thatthickgurl:


Can we fast forward to that time already.

It will come. With time you will move on faster.

Lovebliss2:


No dear, you are not a fool.
The man don't deserve you, it's good it happened now so you know who you've been loving and making sacrifices for.
Give it time, you will be fine. Trust me..

The irony of this is , he and his friends told me about how girls had broken his heart multiple times, foolish me thought "I'll teach him, that proper love exist".

For someone who has experienced heartbreak, I didn't think he would do the same to me

CsRockefeller:
You spent your savings on him?

Let me guess; he is tall, dark and handsome?

Carry your cross jare. You ladies will learn.

In his case, he was fair.
I was so happy that such a fine guy was interested in me, only if I knew, I was a prey.

baby124:

It will come. With time you will move on faster.

Thank you ma'am

thatthickgurl:


In his case, he was fair.
I was so happy that such a fine girl was interested in me, only if I knew, I was a prey.

thatthickgurl:
I was a perfect and dutiful girlfriend.

Spent all my savings on him when he was earning higher. I made him feel comfortable with me, I never requested a penny , so he doesn't think I'm materialistic

Lol. I'm such a fool

I sent you an email. Let's talk or you can chat me on 08063064569.

thatthickgurl:


In his case, he was fair.
I was so happy that such a fine girl was interested in me, only if I knew, I was a prey.

You are not 18, neither are you 23. Looking for a fine man/lady is good but you have passed that stage where you get carried away by looks. Though looks matters, but you shouldn't get carried away with it. There are more important things you should look out for a serious relationship, unless you also want something unserious.

By the way, don't try that sh*t again. Never you spend your savings ok a guy, save he's your husband. No genuine guy would even encourage his girlfriend do that, especially when he earns higher. That should have been the brightest red flag that got you to take a walk.

I know you might be lonely, introverted and you need a man; solution: Go out more and pray more. Try where you work too.

Finding a partner ain't easy these days. It's becoming more difficult but who quits when the tough gets going? No one.

CsRockefeller:


You are not 18, neither are you 23. Looking for a fine man/lady is good but you have passed that stage where you get carried away by looks. Though looks matters, but you shouldn't get carried away with it. There are more important things you should look out for a serious relationship, unless you also want something unserious.

By the way, don't try that sh*t again. Never you spend your savings ok a guy, save he's your husband. No genuine guy would even encourage his girlfriend do that, especially when he earns higher. That should have been the brightest red flag that got you to take a walk.

I know you might be lonely, introverted and you need a man; solution: Go out more and pray more. Try where you work too.

Finding a partner ain't easy these days. It's becoming more difficult but who quits when the tough gets going? No one.

I wasn't even looking for a man before I met him, I had been single for five years.

I'm going back to the way I was

A career driven, focused woman who doesn't believe in relationship, and prefers artificial insermination for procreation.

Thankfully, my friends are not on nairaland. I was the one always advising them to seek money before love. I didn't practice what I preached, because the man made me feel like, he was the next best thing, after fried rice.

The funniest part about all this was, I nearly gave up the abroad dream I have been nurturing, all these years because of him.

I wanted us to do a court wedding, so we could process F1 and F2 visa together. He said he can't afford the funds for processing. And I thought to myself, "why not just do your masters in Nigeria".

If not for my mentor, who slapped me with a dose of reality two months ago.

Love is very funny

prettysassygirl:

Suicide!!!!!! Hmmmm it be like say hell fire don dey hungry u abi. Imagine suicide over a man : : are u the first to experience heartbreak? Abeg Comot for road make we see road.

This one heart don thick like Olumo rock.

Just listen to Classical Jazz. The pain reduces after a week.

thatthickgurl:


If I get into another relationship, I'm still not going to demand. I'm a grown up adult, why force a man to attend to my needs?

And you think that will make you special in his eyes that the next girl? As long as the relationship is not sexual. If he's fúcking you and he's not spending on you out of his own volition and you are also not billing and he still continues to fúck without giving you shishi, omo! You are not being a good girl, you are just being a fool and you will be seen as one. You are dealing with Nigerians and not Americans

bigjackass:
And you think that will make you special in his eyes that the next girl? As long as the relationship is not sexual. If he's fúcking you and he's not spending on you out of his own volition and you are also not billing and he still continues to fúck without giving you shishi, omo! You are not being a good girl, you are just being a fool and you will be seen as one. You are dealing with Nigerians and not Americans

I've come to the acceptance that I'm a fool.
It's no news

thatthickgurl:
My mother's head is probably the one after me.

I don't send her money like I used to before, because I was sending this guy money

Ladies, whatever they say about "Femi" is absolutely true.

Flee from any femi , you know

Why would you ask people to flee from Femi, that’s not a fair thing to say… I am Femi, Femi is me and I can actually mend your broken heart… won’t play with it like a string on my guitar.

Ungodly:
Why would you ask people to flee from Femi, that’s not a fair thing to say… I am Femi, Femi is me and I can actually mend your broken heart… won’t play with it like a string on my guitar.

Thank you. I'm not interested

Delete everything that will make you remember him

Avoid seeing him for weeks

But you will continue to feel the pains once his thoughts come to you.

I'm always happy when girls experience heart breaks

How my morning is going so far

I've cried a few times.
I'm holding back tears every minute
Currently in a bus and this tears want to come out.

God please, this is going to be embarrassing

thatthickgurl:
My mother's head is probably the one after me.

I don't send her money like I used to before, because I was sending this guy money

Ladies, whatever they say about "Femi" is absolutely true.

Flee from any femi , you know

Lol, I don't agree, Femi is a name like any other name. It's the person.

I know the reason why girls feel pained is because of the sex involved. Stay away from sex in relationships or with persons you aren't married to. That way, you won't be pained as much, that is the hard truth.

Well, if you kill yourself because of a human like you, you lose. Place value on yourself and keep walking till you get to your destination.

thatthickgurl:


He knew I had low self-esteem and he capitalized on that. Now my self esteem has hit rock bottom

I'm sorry about your experience OP, I knew this was the reason you are suicidal as you claim.
You don't need a man to validate you please. If you continue like this, you'll find it difficult to even take a break in relationships and even when it is toxic.
The first thing is identifying the reason for the low self esteem. Even if it may be your weight, if you're curvy I see no reason you shouldn't love yourself but if you aren't, there other features you possess you can amplify and love yourself the more.
I grew up having low self esteem from my teenage to early 20s. I have a poor dentition and puberty dealt with me. All my face was covered with pimples and my schoolmates called me Pimples Garden to the extent that someone from my alma mater saw me about 10 years after at Eko hotel Busstop and called me the name and asked where the pimples all went.
My dentition is bad that my mum usually asked me not to smile in public. I've been to different dentists but I decided I wasn't going to correct it and people still ask me questions when they see it.
I outgrew the pimples....as regards my teeth, I learned to accept myself and look for other qualities and features I posses and amplify them and improve my esteem.
My hubby raised exceptions when we were courting about the teeth and I told him my efforts and stance and he still loved me for me.
A man will love you for you. Don't allow a man love you out of pity as it never ends well.

thatthickgurl:
How my morning is going so far

I've cried a few times.
I'm holding back tears every minute
Currently in a bus and this tears want to come out.

God please, this is going to be embarrassing

Please for the love of those who you matter to, try and be strong OP.
I see that you made sacrifices and now you're regretting. It may been obvious that you were in a relationship with yourself but you may have been too blinded to see.
Can you try to heal and work on your self esteem or else it'll be a reoccurring decimal in your life and you may end up with someone that'll hurt you because you think he's doing you a favor by being in your life.
You need to start seeing yourself as the prize my dear. Work on yourself, improve your income earning capacity, take very good care of yourself, na dem go rush you o.

So it means this much to you. Dodonu. abrasaku dodonu. Sorry, I mean Nndo Inu.

Esthered:

Please for the love of those who you matter to, try and be strong OP.
I see that you made sacrifices and now you're regretting. It may been obvious that you were in a relationship with yourself but you may have been too blinded to see.
Can you try to heal and work on your self esteem or else it'll be a reoccurring decimal in your life and you may end up with someone that'll hurt you because you think he's doing you a favor by being in your life.
You need to start seeing yourself as the prize my dear. Work on yourself, improve your income earning capacity, take very good care of yourself, na dem go rush you o.
You can reach me on hadediong@gmail.com if you feel like reaching out.

There were no signs. He doted over me. Calling every day, most times, we speak for 5 hours at a stretch. He knew my every movement. Always concerned. He will pray for me.

I didn't see this coming, never thought he was that kind of person

thatthickgurl:
Please I'm begging you with the name of God, recommend something for this pain.

This is too much for me to bear, I'm typing with tears in my eyes.

I can't eat , I can't sleep and I've been unproductive at work. I need someone to talk to.

This is my first heartbreak, I've always avoided being in a relationship because I know I'm too soft.

Until this man came and broke down my walls.

I caught him cheating two days ago.

Please speak to me, before I commit suicide. I need someone to talk to

Please

You will still fuvk him soon.

How do I make this pain stop please

Someone help me

I don't want to hurt myself but this pain is too much

thatthickgurl:



There were no signs. He doted over me. Calling every day, most times, we speak for 5 hours at a stretch. He knew my every movement. Always concerned. He will pray for me.

I didn't see this coming, never thought he was that kind of person

It happens but you have to get over it.
It's ideal to grieve but your recovery is in your hands. If you harm yourself, baba will definitely move on and be living his best life without you and nobody will lynch him for your how you chose to deal with the pain.

I've made the mistake every other person makes

I tried to contact him again

How many stages are there to heartbreak?

thatthickgurl:
I've made the mistake every other person makes

I tried to contact him again

How many stages are there to heartbreak?

Block and delete his number.

E be like all the advice wey we de give you since de enter one ear commot through the other.

thatthickgurl:



I don't have the strength for any other person. I'd rather wallow in misery

So go for the first option, that was what I did when I had an heart break last year. I worked myself to death. Then went to South Africa for a vacation of 2 weeks afterwards. If you have money you can take a trip to Calabar and see some fine places, it won't cost that much. Before you know it the thought will fade away.

thatthickgurl:
I've made the mistake every other person makes

I tried to contact him again

How many stages are there to heartbreak?

You're approaching the whole matter wrongly... asking for the stages of heartbreak or what you need to do to overcome the feeling you have now.

Some people have given you the best advice up there but I'll just summarise the key facts or lessons to note:

1) You will not get an instant healing for heartbreak, forget it. It will be a while, so accept that first.

2) "Time is the best healer," is not a quotable quote, it's a tested and trusted fact.

3) How other people treat you have more to do about them than it has to do with you; DO NOT change who you are (From good to 'bad') because of the way someone else treats you.

4) Take a stand, and take it now! If you will not want to be with him again, delete all your correspondence with him (or save it in a place you won't reach easily, if you must keep it) and don't contact him again or accept his call/reach out. If you still want him despite the fact that he cheated, be sure the cheating is not in his DNA else what's more than heartbreak awaits you.

5) Finally, love yourself first, forget the idea that you have low self esteem - life is what it is and everyone is in their own lane, running their own race. Live your life and make yourself happy. Go out, have fun, enjoy with or without other people. Life is short and there's no time to be stuck for too long.

All the best.

We meuve after learning. No single soul is worth committing suicide for. U dey hear me as per wetin dey im body?

Look, my honest opinion is that u dodged a bullet and u better thank ur stars that u saw for yourself so no time for him to cook up stewpid cock and bull stories and that you hopefully dont have an STI. Above all, u caught his cheating self before marrying him.

Look, never outgive a NIGERIAN man in a relationship. Whether u request a penny or not, he should be generous and give thoughtful and not necesarily expensive gifts, which u can reciprocate. N what are you calling him for? He's already showed you the stuff he's made of , collecting money from you when he earns more and cheating, so RUNNNNN

thatthickgurl:
I was a perfect and dutiful girlfriend.

Spent all my savings on him when he was earning higher. I made him feel comfortable with me, I never requested a penny , so he doesn't think I'm materialistic

Lol. I'm such a fool

Awon goldigger ti de.

spice123:

I sent you an email. Let's talk or you can chat me on 08063064569.