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The Nigerian men I know are authoritarians,rude,with pride like python spread.

I think most of them are raised to look down on women and they believe they can shove anything down our throats.
Infact they're not properly raised.

I have seen a man that flung his wife from his car,threw her things out,shut the car door,then sped off....now tell me,which sensible husband does that?

See most things you Nigerian men failed to get is....no woman likes to be lord over rudely.
Treat a woman well,and she would go miles for you just to please you.

You treat me bad,and you expect me to be docile n submissive,mba I go bite you.

Nigerian men are the only sets of imbeciles I know that shamelessly calls their wives ashawo....even down to their mum inlaw.

And I love the fact that many women have woken up and stayed woke.
Marriage na title,just zero your mind and hunt for the raba.

HarunaWest:
Most Nigerian Women don't Know what it means to be submissive. Also most don't know that Sex is very important in a marriage.

Most Nigerian men (on this forum) believe that submission is like a slave-master relationship where the woman cannot have a say in the marriage, but only bends to their husband's every will.

If the above is the kind of submission you are talking about, then you are right. Nigerian women are not submissive.

And you will never do Dont l’agbara Olowun!

Nice one.

MrAnele:
Make i go bring chair

Ishilove:
My warm regards to your mother.

Ma'am, you made the rice I am eating come out of my nose

ahnie:
The Nigerian men I know are authoritarians,rude,with pride like python spread.

I think most of them are raised to look down on women and they believe they can shove anything down our throats.

I have seen a man that flung his wife from his car,threw her things out,shut the car door,then sped off....now tell me,which sensible husband does that?

See most things you Nigerian men failed to get is....no woman likes to be lord over rudely.
Treat a woman well,and she would go miles for you just to please you.

You treat me bad,and you expect me to be docile n submissive,mba I go bite you.
Input in,output out.

Exactly.... dat what am going through now.... will find time to put my story here... am married/cohabiting (he refuses to come pay my dowry since 2015 QC been living with him)to a man 36 years older Dan me. Av been through alot from domestic abuses and assaults from him and his children brothers etc

AoifeNightfall:
Ma'am, you made the rice I am eating come out of my nose

Unless his mum wields a penis, she also belongs to the Sisterhood of Hoes that her son says all women belong to, so I am thus sending my regards to a senior comrade.

Unusual experience.
Hmmm

wunmi590:


I've never had reasons to regret walking down the aisle with the love of my life, that is why I took my time before settling down....

I married the best woman in the world, I don't know about others sha

Movingon5:
Exactly.... dat what am going through now.... will find time to put my story here... am married/cohabiting (he refuses to come pay my dowry since 2015 QC been living with him)to a man 36 years older Dan me. Av been through alot from domestic abuses and assaults from him and his children brothers etc

You see what m talking about?
You alone knows what to do and what's best for you.

Flexherbal:
I wan go buy popcorn

Nice one

finishmatter:
Obviously, marriage is a horrible affliction upon men.

The huge financial demand, the promiscuous wife and shameless character of the wife are just a few of the sad tale.

However, many single dudes are unaware of all these.

So, bro, share your painful experience for enlightenment.
Thanks

this is what you get when marrying those useless piece of shiit called naija

Marriage is lovely when you married a foreigner but reverse is the case with those female black baboons

So sad ���.

womenareapess:
this is what you get when marrying those useless piece of shiit called naija

Marriage is lovely when you married a foreigner but reverse is the case with those female black baboons

Marriage no hard, na you go marry slay queen

Are you married dude?

ITbomb:
Marriage no hard, na you go marry slay queen

Nice perspective.

Ishilove:
Don't mind them. They will run after physical looks and ignore red flags during courtship, and when their fantasy woman begins to show them pepper, they come here to disturb us with their lamentations.

HarunaWest:
Most Nigerian Women don't Know what it means to be submissive. Also most don't know that Sex is very important in a marriage.

Most of you go after beauty and ignore other important aspects.

Speaking about beauty, I really don't think Nigerian ladies are pretty.

Just make up effects.

Nigerian ladies are very ugly.

BiggyB242:
They know you go after the wrong ones. Most of you go after beauty and ignore other important aspects.

finishmatter:
Speaking about beauty, I really don't think Nigerian ladies are pretty.

Just make up effects.

Nigerian ladies are very ugly.

Come on, I don't agree with you on that. Nigerian girls are beautiful.

finishmatter:
Are you married dude?

Of course, just 3 years plus

ITbomb:
Of course, just 3 years plus

Ok. Cool

ahnie:
Dancing to the lies

Ahnie you're such a funny person walahi
I love reading your diary by the way!

wunmi590:


I've never had reasons to regret walking down the aisle with the love of my life, that is why I took my time before settling down....

I married the best woman in the world, I don't know about others sha

How do you handle the billing aspect ?

Do you provide all ?
Or she brings as well

Be honest

Good question

Uzomarrr12345:
How do you handle the billing aspect ?

Do you provide all ?
Or she brings as well

Be honest

ahnie:
The Nigerian men I know are authoritarians,rude,with pride like python spread.

I think most of them are raised to look down on women and they believe they can shove anything down our throats.

I have seen a man that flung his wife from his car,threw her things out,shut the car door,then sped off....now tell me,which sensible husband does that?

See most things you Nigerian men failed to get is....no woman likes to be lord over rudely.
Treat a woman well,and she would go miles for you just to please you.

You treat me bad,and you expect me to be docile n submissive,mba I go bite you.
Input in,output out.

My only problem I have with our Nigeria ladies is , they simply don’t like bringing to the table except it becomes an issue , I am talking about financial aspect

everything is left for the man, school fees , house rent , even your wife shop rent , this is the case of many Nigeria men but ego won’t let them complain coz society demand dey have to even die to provide for the house

Submissive is not all about sex alone , there’s also the financial aspect of it, as a woman , even if your husband has a decent job, that doesn’t mean you can’t still contribute

remember he has families back home to fend for , in some cases , husbands even extend the love and finances to the wife’s family too, e no easy !

Men speak out !
Don’t die in silence !!

BiggyB242:
They know you go after the wrong ones. Most of you go after beauty and ignore other important aspects.

What are the other important aspects ?

Everyone seems to forget about billing and financial aspect

Omo , my advice for younger ones coming up, observe your partner closely during courtship, if she is the type that like to spend her money solely on herself and her own family and let you take care of the house Billings alone , just leave that lady and RUN !

Alot of Nigeria ladies are like this
About 70%

Wise words.
Right on point

Uzomarrr12345:
My only problem I have with our Nigeria ladies is , they simply don’t like bringing to the table except it becomes an issue , I am talking about financial aspect

everything is left for the man, school fees , house rent , even your wife shop rent , this is the case of many Nigeria men but ego won’t let them complain coz society demand dey have to even die to provide for the house

Submissive is not all about sex alone , there’s also the financial aspect of it, as a woman , even if your husband has a decent job, that doesn’t mean you can’t still contribute

remember he has families back home to fend for , in some cases , husbands even extend the love and finances to the wife’s family too, e no easy !

Men speak out !
Don’t die in silence !!

Uzomarrr12345:
My only problem I have with our Nigeria ladies is , they simply don’t like bringing to the table except it becomes an issue , I am talking about financial aspect

everything is left for the man, school fees , house rent , even your wife shop rent , this is the case of many Nigeria men but ego won’t let them complain coz society demand dey have to even die to provide for the house

Submissive is not all about sex alone , there’s also the financial aspect of it, as a woman , even if your husband has a decent job, that doesn’t mean you can’t still contribute

remember he has families back home to fend for , in some cases , husbands even extend the love and finances to the wife’s family too, e no easy !

Men speak out !
Don’t die in silence !!

Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. What you agree to is what you should expect to get. GIGO rules apply!

In your case, the simple answer is stop attending to women who do not want to contribute financially in the marriage. Don't date jobless women - they are not for you. And neither date or marry women who don't believe in contributing their fair share to the upkeep of their own home and family. It is that simple!

Marriage isn't the problem...lack of wisdom on your part is.

Uzomarrr12345:
What are the other important aspects ?

Everyone seems to forget about billing and financial aspect

Omo , my advice for younger ones coming up, observe your partner closely during courtship, if she is the type that like to spend her money solely on herself and her own family and let you take care of the house Billings alone , just leave that lady and RUN !

Alot of Nigeria ladies are like this
About 70%

It isn't the case that anyone forgot about what you refer to as "billing" but instead the fact that most are shocked that even in this time and age, there exists individuals such as yourself who don't know there right from their left as far as relationships are concerned.

If you don't want a woman who only spends on herself, then simply don't date or marry one.

If you want a woman who contributes financially to the marriage, make the agreement up front when you find a woman you can marry and so marry if she agrees to the conditions. This really isn't rocket science, you know!

Kobojunkie:
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If you want a woman who contributes financially to the marriage, make the agreement up front when you find a woman you can marry and so marry if she agrees to the conditions. This really isn't rocket science, you know!

What you said above that I highlighted is nonsense

There are some petty Billings that are even embarrassing to talk about

Ladies should use dia common sense and shouldn’t be told that

Why should I sit my woman down and be telling her she can also sub the GOTV too if I’m not around or telling her to get something vital like some kitchen utensils we need … it doesn’t make sense

There are some things that are not worth discussing self , common sense should tell you but some of our Nigeria ladies lie lie

Some Nigeria ladies are just simply stingy by default !

Mind you , I take care of the house rent 100%

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. What you agree to is what you should expect to get. GIGO rules apply!

In your case, the simple answer is stop attending to women who do not want to contribute financially in the marriage. Don't date jobless women - they are not for you. And neither date or marry women who don't believe in contributing their fair share to the upkeep of their own home and family. It is that simple!

Marriage isn't the problem...lack of wisdom on your part is.

Many of these ladies I’m talking about are not jobless

You don’t seem to get my point

Only person wey fit relate go understand

Some naija ladies wey Dey work, wey get money still act this way !

Some ladies are just stingy by default !
They have that mentality “billing is for man alone”

Uzomarrr12345:
What you said above that I highlighted is nonsense

There are some petty Billings that are even embarrassing to talk about Ladies should use dia common sense and shouldn’t be told that

Why should I sit my woman down and be telling her she can also sub the GOTV too if I’m not around or telling her to get something vital like some kitchen utensils we need … it doesn’t make sense

There are some things that are not worth discussing self , common sense should tell you but some of our Nigeria ladies lie lie

Some Nigeria ladies are just simply stingy by default !

Mind you , I take care of the house rent 100%

See... spoken like one who is really lacking in the commonsense department. What petty billing?

If a man and woman both contribute, budget and spend a set amount each month no more than is budgeted each month - whatever is left is saved for future - , what "petty" billings will there be to harass each other over for Pete's sake?