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Mercychen:
Yeah. There's this nairalander I became friends with some time last year or after the lock down. I can't really remember.

Hes different. In fact, the reason I replied his PM then was because after observing him for some time, I discovered he's very reserved. Writes intelligently and only visits mature sections. Religion section.

He was actually talking about a serious relationship. So we exchanged pics but what I saw discouraged me. He had the appearance of a Married man. You know that Married man looks. He called and we Spoke. He speaks so well and sounds great on the phone but I just kept wondering why he looked like that.


I told him to send a few more pics, he did but he still had that look.
While I was still caught in the whole confusion, something happened.

He's been the one calling. So one day I felt, let me do the calling today at least. I did but he didn't pick. He now called and said he'll call back later. I didn't think anything of it.
He called and we talked at length and all through he kept talking in the direction of marriage.

I called him another day, he didn't pick but later called and told me he'll call at a particular time. That was when I began to connect the dots. Like why does he prefer to do the calling at a particular hour of the day? I began to zero my mind.

He later called and asked me what time of the day Im free for calls as he wouldn't want to interrupt anything. I told him at nights.

He called me at the agreed time and I picked but the thing is if I call, he never picks.
So one day, he called and I picked then he immediately said I should give him some secs that he needs to change location. He called back and was sounding like someone in a hole. . I asked why the background was so quiet, he said he was in the bathroom. . I let him finish what he was saying and blocked his line and WhatsApp.

Now, i blocked him because I felt he was prolly married, that was why he never picks my calls and choses a paticular time to call me to the point of hiding in the bathroom. So I forgot all about him.

He called me with another line, I blocked it again and it ended there. I deactivated the moniker he knows.

Yesterday, he sent a mail to my old account and was trying to strike a convo and asking why he hasn't heard from me in a while.

He seemed like a good guy/man but that shady character is what I don't get. I have a feeling he's married.

Should I tell him straight up what I think? Or ignore him altogether.

I don't know what he wants this time.

You sounded like a responsible young lady.

Nat404:
You sounded like a responsible young lady.

I am.
Thank you.

Mercychen:
I am.
Thank you.

that's very alright!

Estherqueen50:
I am someone who strongly believes in a woman's sixth sense.
But the truth is that they is also need for due diligence too. There should always be room to give people the benefits of doubt, but not in an ignorant way.

There is this thing called communication and it's a measure requirement for any healthy relationship. I am of the opinion that after you have done your observation, you should also have communicated your feelings too.

Let's take for instance when he asked you what time will be good to call you, you can also ask him the same since you also want to call him sometimes.

I believe the problem here is that you have not really gotten to know him as much as is required: that's the confusion.

For me, when am in doubt, I take my time to ask questions even if it's not too direct, I also pray for Gods leading and direction

I believe assumption won't help you on this unless you ain't really interested in the relationship. I always tell people "assumption is the lowest level of ignorance"

So the key word is "Communication" have you expressed all these to him? What was his reaction?

And I also do not undermine your sixth sense. You are a woman and I also believe in ya wisdom.

Nicely put.