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Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Karleb(m): 12:43pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
If I were you, my focus would be on the boy. If the girl wants to b a slay queen after much advice, then let her be. At her age some people are already graduates fending for themselves legally, women o. Spoil that your brother. At 18, I was struggling with keyboard, if he is already making money with it then he is going places. His future is bright! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Imbecilicsamuel: 12:46pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
You should have started what I am about to suggest early but it's not too late. You and your mum should arrange for her to start doing something to earn her some pay on her own so she can learn to be responsible. Don't hit an adult. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Playermayweda(m): 12:51pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Iyaebe: You are a fool, a big one at that 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by MYHUBBY: 12:52pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
for the fact that she relied on you financially then there is a big problem but the issue here is you can't advise her if you don't investigate the kind of friends she keep ladies generally get more influence by their environment than guys, investigate the class of friends she keep before even making any move and for now stop using force on her, show her much love like before, make her more comfortable somewhat that she will be free to tell you everything, that's when your advise can sink into her head she's already not just flirting, but also giving her lecturers her cookies with your fact that she don't like reading abi a lady that don't like reading and don't want to chose carryover as best friend surely have exchange rates 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Playermayweda(m): 12:54pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
You need the mother's intervention, you have to tell the mother you are suspecting weird behaviours from the girl, both of you must sanction her financially, and try your best to find her a small job or business, by the time she has sweated to work out her money herself, she will stop all these |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Gamesmart: 1:14pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
22 years old? In Nigeria? Way too late to be addressing her sense of entitlement. This is something you should have addressed 10 years ago. Now all the options one can recommend to you will not work. Option 1 Talk to her! You already said she is not listening to you and will raise her voice. She also already has the tiktok/Instagram cultural life that she has to maintain. Option 2 Stop giving her money/restrict how much you give her so she has to go and work. As a tiktok/Instagram cultural life girl in Nigeria, one who is at her peak looks-wise (22 years old), you will just create an Olosho. She will find guys with money to fund her life while she lies on her back or blows. Give up! Too late. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Gamesmart: 1:15pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Imbecilicsamuel: It is too late. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by richard69(m): 1:16pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
MadamVanessa:na today she dey gobble dick? |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by sonofthunder: 1:22pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Brighton1: With such character from her, you are in a dicey situation. Be very careful and firm with her... Although she's at a delicate age whereby doing the right thing will make her rebel, but most at times that's just what you need to do. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by bosstim(m): 1:23pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
You're simply stupid. Do you mind to highlighting the "sense" that the girl made I'm not even surprised at your stupidity sef, your username explains a lot about you. Na people like una make that nonsense geh talk that nonsense wen she talk so and to you the nonsense make sense because one iota of sense, I mean one drop of sense you nor get GoodHardDick: |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Nobody: 1:26pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
bosstim: Who's this fool. Come Let today be the first and last time you'll ever quote me again on Nairaland 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Oyiboman69: 1:37pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Brighton1:there is a consequence for every actions... She's being lazy and being rude. This is the two things I've noticed from your explanation. Reduce her financial availability except the ones that is important, like school fees. And as for the rude reply,leave hr with s resounding slap, and also the phone you bought for her. I hate when an elderly child behave like this. how do you intend to discipline your kids.... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by NaughtyBrainiac: 1:40pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Enemyofpeace:Spoilt child? There are Thousands of children that were pampered 10 times more than her and they aren't spoilt. This is not a case of being a spoilt child, the issue is her environment, her friends. They have affected her mentality. That's what the OP needs to work on now. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Testimony1988(m): 1:45pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Keep advising her and also be praying for her. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Cutehector(m): 1:49pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Whois(m): 1:56pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Great, I will suggest the op seize her phone, the phone is obviously one of her problem you should start disciplining her from there GoodHardDick: cc Brighton1 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Nobody: 1:57pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
immortalcrown:Whats wrong with a girl feeding her boyfriend? |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Whois(m): 2:00pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Iyaebe: It is obvious op's sister needs good guidance hence his concern bringing the matter here. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Engrgreg1: 2:02pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Your sister needs advice for now because there's nothing you can do meanwhile can I chat you privately 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Sterope(f): 2:09pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Let her know the trajectory of her life. Her life, her choice. Plus you won't be responsible for her. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Nobody: 2:09pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Johndagr8t:Your mom also belongs to the senseless gender. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Nobody: 2:10pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
MrBrownJay1:A 22year old? Lol. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Titaniumental: 3:03pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Brighton1:May God grant you wisdom on how to handle this your Sister. By the way,can i manage in your construction team?i'm a fresh civil engineering graduate,just finished my service last yr,In Lagos as well.... nothing stable yet,still trying to get on the beat I'm a bit skillful in civil engineering/structural design related softwares,Ms Excel as well...i can manage on site as well...... |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by DkJay: 3:05pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Brighton1 You lost your dad four years ago and the girl is 22? Could hardly be a time when she needed her father's presence more in her life than as at that time. First of all, don't try to do it alone. Discipline her, yeah, but be a "friend"; a confidante. Lol. That would be super difficult because you're out there working for the family, but force doesn't always solve problems. She's a human being with a brain to think for herself. People say if you carry a carrot and a big stick, you'll go far. The stick is just a deterrent. The carrot is the real OG. Enlist the help of your brother to become close to her and get her to open up. Since you said he's hardworking, then he may be eager to help you with this. Tell your mom to help you get to know this girl too. She may be going through stuff you don't know about. And yes, she's definitely rolling with girls you wouldn't want to be associated with. And you may have to deal with the fact that she's already sleeping around. Not a pleasant thought, but regardless, you need a lotttt of patience and finesse to deal with it. Your biggest weapons are going to be your patience and your family's help. Good luck. |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by cardoctor(m): 3:07pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Your problem plenty |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Lekan239(m): 3:20pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Prayfortheworld:you claim she still in school, how did you expect her to be helping the family, she should engage in runs right? |
Re: My Younger Sister Has This Entitlement Mentality. Help I'm Scared For Her. by Prayfortheworld: 3:23pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Lekan239:You dy craze no be her mate dy do a lot dy go school at the same time. The family no even need her help make she dy help herself we no go complain |
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