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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Qualityhealth: 1:03pm On Mar 31, 2022
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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 1:37pm On Mar 31, 2022
Dmacqh:
1.We are still back to what I was saying . 21st century Love is propelled by either interest ( sex , involved ) or kindness ( no sex involved ) .

2. Why won’t I know the cause the of the infertility of the “ love of my life “ ?
Or your type of love is unquestionable. Even faith seeks understanding. When God blocked David wife womb , there was a reason . All the barren women in the Bible , there was a reason.

3. We all know the reckless lifestyles our generation indulge . And as always those who indulge in such will deceive a gent or lady into been with you ( relationship ) , and in other to guide their reckless past , they start using the mantra, accept me the way I am ?

4. Why are you that way ? Or you expect me to decide on my own to accept you the way you are , right ? It is still possible . But I’ll comfortably accept it , after knowing why you are that way . The knowledge and my resolve is what will propel me to “ love ( interest ) “ ( stand by you , sacrifice selflessly, protect , been faithful and honest with you , etc ) with my all .

5. In the context of op the question, the love we are talking about is for couples or people in relationship .
1. This isn't about the 21st century though since Love has always been described within the confines of relationship - whether the neighbors-neighbor, parent-child, friendship, dating or even marriage relationships - love has always been defined within the scope of some relationship. undecided

2. Whatever way you chose to decide your kind is your business. However, the kind that is under discussion here is the kind that you are willing to go as far as upturning your very life for aka "love of your life" undecided

3. No be all of us dey carry such things for head like you there. undecided

4. Everyone throws the word 'love' around but not everyone understands what it means to truly love. A quick survey of relationships in Nigeria reveals that truly love isn't a part of the general understanding there. undecided

5. Whatever the context/interest type, love is the same.. undecided

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 2:15pm On Mar 31, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. This isn't about the 21st century though since Love has always been described within the confines of relationship - whether the neighbors-neighbor, parent-child, friendship, dating or even marriage relationships - love has always been defined within the scope of some relationship. undecided

2. Whatever way you chose to decide your kind is your business. However, the kind that is under discussion here is the kind that you are willing to go as far as upturning your very life for aka "love of your life" undecided

3. No be all of us dey carry such things for head like you there. undecided

4. Everyone throws the word 'love' around but not everyone understands what it means to truly love. A quick survey of relationships in Nigeria reveals that truly love isn't a part of the general understanding there. undecided

5. Whatever the context/interest type, love is the same.. undecided

1.Love must be based on something , interest or kindness.
2.Why will I be willing to upturn my life for the “ love of my life “ ? That’s interest .
3.In all our acts and deeds , ability to owe up matters . In the context of your love , if it’s devoid of accountability and transparency, that’s deceit and evil .
4.Wether in the Moon or Mars , love is the same.
5.Love is the same wether interest or kindness . Love isn’t blind . Love is one eyed
The lover is the one with the blind eye, while the loved is the one with the blind-less eye.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 2:46pm On Mar 31, 2022
Dmacqh:
1.Love must be based on something , interest or kindness.
2.Why will I be willing to upturn my life for the “ love of my life “ ? That’s interest .

3.In all our acts and deeds , ability to owe up matters . In the context of your love , if it’s devoid of accountability and transparency, that’s deceit and evil .
4.Wether in the Moon or Mars , love is the same.
5.Love is the same wether interest or kindness . Love isn’t blind . Love is one eyed
The lover is the one with the blind eye, while the loved is the one with the blind-less eye.
It seems you are not paying attention at all. undecided

1. A relationship is what defines "interest" but it does not define love since a relationship can exist without love, but love cannot exist outside a relationship. undecided

2. The term "love of your life" is what implies willingness to upturn your very life ideals for the one you love. undecided

No one here is asking you to do that at all. I am simply letting you understand what the term itself means or implies. undecided

3. Loves owes no one anything hence the reason why it is said to transcend all, when rational logic. undecided

4. undecided

5. Take time to comprehend what is being relayed to you so you don't continue to confuse what is your personal misgivings with the subject. undecided

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 3:04pm On Mar 31, 2022
Kobojunkie:
It seems you are not paying attention at all. undecided

1. A relationship is what defines "interest" but it does not define love since a relationship can exist without love, but love cannot exist outside a relationship. undecided

2. The term "love of your life" is what implies willingness to upturn your very life ideals for the one you love. undecided

No one here is asking you to do that at all. I am simply letting you understand what the term itself means or implies. undecided

3. Loves owes no one anything hence the reason why it is said to transcend all, when rational logic. undecided

4. undecided

5. Take time to comprehend what is being relayed to you so you don't continue to confuse what is your personal misgivings with the subject. undecided

Okay ma . You win. Nice arguing with you , though those emoticons are useless on nairalands .

This small MB I get , let me guard it , I don’t know gene I’ll get another one .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Nobody: 11:25pm On Mar 31, 2022
SarutobiEky:
hello sir, forgive me intrusion. Your moniker caught my attention, please do you work as a tech support? May I send you a pm? Thanks

it depends on what needs techsupport. what do you need
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by meobizy(f): 2:44am On Apr 01, 2022
If I already have children then okay. Na she go tire, last last.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by SarutobiEky(m): 5:25am On Apr 01, 2022
Techsupport:


it depends on what needs techsupport. what do you need
oh my bad? I am actually looking for a job as a tech support. Thanks
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Nobody: 5:36am On Apr 01, 2022
SarutobiEky:
oh my bad? I am actually looking for a job as a tech support. Thanks

OK. I did tech support in my younger days when I was in the military. Now I am more of a network/firewall SME
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by SarutobiEky(m): 5:39am On Apr 01, 2022
Techsupport:


OK. I did tech support in my younger days when I was in the military. Now I am more of a network/firewall SME
wow. That's awesome.could you please give me pointers/clues as to how I can start a career in tech support please? Thanks
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Nobody: 5:40am On Apr 01, 2022
SarutobiEky:
wow. That's awesome.could you please give me pointers/clues as to how I can start a career in tech support please? Thanks

Are you in IT?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by SarutobiEky(m): 5:44am On Apr 01, 2022
Techsupport:


Are you in IT?
not really, I only started coding recently. I would like to get a job as a tech support to help financially. I'm in a really tight place arm.

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Nobody: 6:12am On Apr 01, 2022
SarutobiEky:
not really, I only started coding recently. I would like to get a job as a tech support to help financially. I'm in a really tight place arm.

Good luck. I will say write certification exams and apply as much as you can
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by CoolJul: 8:16am On Apr 02, 2022
Exedyne:



For me, God has answered my prayer. I'd be open to meeting a good woman who can't have children. I don't want children. I can't add another layer of complexity to an already complex situation.

Hey friend, what do you mean. I am super curious. smiley
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 8:51pm On Apr 02, 2022
CoolJul:


Hey friend, what do you mean. I am super curious. smiley

I mean, children come with massive responsibilities. Children can be a blessing, but it can also be a source of complications.

Children are a massive responsibility. You have to cater to their financial, physical even spiritual matters.

These responsibilities can impact a parents life negatively. Certain Decisions can't be taken, because you have to consider children
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by CoolJul: 10:39pm On Apr 02, 2022
Exedyne:


I mean, children come with massive responsibilities. Children can be a blessing, but it can also be a source of complications.

Children are a massive responsibility. You have to cater to their financial, physical even spiritual matters.

These responsibilities can impact a parents life negatively. Certain Decisions can't be taken, because you have to consider children

Ok. Well I quite understand you now, I was drawn to the 'complexity' you mentioned about childbearing. But in all procreation is a beautiful phenomenal order. If you look at it from the positive perspective you will see that the blessings outweighs the negatives you fear about.

Think of the joy, connection, love, companionship and fulfilment it brings. We Africans see child nuturing too much as a give and take affair. The " I'm taking up your responsibility now so you will take up mine later" kind of logic . This will now lead to unnecessary competition and pressure on the offspring even from tender age.

Whether some offsprings brings responsibly or complications, procreation is a circle of life. It's a natural responsibility, lol.

Yes some parents failed. (Lemme not go into this). Still some parents tried.
NOTE: I strongly support that whomever cannot do it should not venture it !!! Parenting is not for everybody!

I believe you ain't a parent yet and it's ok if you don't want to do it since you see it as
bothersome.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 10:43pm On Apr 02, 2022
CoolJul:

Ok. Well I quite understand you now, I was drawn to the 'complexity' you mentioned about childbearing. But in all procreation is a beautiful phenomenal order. If you look at it from the positive perspective you will see that the blessings outweighs the negatives you fear about.

Think of the joy, connection, love, companionship and fulfilment it brings. We Africans see child nuturing too much as a give and take affair. The " I'm taking up your responsibility now so you will take up mine later" kind of logic . This will now lead to unnecessary competition and pressure on the offspring even from tender age.

Whether some offsprings brings responsibly or complications, procreation is a circle of life. It's a natural responsibility, lol.

Yes some parents failed. (Lemme not go into this). Still some parents tried.
NOTE: I strongly support that whomever cannot do it should not venture it !!! Parenting is not for everybody!

I believe you ain't a parent yet and it's ok if you don't want to do it since you see it as
bothersome.

You won't understand. I've seen the ugly side of having children. People paint it as something rosy. It's not rosy. Some parents tried and it never worked out. I've seen enough. Joy, connection, love and companionship? Why do you have a wife or husband in the first place? The first purpose of marriage was for the above, not for procreation.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by CoolJul: 10:57pm On Apr 02, 2022
Exedyne:


You won't understand. I've seen the ugly side of having children. People paint it as something rosy. It's not rosy. Some parents tried and it never worked out. I've seen enough. Joy, connection, love and companionship? Why do you have a wife or husband in the first place? The first purpose of marriage was for the above, not for procreation.

Ok. I'm not in your shoes though.

Does that mean you won't go for adoption too?

Just you and your spouse alone forever?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 6:39am On Apr 03, 2022
CoolJul:


Ok. I'm not in your shoes though.

Does that mean you won't go for adoption too?

Just you and your spouse alone forever?

If she insists, adoption. Other than that, no children.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by CoolJul: 9:54am On Apr 03, 2022
Exedyne:


If she insists, adoption. Other than that, no children.

If you accept adoption, because of wify, it's the same as having your biological child too na. Same responsibility. Same 'complications' smiley . Same expectations.

Whatever rocks your boat sha...The most important thing is a happy home.
Happy home, happy society. Kudos!

Thanks for giving your time for this topic. Have a great day!
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 2:19pm On Apr 03, 2022
CoolJul:


If you accept adoption, because of wify, it's the same as having your biological child too na. Same responsibility. Same 'complications' smiley . Same expectations.

Whatever rocks your boat sha...The most important thing is a happy home.
Happy home, happy society. Kudos!

Thanks for giving your time for this topic. Have a great day!

She's going to be responsible for the child. I'll only support.

It's going to be her decision, not mine.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by CoolJul: 3:02pm On Apr 03, 2022
Exedyne:


She's going to be responsible for the child. I'll only support.

It's going to be her decision, not mine.

Hmm... alright.

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