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In everything, just make sure your wife doesn't get pregnant anytime soon. You both need to get your finances strengthen out. It takes a lot of money to give your children good food and education they need for their growth.

You should start using protection from now.

HBB1:
Person wey no get moni, no suppose dey get erection!

No, no erection for broke person. What should occupy the mind of person wey no get money is financial Break through.

Prospertochu:
God bless you ma I am trying my best but if my wife carries on with her attitudes she will loose me because my health is getting worse day by day and if I die she will take care of them alone

See listen to me, don't kill yourself because of any woman except your mother.

Tell her to leave your house and personal contribute money to those children. You bring 15k, she also bring 15k. Take care of yourself and your mother.

cyndyuc:
You can give your own advice please, stop quoting me. There are creches at places of work especially in schools if she agrees to teach. The kids are old enough to start preschool! His mum will definitely take care of them if his wife decides to work! His wife should get a job and stop being a liability!

is enrolling a child in crèche free?

Realestbae:
Stupid fool ,u r putting all d blame on a young mother of triplet when Ur lazy mother can not fend for herself, imagine Ur sister is a household is ur mother crippled or just lazy she is supposed to be supplying U with food stuff n by adding to Ur problem or is it how her own mother is depending on her. Oga Ur mother did n't plan her life well she is more of a leech n a bloodsucker let her go and hustle to take care of Ur sister who is a household. Ur main focus should be d welfare of Ur kids feed them well

Shut up! What will you do with the attention you're seeking on this thread?
Anuofia!

Oyindidi:
Shut up! What will you do with the attention you're seeking on this thread?
Anuofia!

Lol

Oyindidi Happy New year

Nezzjnr:
Lol

Oyindidi Happy New year

Same to you dear.

Oyindidi:
Same to you dear.

Been a while

How's everything and how's our little son doing

aanuoluwami14:
A jobless mad man like you. Go and ask your mother if you don't know your father.

see person wey dey look for marriage and you get this kind uncouth mouth wey dey run like public tap.
I pity the unfortunate simp that will fall for your tricks

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

You're in it already! But I think the solution here is for you to get a loan, maybe 100k and give to your wife to start selling perishable goods. Perishable goods only o...from there your family can feed from that.

You can't make this woman happy with your current earning and this will continue to affect your mental health.
I can't tell you to send your wife away but I can tell you she/you needs a temporary break from each other

odinson1:
@First bolded is why it is a Foolish concept to even consider asking a woman for Relationship Advice. They don't Think with their brains. If he continues to "Endure with her", he will Die young because the stress is too much! She's draining away his energy,pushing him pass his breaking point. If this madness doesn't stop,he will Die a miserable old or in thise case,young man.

@2nd bolded, If prayers worked, there would be nothing like World Hunger

She is not the one draining his energy, the economy situation of the country presently is. Have you been to the market recently? Are you currently in a position where you're solely responsible for catering for one person? Have you been with someone thats breastfeeding a twin not to talk of triplet?

It's very easy for you lots to come here and cast stones on the poor woman after hearing a one sided but if you were in her shoes, you'll most likely act worse. I'm single and taking care of myself alone and 30k can barely take me 3 weeks and you expect things to be okay on that amount for a family of 6.

It amazes me seeing people that barely earn 100k a month get married these days, that's just putting yourself into frustration and no amount of love can save you.

elantraceey:
She is not the one draining his energy, the economy situation of the country presently is. Have you been to the market recently? Are you currently in a position where you're solely responsible for catering for one person? Have you been with someone thats breastfeeding a twin not to talk of triplet?

It's very easy for you lots to come here and cast stones on the poor woman after hearing a one sided but if you were in her shoes, you'll most likely act worse. I'm single and taking care of myself alone and 30k can barely take me 3 weeks and you expect things to be okay on that amount for a family of 6.

It amazes me seeing people that barely earn 100k a month get married these days, that's just putting yourself into frustration and no amount of love can save you.

The children are 2 years old, remove that breastfeeding from your list of Excuses.

@bolded, if he doesn't divorce that woman now,he will Die poor. Because there is no way he will live a fulfilled life while being tied down to a Lazy Parasite.

She should go and look for a job, while the man's mother takes care of the kids

michael77777:
If prayers truly work, you won't be on nairaland wasting your time...


Mumu

Don't mind the idiot.
I don't know why Nigerians are quick to suggest prayers as a solution to every problem.
Religion is a disease.

aanuoluwami14:
I'll never give birth to a jobless and irresponsible man who can't feed himself but could be having sex with someone's daughter without thinking of the outcome, nonsense!

There are thousands of ways madam....
If truly you think as you advised. Then watch as time clicks!!

The mistake is you married a jobless woman , had it been she's also working it won't weigh you down . she should also find a petty trade or work to do to support the house. If you continue like this without her doing nothing I bet you your enemy won't last sorry to say.

Prospertochu although the economic is hard but to be frank with you ,you Married a bad woman no offense.

odinson1:
Men una mumu sha

When we keep telling you People not to get married, you'll call us broke,immature frustrated and all other sorts of nonsense.

You got married to Parasite who's Sucking you dry, draining the very life force you have. If you don't cut off that leech,she will drain you till you become a shell of your former self.

But seriously guys, lets reason it this way. The money he has been giving to his wife all these while,if he didn't get married and have children now,he would probably have used it to open a business,have investments or Get a new house or something like that. Now a woman has tied him down and It's now stopping him from progressing.

All he cares about are his wife and his children,they are all Liabilities to him. This is why men are advised to have a good job and a nice comfortable apartment first before getting married. You know why? It is because you will most likely get married to A Parasite who will Make you stagnant,it would be almost impossible for you to get past this financial struggle except you get a better job with better pay.

Men! Run away from a marriage that will stop you from Achieving greatness. Having children is not an achievement,it is normally biological for one to procreate,so there is no big deal about it. Having a wife and children when you are not financially stable,will only drag you down and make you stagnant!

And also, DON'T EVER GET MARRIED TO A BROKE LAZY WOMAN! They are Parasites whose only Objective is to latch on to you, and suck out your energy,time,resources and peace of mind.




@the bolded,A good woman? Really?

She and her children eats 3 square meals, while his mother only eats once. You call that a good woman? Wait answer this instead,would she have done same to her own Mother?

Over a thousand words and everything is full of sense
Comrade na sense go burial you lol..
The last paragraph of course if op's mom happens to be her mom I guess she wont starve her ..
After all what we use to say on this forum some men are still getting.....OK I rest my case.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Evil gender whatever you do it's not enough

uthlaw:
All this SIMP just full everywhere... You just bring a good for nothing gender into your life to be deciding when your mother will eat,and you have no shame to come here for advice...you better go man up and stop being a zaza!

Just imagine o, a jazabel deciding whether your mother eat or not, they can Wash your pants before marriage but once jazabel enter house...

ValCon888:
It's always critical to look at your economic situation before making life-altering decisions.

You should blame yourself and rightly so too.

How can you have sex without condom on a 55k salary in this current economic climate?
And your wife has no job to augment your income?

I have no advice to give you. When you were lashing her without condom, you didn't tell us. Now that the shít has hit the fan, you're looking for somebody to tell you to chase your wife away.

Ogbeni carry your cross.

Atleast pity him na

stacyadams:
unfortunately condom cost 100 naira only

stacyadams:
unfortunately condom cost 100 naira only

to
He prefer it row, ah ah ah, oh baby yeah

Hassanmaye:
Just imagine o, a jazabel deciding whether your mother eat or not, they can Wash your pants before marriage but once jazabel enter house...

my broda...does niggas na animals in human form!

uthlaw:
my broda...does niggas na animals in human form!

I don't think there is anything that can come close to my mum, you can't try that Shit with me, men are dying because of the work load they put on themselves, some its the reason why they go into crimes, yet they are never appreciated

aanuoluwami14:
I'll never give birth to a jobless and irresponsible man who can't feed himself but could be having sex with someone's daughter without thinking of the outcome, nonsense!

Thousands of ways lady

Oga I won't say much but do not allow any woman to treat your own mother anyhow. Any woman at all!

Your mom is the cause of your existence and u won't have married that lady today if your mom didn't give birth to you.


And for next time, it is unwise to disclose all your salary to your wife , leaving you with nothing to keep for yourself to handle situations like this.

Be wise