply is. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by osazsky(m): 12:10pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
Everything that happened is normal..no issues with the preg cuz she is an adult..but raising a child in this buhari regime is hell..common pampers is out of reach..i paid 60k for pre kg last month.that 60k carry me reach 300l for uni..the main problem is d wicked mother imlaws and hus siblings..i pray she doesn't face wat my aunty faced in the hands of inlaws if she does just like my aunt she may not pass age 38 sorry o..to her she is in love with the guy but no marriage is btw her and his family.if inlaws give u prob my sis u go pray make rapture come now now.if the guy is d first or only son that is d end just rest |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by sleek82(m): 12:12pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
CountVersailles:I'm not sure how you jumped to blame the father...hope you understand it is the same father that raised the op writing this? If the op turned out well, then who go become poki go become poki pikin!!!! |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by emmyrate1(m): 12:12pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZALA64:this is just a one sided story to make the situation look bad. The real truth is that religion is the issue here, ur family doesn't like him because he is a Christian, all this story of the guy family look curse, bla bla is juzt a cock and bull story. If they truly love themselves and have a better plan for each, dont be surprised they might do well in life. Whatever d parents of both party thinks doesn't matter |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by Heterodox(m): 12:12pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
Favfables1:yen yen yen |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by osazsky(m): 12:13pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
Dmamasboy:better than u who kill infidels she didnt kill..get ur head off amajiri..hisband sharia law..b.sc in islamic study and watch nigeria turn to london..y i hate muslims they cant tolerate others but want others to tolerate them.. |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by calcal: 12:13pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
the whole family looked cursed to me Is it because they are not rich? Your father is a big problem, he is one of those parents that depend on children for their own retirement plans. he believes your sister is spoiling his plan. You said "your sister is olodo" that's fine, let go for fashion designing or hairdresser, or is that a shame to your family again? your family is one of those proud families. zehn |
Re: My Sister Got Pregnant At 21 And My Dad Is Not Taking It Lightly by BigBashiru: 12:13pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZALA64: 21 is the right age to get pregnant for a woman. Its better than having boyfriend up and Dan. They should get married. Ur dad na mumu.... |
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