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you have to pay me for counselling lol..all the best

the lady should be the one to tell them about you...set up a phone greeting conversation maybe with her mum, depending on who she relates with more...at least a little phone acquaintance before you travel to see them..and tell your folks where you are going to...and make sure you sleep in a hotel...all the best

You guys been dating/courting for how long

There's no problem in discussing with them on the phone (video call). However, physical interaction is different from virtual conversations. I'd urge you to visit them if you can afford the logistics.

No point oga. It's her duty to inform her parents about your visit

PainAndGian:
I decided to meet the parents of the lady I intend to marry.

Bear in mind, this is the first time I'm taking such a decision with her, while I reside in Lagos, and she resides in Abuja.

To avoid wasting resources(time, life, energy, money...). I requested to discuss with her parents over the phone
before traveling (flight), and my request was rejected.


Below are my reasons why I intend to discuss with her parents over the phone before traveling

[1.] I'm a traveler

Who is hosting me?

[2.] I'm spending two days on my journey.

Who will my relatives contact for any future reference?

[3.] I'm coming solely to present myself as somebody who's interested in marrying their daughter.

Am I welcome, and are they willing to host me?
Any positive signs?

[4.] I didn't have a friend or family in the above-mentioned location.
Crystals clear, anything can happen anytime at anywhere.

How am I sure her parents are willing to welcome me, coupled with the fact that I will be lodging in a hotel?


Marriage shouldn't be viewed as a way to torment, punish or stress the male partner, but rather should be viewed as a way of helping and assisting one another.


Advice

Is it correct(in every perspective) to discuss with her parents over the phone before embarking on such a journey?

You needn't make calls. Do things the traditional way and see her parents.

But, come o, which one is stress and torment here? You're the one who wants to get married to their daughter, so, why is it such a cumbersome task to fly down to see her folks?

You want them to "dash" you their child just like that?

Most of the questions you've asked above are quite funny. Are you insinuating that her parents let you stay in their house as per Royal in-law?

If you aren't ready to get married, please, don't go and stress yourself or someone's daughter. REST!!!