https://www.nairaland.com/6906383/younger-brother-bone-throat-pls
Good evening Nairalanders.
Last year, I created the above thread, how my younger brother set 70k on fire, some people did not believe me. But Thank God that 3 nairalanders saw the video evidence when they PM me and I hope they come across this thread so they could testify. I also want to thank everyone for the great and helpful advice.

Although, ever since then, he has been maintaining his lane, he barely talks to me, he greets my dad like he's being forced to greet. And am not happy with his lifestyle, he's my only brother and I need advice pls.

My brother is into yahoo yahoo, he comes home late at night (12 or 1am), sometimes he won't return home till the next day, he keeps wayward friends, he drinks alcohol, he smokes and do drugs {I haven't caught him red-handed smoking, but I'm not a child, his eyes are always red and dim}

My brother is a 2'1 graduate in Economics dept. From uniben. He's refused to get a job... Okay let assume there is no job in Nigeria, my dad's friend offered him a job in Lagos he refuse to go, learn a skill or trade he refused... Okay further your education {probably masters or professional courses} he refused.

We're neither rich nor poor, just an average family. My dad make sure we don't lack basic amenities. There is a roof over our head, he sent us to school, there's always food at home, he advice us despite he's not educated but as a traditional man he's full of wisdom.

Am concerned about my brother because of the high rate of ritual killings and yahoo plus whatever.... Am scared and worried, I don't want my brother to be involved in such crime.

Right now as am typing, my brother is not at home, I don't even know my brother's whereabouts. If one ask me where is your brother? I can't vague of his whereabouts but he returns home very late, sometimes till the next day.

Sometimes our parents are not to be blame for the evil and atrocities done by their children in our society, Honestly some children are from the pit of hell.

My dad has done his best but no changes, he has washed his hands away from his life but deep down I know he's not happy. Nairalanders please, how do I advice my brother.

You, your sister and your dad have done your best. Allow the deaf fly follow the corpse to the grave. Your care is purging him that he misbehaves! If it's in my house, I'll send him packing! You can't be james-bonding in my house and be keeping faces with me! When better hunger hold am, en sense go return.


Nonsense and ingredients.

I don't mince words at all!

Simple. Wash your hands in the same water your dad washed his and clean it and face your life. You can't love someone more than he loves himself.

it shall be well with him keep praying for him to be restored

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Myzubby:
it shall be well with him
keep praying for him to be restored

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I am beginning to get pisses off. Please let the nitwit be jooor. A grown man that has refused to be sensible. My brother this, my brother that. He has chosen that way of life. Then let him be.

This one no be >issue na
Same water your dad washed his hand
U too wash your hands

An adult wey no wan get sense.

Like my mama dey always talk
"She no kill her mother so non of her pikin fit kill her"

You deserve peace
You have other siblings to look after.

Don't be gender biased
Any gender can be a blessing to u

Uniben Iol

As a you g guy, I know of the peer pressure among us youths..
Look, we have only heard your part of your story but not your brother's..

Let him be, let him live his life and make his choices..

That you choose to paint us this story won't make your brother not to succeed and excel..

He is man enough.. let him be..

Am glad he has refused to settle for less with peanuts and meagre earnings and incessant beggings which some relatives might as well use it to spite him..

Let him hustle his way whichever way anyway.

This story makes me sad like very sad.
I know how i was raised.
I know how i had to miss classes in my uni days because of t.fare.
I know how i couldn't graduate with my mates because of school fees
I know how i had to hustle to support my schooling..
I know how i missed my whole neco exams because of t.far.
I know how i missed my crk weac exam because of t.fare..

Your brother is just an over pampared brat.

You guys should allow him survive on his own for some few months and see how he appreciates his blessings..

You might find my advice weird but that’s the best thing for your dad’s sanity and yours, let him send that young man packing his 21 and a graduate. Your dad should simply call him sit him down and tell him he can no longer tolerate his late night keeping because it gets him worried all the time, that he should choose either he comes back before 10pm or he will give him money to rent a house else where. Let him choose from both

Note
The guy knows his the only son and you guys can’t do without him that’s why his misbehaving I wish I can treat his fuckups show him the hard side of life

https://www.nairaland.com/6952581/people-call-me-old-woman

Hello dear, I'm not all that soft on ladies due to there numerous dramas that they being up but to be honest with you I like the way you express yourself freely in bit by bit and seek answers here on nairalandd when something is going through your thoughts when you need one.

I can see that you are passionate about listening to radio station, even going to the extent of contributing to the events going on there, its a good thing and I found out from your explanation that you derive joy from it.

Note that you are inspiring millions of people in your state and Nigeria as a whole from your honest contributions about societal issues on the radio stations. Keep that up and contribute more, perhaps you might change people for the best.

Since you love doing that why don't you find a way to make money from doing so, like becoming a radio presenter, or guest speaker or paid contributor or doing something very related to your hobby, trust me you will feel better, happier and more fulfilled while doing such career after all it's your passionate instinct or groom.

That's my little contribution to your questions.

As for your brother, be a good example to him, never give up on him, love him, pray for him, advice him in a friendly manner and most of all focus on yourself, hobby and career plans that's the most important thing to do now. Understand that after all these circumstances and when you are not around your home, it's who you are and your achievements will only matter.

Sad indeed.
But pray it has a happy ending. At this point, prayers and counselling might just be the key.

We finish school, we dey find work upandan we never get. Dude has a jop opportunity on a platter of gold yet rejecting it.

Life is a indeed Mysery.

Don't give up on your brother

I can bet you since last year till now, he has not made up to half of the money he set ablaze.

He has seen how hard it is outside but pride will not let him humble himself and accept good counsel from home.

Advise him to start a business

Who get cap no get head and who get head no get cap


This life no balance

Cyntie55:
Right now as am typing, my brother is not at home, I don't even know my brother's whereabouts. If one ask me where is your brother? I can't vague of his whereabouts but he returns home very late, sometimes till the next day.

Sometimes our parents are not to be blame for the evil and atrocities done by their children in our society, Honestly some children are from the pit of hell.

My dad has done his best but no changes, he has washed his hands away from his life but deep down I know he's not happy. Nairalanders please, how do I advice my brother.

Dem talk say, " You can take a horse to drink water, but you can't force it to drink". I think you and your folks have done enough for him, so please let him decide now what he will do with himself.

And please, if you have solid evidence of him having committed a crime against others, please do not turn a blind eye as then you will only become enablers in his wrongdoing.

Your father has literally disowned him. You should do the same too. What you should be concerned about is the safety of other family members. Since he’s now criminally corrupt, your lives may be at risk

It is too late to correct that boy.

Same way I'm very scared for our last born and already tired of talking. Boy is only 15 and already thinking about iPhone 13 and Benz. Conversation with his classmates are nothing to write home about. He's not doing anything visibly wrong yet but I'm so scared for that child.

After reading the first story
It is like he takes drug coded that is affecting him to set fire on money


Take him to ARO

elantraceey:
Same way I'm very scared for our last born and already tired of talking. Boy is only 15 and already thinking about iPhone 13 and Benz. Conversation with his classmates are nothing to write home about. He's not doing anything visibly wrong yet but I'm so scared for that child.

Na public school abi private school?

I've said it before and I will repeat it, until your brother sleep in cell with hardened criminals for 6month, where he would be beaten black to blue in the police cell or prison, he won't understand that, this life, you must take it easy...

I guess you guys are over pampering him may be because he's the male of the house, and by so doing, killing him and giving him that go ahead to do what he likes....

Pls don't give up on him, he is just enjoying life for the main time. Things will change later, but I can hold that job they wanted given him for the main time. Till he is ready I also studied economics

Simple advice: PROTECT YOURSELF, PROTECT BELONGINGS (pants).

Kobojunkie:
Na public school abi private school?

You are still here condescending other people .
You no dey tire?

Dollarstore employee

...
your little bro go soon tear everywhere.

Na matter of 2 seconds.

I believe its because he is the only son that's why he is behaving like that, as for the yahoo stuff na only prayer fit reverse him mind because peer influence don enter

Cyntie55:
https://www.nairaland.com/6906383/younger-brother-bone-throat-pls
Good evening Nairalanders.
Last year, I created the above thread, how my younger brother set 70k on fire, some people did not believe me. But Thank God that 3 nairalanders saw the video evidence when they PM me and I hope they come across this thread so they could testify. I also want to thank everyone for the great and helpful advice.

Although, ever since then, he has been maintaining his lane, he barely talks to me, he greets my dad like he's being forced to greet. And am not happy with his lifestyle, he's my only brother and I need advice pls.

My brother is into yahoo yahoo, he comes home late at night (12 or 1am), sometimes he won't return home till the next day, he keeps wayward friends, he drinks alcohol, he smokes and do drugs {I haven't caught him red-handed smoking, but I'm not a child, his eyes are always red and dim}

My brother is a 2'1 graduate in Economics dept. From uniben. He's refused to get a job... Okay let assume there is no job in Nigeria, my dad's friend offered him a job in Lagos he refuse to go, learn a skill or trade he refused... Okay further your education {probably masters or professional courses} he refused.

We're neither rich nor poor, just an average family. My dad make sure we don't lack basic amenities. There is a roof over our head, he sent us to school, there's always food at home, he advice us despite he's not educated but as a traditional man he's full of wisdom.

Am concerned about my brother because of the high rate of ritual killings and yahoo plus whatever.... Am scared and worried, I don't want my brother to be involved in such crime.

Right now as am typing, my brother is not at home, I don't even know my brother's whereabouts. If one ask me where is your brother? I can't vague of his whereabouts but he returns home very late, sometimes till the next day.

Sometimes our parents are not to be blame for the evil and atrocities done by their children in our society, Honestly some children are from the pit of hell.

My dad has done his best but no changes, he has washed his hands away from his life but deep down I know he's not happy. Nairalanders please, how do I advice my brother.

it may be over pampering that resulted in him being this way or drugs abuse and his circle of friends.

take him to a rehab facility let them do a test on him and find out the drugs he abuses in his system. Then immediately put him on rehab for 3 to 6 months, then monitor his progress from there on wards