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@Cityboy08
this was a simple case u complicated it by moving with you cousin. No be so
wisdom. They were accusing you, u stil move in with her... Haba salt on top would.
let her go and meet a female friend or leave her with the apartment and go home back.

save money and try to leave the town.
let her try and survive alone. Thats ur parent we are talking about. Your mum isnt the problem you are. Just be humble you wont see somethings u are seing.

you never see wahala b4. The issue is for you to try and leave her for good

Cityboy08:
just a bunch of troublesome women everywhere, pls tell me why her problem is now with my cousin or her younger sisters child how can someone be this heartless is it because the mom is dead

Bro u no supposed to let ur mom know where u day stay na with this kind tin wen day happen

LilMissFavvy:
You said you are 7boys in total, and when you were with your family, your female cousin came to stay there? That was totally wrong. No female cousin can be safe with 7 males in a home, it's only a matter of time, you people will sexually abuse her, that is the truth and that is what a sensible person would fear. Now you have taken her away to stay alone, it is wrong. Prevention is better than cure. If you were a girl it wouldn't matter, but you are a guy for God's sake. Try and get connected to an aunt who can accommodate your cousin. You should also return her rent money which her dad gave her.

I know you are trying to help her, but it's wrong to live together like that without some adults around.

What are you saying so one can't leave with his family member again

You are evil yes u are evil

Don't have that plan to arrest any of ur parent, no matter thier action just play deaf ear and hold ur self strong, instead if the problem persists, just get close to ur Rv or pastor and report such matter so that they can help u as well.

Cityboy08:
Good evening everyone


Pls mind my errors it’s my first.


So my mom and I haven’t been on best of terms when I was staying with them, my mom is a kind of person that if it doesn’t go her way or if you don’t do what she wants you are her enemy.

I left owerri march last year to come stay with my parents and since then it’s been hell, my moms urge to control everything that happens in your life is too much if you don’t do it she removes you from the circle of her children,

What do I mean by that let’s assume they don’t have food in the house n you have 5h with you, you go to buy something to eat cause you didn’t eat since morning after coming back from work n my mom sees you she I’ll pick offense won’t talk to you for a week, saying why during you bring the money let her cook for her children, and mind you we are seven boys in the house.

Now to the main part, her younger sister that died 2018 and the husband got married to another lady that ended up maltreating the kids The elder sister which is my cousin was always in battle with her step mom spiritual n physical, she says she wanted to leave the house n come to my moms place in Abuja which the dad was happy s was bout cause he was tired of her.

Her dad called my mom she picked her up n brought her to Abuja to start a new life, fast forward to recently the dad chased her younger brother too out of the house he had to sleep on the street and in the morning we boarded a bus to Abuja for him he came with no cloth or bag just how he was, then after that he and my mom started having issues. Mind you me n my cousin and mom have already started having issues but let’s skip that for now.

The boy is 15 years old, he said he saw my brother peeing on the ground in the toilet which is my younger brother who is also 13 they are age mates, so he said he told him to stop peeing on the ground and pee in the wc that what if another person comes now the toilet wil be smelling then that he (my younger brother started shouting at him), saying it’s his toilet he I’ll pee where he wants to.

So they had an argument and my cousins brother went to report to my mom, my mom started shouting at him that why would he tell him not to pee on the floor that is he mad like that like that, The boy was shocked at he response n said he wants to go back to his house in Lagos where they just chased him out from mind you this was just 3 weeks after he came,

Then my mom started ranting and saying that it’s my cousins that’s eating all of my money in this house mind you I was at work I was ent home,

My cousin didn’t utter a word too she was avoid the trouble that was brewing the, Dad came back the boy told my dad I was crying saying that he wants to go back to his house the next day he boarded the next bus and left till the date of typing this my mom hasent called him a 15yr old boy that lost his mom n took you as his mum,

So back to me from there you could see the trouble at home it got to a point my mom was saying I was sleeping with my cousin which came as a shook to me cause I’m never home anything to just stain my name or get me angry so she planned with my dad and they started telling my cousin to pack her things and leave the house someone that came to you for shelter cause they said her stepmom wanted to kill her my mom got a revelation that was if she goes back she’d die.

My mom played deaf to that one and kept on insisting she should go back and leave her house and being I was already planning to get an apartment for myself December my cousin called her dad her dad sent her half of the rent and we paid n moved in together since we left the house my mom has been calling all my uncles and aunties telling them that I’m sleeping with my sister which is absolutely wrong on all levels spoiling my name here and there, honestly I really couldn’t care much bebut I’m just disappointed is this how a mum should behave, it was from me not going to church on Sunday to her having issues with my dog saying we were too close or I was to close to my dog then to this now pls someone should just analyze this story and render your advice,

Now they are calling me threatening me that they I’ll use police to arrest me n my cousin n send her back to her fathers house not knowing that her dad was the one that sent her part of the payment, I’m not scared of anyone really cause the useless uncles I have haven’t sent me a kobo since my lifetime then they all want to come n start spilling trash now.

Sorry for the epistle if you made it this far I love you.

Update: guys she my mom came to my house this morning just this morning and saw my cousin I didn’t even know why I let her in in the first place, she saw my cousin and started dragging her cloths almost tearing them and making her naked in front of my younger brothers she brought to my house and was shouting chewing a nuisance even went to all my neighbors knocked on their doors and was shouting to them that I’m sleeping with my cousin tho she spoke Igbo or was speaking Igbo and there are calabar people guys pls what kind of life is this I have left their house still they don’t want me to rest, went to report to my dad and all he could say was and so,

I’m thinking of reporting the case to a police station first then next time they come here to cause a nuisance in my apartment they’d be arrested.

Your father has a major blame in all these. A husband should be able to check the excesses of a wife that is misbehaving. It seems your father don't have a firm grip on the family. He is afraid of your mother.

If you are a Christian, pray about it. Bind that evil spirit that is controlling your mother.

I have seen women like that. They want to dominate everyone including their husbands.
Ask God for wisdom. Be strong while it last. You will get through it.

You are the evil foooool. Bastarddd without common* sense. When you finally fall under that temptation you will be quick to say "it was the devil" bla bla bla. You didn't see where I said prevention is better than cure.

centboy123456:
What are you saying so one can't leave with his family member again

You are evil yes u are evil

You are a fool! Arresting your parents? I never smoke this kind weed before

There is nothing wrong in even marrying your cousin. You do not share the same parents and that can't be considered an act of incest or whatever. Do everything for your cousins. The boy needs all the support he can possibly get. Marry the lady cousin sef if you both want to have a home together. And be gentle with your Mum. Send her gifts but try to avoid her. Do your duty as a child. The world needs more of you.

Op, go and consult the elders for your village for intervention

Cityboy08:
bro honestly I’m tired I left the house that there was always trouble inside cause I work and earn my money I’m not that rich but I can hold my own but they still won’t let me rest calling everybody spoiling my name,

The girl in quote has a boyfriend a serious man that’s 28
Me I have a gf of 3 years so what are all of them saying I’m 25 they should let me be pls, I’m just disappointed tho honestly

you shouldn't have allowed them know tour place

Dis one choke o. Which kind mama be dis one sef? You have to apply wisdom bro and pls takia of your cousin sister. Dont push her out because of what you are facing now. Only God who sees in secret and open will judge this case and reward everyone involved according to their deed.

Vision4God:
@Cityboy08
U need wisdom in dealing with the situation. If you have d capacity to support the home, pls do it with all joy, you will enjoy d blessings sooner/later.
As 4 your cousins & your mum, understanding&pstience is what's needed.

Don't give up on your mum, make her understand her position in the life's of your cousins.

U mean say mk Op no give up on his mom that’s spilling shii all arnd about him and his cousins, mom that’s got all that kinda attitude Op listed.... she even display dem characters with her own kids, I once knew a woman who was always fighting her husband, then one day d man said our son will marry a woman like u, d woman straight away rebuked it saying my son will marry his own wife.. in Yoruba lailai omo mi koni gbe egun elegun, so definitely she knew that she was a bad type and dosent want her son to marry a woman that posess her kinda character... Ghost mode activated if I be Op

moyosore32:
U mean say mk Op no give up on his mom that’s spilling shii all arnd about him and his cousins, mom that’s got all that kinda attitude Op listed.... she even display dem characters with her own kids, I once knew a woman who was always fighting her husband, then one day d man said our son will marry a woman like u, d woman straight away rebuked it saying my son will marry his own wife.. in Yoruba lailai omo mi koni gbe egun elegun, so definitely she knew that she was a bad type and dosent want her son to marry a woman that posess her kinda character... Ghost mode activated if I be Op

thanks I’m just waiting for a refund for the house I paid for since th EU know this one already so I could get a new one that’s far away and no one knows